Yes the coaching is all private.
It's fine to go vegetarian in advance of the sway (and blue swayers can start diet as far out as they'd like, as long as they don't gain too much weight) but I prefer pink swayers wait till 3 months before they plan to sway before starting the diet in terms of the cal and protein and fat limits. This is because you may get too depleted, but even more important I worry that the LE Diet (not the HE Diet for blue, but the LE Diet) may in some people lose effectiveness if they do it for too long. Their body may adjust and no longer register a drop in nutrients as clearly (I have no evidence this is the case, just that this is what I am worried about. So I don't want anyone starting the full-on LE Diet a year or more in advance of when they plan to try and conceive.
I do want to clarify that I don't tell you what to eat. There are just too many people in too many places all of whom like different foods and have access to things I have never even heard of before for me to be able to do that. What I do instead is work with you to tweak your diet, that you already are comfortable and familiar with and can easily get in your area, to come up with a diet that will work for YOU. I have tried premade diet plans in the past and found them very dfficult to work with - you end up with a fridge full of expensive food that you may not even like or know how to cook, and/or they suggest a lot of things that aren't available in my area. Plus, it adds a whole nother layer of "control freakishness" for pink swayers - a list of groceries to buy! A bunch of new recipes to try! Things that make me feel I'm in control of my universe! I don't think a premade diet plan really works for practical reasons or for your sway so I prefer working with you guys via the coaching service on your diet in an ongoing way.
Don't worry about the PM - I don't get angry if people send them to me, I just need to keep them as minimal as I can, otherwise I get inundated with them. :)