Uk SMOG Wannabes ~ January

oh and attempt next week sometime :)

Wow we just had a Thai takeaway, it was actually amazing! I wish I could eat it all but that could be a bad idea!

Hope your all ok! And having a good weekend!

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Originally Posted by chocolate

Ahh Babymad, sorry you didnt hear girl, take some time to feel disappointed without feeling guilty about it, thats fine to do!!
I think that families of all boys tend to get a bit of a better mother son bond because the boys dont have that 'mother/daughter' bond to compete with. They probably also have such a great bond with their brothers that this kind of sets them up to be a bit more open to continuing that bond with them and also their parents.

Hope that makes sense, If I end up with 4 boys I will be so sad to accept I won't have a girl, but I can see myself having family dinners with all 4 boys and just loving being the only female there and think we would all feel a bit closer to each other than if we had a girl there too. Its hard when we can't have one of the most important dreams in our lives, but am sure you will conquer it soon and will enjoy the benefits of having lots of boys, going to be some special close bonds in that household! I would have loved loved loved to have been 1 of the 4 of the same gender, how amazing!

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Chocolate~ I could not agree with you more. I literally could have written this post. I have thought these things many times.

Babymad~ ((((hugs))))

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Originally Posted by Babymad

Thanks for your understanding everyone xx
I know I will love this baby when he arrives but at the moment I just feel so numb, I don't feel like I have an attachment at all. I'm sure that will change as time goes on.
These feelings aren't new to me, I suppose the difference is this time is that its so final there are no more chances....
I'd do anything not to feel so sad and empty, all I can think of is the things I will never experience or do or have.....my head is full of everything, It feel likes it's going to explode!!!
I love my boys more than life and they bring me so much happiness and I am very grateful to have 3 healthy kids, but there's always been part of me that's feel lonely and I know the only thing that would have changed those feelings of loneliness is having a daughter.
Strange isn't it, all I could think of last night ( didn't sleep at all!) is how different my day will be depending on my news....I was so scared of hearing boy and I do feel like my world has fallen apart.....but I know I'm not the first to feel like this and I'm sure I won't be the last, I just kept hoping as I was driving to the app that I would be driving home the happiness person in the world......
I thought someone must be filming it and playing an awful joke on me as it was horrible, the sonographer asked me the usual q's, how many kids did I have, what sex they were.....and then she had the nerve to tell me she had two girls and a boy and how horrified she was at having a boy and she couldn't have anymore kids incase she had another boy, I just laid there thinking...WTF!! I then got home to find a NEXT parcel had arrived and it was a beautiful pink dress that I had ordered in the NEXT sale at Xmas (I know what an idiot!!!) the day was destined to be awful.
I dread people's pity when he arrives- most people know I would have liked a girl at some point so I'm sure they will feel sorry for me....I just wish I cold fast forward time so he was here and I could get on with it..sorry I know that sounds heartless but I know I now have another god knows how many weeks of people saying this could be your girl!!

Thanks for letting me have my rant!! I don't know what I would do without you girls....xxx

Deaks ~ I think I'll do better dealing with this on my own - DH is supportive but he doesn't really get the pain and he doesnt really understand that to me my whole life path has changed because I will never have a DD.....plus he's seen me like this before! He thought this baby would be a boy so he won't be shocked!!

Fingers crossed a good nights sleep and all will look better tomorrow......Xx

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ALL of this is exactly how I felt when I found out I was carrying DS7... not DD1. How different you picture your life to be, how cruel life is instead. I too didn't tell DH. I went to the scan in secret with my sister (told him I went shopping). I had to live with the sadness for another 8 days until the "official sexing scan" was. I cried so hard for those 8 days so when it came time to find out with DH & my 6 boys I wan't so sad. I never wanted my boys to see me sad about another boy so had to do it to prepare myself.
Fast forward 9 months and my DS7 is 3 months old and the sweetest, cutest (largest - ouch!), most perfect addition to the family. Of course I'm still sad about not having a DD. I am desperate for her but every day gets easier. You can overcome GD. I have several times!
I believe everything happens for a reason. Stay strong sweetheart. I know precisely how you feel. (((((hugs)))) :hug2::bighug:

Hi ladies x

Been away being spoilt with my mum and sisters....so nice to be with girls!

Babymad - hugest hugs hun hugest sending you all thel ove in the world x i wish i could fast forward things for you x

Deaks - oooooh sounds devine we looooove wells and norfolk you never know we could have a SMOG beach meet up :D good luck for attempt x x

sorry will catch up tomorrow if poss although i have a funeral to attend :( so possibly tuesday x x

BTW i brought a pushchair :O naughty mummy

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Originally Posted by charlieispy

BTW i brought a pushchair :O naughty mummy

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Tell me more! I don't need a new one but I keep browsing ....

I got a first wheels twin off ebay ...got to pick it up Friday! Wanted something where i can see baby easier love my p&t but bub is hidden i dint have the car in the week so walk for 2hrs most days this one ds 3 can face me or face forward too x doubt i will keep it once ds 3 is bit bigger but it was 1/3 of price of a new one but used twice supposedly paid with paypal so am covered....most of them were going for 100more i think i will at least get my money back if i look after it :) havnt told dh yet x comes with carry cot too so can lift baby off in that for playgroups etc

Oh god I think I am more excited about my pram than the baby who's going in it! It's lovely! Been to Portsmouth outlet today and got dave some older bits in the sale. Number one little brother top in next, dinosaur top, blue asides crib shoes etc. Neither boys cottoned on it's a boy! I have a romper that says boy too but they are still clueless! Just done some overtime to pay for it and working Saturday now too!

I just want him to come now! I want to
Meet him! ( and to stop the booting I get all the time from him too!) ooh so excited this weekend. The crib is up too!

maybebaby not long to go!! :)