wow wow wow what an amazing journey!!! I'm beyond happy for you and just can't wait till she is here and in your arms. I hope the other stresses that had been filling your world are slowing down and working themselves out too!
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wow wow wow what an amazing journey!!! I'm beyond happy for you and just can't wait till she is here and in your arms. I hope the other stresses that had been filling your world are slowing down and working themselves out too!
Awww awesome :) congrats on your little GIRL! I do remember you saying you were going to sway boy.... And I thought nah, she will have a girl...anyway you swayed PINK! So congrats onbyour successful sway!
Oh wow..what an amazing story!! You are such an inspiration Atomic :) Huge congrats on your little princess xxx
I was just thinking about your sway this am and was curious about one thing. You said that you thought about swaying blue but changed your mind due to the FIL's illness. My question is why were you going to sway blue? I'm guessing that you just thought it would be fun to have all brothers at this point? Curious though because I know that you had previously swayed pink and had pretty bad GD
huge congratulations you must be over the moon. x
Just popped in to check on everyone and I saw this! I have been following your posts and blogs for years and I am so so so excited for you! Congrats on your precious DD lots of love you deserve it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Awww, huge congrats Atomic! I think I would be the same - wouldn't believe it until she was finally here! :)
I lost my Dad to MND which is a form of ALS 3 years ago when ds2 was just 6 weeks old, he was diagnosed the day my first son was born. Absolutely horrible disease, thankfully the form my Dad had wasn't genetic. I have read too that it is more prevalent in boys which is another reason why I hope my 3rd little one is a girl.
You're doing such a wonderful job helping everyone on here, I hope that with the happy news of your pending bundle of pink that lots of other things in your life have got better too. xx
Atomic,
You are amazing. You handle all of it with such grace and class. You deserve that little girl.
Thanks for all you do for all of us. ♥
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Originally Posted by BeadinMom
Oh I'm sorry Steph, I only just now saw this. After having terrible GD with DS 3 and mild with DS 4, I sort of came to terms with the idea - there is a huge age gap between DS 2 and 3 so we kinda had to start all over again and I was hoping for a girl. But after DS 3 and 4, we were back in the mix with boy clothes, boy toys, and the whole boy lifestyle and in that scenario, a boy just fit in better. I still worry that a girl will get a little lost in the shuffle sometimes TBH but I was so scared about the ALS when I got pg that I was willing to do whatever it takes to prevent it.Quote:
Originally Posted by stephiel
Gotcha thanks for checking back in Atomic :) I am over the moon that you are having a girl. As I said before I have been reading your posts for literally years now and knew how badly you had wanted a little girl so I'm just beyond happy that you are getting her. Personally I wouldn't worry that she won't fit in...she will be your whole family's little darling, her brothers will be big protectors of her and she will probably be really tough and good at sports which will make all the boys i school adore her that much more! I love it and again hope some of the other stuff has settled down for you and the family....
To be honest Atomic, I thought you really did want to sway pink but were just saying you wanted to say blue so you wouldnt be dissapointed lol
I know a lot of people think that, but I really had come to terms with my GD for the most part, with the occasional bad day here and there. In a lot of ways, the dream I had with DS 3 which was the two older boys and then one spoiled little girl was dead and gone anyway and a boy just made more sense. I worry that there's a big diff. between having a girl at 36 and having one at 42 - by the time she's going to be getting married and having her own kids I'll be quite old and so it won't be the same. Plus my husband really wasn't and isn't sure about doing the girl thing anyway, even now he's kinda uptight about the idea!Quote:
Originally Posted by mkarntz1980
Yep, AS, sometimes I think we married the same man! You must be married to my DH's long lost twin brother...my husband is still somewhat fretful about what we're going to "do" once she arrives...he's so worried about all the girl stuff, colors, etc, boys one day looking at her....
Geez - men and their fear of girly stuff! It's not like the boy stuff comes naturally to all us boy moms, yet we manage!
My husband is neither here nor there - he's a man but he's into music and film, reading, art, poetry--that sort of thing (like me)... thankfully, which means our son isn't put into a gender-type corner and if we were to have a girl, she wouldn't be, either.
I am so sorry people are spreading sh!tty rumors about you. You have done so much for all of us on here, and it makes me angry that anyone would turn around and treat you with such disrespect. :( I know you are a great mother and wife, and would never jeopardize your family's safety or well being in any way! Try not to let all the BS out there get to you. :hugs:
Yeah, my husband isn't too into gender stereotypes (like, he was in musicals and sports both in school) I think he just feels ill-equipped for a girl and possibly that he may ruin her or something. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by suregena
Atomic, you rock. *HUG*
Never knew that was happening. People love some drama. Hang in there!
Moving this to the back of the thread
Update - I have heard of some pretty ugly gossip going around that sadly I feel that I must address it. I don't think anyone really believes it, but since it's out there, I guess I have to waste time on it.
1)My children were ALWAYS well fed and cared for. I NEVER bought alcohol or anything for swaying at the expense of food, paying my bills, and caring for my children. My 20 year old son was so furious about this allegation that he was going to film a video about it and post it on YouTube LOL.
2)There is a HUGE difference between saying "We have nothing to eat, guess it's spaghetti night again", having to wait a few days till the next paycheck to go grocery shopping and living off what you have in your cupboards because you are out of money, even feeling a little stressed out and tense about it, and seriously having NOTHING to eat, children going hungry, etc. I thought that was obvious, but apparently some people are twisting my words into me starving my children while my husband and I bought booze. If my children were EVER in any danger of suffering in any way, I would move heaven and earth for them, up to and including food stamps, food banks, having help from my parents, begging in the streets if I had to, and getting my butt off the Internet and getting a real job. My husband may have a prickly personality and was going through a rough patch at the time, but he would NEVER do anything to harm his children or cause them to suffer in any way.
3)"Drinking more than I should have been" for me entails about 2 light beers and on a couple of times 3-4. My husband did drink more, 4-6 beers and a couple times more, but he also weighs 250 lbs. So any suggestion that we were drunk all the time and not caring for our children, is complete nonsense.
4) I've heard there is a rumor possibly being spread that a miscarriage (really more a chemical) that I had earlier in 2011 was caused by the LE Diet, my drinking, vitex, and not prenatal vitamins. Implication being that I was keeping this information from people deceptively trying to misrepresent the risks of my recommendations for swaying. And also that the miscarriage was swaying for me and I kept that from people to make my diet look more effective. That loss happened a full 6 months before I got pg with my DD, long before things got very stressful and hectic for us. I was not swaying at that point, I was eating normally (I had just been on vacation actually and eating like a pig who loved red meat) taking prenatal vitamins, DHA, high dose folic acid, was not drinking. It had NOTHING to do with swaying and I have invested many hours of time and energy into making swaying as safe as I possibly can.
My chemical took place after a very stressful couple days where I had had very little sleep and significantly more caffeine than I normally do. I was not ovulating and it was the first egg I released while BF, so I didn't have any clue I was pg until I had the loss. I was also 41 years old and people have chemical pregnancies at 41 quite frequently. I did not choose to tell family about that and so I did not care to share all about it publicly because you never know who will be reading it, and quite frankly because it was a personal thing to me and I just didn't feel like mentioning it in my sway right when I was excited about getting a DD, because it had NOTHING to do with my sway. I have mentioned it at other points on the board and it was NEVER a secret in any way.
5)When you put yourself on the line publicly like I have, people are going to come out of the woodwork to try and bring you down. I accept that. This is not a surprise to me in any way. I am a pretty upfront and direct by my nature and I like keeping it real because I know that being a mom is hard, none of us are perfect, and that there are tons of people out there struggling through hard times. Maybe it helps them in some way to think, well, you know atomic went through some hard times, she made mistakes, she's not perfect, but her kids are ok and my family will be ok too. I'm not going to change that about myself or censor myself in any way.
What did I miss????? and who do I have to beat up?
:heart: :hug2:
Nothing of consequence, just some rumors I heard that were circulating among some of the old IG set - IG was a bit of a hotbed for drama :drama: and some people like to continue the tradition. I don't know how widespread it was so I felt like I had to update it for you guys and also clarify for anyone who was spreading this stuff.
Hugs! Can't believe people can b so mean - you helped so many people on IG. Over here we are all huge fans of u so please don't waste anytime worrying about them x
Wow I can't believe what I have just read and feel so sad that you have had to defend yourself. There are always some bad eggs out there and I'm sorry that they can be so cruel. I have another friend on another site who is the most supportive girl ever...she's very much like you and she swayed girl and had a lot of meanies hoping she'd get a boy just because they are cruel...similar drama and so cruel and unfair. I'm sorry that you had to deal with all the BS but am glad it didn't take you away from all of us who respect and appreciate you so much! You are an amazing mommy!
thats terrible, i cant beleive people would say that!! although i havent been a member on here for that long, its clear from all your posts how much your family mean to you. some people cant stand to see things go right for someone and have to try and make up lies to make themselves feel better! you do so much for everyone on here and dedicate so much time, dont let them get you down :hug2:
Attachment 6154let's just say that I have more than made up for it lately LOL. My husband will kill me if he sees the credit card LOL!! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
SHE IS SO ADORABLE !!!
Atomic she's absolutely beautiful. Her outfits are gorgeous!! Enjoy every minute of dressing her up and spending on her outfits. Afterall she won't be tiny for long and before you know it she will be telling you what she wants to wear x
Your daughter is SO cute, Atomic! Awwww :awe:
You weren't alone in that. 2011 was a sh*tty year for A LOT of people and Oct-Nov 2011 was especially crappy for people like me and DH. Some of the worst things that have ever happened in my life happened in that time period.Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
So happy to hear how you finally got a girl even in the midst of some serious crap!! Little girls are lots of fun!! Especially in the clothes department!
oh my God!!!! she´s sooooo lovely!!!!! :HH: enjoy her!!!!:bighug:
So interesting...2011 was one of the worst years of my life as well, with the last few months of that year being almost unbearable. Sorry to hear others were suffering at that time as well. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Adia
I thought it was interesting too. As 2011 was on its way out, I heard NUMEROUS people say in many different places that 2011 was a really tough year for a lot of people. It made me feel a little better that I wasn't the only one ready to crumble under the stress.Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetpea
It would be interesting to know if it was a bad line up of the stars or what the deal was, but overall it was just a lousy year. No good memories for me.
Count me in as another person for whom the last part of 2011 was horrific. Between September and November, I lost my beloved kitty, had a m/c and found out my dad had terminal cancer. I was very happy to have that year end.
omg what nasty people to bad mouth you like that talk about bad karma your girl is a little goddess xxx
Thank you guys!
I'm sorry 2011 was such a B--- to everyone! Glad to see that year go buh-bye, that's for sure.
Wow Atomic!! Huge congratulations, what wonderful news!!!!!!!! I have just logged on for the first time since I posted being 8 weeks pg back April (been a rough year!!) - at which time I must have missed your original post .
I did a double take when I saw a picture of your gorgeous girl just then, she is absolutely beautiful!!!!!!
So sorry to hear you had such a horrendous 2011 but what a perfect ending xxxxx
Just needed some clarification about your use of Vitex to improve your libido -- Vitex is known to actually decrease sex drive; and indeed is also known as chasteberry specifically because it was used by women long ago to "keep them chaste" while their husbands were off at war. Does it increase sex drive in larger amounts? I'd love to know if it is successful with increasing libido in alternative doses. Thanks!
I've read both claims. I know that it was said once upon a time to decrease sex drive (but that was in MEN, my understanding was that it was taken by monks and that's where the name came from, I'm sure it was used in many ways). But i've also read a lot saying that it does something hormonally that improves libido for some women and have had reports from people that it did make them a little more interested in DTD.
It didn't work for me at all. In fact quite the opposite, but at the same time a lot of sh-- was going down and I think sex is so mental for women, that I wouldn't be surprised if it was jsut as much due to the disruptions and unhappiness I was going through at the time.