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Inglewood well done for ending it nicely, my OH's nan is a nightmare, really loud and opinionated and her view or her own families view is always the right way - and is conveniently deaf when someone voices their opinion! We've kind of distanced ourselves from the in laws on OH's side now as at the end of the day I didnt want that influence on our boys, although it is sad because I think the boys would like to see more of them and Im sure they will see the favouritism to their girl cousins but what can you do?! If your in laws wont make the effort to see you or travel to you then they have no right to get cranky when they dont know the ins and outs of everything, they cant have it both ways! We just learnt to let it all go now and stay away a bit more so when we do get together it is actually a nice occasion as we are all generally happy to spend a few hours together every couple of months lol.
Indigoviolet - didnt think of acupuncture or alternative therapies for m sickness, will remember that as I hate hate hate sickness! Glad its easing.
My turn for a moan lol. My OH has been a right nob tonight, he has basically been working overtime for the best part of this year, goes to work at 650am and 3 nights a week isnt home till 11pm, then its 5 or 6 pm Thursdays and same Fridays.
You would think he would miss time with the boys and prioritise them once home but its as if he just finds them a hassle and cant be bothered. I know if your tired it can be hard to pull out the patience and give your best but I do take them out at weekends so he can have a couple of hours of tv time but he is still a grump. Today DS1 was sick and ill this morning so after I got in from babysitting at 130am I got up at 7am with them and OH got up at 8am to help out. Then meand DS2 went shopping etc. for half a day and then in the pm too while DS1 just watched dvds and OH sat on his arse. Then at 5pm I chucked the boys tea in the oven and asked OH to dish up which he huffed and puffed about having to do, moaned I hadnt cooked him tea, but dished up the boys. So I start doing hand and foot prints with the boys for xmas pressies and leave the highchair. OH walks in, steps over the food on the floor. sits down and says 'pick up the food' Im like 'you what?' you do it, you just stepped over it and havent done anything all day. And he had a right strop about how I didnt tidy up dinner and how I havent cooked him tea and he has had to clean up ..................... seriously I could have got a pan and hit him on the head at this point!
Im sooooo mad, he needs a wake up call, he is going to do the food shop with me from now on, can wrap the pressies with me and can start meal planning for when he is home and start cooking and will start doing planned outings on the weekend. He is acting like a teenager, his Mum basically did everything and still does for the men and I am just not having that, aaargh!!
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Evening ladies! it's been quiet on here today for a change :p
Threelittmen ~ wow you have a busy schedule! sounds like so much fun!! :)
Indigoviolet ~ I have a Christmas card for you which i’m going to send next week. I apologise it hasn’t been sent out sooner i’m just so unorganised this year with the Christmas cards
Inglewood ~ I can’t believe the family drama she’s creating! Does she really think this is something you should be stressing about? Clearly she wants to be centre of attention? My PIL never visit us and they live 5 min car drive away.. they expect us to always visit them and bring the kids on a silver plate for them every Sunday. Even if they’re in the area they will happily tell us about it, but not actually think to come by and knock on the door to see if we’re in. Same on weekends, if they’re out doing something they never think to invite us.. all they care about is that we come visit for 2 hours on a Sunday afternoon and then you can’t expect them to actually interact with the kids. They’re just trophies to them :(
Kell ~ she sounds like an awful woman!! Poor kid :( it’s women like her who raise boys into men with commitment issues..
Chocolate ~ oh hun what a situation! I would have seriously considered hitting him with a pan as well! Sounds like he needs to grow up and help out more at home. What does he say when you try and talk to him about it?
AFM, been out this morning doing the last of the Christmas shopping :) i also went to the delivery office and picked up my secret santa packet! :D Thank you SS!!! I haven’t opened it yet but will wait until Christmas day, but i have to say Wow it’s so beautifully packaged!! Even the lady in the delivery office mentioned what a beautifully wrapped parcel :D
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Sunset - he just doesnt say much, I think he actually thinks he should be able to do not do anything round the house, Ive let it slip, time to get the whip back out. I said to him dont push me too far as it will back fire on you and he kept on moaning - he likes to think we live in the 60's where the women look after the men and the house and kids - ummm, I work too! I childmind so can also look after our children so he should appreciate that I am able to bring in some money and look after our kids at home, and do some chores. I saw so many men out shopping today with their families or wives and it made me really cross that he reacted like that over me not doing the highchair when I was busy doing other stuff. He seems to have this thing about doing 1 thing at a time, get 1 toy out and put it back, put stuff away straight away or tidy before leaving .......... he has no idea how hectic my life is, I swear Im going to go off for a week and leave him the kids and a busy schedule and chores, make that 3 weeks for it to really sink in!
Our inlaws also live 5 mins up the road, we had a load of cards through the door today - they called past but didnt bother ringing the bell, although curtains were drawn so maybe they thought we were sleeping, but if they ever do visit us here they stay for 45 mins maximum!
My dad is a waster too, he came the other day after not seeing us for 4 months, no joke he walked in said hi, how are you, sat on the sofa for 3 minutes maximum then said right best go just wanted to show my face. The look on mine and my OH's face must have been a picture, he did that last time too and OH didnt believe me it was 4mins tops. What is up with families??? Do kids suddenly hit 18 and you just stop loving them or wanting to be in their lives? Its crazy!! My mum is fantastic though thank god xx
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chocolate ~ I hope he starts helping out a bit more or that you put your foot down because he cant treat you like that!!
I just find it such a shame that DH's family chooses to treat the boys like trophies and my dh like the black sheep of the family.. my family obviously lives in sweden so my kids can't see them as often, but i know that if we lived in sweden or my mum lived over here she would make a real effort with the kids. I wish dh's parents would make an effort with the boys, but i've resigned myself to the simple fact that they like the "idea" of being grandparents but actually making the effort is a no go. unfortunately it puts a damper on our relationship with them and their relationship with the grandkids.
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Chocolate, I'd of been so mad too, I must be so lucky as my DH is great around the house and with the kids. For all my MIL is alot of things, she has raised very independant children who can cook, clean etc... prob since she was never there, working lots of jobs when his dad walked out when he was 11. My only gripe with him is £! He doesn't take anything to do with the bills and doesn't understand why I stress out so much over them. God forbid I wasn't here, he wouldn't know where to begin! He gives his full wages to me for the family each wk, minus is cigarette money and lets me get on with it! My Dh usually cooks his own tea and the boys 2/3 times a wk as I rush out to nightshift! Your dh sounds overworked! Does he choose to do so much overtime? Could he cut back a bit to be at home more? I'm guessing u tell him how u feel?
My Eldest SIL hasn't been in my house for 2yrs, dh's twin hasn't been here for 4yrs (her dh beat her, so my dh wouldn't speak to him for 2yrs or let him in our house,so she never came either,they talk now, just).My BIL cane last mth for the 1st time in 2yrs and my MIL comes once a yr to pick up the boys and take them for 2 days, they all come and stay for 2hrs max, after a 2hr drive! My FIL is dh's step dad and a twat that admits he hates the drive thru and once a yr is enough, jeso, we have been going thru wit 2 young kids for yrs and yrs!!! And when we go they moan if we spend more time at 1 house over another and are looking for us to go to 4 different houses in 1 day, miles and miles apart, it's exhausting and we've done it for yrs (like 10!) and 2 of them have only been in my house once in 4yrs being here!! Shocking....dh has had enough and swears each yr we aren't going thru on the 27th, they don't deserve it, like u Sunset, Trophy grandkids!! We will see then at xmas then they will come when babies are born, then prob not see them again till we go to them, which dh says AINT happening with 2 newborns! Families....thank god my parents are great!! Really feel for Dh tho, must be sad for him.
Sunset, good for u doing the last of ur shopping, I still have my Dad and a cousin ( more like a big sis to me), so gonna go food shopping with dh tom, go see a bigger car and 'attempt' a quick town visit!! Your in-laws seem just as rude as mine and chocolates! The joys! eh?
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Inglewood ~ at least it's taught me what kind of a MIL/grandmother I don't want to be!! I will always make the effort regardless if it's my daughters children or my sons children, it makes no difference and I intend on having the same relationship with them all and treat them all equally!
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Eek I'm 35 weeks today!!! :D I remember when Petal was 35 weeks and I was getting excited for her to have her baby boy.. can't believe it's nearly my turn to go through childbirth again :p :running:
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Sunset, 35wks!!!!! after you thinking and expecting a 2012 baby, she could be here in 2011! I've always conceived and gave birth the same yr, this is my 1st pg that I've conceived one yr and gave birth the next. To think it won't be long till she's here! so exciting...
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morning ladies!!! sunset 35 weeks whoop whoop!! not long at all now!
just to let you know i got my SS yesturday morning!!! thank you SS will be opening it on xmas day xxx
