Uk SMOG Wannabes ~ February

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Originally Posted by Inglewood

Did anyone get the feeling in OBEM that the dad was gutted to have a girl? The one who went in for section and was sent home, only to be sectioned anyway! Even my Dh said he seemed really annoyed and was kinna rude on the phone telling someone her name was Faith and tough if they didn't like it! After her losing a baby and being told they never would be able to have kids, you would think he would be delighted either gender. His disappointment was so obvious that my Dh even said, you think he's hide it a bit better lor the camera's! Maybe I look into these things more than I should....lol

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I think it just proved Inglewood that gender desire is very real and no matter what you've been through it doesn't go away. He genuinely thought it was a boy when they pulled her out and I think he was just shocked when the MW said she was a girl. Dads too have a longing for a particular gender, it's just not as common, but it's still real and I felt for him to be honest as I can remember how I felt when they told me DS3 was boy at the birth. I know they were filming but for him it was a very real and emotional moment. I'm sure if they had filmed him a week later at home with his DD he would be very different and very the moon.

Inglewood ~ I dont know why but for some reason i cant see your picture :(

Indigoviolet ~ thinking of you! x

HELP anyone online??? do i book a gender scan tomorrow?? feel guilty not telling dh??

If that's the only way its gonna work go for it- sometimes things cant always be as we'd like. will you be going on your own?
Can hubby take a bit of time off wrk and join you?

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Originally Posted by charlieispy

HELP anyone online??? do i book a gender scan tomorrow?? feel guilty not telling dh??

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*waves* If I was you I would do it just so I could stop the obsessing!! but it's your decision, only book a scan if it's truly what you want hun and you feel you need time alone to process the outcome regardless of gender.

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Originally Posted by Babymad

I think it just proved Inglewood that gender desire is very real and no matter what you've been through it doesn't go away. He genuinely thought it was a boy when they pulled her out and I think he was just shocked when the MW said she was a girl. Dads too have a longing for a particular gender, it's just not as common, but it's still real and I felt for him to be honest as I can remember how I felt when they told me DS3 was boy at the birth. I know they were filming but for him it was a very real and emotional moment. I'm sure if they had filmed him a week later at home with his DD he would be very different and very the moon.

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I totally agree and did really feel for him, thinking it was a boy then being told girl. I too remember being told ds2 was a boy and how I felt, I will have to live with the memories of how I felt about not having a girl, especially those 1st days, weeks, finding it difficult to intially bond. But I still think he'll look back on that and feel bad how he put himself across, but as u say even in front of the cameras it was very real for him. I know my dh had a preference for a boy 1st time round and he got his wish, even with ds2 he said he was hoping he was a boy. He's never truly got my whole gender disappointment and years of tears, but I just thought last night it was sad to see that in that man. Your right, Men too have GD and perhaps I'm just looking at it from a woman's perspective, really from his his wife's after being told they couldn't have kids, so I'm sure ur right and once he got her home he was delighted and smitten. x

Sunset, sorry, not sure why u can't see it? x

Hope indigo got on ok?? been thinkning of her all day.

Charlie, you'll know what's best to do! Just do what feels 'right' If that's to wait, then wait, or go and book if u are going to burst with suspense!! Can't Dh go one day next week? even later at night, the clinic I went to have appt's till 9pm. x

So it looks like we are expecting another little boy here. she wasn't 100% sure and it wasn't very clear at all, baby in all the wrong positions but we were both leaning boy. Thanks for all the good wishes ladies will catch up again later

Indigo - really hope it went well and ds2 behaved

I don't watch obem as squeamish but I record them all. However you look at it gd just sucks. You can't explain how it feels and it's hard to justify and makes you feel guilty too. Take my mum. Three dead babies and two healthy kids but she and dad could not hide there disappointment with me and my sister. They were bloody lucky we didnt die too. A part of me really hurts over the comments we had as children, but a part of me gets it too. Having two sons and watching them die isn't something you can get over. Also I tried two years to get pg this time. It was so heartbreaking but still I cried when I found out it was another boy. Gd is just a evil thing. Your right babymad it's not about our boys at all. It's about the missing girl. I hate feeling like that so I push it out. Not easy I admit. I just can't stand the guilt.

Aagghh indigo! How frustrating for you? Not seeing bits must mean more likely a girl though? Are you waiting for twenty weeks now? Any good pictures?