Hmm. . .what about Aviana (A-vee-ah-na)?
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Hmm. . .what about Aviana (A-vee-ah-na)?
Sweatpea,my jaw dropped once I saw ur list of girl names,u cant believe it maybe,but Juliana,Liliana,and Gianna are the three names that I have on my list for my girly girl that Im swaying for In March hopefully.
Id go with Lilliana for ur princess,and for ur prince,even though the name isnt on ur list,I ADORE the name LUKAS.....sigh....
Lukas and Lilliana, how lovely is that........thud
:awe::awe::awe::awe::awe:
Sort of an update...
I talked with my sister today on the phone and after talking it out, I realized that I really did love the name Ava over Eliana. I realized that Eliana (especially Ellie or Elle) just does not sound good with our last name. The more we talked, the more I realized that Ava was the right name for our baby girl.
So, I got off the phone, and said to DH, "Okay...so, what about Logan and Ava as their names?" And he said, "I've been saying that all along!" LOL. I love the way they sound together, and it was like a huge weight was lifted off my chest because I wouldn't have to worry about the other friend of mine who is pg choosing Eliana. I was okay with that, because Ava just felt right.
Well, I texted my SIL later in the day to tell her we chose our names. When I told her it will be Logan and Ava, she said, "Oh Ava is our pick too!" Uh, I kind of had a feeling she'd say something like that. She's not pg, I don't think she's even trying yet, and she already has a DD (and a DS). Anyway, we kept texting for a bit, and she flat out told me that she still plans on using the name Ava if she ends up having another girl. Ummm? Her and I married brothers, so we have the same last name. And we hang out a LOT - which means our kids hang out a lot. So, our daughters would BOTH be Ava ____ (same last name)? Like, as in the EXACT same name? How weird is that? I was shocked she said that, and now I'm worried that if we chose the name Ava, that she'll end up getting pg with a girl and also choose that name. WTH?! She already has a daughter, she already experienced that blissful ignorance where she got to choose whatever name on earth she wanted for her daughter. And she chose Emma. She got to pick her favorite girl name, now it's my turn, isn't it? Why should I have to forfeit the name I love most for my daughter, who actually exists, for a hypothetical niece I may never even have?
I feel like I've been kicked in the gut. My SIL won't budge -- if she gets pg with a girl and I've chosen Ava, then we will have two Ava's in the family (with the exact same last name). That seems so stupid to me. I don't want my daughter to have the exact same name as her cousin.
I don't know. I don't want to be selfish, but don't I have the right to name my daughter what I want, without all the drama? I just don't want to compromise on a name I love for the one and only daughter I will ever have, just because my SIL *might* have another girl someday. But then again, I don't want to set up my daughter for an awkward situation when/if my SIL does end up having another girl, and naming her the exact same thing.
Ugh. Why can't anything be simple anymore?
(really, really sorry for the vent - I just needed to get this all out)
I always say keep your dream name to yourself to avoid such unnecessary drama with family and friends. Sweetpea, I'm so sorry you are going though this.
My SIL threw out some MAJOR family drama when I named my DS#2 the second name choice she had for her first daughter. (And I didn't remember that was her name pick until after he was named) And she didn't get pregnant with her second daughter until 2 yrs after I named him.
So she played this game and tried to get my dream name out of me for my daughter so she could name her second daughter that. I wouldn't tell her, but someone else in the family did.. So anyway.. it was all a mind game complete with having her DH call mine. When she delivered she told my MIL it was never a serious name consideration.
USE the name you have picked! But I just wanted to throw in something cute you might like..
Elayna or Alayna.
Aw babe -- she will be the one that looks ridiculous if she names her (hypothetical) next daughter the same as yours. I honestly would just tell her that its her choice what she does in her imagination but you are naming your daughter Ava and if she really wants to be the follow up act to your most beautiful princess then she can answer to her daughter in years to come. ;) what a biatch though, seriously...
I agree that she will be the one that looks like a complete idiot. She's not even preg and I would hope that her dh and other family members would talk some sense into her if that should be the case.
Thanks, ladies. Your replies make me feel a bit better. I guess it would be her looking foolish in the end, not me. I just don't want my DD to feel stupid later in life, having a cousin with the exact same name. How weird. And the funny thing is, my SIL doesn't even think it's an issue. She said she would call her (potential) DD by her first and middle name -- Ava Grace -- and I would only be calling my DD by her first name. But still, Ava and Ava Grace, with the same last name, is still essentially the SAME name. Just so weird to me.
I wish I could just keep our name choices a secret until the birth, but she is also the type of person who could get a positive pregnancy test next week, and announce that the baby will be Ava, if it's a girl and (?) if it's a boy. So, if I keep our name choice a secret, then she would look like the one who chose the name first. If we do go ahead and choose the name Ava, we need to just put it out there officially and announce it, I think. Like I said...she's not even pregnant!
Ughhhh, drama! This is so stupid. I finally get my one and only girl, and I can't just happily name her what I want. :mad: So frustrating.
I am so sorry!! Everyone is right... she will be the one that looks like a fool. Especially since she didn't make it known that Ava was what she wanted her next daughter's name to be. Besides she may never have another girl and then you would be really pissed that you changed the name you wanted for something that never happen. She might change her mind or maybe her husband won't like the name. Talk it over with your DH. Chances are when you start letting everyone in your family know that you have chosen the name Ava she is going to look like a fool. She got her first pick at a girl name and she chose Emma. I doubt her husband will be okay with the idea of naming their daughter after YOUR DD:)
I would call her bluff. Whoever actually HAS the baby (girl or boy) has first dibs I think, and you are right that she had her chance to pick her favourite girl name and it was NOT Ava. She may never end up having another girl, and it would be sad if you forfeited your favourite name for your long awaited (and very hard fought for) daughter for a child that may never exist (or how annoying would it be if you changed your name for her, then she had a girl and didn't even end up using the name? Possible). I reckon she is trying to make you back down and back away from the name or call claim to it by insisting that she will still use it... but in reality several months or years down the track when your precious Ava is in the world and everyone associates that name with her beautiful niece, it would be very suprising if she actually went ahead with calling her daughter the same name. Plus her DH would have to agree and hopefully he wouldn't be silly and insensitive enough. She is probably a bit shocked at the moment as we all are when we found out someone has used "our" name (happened to me the other day) but there are many beautiful girl names in the world and she has plenty of time to get falling in love with another one. It may even not be her first pick, just one of several on a short list but she is trying to "call" it because it is one of several she liked and wanted to have open as an option. It is inappropriate of her in my opinion. Cant wait until your beautiful Ava joins you - don't let her take the shine off the name or this experience for you through her selfish behaviour. It is NOT all about her, despite the fact she is trying to make it be.
What hoping said 100%. Don't not use the name Ava because of a possibility. I am in the same situation with a cousin, different last name but she is pissed I am using the name Theodore saying she staked claim in it long ago because ts our grandfathers name and she wanted to honor him and it means more coming from her than me...wtf?! Yeah I am totally using the name...why because she isn't pregnant, I am and I am having my third boy and I'm going to damn well name him what I please.