Ladies, what are your feeling about announcing babies name to others? Tell while pregnant or wait till birth? Good and bad experiences with either option?
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Ladies, what are your feeling about announcing babies name to others? Tell while pregnant or wait till birth? Good and bad experiences with either option?
Don't do it!!! We had a name we LOVED for DS1. We made the mistake of telling our family, and much to our astonishment, they openly ridiculed the name and went so far as to make fun of it [emoji20]. It totally ruined the name for us. Ironically, years later, the name would have been perfect for him. We did come up with a name we now love and is a good fit for him. We learned a valuable lesson- don't announce a name until the baby is born!Quote:
Originally Posted by GirlieCat
[emoji170][emoji1379]DS1, [emoji577]DS2, & [emoji602]DS3[emoji170]
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Hi! I'm pretty new here & currently in the 2WW, but girliecat-your post on the names showed up on the side bar of my page & I wanted to comment!
We have 2 DS, but have had the girl name picked out since before we were married! We were team green until birth for our youngest, so we announced names for either gender to just our family & maybe a few friends. My SIL is now expecting and finding out gender in 2weeks. To my surprise, they have already picked out names and using "our" girl name if it's a girl!!!! She is newer to the family & I didn't have the name conversation with her, but surely it's a coincidence !! I always thought by announcing the name, it would help everyone connect more with the baby, making it more personal, and thought there would be an understanding that the name is off limits and especially not subject to ridicule. That's awful XX!! I do know some who don't reveal the name for similar reasons since everyone seems to have an opinion or know someone by that name that leaves a certain impression in their minds!!!
What are you leaning towards girliecat??
:agree: and even if they "mean well" it can still be kind of stressful where they express some concerns and then you're put in the position of having to justify using the name anyway.Quote:
Originally Posted by XXforhubby
Examples: Wyatt Duncan "You mean like Dunkin Donuts? Duncan Heinz" "Wyatt Earp?" and Tate Holmes "It sounds like potato, isn't Tate a girls name?"
Better to wait till birth, even tho we did get some comments about Clark and Marshall, "Superman? Marshall Dillon?" the baby was named and that was the end of it. Did not endure the weeks of people bringing it up and making other suggestions repeatedly.
Re coincidences, it does happen just by sheer random chance. I had always kind of hoped to use the name Evelyn, although I wasn't totally sold on it (luckily) it was my grandmother's name and just something that I envisioned using if and when I ever got a girl. Lo and behold my brother and his girlfriend - who had no way of knowing about my grandma (we have different dads so different grandmas and I'm sure my brother has no clue what my grandma's name is, let alone his girlfriend who picked it) chose the name Avelyn for their daughter.
I mean, that's not even a name (please no comments, it's lovely, my point is that of all the weird random twists of fate, that one is a biggie!) and it was completely accidental with no ill will implied, but it sure put me off of using Evelyn as a potential name.
Atomic-same situation! When you have your heart set on a name & then someone else uses it...ugh!! I certainly hope in our case that we coincidently think alike. I wondered if other family members suggested it. Super happy for them, but I have fx that they have a boy lol. It's my DH's brother & wife, so we have the same last name!
It's up to you really...there's always a risk that someone else will use the names you have picked out though, but as far as family/friends being rude and mocking or not liking the names, I couldn't give a crap! We've announced the names with all 5 bubs during pregnancy, and of course there's always going to be someone that doesn't like it! We LOVE all the names we've used and that's all that matters. However, I do like the idea of waiting til birth to announce, but for us, we kind of feel our family/friends are more connected with Bub before birth - whether they like the name or not lol....if that makes sense?...
Hey ladies ! Updating to say that I am indeed having a girl . Sneek peak was right ! So you can mark me down as swayed boy - having girl .
Seems we have quite a few failed sways .
After all I did to sway , I'm starting to question swaying in general .. if we decide to have another baby after this we will do PGD . All depends on if we can afford it or not at that time and if we want to have 4 children ! Lol
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So sorry to hear your sway didn't work, I hope you are doing ok. I didn't realise how hard it would be finding out my sway failed and just how upset I would feel until it happened to me so sending big hugs and hope you can get over any disappointment and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I hope one day you can have your little boy if you do decide to try for no. 4 but if not I hope you can find happiness with your three girls.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cnburke
So many failed sways & a few miscarriages in this group. fx for all of you who are team green
Wow, so many opposites! It makes me nervous to find out if our second sway worked or not.
(((Huge Hugs)))
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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
We mentioned our name that we loved to a few people last pregnancy.
And they savaged it !
So now we have no name at all, well Hubby does but I am not into them, and vice versa.
I find boys names boring and unforgiving, you can't really call a boy a cute name like Dolly, or flowery names (Lilly, Rose, Petal).
So it's hard to find something strong and unique, my advice is once you find it...zip it ;) Cos people are judge
Ps : I would like to include myself in the above 'people', I didn't say it to her but my sister in law called her son Ivan...and I just thought it sounded tyrannical.
Fast forward 3 years and he is the most unlikeable child you'll ever meet.
I always wonder if the name influenced his personality 'Ivan the Terrible'
[QUOTE=Cnburke;890288]Hey ladies ! Updating to say that I am indeed having a girl . Sneek peak was right ! So you can mark me down as swayed boy - having girl .
Seems we have quite a few failed sways .
After all I did to sway , I'm starting to question swaying in general .. if we decide to have another baby after this we will do PGD . All depends on if we coan afford it or not at that time and if we want to have 4 children ! Lol
Cnburke it's like you are in my brain! I do question swaying now as well but I still don't have any true anger towards the process because it forced me into great shape. However I do get upset about the fact that I thought I had control over what's an uncontrollable situation. I almost wish I had read more failed sway posts with the hopes that people would've said--if you truly want a specific gender go PGD and do not risk swaying. I saw some like that but not enough. However I have only myself to blame.
If we ever decide a 4th...I'm only doing PGD. Apparently there's a doctor here who has success with spinning and I won't even risk that. But I would have to weigh if the expense of another child is worth it and more importantly if I want a 4th child. 3 sounds so good to me while 4 is undoubtedly overwhelming.
I deal with disappointment on a daily basis so right now I'm just hoping I'll get over it mostly but the time #3 is born. I doubt I'll get over it completely. And I hope you are doing ok. I know how crushing this can be.
Guys, I say it at least once a day that if you can do PGD and have a reasonable chance of success with it, you should do PGD.
I have never, ever, ever said anywhere even once that swaying is a guarantee of gender and I think I'm pretty vocal about it as a matter of fact.
As long as swaying comes in consistently better than 50-50 (which it has for both pink and blue, every year for 6 years, even though I include sways that were less than ideal)
My heartfelt goal is for everyone to get their desired gender. But if swaying could EVER be a guarantee the entire human race would have died out a long time ago, the first time there was an extended famine only girls would be born. It just isn't 100%, I've never promised that to anyone and never will.
Just wanted to update the thread that we will be welcoming baby boy #2 in July! Im so excited to see the bond my boys will share! Hoping everyone is having a good pregnancy on here so far! :D
Yes Atomic you are completely open with that. I don't blame the site or your guidance at all. I looked to posts and as we all know, anecdotal evidence is a recipe for failure. So I blame myself for not being more objective and analytical. But really what can I do at this point.Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
That's so mean that they savaged your baby name! Don't understand why people can't keep their mouths shut :/ I know lots of people that picked (IMO) silly names, but at least I was nice enough to pretend to like it haha!Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsSparkles
"Ivan the terrible" sorry but that made me giggle. I guess it was destiny maybe lol.
My DS2 is named Gabriel, but he's definitly no angel hahaha
Gabriel is beautiful name !Quote:
Originally Posted by Mummyof4boys
Ivan is hilarious, he is the tyrant - you know the naughty children that secretly make you laugh at how mischievous they are!
Atomic - I know you are very vocal about the fact that if you can do PGD do it.
We really thought (when I was in bits about my failed sway) that we would ONLY do PGD next time.
Now...I am actually not as invested in boy or girl, I think for me this failed sway has brought me peace, and turned me from a real control freak into a ....slightly less control freaky person.
If I had gotten my girl, I don't think I would be having such a relaxed and amazing pregnancy.
I would be planning the minutia of everything.
So I can honestly thank this site for that.
Thank you all. I think we will keep the name secret. Since I can't keep the pregnancy secret anymore, this will be something that hubby and I can keep just to ourselves. It is surprising though, we started to tell family yesterday and multiple people asked- "Do you have a name yet?". I am learning so much about what NOT to say the next time I find out a friend or family is pregnant.
I updated page 1 for all those who found out their genders. Sorry to those who are struggling with gender opposite what they swayed/hoped for. :-(
Kelbear- I didn't update yours because I am not sure if you consider it confirmed yet- I will wait for you to let us know if it is confirmed.
Thanks Girliecat, you probably can put it down as boy as there is no way that nub is anything but boy. I will have my anatomy scan in 5 weeks but really don't need that to confirm.
Have gone from feeling nauseous all day and vomiting at least once a day to feeling ravenously hungry all day. Not sure which is more frustrating.
Sorry Kelbear didn't mean to press Like on this.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kelbear
Sorry you got your opposite :(
Girliecat - Feel the same as you, learning so much about what not to say to a pregnant person next time lol
Hii ladies... today is the day... m gonna find out baby's gender...wish me luck.😍😍
DD 👯(17mos) , 💫baby due in july 2017
Ohhh best of luck!Quote:
Originally Posted by 2ndtimemom
I haven't been around for a while...I'm 25 weeks now and everything is still going great. After passing the gestational diabetes diagnostic test, I called and finally switched providers to the midwife team that delivers at another hospital. My first appointment with them is at 29 weeks. We'll be in Europe for three weeks and our landscape installation starts in two weeks.
I've been slowly acquiring baby gear from other people, and decluttering the baby room is almost complete (just need to transfer data from old external hard drives and scan old papers). We've got all the furniture we want for around the house (but not anything specifically for baby yet). My girlfriends said they might throw a baby shower for me, and I never say no to a good party. :)
The way I see it, if everyone liked the name you chose, then the name would be too popular! And everyone would have the same names! And that's not the case, so most people will have negative reactions to the chosen name. That's just the way it is. :) We are 99% sure our baby boy's first name will be Hunter. Other names I liked are Trevor, Russell, and Charles, but Hunter is on top for various reasons.
Hmm, lots of opposites since I last checked in. I wonder what I will do for my next kid (if we decide to have a second), but I'm too busy to think about that right now. :D
Thanks MrsSparkles, I am slowly feeling better about this baby being a boy. My DS is the most amazing loving cuddly little guy and especially lately makes me realise how lucky I am to have him and that little boys are amazing. Yes I still grieve the loss of a chance to have a DD but this new little guy will be very welcome in our lives. I have started to feel him move in the last few days and that has help me start to bond with him better too. I can't wait to see my two little guys grow up together best buddies.Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsSparkles
OMG 2nd time mom....so excited for you. Can't wait to hear results.
Thinking of you 2ndtimemom. Let us know how your US went.
Question- when tummy gets super hard and tight for a short time (1min or less), is that a Braxton hicks contraction? It is not painful, just weird and uncomfortable but very noticeable.
Also how far along were you when you got your first stretch mark. I am 24 weeks and no marks yet but I am still small and have only gained 8 pounds. I am dreading getting stretch marks so just wondering.
Anyone taking a probiotic during pregnancy? Wondering if I should start taking one.
I got stretch marks super early, it's genetic....honestly.Quote:
Originally Posted by GirlieCat
I am using Vitamin E oil, Rosehip Oil, Shea Butter, and nothing works. My Mum got them too, and she was tiny :(
My weight gain now stands at 14lbs in 6 months, so a lot more than you, but I really think it is genes.
If you don't have them now, chances are you won't.
Get the same feeling, on waking up or if I am dehydrated - not sure if it is Braxton Hicks either.
Feels cool though :D
By the way, first antenatal class yesterday.
It was full to capacity, and out of every couple there there is only one girl being born.
All the midwives have said it's like a boy boom.
Does anyone know which strain of probiotic to take to help prevent Group Strep B ?
Have been doing Kimchi, and tiny amounts of kombucha, but not added a probiotic yet
Yes those are BH contraxQuote:
Originally Posted by GirlieCat
Stretchmarks are genetic so you may be lucky and not get any. I already had them before I even had my first baby because I grew fast as a teen. One of those things not a lot you can really do to prevent.
Yes, sounds like braxton hicks. Mine started at 20 weeks and are really uncomfortable!! Feels like my belly is in a vice haha
I know some people swear that moisturisers help, but I find it hard to believe that it can penetrate deep enough to prevent stretch marks... I can't remember how far along, but I got two little streaks on one hip with my first pregnancy, and a matching pair on the other hip with my second pregnancy lol. No stretch marks for the other 3 pregnancies and none on my belly luckily...same as my mother! However, I did get them on my boobs and butt during puberty :/
I took FastTract liquid probiotic in 3rd trimester with my 3rd child, and he's the only one out of my 4 that didn't have colic as a baby. Could be a coincidence.. who knows...
Going to book in a 3D ultrasound next week! :D Hopefully Bub cooperates and I can get a nice shot of her face lol. I've never had luck with them in the past. Usually the face is buried in my hip or a hand is covering the face haha
Please post piccies !Quote:
Originally Posted by Mummyof4boys
I really wanted to get one done, but we just paid for our newborn photographer which wasnt cheap. So can't justify a scan too.
Will be amazing to live vicariously through you though hahah.
Wonder how much detail you will see, some seem clearer than others
I'm new to this group and site in general! But I got stretch marks in puberty on my butt but nothing in pregnancy. The ones I had darkened again but quickly went back to very hard to see post baby. My sister on the other hand got them all over, including her arms and calfs. I'm starting to think it's just luck of the draw
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My sister is the same as you, she got 2 stretch marks but they are almost invisible.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sb2104
I don't think physiological she and I are that similar though, I definitely have my Mums skin type book :(
I have heard stretch marks are genetic too. My mum had them and I had terrible stretch marks with my first pregnancy which are still visible just a bit faded (my stomach looked like a purple striped zebra!). I moisturised from early on twice a day and it didn't help me at all. Expecting to start looking like a zebra again soon even though I am only 16 weeks and have only gained 3 lb the old stretch marks are starting to itch already and I don't think I will be able to hide my belly from my work colleagues much longer. If you don't have any sign of them now girliecat you might be lucky and not get any.
I've only ever had them done at 18 weeks and Bub looked like an alien! LOL. This'll be my first time doing a 2nd/3rd trimester 3D scan so I'm very curious too! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsSparkles
Phoned to book in 3D US and they said while they can do it from 26 wks, the optimal time is 28+ wks. Damn! Lol. I guess I'll have to wait some more. Getting so impatient lol.