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LOL :) Love that 3P1B. This is me to a T right now. DH keeps saying we'll just have 4 and I keep saying "I didn't WANT four!" That said I don't want a big gap, I'm ready to get this baby business done ... so we'll have to make the call by the time DD3 is one IMO.Quote:
Originally Posted by 3Pink1Blue
Glad you got your shopping done early!
Got to go get the girls to school, but HI to CA and WP! Will try to be back later!
B- I used to think 4 was a ton of kids. I'm not going to lie, some days I still do. I hate the gap between dd3 and this one, HATE it. My others are 2 yrs 9 months apart but he will trail by 4 1/2 years. Dh and I liken it to wanting a new car but hating the color, at the end of the day does it really matter that much? That being said by the time Charlie is weaned I'll have spent 12 years pregnant, nursing or obsessing about swaying. I'm so done with all of this.
CA: So glad your m/s is gone!!! It makes things so miserable.
3p1b: You are so smart, I can see me just ordering online if I was in my 3rd trimester. Since my nausea is gone....I have no excuse not to butt elbows with the crazy shoppers. The tree is up, but the energy is not.
B and 3p1b: We settled on 2 children years ago and somehow it got out of control!!! The 3rd was awesome, so be had another, and we enjoyed the 4th so much....we just couldn't stop....I think we may have an addiction to our children.
The children and I are going to be in a Christmas parade on Thursday (on Hubby's Police Dept float), then we have a birthday party on Saturday, and the Nutcracker Ballet on Sunday....maybe after all that I will Chistmas shop :) You know they say the prices get better the closer to Christmas you get (of course that is because all the leftovers are broken or junk), but at least it is on sale :)
Oh 3p1b, we plan on NOT finding out the gender....as long as the u/s tech doesn't pass over the special area while I am looking :) I have a u/s at about 16 and 20 wks.
I have been convicing myself and DH that it is a girl lately, though....maybe as protection. You ladies know the drill, this afternoon it's a boy....in the evening, I know it's a girl. It really is torture. Can't I be one of those ladies that doesn't know she is pregnant until labor starts?
4.5 years will be nothing in a couple years though, you know? In the grand scheme of things they will spend more of their lives as adult siblings, and that's when the age gap really doesn't matter a bit. But I understand. My 1st two are 3.5 years, this one trails DD2 by 2 years 10 months, and IF we have a 4th I'm cramming him in right behind DD2. We've been looking at adoption and would likely adopt a 1ish year old boy, IF we decide to do it we will plan to start the process such that he and DD3 would be 1-2 years apart. Kind of like you said, while I love, love, love having littles, I'm ready to move on and don't want to prolong it. If we were to try naturally (which I am 100% against) I'd probably end up with a bigger gap while I worked on making sure I could accept another girl, which I know is what you did.Quote:
Originally Posted by 3Pink1Blue
WHAT?!? WP y'all set out to have TWO? I always figured that folks with big families wanted them that way all along, not that it just organically evolved, KWIM? But I do think that's where DH and I find ourselves. After DD1 we were both thinking she'd be an only child, LOL, because we thought babies were HARD, hence the 3.5 year gap between 1 and 2! And now we're kind of loving this older-child thing (DD1 is 6 tomorrow) so much that the idea of 4 is somehow NOT striking us as nuts. Most of our friends have only 2, so IF we go to 4 we'll definitely be odd! But as DH put it, we're odd for having 3 girls already, might as well go all the way and be odd for having 4 kids while we're at it. I will say though ... the idea of having 4 kids in school with REAL homework and REAL activities and all of that overwhelms me.
WP what fun plans you all have coming up! This is the best time of the year :)
LOL to wishing you just didn't know you were pg :) The gender obsessing is tough, but oddly, I think since I now know and it isn't what I hoped for, I find myself looking back on the obsessing fondly ... it was the last time I ever thought that maybe I would have a son, KWIM? Now I know for sure that I won't; at least not from my own womb. Still glad I found out though because I really did think this would be a boy and I think post-delivery I would have had a MAJOR breakdown. I think it is fun that you will wait til delivery! I wish I had at least one birth-surprise but situation never was right for me to do that.
Oh and CA I was going to tell you I had crazy bad headaches in the 1st tri with this one. I never had them with my other girls but this time around I did (all of my pregnancies have been different though) and they were rough. They stopped though around second tri so FX the same happens for you!
Yeah i hope so to begonia, i went to physio yesterday & he said ive got 2 discs that feel quite stuck & 2morow im booked in to get a massage, so fx. Today ive had some nausea though.
Wp i know what you mean about protection, im doing the same thing, im saying to myself this is a girl, trying to warm up to it, dont think i can though to be honest.
Hope the massage helps!Quote:
Originally Posted by CapricornAquarius
Re: protecting yourself I did a pretty good job; I reeeeally thought I'd be OK. I remember tucking my girls into bed the night before my scan and thinking I could totally have a third one and be fine; heck, I remember before TTC thinking a 3rd girl would be pretty fun. But then when 3 girls became reality instead of just a "maybe" ... well we all know how hard it has been for me. But that doesn't mean it would be as hard on you, and heck, you REALLY might have BOYS in there :) Gender dreaming is hard, and when you've been swaying for months, it's only natural that you have your hopes up for blue. Time will tell but for now I think it's OK to hope for a son, because honestly even as "protected" as you think your heart is, it can still be ripped apart when the idea becomes reality. I'm not sure the protection does much, at least it didn't for me.
Begonia your right, i can try & protect myself as much as i can but like you said if it becomes reality, i just dont know, its hard.
Hey ladies! 30 wks today and off to see my midwife! I'll catch up later :)