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:hugs: it wouldn't hurt if you feel that will help you move things along faster. This was only month 2 of us trying. I can't think of how we will be that far down the track. Our last bub took 6 months to conceive. I don't remember things being this tough :(
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yes boysway cant understand it..y its happening..i sort of know that hubby has low count and i know my periods have been irregular so i guess better i get help..i want two only and i dont care f its girl next time too..i just want my DD some company and i dont want too big of a gap..
Hopefully your bfp is just around the corner. I understand where you are coming from with time between siblings. There was only 16 months between my eldest and my SIDS angel. It was busy but, good. There is almost 4 1/2 years between #1 and #3, almost 5 years between #3 and #4. At this rate there will be 5 years between our youngest and our next :(
in your case you have them doesnt matter the gap..here i have been trying to avoid the gap and that's y started trying when my DD was 17 months but i am celebrating 2nd birthday for her this month..i sort of wanted 2-2.5 difference..now don't know where we are heading..will plan for GP visit after her birthday to get a referral for fertility help as i don't want to keep going like this forever and i know we might have issues which may need treatment. I suspect i have low progesterone as i get my periods in 11-12 days after ovulation and i have done some research it can cause issues in falling pregnent
I'm sorry if I came across as insensitive, I didn't mean to. Are you able to book an appointment now? That way you know it's booked and you won't have to wait. I hope your little lady has a special birthday :)
no no you were right.. i was trying to say i wanted less gap but now doesnt matter..i will see gp after her brithday
Oh good. I re-read my reply and it didn't sound how I meant it to. I tend to ramble at times then, re-read later and find it doesn't sound how I wanted, lol. Hopefully you will get somewhere with talking to the gp :)
Speak to a GP anyway but, I get AF anywhere between 11-14 days so I wouldn't worry too much about that side of things.
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That's meant to say I get AF 11-14 days after ovulation.
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oh ok i was getting woried if i have low progestrone as i get between 11-14 days too which isnt good for keeping pregnencies i have heard. Anyways CD10 so going to start checking OPK form tomorrow. Feeling bit positives this month after all the negativities.Tyring to keep my cool and leaving it on god and luck. Has anyone used preseed? Atomic talks about it alot and says it sways blue. My hubby doesnt like it as i am already quiet ok there and its gets too much..you guys know what i mean lol
I think it's more anything below 10 is a concern for LP. I have the Preseed as part of my sway plan. I insert a small amount about the size of a thumb nail (maybe a little more) for 5 days leading up to ovulation. Then I use double that for the attempt. Unfortunately first attempt I forgot to use it. Second attempt bd didn't happen so I don't know if there would have been too much moisture. In saying that, I sometimes have trouble in that department (without the supps).
I'm still waiting for a new cycle to begin. I didn't ovulate till CD 21, FF is predicting AF will start in four days. I just want this cycle to be over with!
Wishing you huge good luck Ewpnx1 :)
i had same sorot of cycle in may very frustrating..tommorow DD bday so all geared up for the fun :)
Grrr, stuppoo
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Ewpnx1, how was DD's birthday celebration? My DD's was 2 weeks ago, but her 3rd. I completely understand how you're feeling on the age gap stuff. I always wanted kids about 3 years apart, but now we'll be lucky if it's 4 years :-( I've heard that 6 years or more is like being an only child to them, which I'd like to avoid.
Boysway, how do you feel about the larger age gaps with your daughters? Do you have any positives we can focus on? That's what I'm trying to do - find the positives and try and not think about the negatives...
Oh, and did you end up getting AF Boysway? I'm assuming you would have posted if you got a BFP, but maybe you're just too excited to think about us right now, lol. Fingers crossed that's the case!
I also get AF about 10-12 days after O. I was concerned at one point and thought about taking vitamin B supplements, which is supposed to lengthen the luteal phase, but I know Atomic does not suggest that, so I figured I'd wait another round or two first.
We just had our attempt last week - only 3 attempts as well, but it was at the very end of our vacation, so I'm hoping the relaxation from that helps scoot those boys along ;-) This is our 3rd month TTCing. I think if it doesn't happen this time, I'll likely give it another month before I go talk to a doctor about it. Expnx1, I would love to hear what they tell you when you go, if you don't mind.
Hi Crazycat, when i went there after 6 months of TTC they ordered some blood tests for me like FSH progesterone TSH etc..n sperm count for hubby. His count came low which understandable as its not much fun to ejaculate without regualr studd lol..anyways i am waiting for this month..we did tried as i ovulated on my DD bday and we did make 4-5 attempts leading upto O day so lets see..if it doesnt work this time GP did tell me he would be happy to write a referral yo fertility clinic..so i will wait for 2 weeks and if nothing will try to go get help as i dont want to wait too long now..i have been trying off and on for 6 months.. when is AF due for you guys?
Lol. Sorry about that last message. I was having trouble with my phone. I didn't realise it had posted.
Ewpnx, I hope your dd had a lovely birthday :)
crazycatcouple, I'm the same as you guys and I preferred a close age gap which is why dd#1 and #2 were so close in age. Ex and I started trying for #2 pretty much as soon as dd#1 was 6 weeks old. Unfortunately dd#2 passed away due to SIDS at 5months old and I didn't want to try right away for another baby.
So, for me the only reason I have the age gaps is due to circumstances out of my control for the most part. DD#4 is my husbands first child and we got together when dd#3 was 1 1/2 years old. I didn't want a baby right away. The reason there will be a bigger gap between dd#4 and whenever we get a bfp this time around is because dd#4 was a difficult baby and I didn't come around to the idea of another baby till she was about 2 1/2-3 years old (she was 4 in April).
Yep, no bfp for me :( There were some 'performance' anxieties so nothing happened :( Af is just finishing and ovulation should be early July :) I have dh on some tablets I hope and :pray: will help with last cycles problem.
Regarding the vitamin B, double check with atomic. Vitamin B was recommended for me. I had to stop taking it because it delayed ovulation too much. I decided to start Brewers yeast as that apparently doesn't affect the cycle as much. I suspect that is what delayed my ovulation date (day 21 last cycle from day 19 previously and LP of 14). I'll stay on the Brewers yeast as I feel I need that vitamin B which is what the Brewers yeast tablets contain. Fingers crossed you both get your bfp soon :D
I understand Boysway each family is different and requirements are also different of different kids. Hopefully we all get what we want soon :)
Oh, I didn't even realize that brewers yeast had vitamin B in it! I do take that as part of my regime :-) That makes a lot of sense too because I have always had a 28 day cycle with ovulation at day 14, but the past 3 or 4 months, I'd had a 30 day cycle and ovulation is more the 16th day - must be the brewer's yeast!
Yes, circumstances seem to be king, as far as family planning goes. I am sorry about dd#2 Boysway :-( I can only imagine how hard that time in your life must have been and probably still effects you. I'm sure one of the pluses to having your kids further apart, especially them being girls, is that they are likely more of a help with each new baby, being older and more capable. I have many friends who had their kids one after the other, but there is not much help from the older kiddos, since they are still practically babies themselves! So there's one positive :-) We'll all have great little helpers for our little baby boys!
Ewpnx1 - AF is due sometimes between the 23rd and the 25th, depending on if I go 28 or 30 days. It seems like it fluctuates a little, as I take the brewers yeast less religiously because I don't like the texture of the pills, lol.
I'm going to wait until the 23rd to test I think... I'm trying really hard this time around not to obsess over it all and to just relax :-) It's tough, but at the same time, I've been enjoying my wine lately and I know that once I get confirmation of a BFP, that will be no more. Not that I'm getting drunk of course, just in case, but even though my doctor last time around told me I could have a glass each night, I didn't have but one here and there in my third trimester because, why chance it, right? Man, I sound like a drunk, lol. I swear I don't drink that much!! I've just been enjoying my wine lately since I know I will be without it for the next year or so :-) Trying to make the best of it since it seems we can't seem to actually get pregnant!
If we go one more month without a BFP, I'm going to go get some testing done. I know most doctors here won't suggest it until you've been trying for a year, but I definitely don't want to wait that long. And honestly, why not test earlier? What's the harm? If there is an issue, you might as well find out sooner than later!!
Haha, I just looked at my incredibly long post...sorry for all my gabbing! I'm a talker, if you hadn't noticed :-) Thanks for putting up with me ladies!
Okay, so it worked! My hubby doesn't want me to share the news yet, but I needed to tell someone :-) Fingers crossed its our little blue bundle! Hope to hear some good news from you ladies soon as well!!
ccc that's awesome! I haven't been around too much lately but pop in to see how everyone's going every now and then! congrats that's such fabulous news, so so so excited for u!! Yay!! xo
Wonderful news crazycatcouple :)
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Awesome news Crazycatcouple !!!!!!Thats great news :flowerz: you must be so so happy..lovely..hope this works for us soon too :bluecheer:
Thanks ladies! I'll be sending all my baby making juju your way :-) Would love to see you ladies join me in the due date club soon!!
haha yes sure.. when is your due date? When did you test? how soon testing can be done you recon? I am a bit curious this wait is tough :((
My doctor won't see me until 8 weeks, so I have my first appt on 7/22. From my calculations, my due date should be somewhere in the March 2-4 range :-) I actually waited to test this time, surprisingly, lol. I tested at 12 dpo, which was on Sunday, day 27 of my cycle (which is usually between 28 and 30 days). But with my daughter, I think I started testing at around 8 dpo. I got 4 days of negatives before I got my positive, so it was probably right around the same time as well :-)
Where are you at in your cycle?
sounds great Crazycat :) my AF was 1st of june and i ovulated around 13,14 or may be 15th i guess. anyways we had 3 attempts during ovulation and 2 prior to oulation but in fertile window as i m not sort of swaying anymore and just want BFP!! so i tested on 25th june and it was negative. my cycles are noramaly irregular so it varies.But as i have ovulated on day 14 or so i thought i could start testing from DPO10. but i t was negative. I am scared now to test again.I usually spot before periods but nothing so far. If i dont spot till sunday i will check on sunday that would be DPO 14.what do you recon?
Boysway whats up with u?
with my DD i was on holidays overseas n i dint test untill i had breast tenderness and i was 3 days over due for my periods :)that time my cycles were 30 days lol
Fingers crossed Ewpnx :)
I'm on CD 13. I'm thinking ovulation will happen in about a weeks time. I'm seriously thinking of not telling or even hinting to dh about ovulation coming up. If we take a risk of last attempt repeating itself then we're in with no chance again. We bd once since our attempt last month :(
Well they say HCG doubles every 2 days approximately, so if you're okay with possibly seeing another negative before getting your positive, I'd test again today, and then again on Sunday. It's possible you could get a positive at 12 dpo for sure. It just depends on your emotions, ya know? Some people get really down from seeing the negative, so if that's you, waiting until Sunday may be the better choice. I am just impatient and couldn't help myself! And if you normally get spotting before AF and you haven't yet, then there's a good chance you'll get your BFP :-) Sending baby dust your way!!!
Boysway, I think not saying anything about it being an actual attempt might be a good way to go! It's hard for them for "perform on cue" like that, but if you just get him in the mood more naturally, he'll probably have no issues! The only think is that if sex is only as often as you're saying, he may catch on when you're wanting it 3 days in a row, lol. You have to be an actress ;-)
My hubby had a hard time during some of our attempts as well. The one that worked was during the last part of our vacation when we were stress free and just having fun, rather than really focusing on making a baby, so I think you could be on to something with your plan!
Good luck on your attempts!!
Crazycatcouple, I hint to my dh almost daily :( Very rarely does anything happen out of it :( That's why I am stuck as the whether I should give dh an indication that ovulation is nearing. When we finally bd it was last Monday night while we were away with the kids. The kids room was at the end of the hall with a laundry and two ensuites separating us. Worst thing, I just realised. I should be ovulating from around the 3rd-6th of July. On those days I am nightshift two nights in a row then two afternoon shifts in a row :(
Hi Ladies!!!! its sunday and i tested today..i thing its BFP :)) i got a faint positive on DPO 14 !! Crazy cat just saw your posts..and we think quiet same i just happened to wait from DPO10 to 14 for testing i said to myself will wait till sunday and was so excited today to see the faint line!! and came here to staright to update you guys..thanks for all your wishes guys and support..Boysway: i had been trying for 7-8 months off an on..i missed some months where we wete stressed or busy and its fine..but this time we were happy i ovulated on my DD birthday and we were happy partying for her.. and it was weekend so both were off and i ovulated same time..bingo!!!
as its not dark positive.. i will wait till i see GP. I will test every day till is dark and then see Doc..what do you guys recon?? I think due date would be first week of march which also happens to be my Hubby birthday on 1st march he is excited lol
Awww, fantastic news. Sticky bfp wishes to you :) Congratulations.
Congrats ewpnx1! That's wonderful news! Keep us updated xo
Woo hoo! Congrats Ewpnx!!!! So excited for you :-) I have been taking more tests every 2 or 3 days just to watch the line get darker, lol. I would call your doc on Monday and see when they want to see you. Mine won't see us until 8 week, so July 22nd, but I think different docs have different ways to do it all.
And yes, I agree that for us it was so helpful that we were just relaxed and having fun, rather than "trying". Come join us over in the due date forum :-) There's not one yet for March I don't think, so I've been in Feb for now, but they may make a March one soon.
Boysway, keep thinking positively! You will get your BFP soon, I can just feel it. Do you and your hubby drink? Maybe try and have a bottle of wine to get more in the mood and loosen the reins a bit? Also, we found that morning spooning works well for DH since they are almost always ready to go in the AM, lol, so maybe your night shifts won't be too much of an issue if you shoot for first thing in the AM for him.
Thanks crazycatcouple. Yes, things are more likely to happen in the morning. I guess we could give things a try when I come home from work in the morning. I don't think we'll have much choice about that.
thanks ladies :) yes will join due date forum when they start march one i guess..when do you tell family? hubby wants to keep it quiet.
boysway: wine helps..we had enough lol in fertlie time..holidays and reduced stress was the key for me..plus i stopped thinking of trying n just had fun thus tie..plus hubby had supps for a month due to low sperm count..and i think that helped heaps..
oncue are you trying?
I planned on adding wine into my sway but when I'm not working I'm sleeping. So, I guess wine will be left out. Although I could have a glass Tuesday and Wednesday night. I'm nightshift on my first two fertile days which are Thursday and Friday.
i think if you just try for fun doesn't matter..i had 2-3 months in between where i could only try once due to hubby being busy with work..it stressed me more out..probably just dont try this month..you can have fun..if it happens this month its OK otherwise next month..for me actually it stressed me more out if BD was only once during ovulation time...good luck..after 7-8 months of trying i think i have found out the relaxed state of mind was most important for both of us..that's what worked this month..
Ewpnx1 - I think it depends on your personality for when to tell people. I am a talker and know that even if something happened, I'd want to talk about it, so I've been telling anyone that I would feel comfortable talking to about a loss, which basically includes all of my family and the friends I consider close :-) I haven't announced it on FB or anything like that yet - I'll probably wait until after 8 or 12 weeks, depending on when we get our first official scan. Some people wait longer to even tell family, but I just know I would need the support system if anything did happen. Plus, I'm trying to just stay positive and believe that everything will go as planned, so why not tell those I love :-)