Why do you want that dream gender, anyway?

Because she is an ache in my heart and soul that I can not make go away.

That is a great and hard question to answer. I don't have one solid reason, just that a part of me will always long to have a daughter. I love to do the "traditional" woman things, cook, craft, sew, makeup etc and always thought that I would have someone to share and do these things with. I look at my husband with our boys and feel jealous of his connection with them, and pray one day to have the same.

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Originally Posted by auroara78

I've had my little girl in my heart since I was a little girl myself.

I wore tons of dresses and refused to wear pants to school until the 6th grade! I loved my Barbie dolls and even those porcelain doll babies, and loved to dress my dolls in ball gowns and have 'beauty pagents' with them...but then I played Atari with my older brother for so many hours...and during 11th grade, I beat my Homecoming date at Mortal Kombat 2, since I had gotten so good playing it with my brother. So I had a great balanced childhood as far as indulging and learning about boy things (from my brother) but still wearing the dresses, having the princess fantasies, etc. (I loved Disney as a kid, you know, all that stuff...)

So I always felt so deeply in my bones that I would have girl(s) that having boys was a shock to my system. I just had this quiet knowledge about myself, so when I had my second son, I started to doubt that vision, and then I started to question myself: why did I really have to have this GIRL anyway? What about having a girl would complete me?

This question still strikes at me, even now that I am having my desired gender.

Of course i would be lying if I said I wasn't going to totally enjoy the girly stuff: the cute dresses, ruffles, the extra attention to cute little details that are in girl clothes. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't looking forward to brushing her hair, and us having a mommy-daughter mani thing going once in a while. But mostly, I really desire a raise a strong female.

I have worked super hard to be where I am today. I have a Master's degree that I am very proud of, and despite the fact that I do work, I am super proud that I earn enough that my husband can stay home and watch the kids. I love the role reversal, and love the fact that my husband gets to show our boys that men can cook and clean too, that everyone can pitch in for the family, it doesn't always have the mother doing the cooking.

So my dreams for my desired gender is I want to raise an informed, educated young woman, and I hope she'll love reading, too. I hope we can spend hours together discussing books in the future, and that I can help her with boy problems, etc. I just really, really want to experience the mother-daughter bond, as complicated as it can be.

For my sons, who bless their heart, are so lovely and sweet and so unexpectantly what I NEEDED, I want to raise them to be strong men who are caring and intuned with what females need/want. I want my sons to be free to be them, not to be constrained by male stereotypes. My oldest son and I make dessert all the time, and I love watching him mix the ingredients together, I love how he's become my helper in the kitchen when it's my turn to cook (weekends.) I love how he tells me I'm his very best friend.

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IDK if it's the pregnancy hormones or what, but I am sitting here bawling reading this. I sometimes wonder what was the pull of a girl for me, even though I am now having one.

I only found out two days ago and my DS went along to watch the ultrasound. Afterward, I went to the chapel in the hospital to say thank you. My son followed me in and I saw him staring at the cross. I hear him praying "thanks for making mommy happy" and for some reason that made me sad.

Why weren't boys enough for me? Why I did spend so many years longing for a daughter? I may never understand.

I guess its because I know how much I wanted a daughter so Im sure deep down my dh would want a father-son relationship even though he says he doesn't care.

Well with myself I really wanted my 3rd to be a boy only because I'd love to know what it would be like raising a son, doing boy stuff you know?

To me it's about experiencing motherhood being a little girl's mum. I know how close my mum and I are and I would like to share the same kind of connection with a daughter. I am not saying boys are not close to their mothers, I think they are sometimes even more affectionate towards their mum than girls are, but I feel that a mother-daughter relationship is a different one, and I also want to experience that, as I already know how fantastic it is to have a wonderful relationship with a son. I know in my heart I will not suffer from GD even if I have another boy, as I truly cherished every moment with my 3 boys and I have already come to terms with the fact that I may never have a girl as this is my last try, BUT I would just like to experience motherhood with a girl, I am an expert in raising boys and would like to try something different this time :) But will not be terribly upset if I don't get my dream gender either.

I have always dreamed of having a little girl. I love each of my boys more then I could have ever imagined but there is still that part of me that feels as if my family is not yet complete.

Maybe it is because there is a part of me that wants the mother/daughter relationship that I always wanted with my mom. I accept the relationship that my mother and I share now but would love to enjoy it with my own daughter. It isn't just the dresses and the girly stuff because I am sure with four brothers she will be a tom-boy herself but I know that is some of it. I would love to empower her with the importance of being a strong female through her thinking and the things she does. I would also love to see my husband with a little girl. He loves his boys to pieces but I have seen him with our nieces and can just imagine him with his own daughter.

I pray that the higher power will see it fit to send us a girl this time because this is our last one.

I have 5 beautiful boys. I got pregnant for the 6th time and my darling first daughter was stillborn at 24.5 weeks :-( I conceived again 8 weeks later and long for a princess (there's not been one apart from my daughter since me)
Thinking this is another boy though. So long as its born screaming I'm ok but I still dream of a daughter

I want two girls! I have a brother and we aren't close, it's like the only thing we have in common is being related. Every women I know with sisters are close, they phone just to chat, go shopping, go on days out etc. of course I know that you can get personality clashes where siblings just don't get on but I think its fairly rare to flat out have zero relationship with a sister its either love or hate where as it's so much harder to keep close with a brother, i love mine but we are basically just strangers if that makes sense. I literally know no one who has a close relationship with their brother into adulthood. Soooo just to ask for the moon, I want a daughter for myself, and then a sister for my daughter!

My mother and I had a difficult relationship when she split up with my dad and consequently we weren't close for about 10 years. I feel like I missed out so I'd like a close mother/daughter bond with my own child. I also want to give my partner a devoted daddy's girl, like I was. That's it really. I feel like I connect better with girls as I'm a girly girl myself.

My gender scan is actually tomorrow, guesses on my scan would be appreciated. x

I sit and wrack my brains everyday wondering what the reasons are for wanting a girl, I have two boys who are my world, I can't think if anything they don't give me apart from pink! I fear it's other people's input that makes me feel like I need a girl! X