there are loads of successful pink sways without it kittendreams :) good luck for your sway! xx
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there are loads of successful pink sways without it kittendreams :) good luck for your sway! xx
Thanks 4blue! Can't wait to see what you are having fx so hard for another little girl for your family xxQuote:
Originally Posted by 4blue2pink
thankyou so much :) i will update when we know xx
Hi all! We are possibly going to start TTC in September/October. It seems like there just isn't a good time! We have fall weddings, vacations planned, and I'm struggling on timing. I got pregnant the first attempt with my two sons, so I don't feel like I'll have months and months to just 'wait and see.' Also, I'm still struggling over if I want a third. In my heart I do, but I'm afraid of the stress. Moms of 3+ how do you do it?? Good luck to everyone TTC soon!
Greydore I feel the same- my heart wants to try for my daughter but I worry about how I will cope with a) 3 children and b) another opposite.
Everyday I go back and forth-my mind is so full of what ifs!
Would love to hear from mums of 3+ too.
Good luck with your sway and fx for a lovely girl for your family!
we will be ttc same time as you and also have a holiday booked and a wedding where I will be bridesmaid at that time too.
Hoping with all that going on I will not have time to stress about my sway and everything will just fall into place xx
I haven't decided if I'm swaying yet ;) I would be perfectly pleased with another boy, so much that I'm pretty sure I'm just going to take my chances. We will be happy either way! Good luck to you as well :)Quote:
Originally Posted by kittendreams
Hello, 4blue2pink! I was checking out success rates for past years when I came across this thread. I have 2 daughters and always wanted a boy. I first came across this website when i was (get this) trying to look up reasons online to convince myself NOT to have another child, fearing i had no chance of ever getting a boy (but I wasnt ready to give up hope)... Now here i am a month later and almost 3 weeks into a blue sway! I admire you as a woman and a mother for tending to so many children! That's amazing and I wish I had your patients. I wish you luck with your pink sway, I'm always up for friendly conversation if you find yourself looking. Sending you pink dust!
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Sorry to jump in, but these are my feelings exactly! I fear I wont be able to be the mother I want to be if I get overwhelmed with 3 children. However, I decided to go for it, realizing that I won't be adding a baby to my 1.5 and 3.5 year old household, for the fact that by the time I conceive and carry another baby, I will have at least a 2.5 and 4.5 year old (preschool age) and that takes some of the stress away I'm sure! I think we get so caught up in baby fever that we often forget how much would change in the time span of, perhaps, just 1 year. I also tell myself I know I will never regret a child, but I know if I decide against a third, I will always wonder if I gave up my son.Quote:
Originally Posted by kittendreams
Ttcblue18 exactly!
I know I could never regret another sweet baby but I could not live with wondering what if?
Best of luck with your sway I have two boys so any qs ask away xx
After reading girl swaying tips I can say it sure does sum up my typical lifestyle. Not 1 factor that points boy for either one of my girls, so I have high hopes for this! :)
Thank you so much! I hope you get a little girl. I can't speak from an expert swayers stand point, but feel free to ask me anything as well because I know how my girls came about :)
Thankyou Ttcblue18 thats such a kind thing to say <3 its amazing how many of us find this site and after reading through can see exactly why we have our boys or our girls!! if your blue sway is very different from what you were like when you got your girls then i think your in a really strong place :) feel free to ask any questions and best of luck with your sway, my fingers are crossed for you! keep us updated :) **Blue Dust** xx
just to add into the 3rd baby discussion, i completely agree with what has already been said, that you never regret a child and i also think that if you dont feel complete or "done" then you probably arent!
going from 2-3 kids is an adjustment and yes there will be hard days/weeks! but they arent sleep averse babies or temperamental toddlers forever, the hardest years are the earliest ones especially if they are close in age where none of them can really help with tidying up their toys or really doing all that much for themselves etc so it ALL falls on you!! (personally speaking i had 3 under the age of 3) but like everything in life those times do pass :) my oldest 3 are now 7, 5 1/2 and 4 1/2 and they are a big help with the little ones and the tidying and my 7 year old is great with the hoover!! not to mention that they dress themselves, use the toilet and all that jazz which wasnt the case when number 3 was born!
i guess what im trying to say is that if i had stopped at number 3 my house would be a world away now from what it was like 4 years ago with a 3 year old, a 1 1/2 year old and a 6 month old!! seasons change and the hard times do pass :)
i honestly cant tell you the amount of older women-complete strangers in their 50's/60's that see me with the kids and out of the blue start telling me that they always wanted more kids or always wanted 1 more or always wanted 4 but stopped at 2 etc.. and looking back now that its too late they regret it.
i hope those of you struggling with this can come to a decision that is right for you and your families xx
I had 2 boys and almost went down the HT path but financially things changed and we had to settle for trying to sway, and now we have a healthy happy 9 month old daughter. The adjustment from 2 - 3 kids like everyone said takes some time and there will be some crappy days/weeks but as 4blue2pink said, the children get older and become helpful and grow a certain amount of independance making things easier in a way. I dont regret taking the leap for 3 kids at all, if anything, I am considering the idea of trying to sway for a 2nd daughter so my girls have each other to grow up with, just like my boys xx
Thank you so much, this is what I've been trying to explain to hubby, but he still doesn't want another child. He's being very cooperative and understanding though. After finding the site, he agreed to ttc for 3 full cycles as long as I was willing to put 100% into my sway (I think he wants a boy too but the thought of 3 kids scares him) and then well need to take a break and do some talking. If it was meant to be it will surely find a way.Quote:
Originally Posted by 4blue2pink
Also I just wanted to say, all the encouragement and support I get from you ladis really does keep my spirit high, which is something I often have trouble with. So thank you so very much.
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this site is so supportive its one of the main things i love about it! fingers crossed your husband stays on side, he may just need a bit of time and knowing that your swaying sounds like its helping him :) keep us updated with how things go xx
Right, I know and understand all of his concerns but that doesn't make it any easier to let go of the son I've always wanted. If we don't conceive in June-August, I'll give it a year and ask him to reconsider :) I will keep you updated; hope you will return the favor! I love seeing how many people sway and pray and get their dg! Brightens my day, every time!
he isnt flat out saying no which is a good thing! quite a few women on here have had to talk hubby's round from flat out no into ttc, yes i will be updating once i know what baby is :) and i LOVE seeing successful sways too :D im always so happy for them xx
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Originally Posted by 4blue2pink
Did you have a link to your sway hun? I love looking at other successful sways it helps :) plus goves me ideas if i need tobtweak things a bit or ifothers have different eating tips
yes i can link both my sways for you hope they help :) xx
first sway done 2015/16 which was successful..
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-...y-attempt.html
second sway done 2017 dont know gender..
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-...y-attempt.html
Oops meant to click like, not thanks, as I'm swaying blue :) Always love seeing successful sways of blue or pink though! Usually pink line up pretty well with my lifestyle when I got my girls and blue gives me so much hope, seeing all the similarities in my current sway.Quote:
Originally Posted by 4blue2pink
Ttcblue did you do a lot of cardio when you got your girls? What was your typical daily diet like?Quote:
Originally Posted by TtcBlue18
Also did your hubby smoke?
Thank you xx
no worries Ttcblue :) i love seeing sways too, even though im a pink swayer i find it so interesting to see the blue sways!
great questions kittendreams :) so interesting seeing how peoples lifestyles naturally fell into HE/LE tendencies and then their kids genders lined up with it xx
Yes my hubby has smoked since age 13, now 27.Quote:
Originally Posted by kittendreams
I conceived my first daughter at age 19, and my second at 20. With both of them, I ate lots of candy and chocolate, ice cream-- anything sweet I could get my hands on, really. Id snack on sweets all day. I never ate breakfast and rarely ate lunch. Dinner was usually fast food and I LOVE coffee. I've been drinking a pot of coffee to myself every day since about the age of 15 (it helped me to eat less throughout the day). If I drank anything other than coffee, it was soda. I went back and forth between regular and diet depending on it I was trying to lose weight or not. Never cared for water. So as far as diet, I was not a very healthy person.
I never worked out, I've never been big on any form of exercise, but I was working on a farm from dawn to dusk when my first was conceived so I had lost weight just from being out of the house more and not eating junk all day.
Hey ladies, I have my first attempt coming up soon and I picked up some pre-seed. Does anyone who uses it have a suggestion of how much to use? I see some people say use the recommended amount and others say use just a little so it helps your natural fluid instead of taking over completely.
Thank you so much ttcblue all this info helps so much! Yes you were the quintessential girl mum!!!
I have never eaten like that in my life!
I'm not sure about the preseed but I know that I have always drunk a lot of water and tea and fruit juice for a treat ( I loved Ribena!) and never coffee or soft drinks and always had heaps of ewcm. Now I'm swaying and drinking diet coke, coffee, not so much water and on the minipill I have zero ewcm! Interesting isn't it?
Fx your attempt is sucessful and you get your sweet little bubba boy xx
Thank you kitten, you're so sweet! :) I'm glad I could help!
so excited for you Ttcblue :) fingers crossed you get your bfp soon and its your boy! reading your answer about how you ate with your girls you have made such huge changes with this sway!
im sorry i dont know anything about preseed, if you haven't already start a thread about it, that way all the other blue swayers and atomic will see it :) xx
how long have you been on the LE diet kittendreams? its amazing how it changes your body isnt it! oddly this time around i had AF the month i got bfp switch from usually starting mid morning (say 10-11am) to arriving at night (9-10pm!!) not sure if this means anything sway-wise but it was certainly a change xx
Thank you! And I have made huge, huge changes, but as we get closers to attempt time I'm starting to get worried and anxious and thinking i may have to skip yet another month :worry:Quote:
Originally Posted by 4blue2pink
Dh always drinks on the weekends, but now he has started drinking nearly every night with our 1st attempt a week away. I dont know what to do, I want to start trying now, I don't want to wait another cycle out, but I can't stop him from doing what he's doing and I don't want to compromise my last chance at a son. The more I think about it, the more upset I get and the more I start to resent him for what he's doing. I feel like I'm putting so much effort into this sway and he's ruining it and there's nothing I can do.
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:( im so sorry Ttcblue, can i ask where your husband stands in all this, does he want a boy? is he not fussed? or does he want another girl?
its so hard to see this happen with the blue swayers, you guys seem to have hubby issues more as his habits affect blue sways, its frustrating as most of the dads want a boy but wont budge on things!! does his drinking affect your sway? im not sure on drink for hubby with blue sways? mum drinking is a no-no for blue but is dad?
and like you i love small age gaps and always want to ttc ASAP!! i hope you 2 can work this out xx
Hi 4blue! I have been on it for around 2 months but as I'm only 6 months pp I've stuck to the upper limits. I have been vegetarian and skipping Bfast for 4 months now though so I've been easing into the girly lifestyle as the year progresses.Quote:
Originally Posted by 4blue2pink
I'm starting exercise this month. DH is picking up my treadmill tonight so no excuse now haha. I've got 3 months now til our first attempt cycle so getting stricter from now on and definitely no more snacking. I think the minipill has definitely changed my body and the lower protein and fat intake combined with skipping Bfast and lots of coffee has made a huge difference.
I think that's a good sign about your Af time changing! It's interesting what the diet does to our cycles isn't it? I'm still waiting on ppaf but I'm curious to see when it does come if it changes from my usual early morning arrival- if it does I'll take it as a good sign!
How long til you find out what you are having? Fx so hard for another little girlie!
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Originally Posted by TtcBlue18
Oh ttcblue I feel your frustration there is nothing worse than wanting something so badly and feeling like others are sabotaging it! But I can tell you this from my experience my Dh drinks every night, always has since we met and we have two boys so it is still possible to get a boy. My Dh always drank beer but he is now drinking wine so I'm hoping that it may sway more pink.
Is he still smoking?
Big hugs! Please don't feel defeated you can still get your boy with all your hard work I just know it xx
Also ttcblue can you get Dh on a male prenatal like menevit? My DH took it before we conceived ds1 because I was worried about his years of drinking and smoking affecting his fertility. Lol we got pregnant first try no need to be worried!
4blue2pink: He doesn't want another baby at all, but eventually we came to the agreement to give me 3 months (2 attempts each month) and if it happens, it happens and if not, we wont have another baby. :( He has told me he would like to have a boy, but the thought of 3 children scares him. I asked atomic about the drinking because I didn't know either and I guess it's kind of a grey area. While it's known that alcohol sways pink, they are not sure if it's more important that I don't drink, or that neither of us does. I was already worried about his smoking and now he's bing drinking every night for nearly a week leading up to our attempt, you gotta be kidding me! But atomic says if I feel good about my sway otherwise, I should go for it.. so I guess I'm going to. I'd rather have another girl than no baby at all.
Kittendreams: omg that's great!!! You have no idea how much hearing that helps to lift the weight of my anxiety. My hubby drinks beer too! When we got our girls he was smoking Marijuana, and after my second daughter (nearly 2 years ago) I demanded he quit because I didn't want my children raised in a household with any form of illegal substances. He quit, but that's when he began drinking. Only a couple nights a week usually (until the past few days that is), but yes, he still smokes cigarettes. :/
He takes fish oil, mens one a day multivitamin and a probiotic. Do you think this should be sufficient?? He started them a couple months ago..Quote:
Originally Posted by kittendreams
I'm not sure about the supplements atomic is best to ask about that just thought I'd share what Dh took to get ds1 in case it's suitable for you.
I keep thinking about you and worried about you feeling defeated because I read that feeling defeated Is bad for a boy sway.
So to lift you up I thought I'd share my sisters experience as it may also help you feel more confident.
She has 4 boys, 1 girl. The only girl was from b/g twin and they were conceived 4 months pp before first ppaf she was 38 and missed a couple of minipills due to gastro so she did get a girl but she got a boy too!
Anyway she has 4 boys to 3 different fathers every single dad was older smoked drank daily and had lots of girls to other women! But she still made boys! So it must be down to her right? What does she do? Eat! Very regularly very healthily never uses contraception ( except that once on minipill lol) had very high sex drive drinks moderately and does very moderate exercise I'm talking water aerobics once a week lol! Always has a bit of extra meat on her. She has to eat every 2 hours or she get hangry!!! It's seriously scary!
She had even lost weight with the last boy, was 42 and smoking a little all with a dad who smokes like a chimney drinks beer every night and has 3 girls to his ex! but still had a boy!
So it really can come down to you! you can do this!!!
You are so kind to genuinely care so much. I also have read that the defeated feeling causes (testosterone I think it is?) To drop, which is not good for ttc a boy, so I try to keep my hopes high and stay confident that what I'm doing is enough. Today I actually made two lists, one of which is all the things that we did before and during the time we got our girls (that are said to sway girl) that we have now changed for our boy sway, and the other was a list of things we currently do that are said to sway girl. This made me feel a great deal better, and with reading about others who have gotten their boys, even with a hubby who smokes and drinks, I think I can honestly say, I feel that I do still have a good chance. The objective of swaying is to have more boy factors to outweigh the girl factors, right? Like a lot of people have never heard of swaying so must have factors from both sides from their natural routine.Quote:
Originally Posted by kittendreams
And dh smoking and drinking are the only things that worry me really. Also I have checked supplements with atomic already, just didn't know if the one you mentioned would specifically help him for the reasons that concern me, If that makes sense lol. Thank you so much, kittendreams. You truly are amazing :)
Yes! That's exactly right-we all do boy and girl sway tactics everyday, it's impossible to be just completely boy or girl friendly all the time but you just have to move more towards the blue lifestyle which you are.Quote:
Originally Posted by TtcBlue18
My DH has always drunk every night like I said, and he was even smoking a little when we got ds2 even while I was swaying for a girl lol so you are always in for chance of a boy xx
Dh is smoking more now ( I hate it but I'm letting him get away with it at the moment) so I am hoping it sways girl for us this time.
Just wondering did your Dh drink energy drinks when you had your dds?
Awesome these all sound very similar to what Dh took! He's definitely not taking them now lol!Quote:
Originally Posted by TtcBlue18
And btw making lists is perfect boy mum behaviour! I used to make lists about the lists I needed to make lol! Not anymore though- I don't even write shopping lists anymore and it renders me completely useless at the shops but I'm willing to do it to get a girl haha!Quote:
Originally Posted by TtcBlue18