Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2017

Hi Sigrid! I wanted to chime in as well....I'm in the 2WW & hope to be lucky enough to be in this group FX lol...but wanted to say that I have 2 wonderful boys-19 months apart (ages 2 & 3) and they are so much fun! I'm super girly, love shopping, love fashion/jewelry, played with my dolls growing up etc.etc. I always thought that I'd have one of each and wanted a girl first. DS1 arrived first and no dissappointment there, just hoped to have a girl next. I wanted a girl soooo bad for baby 2....I decided to wait it out until delivery to find out gender. I felt like it was another boy throughout the pregnancy & instincts were right. However, there was absolutely NO WAY I could be disappointed when I saw this beautiful baby boy looking at me!!! DS1 looks just like DH & DS2 looks just like me...so I think that helps w/bonding in some way. We bonded instantly and it was love at first sight...it was that way with both boys! I never once cried that he was a boy....when you're holding a perfect baby in your arms...could only feel joy! It is a love like no other & so different than just looking at the ultrasound. My boys LOVE their momma!!!! Yes, they love cars, dirt, trucks, superheroes etc, but they watch Frozen & shop with me too :) I have fun dressing them in cute outfits with bow ties, plaid & hats! They keep me fit since they're very active & we're always on the go. I honestly wouldn't change it for the world!!! I'm swaying for a girl this time b/c I feel like a baby sister would be icing on the cake & complete our family. I'm trying to "will it" to be a girl this time :) Hoping praying...Not sure how I will feel if #3 is a boy...will cross that bridge. I don't want to feel the pressure of others being disappointed for me either.
I'm sorry to hear what you've been through! I promise you will love your baby boy & will understand the amazing, indescribable feelings once you're holding him in your arms!! Wish you all the best!! Think of an awesome name, plan the coolest nursery, buy some cute clothes & get yourself excited to welcome your little guy!

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Originally Posted by XXforhubby

Ok ladies, I'm needing you. It just was a matter of time before this happened- a close friend of mine is having a girl after having 2 boys. I just feel like I am carrying my 4th boy and there is no way I could be fortunate enough to give my DH a DD. I am very happy for her- she had tremendous GD with her first son and was callous when hearing her second was a boy. I feel like there is something wrong with me, because I literally have no gender preference. I'm wondering if that causes me to unconsciously sabotage my sway. Does that make sense? That I unknowingly screw things up somehow? I just feel defective- why can't I give my DH a DD? I'm clearly not in a good place right now...[emoji20]



[emoji170][emoji1379]DS1, [emoji577]DS2, & [emoji602]DS3[emoji170]
[emoji166]EDD 9/30/2017 [emoji1317]for pink[emoji166]
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Oh XX :( you are not defective and you don't sabatoge your sway. I remember you were a little sad the last away failed so you can tell you do put your heart and effort in for your husband. And it is that love that tells me that you 100% gave it your best shot.. I believe you did everything you could personally handle to sway pink. After the amount of time you spent trying and hoping though I think you deserve a healthy and happy take home baby regardless of gender. Your husband will always see his girl.. but he will come around to 4 awesome and amazing boys. I think at your core and his you both just want the other to be happy.. if it was financially feasible I think he would give you every baby you wanted regardless of gender. I honestly and truly believe he mostly wants a girl so that he can have a mini you just like you have 3 mini hims :).. this baby is on its way, she/he was meant to be here that's why you longed for her/him... they are going to complete your family one way or the other I really believe that. Wish I could give you the biggest hug. I really think it's your girl, honestly.. you will be finding out with a good nub shot the same time I am giving birth to this one.. there will be pink dust galore for you :)

[QUOTE=XXforhubby;891114]Ok ladies, I'm needing you. It just was a matter of time before this happened- a close friend of mine is having a girl after having 2 boys. I just feel like I am carrying my 4th boy and there is no way I could be fortunate enough to give my DH a DD. I am very happy for her- she had tremendous GD with her first son and was callous when hearing her second was a boy. I feel like there is something wrong with me, because I literally have no gender preference. I'm wondering if that causes me to unconsciously sabotage my sway. Does that make sense? That I unknowingly screw things up somehow? I just feel defective- why can't I give my DH a DD? I'm clearly not in a good place right now...[emoji20]

Oh XX I know exactly how you feel. This week the same thing happened to me and I instantly said to myself, "well, there goes your girl. She just got your daughter." Its as if there is NO way that we could both have one.
But in life it really does seem to play out like that. When my best friend and I were pregnant at the same time, we both very much wanted to have a daughter. She was a little ahead of me, and at her gender reveal when everyone was screaming with excitement over her pink cake, the blood felt like it drained from my face. I knew. I just knew at that moment that my daughter was gone. Almost like she was taken.
I know this is totally just my perception. And that this announcement hadn't changed anything that happened at conception with my son. But the emotional part of me feels like every girl announcement close to me feels like the chances of that being my reality is now lessoned. Selfish I know. But my honest feelings. I can totally relate to the feeling of being so happy for someone else, but gutted for yourself all at the same time.

However, I will say that the sting does lessen after a few weeks. I am already saying to myself, so what if she is having a girl? Maybe we will both have girls together? That could still happen!

I feel your pain, and I hope we all get our dream come true daughters one day.

Not sure what I did to make you're quote now obvious in the above post XX! [emoji849]


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Thank you Burakoam and Wantanother. I know that we both could have girls. We were pregnant together with our DS1's. I guess I need to prepare to hear boy so I can be strong for my DH. I don't want to allow myself to hope, because I don't want him to have to be strong to comfort me. I want him to be able to deal with his feelings and hopefully he will be ok when the baby is born. It took him until my DS2 was 6mo before they began to bond [emoji20]. That was really hard for me to experience, but I gave him his space and time to heal. What will be will be. Time will tell.



[emoji170][emoji1379]DS1, [emoji577]DS2, & [emoji602]DS3[emoji170]
[emoji166]EDD 9/30/2017 [emoji1317]for pink[emoji166]
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After changing my DS3 and playing with him, I SO could have another DS [emoji4]. He just completely melted my heart ❤️. I will no longer reflect on things at night anymore- it's too easy to feel fear and defeat.



[emoji170][emoji1379]DS1, [emoji577]DS2, & [emoji602]DS3[emoji170]
[emoji166]EDD 9/30/2017 [emoji1317]for pink[emoji166]
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Originally Posted by sigrid86

Hi Dreamsister,
Thanks a lot for the support! And congratulations on your baby girl! I hope I'll feel better soon too...with what we've been through last year I'm also aware that I need this child a chance and try to enjoy this pregnancy because he deserves it as much as if it was a girl. So I hope the feelings will go away soon. Maybe when I'll feel him?
It's so nice to hear that you have a strong bond with all 3 of your sons. I know I should look at him as a personality. Sometimes I think that my girl would maybe be a real bitch :) And your right, a girl isn't a guarantee for a better bond. I just need to remind myself a lot of that!
Did you go HT for your DD now?
PGD is really an option now! If you have more info about it, please let me know (I see you're from Europe too).

Thanks a lot :kiss:

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Dear Sigrid. I did have one attempt with HT, which failed because all my embryos were abnormal. We could not afford more than one go and decided to try natural - and got lucky. Yes, I am based in Northern part of EU. Where are you from? I can tell you more about my failed HT-attempt. Just PM me. Hope you feel better.


Mother to 3 boys ❤️ and pregnant with a baby girl due in June 2017 [emoji120]. DW (41) [emoji1326] DH (38) [emoji144]

How is everyone on here ?
I am experiencing fulll on nausea basically all day and all night - lack of sleep so tired all day Aswell - the headaches have gone thank god I had them so bad with my ds2 .
So if anything this pregnancy has been a little different but worse nausea !
I'll have a day of eating bread then the next day I can't even look at a peice of bread !

Had my midwife appt today and she has said I can try for a VBAC which is amazing as I've had two
C sections already so that's good news .

Xx- it's hard hearing about people getting girls I personally feel but like u said u may well have a baby girl in there already - it's so easy to be anxious during this beginning stages - I keep going over my sway thinking it reads well and I should get my girl that I tired for but sometimes life has other plans for us which is hard to accept - I think we al need to try and stay positive until our scans and yours can't be too far away as you're further along than me?

We've decided we will find out and it will be the middle of April so not too far !


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I woke up this morning feeling super nauseated and I've thrown up twice. I'm only 4 w 2 d! I'm feeling pretty nervous. I had moderate HG with DS1 and I really don't want to go down that road again.

Oh no that is early to be throwing up ! I hope u don't have the same experience - go doctors of it worsens x


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