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I know this is awful but I'm just not excited about the birth, about rearing another boy .. about getting the old baby clothes down, the sleepless nights, teething, going through all of this again and just feeling dissappointment! The look of pity on people's faces or feeling sorry for you dragging 4 boys around, I just feel so deflated and regret I ever started this journey to begin with.
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Gosh Amelia I have no words I'm so sorry .
I totally understand u feeling this way though so don't feel bad although that's hard Aswell .
I hope u manage to come round by the time he arrives here - it will be exciting all the new bits again when he's here it's just now u can't see it - totally be upset though and cry and let it all out in anyway u can as bottling it up won't do any good and may lead down a dangerous path to depression so just look at your boys and know u will raise another perfect son .
Although no more children are on the cards for u I hope u somehow fill the void for that mum - daughter bond u wanted xxx
I'm so sorry it isn't a girl this time xxxx
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Amelia10- What helped my DH each time we heard boy was to buy cute boy clothes. My DH is normally not into that sort of thing, but he said while he wouldn't normally justify doing that, he needed to in order to become excited about having another boy. It's absolutely normal to not be excited about all that is to come yet. I agree with BB and just give yourself this time until he's here to allow yourself to feel all you need to. When he's here, you WILL be in a better place even though right now it feels so far out of reach. What I do want to ask of you, if I may, is to keep sharing your feeling with us or anyone you trust IRL so you can keep processing things. Don't try and bottle things up or suck it up yet- my DH did that with our DS2 and it took until he was 6mo old for him to be able to bond with him [emoji20]. It was really bad, and I don't want that for you. Know we all care about you, even if you are struggling with your thoughts and feelings, we will be here to help.
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Amelia - HUGS!!!! I know the feeling you are going through. I had them last time with DS4. I was very upset and distraught about my 4th boy. I will tell you that he is an absolute joy and a terror all at once. He is absolutely what our family needed. Let your feeling out and try not to feel guilty about any of it. What you are feeling is normal and expected in our situations.
I have to tell you that now I LOVE telling people we have 4 kids and then I tell them all boys. It is so funny to see people's reaction. I love my family and the way God made it. So I let the comments and other people's perspective go in one ear and out the other. Yes, it is tiring, but I would not change it for the world.
Honestly, I am NOT looking forward to the newborn, exhausted, sleepless crazy nights either. I am not fond of how I am in those first few months, but I am looking forward to the years ahead with my family of 5! Hang in there and absolutely tell us how you are doing. We love to hear the good and the bad.
We all love you and want to help in any way we can.
Oh girls all your messages have made me cry AGAIN.. such lovely support from all of you and it's made me feel a little bit better! I'm glad I have this time before the baby comes to try and accept it and process all my thoughts and realise there's not allot I can do to change it! I feel like it isn't real and I'm kind of like in a haze/dream. My husband isn't one bit disappointed and thinks it's great and unique in a way and what's meant to be is meant to be so his attitude helps! Do you think it would be easier to tell everyone what we're having so I don't get any stupid comments?? Xxx
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Amelia, I definitely decided to tell people that this baby is a boy right away. When we accidentally found out with DS2 we kept the ruse up that we didn't know, but with this one we didn't want to put up with "Oh I hope it's a girl" any longer than we had to.
Hmmm. I would wait to tell people what you're having until you have come to terms with it yourself. People, no matter how good they are, say stupid things that they don't always realize are hurtful. Especially the all boy comments [emoji849][emoji35]. Unless you know that they will for sure be kind and supportive.
Don't tell people until you are strong enough to be able to defend them. Your children are beautiful and amazing just how they are. They are NOT defined by their gender! You have the privilege of being able to raise outstanding men! That is no simple feat but one that is an honor and is much needed in this world!
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Maybe I'll wait until I've accepted my faith and I'm longer gone to make it a bit easier, my 3 boys are running around here which is great distraction! I've a feeling this is going to take a long time for me to come to terms with!
What I haven't told any of ye ladies and which makes all of this extra hard is the fact that I had a sister who died when she was 5 months old and I've no other sisters! God acts In mysterious ways .. 💔
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(((HUGS))) Amelia. Sorry to hear of the loss of your sister.
Oh my, Amelia10 [emoji25]!! I'm so terribly sorry about the loss of your sister!! I see now why all of this is so heart wrenching for you. I think it's wise to give yourself time before you announce your having DS4.
(((Huge Hugs)))
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