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Well, I think I might have myself a wine tonight. Feeling a little down and frustrated. Dh is on his last Prelox tablet (the ones I ordered from the states). I ordered more 2 weeks ago and they still haven't arrived :( Ovulation isn't too far away. ARGH!!!
Fingers crossed for you Boysway! I hope the wine helped you to relax a little :-). Try and stay positive (I know, much easier said than done)! We're rooting for you!!
Oncue, how's it been going for you? Are you close to another attempt or in the 2ww? Would love to have all of you ladies joining us over in the due date clubs! Sending positive baby vibes!!
Well, I don't really hold any hopes of a bfp any time soon :( OPK this morning indicates ovulation may happen in the next few days. Unfortunately I think we have bigger fish to fry then when I will ovulate. Dh has told me he gets pain in his leg before we even get to the point of bd. So, there is yet another indication of possible cardio issues. I gave dh a good talking to this morning. His pessimism really gets to me :( I told him he needs to make time to get to the Dr to get tests before something major happens.
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that Boysway! I hope your DH gets himself taken care of asap. And I know what you mean with pessimism :-( MY DH is also quite pessimistic, and it wears on me so much. It's hard always having to be the optimistic one!
Blaring +OPK this afternoon :( Looks like it's another egg without an opportunity for a bfp :(
boyswa dont worry if it cant be this month..more important is for you both to stay positive n happy..we skipped few months in between where we were busy at fertile times..good luck for everything..
cazycat i am waiting to tell due to DH.I would like to he doesnt want me to tell until 8 weeks huh!! no symptoms here so trying to hide..dont know how long lets see..do u have any symptoms??i dint have any symptoms with DD either..with my DH he is the opyimistic one i more negative n feel let down sooner n he perks me up :)
Ewpnx, I wish it was as easy as us both being busy. Most times dh is having erectile dysfunction issues :( Now he is also getting a tingly/pain in his right leg. So, we can't even try an attempt :( He needs to see our doctor asap.
we had issues and got sorted by just having enough sleep and supplements so hopefully it works for u too.
I sure hope problems are sorted on our end that easily. Really ticked off though. The replacement supps I ordered for dh still haven't turned up :( (3 weeks after I ordered). Dh seems to think it is all in his head. We have had a couple of times where he hasn't had much trouble so, fingers crossed it is just stressed. I have decided I'm not going to tell him ovulation is near next time.
Yeah, if it is more just in his head, then not telling him might be a good answer. However, if it is something physical, then it's possible there's an easy fix like a pill he can take :-) The pain in the leg thing would scare me a little though, so hopefully he's willing to go get checked out by a doctor soon, simply for overall heath and safety reasons!
I know it's easier said than done, but just try and stay positive. I had to practically tell myself I didn't care if it happened at all in order for it to happen. With so much stress put on ourselves, I think it can have an effect on our bodies more than we think.
Good luck Boysway!! Hoping you can get things with your DH sorted out soon and get back on track :-)
Yes, the pain in the leg is a worry. He said it doesn't happen all the time though. We have had a couple of times where he hasn't had any ED problems. Oh, I have told hubby we will have a baby. He said, I'm not sure we will. I am determined though, it will happen when it's time. I'm not going to tell him when O is coming anymore. We don't bd much anyway and it's likely nothing will happen if I do tell him. I figure we might be in with more of a chance if I keep my mouth shut. I just hope these supps hurry up and turn up. He decided today he is going start making better choices and yes, he is still willing to go to the Drs :) It's a good start :)
Thank you :D
good luck Boysway! being positive is the key and yes trying to analyze issues and getting treatment promptly is important.
Crazycat do you have any symptoms?
Yes, they finally hit pretty hard this weekend... Nausea on and off all day, needing to take a nap in the afternoon, and tender breasts mostly. I also just get screwy in the tummy in general, beyond nausea, with gas and loose stools and not so fun stuff :-( This is the hardest part!! How about you?
i have similar symptoms like you..not feeling like to do anything and getting tired easily.finding hard to cook as the smell of food makes nausea worse..brushing even making me feel vomit. would like this first trimester to get over fast.
I hope you feel better soon ladies. At least you have a good reason to feel off :)
Afm, I think I am doing alright. I have had 'signs' that could have very easily led me to throw in the towel for ttc our last baby. However I have remained positive. More vitamins purchased (almost ran out of some), more OPK's ordered, FF membership renewed as it was due to expire this month and GD coaching renewed. An expensive week for me :( I have decided not to tell dh when ovulation is coming up. We rarely bd anyway. If I tell him ovulation is near, it is highly likely we won't have any chance for an attempt. Still waiting on dh's supps though. Feeling a little ticked off. They were ordered from the states almost 4 weeks ago now :( Dh is also trying to eat better now (hallelujah, about time). I ordered him some X50 green tea. I really hope he likes it. It is supposed to help with weight loss. Fingers crossed because I think his weight might have a good deal to do with his issues.
What are the odds. Dh's supps finally arrived, the same day my OPK'S arrived :D I also ordered him two more bottles last night.
Hi ladies! Sorry I've been MIA, I've been lurking around though haha! Just wanted to let you know that in the end we decided not to go down the HT road as it wasn't really affordable for us if it didn't happen first go. And we decided that we are actually fine with either gender, we just want our little party of 3 😊
Now though, I can let u know that we are pregnant! I am actually 12 weeks and we decided not to say anything until we had a scan to make sure heartbeat and growth was good. I had that done today and all is on track! My obstetrician recommended I do the Panorama test (as I will turn 35 before bub arrives) to chk for the trisomy's etc, and we decided to chk gender too. So we have about 2 weeks til we find out. Fingers crossed for a nice healthy bub.
I am so so pleased for u ewpnx1 and crazycat! So wonderful that u have gotten BFPs.
Boysway, I know how frustrating it can be, but it sounds like things are starting to turn around for u, with DH improving his diet and the supps etc arriving. Stay strong and try relax (easier said than done I know) it's def going to happen for u xox
Wow, congrats Oncue!! That's fantastic news :-) You are a strong woman to be able to keep quiet on this site, lol. I am ridiculous and tell pretty much everyone I meet even though I'm still terrified something is going to go wrong. I just can't help it! When is your due date then? I supposed sometime in Jan? How exciting to be past the scary first trimester already!! Did you have many symptoms/nausea/etc? I have seen you lurking in the due date forum, but thought maybe you were just spending time in there because you know some of the mommies and such. Funny that you had ulterior motives :-) I bet it feels so great to finally be able to share the news!! Please keep us posted on the Paranorma testing. It's so cool that that's available these days.
Boysway, so glad your DH's supps finally arrived!! It sounds like you're getting things on track...I have a good feeling about all this!! :-)
Thanks crazycat! Yes it was hard not to spill the beans haha but DH wanted to be sure so I just went with the flow. I have been so sick though, which is always hard when you have no one to tell, spewing up every afternoon, and feeling so tired!! I feel lucky that DD1 & DD2 are young as if they had a busy schedule I just cldnt help at all!! DD1 fancies herself as a bit of a 'mum' so she has been an extraordinary help! Even just getting her and her little sis snacks or cleaning up haha, gotta love that.
I'm due 26th January, but as I will have to have a Caesarian section prob a week before that!
Yes I'm nervous for the Panorana test, so weird to think that they can know so much from a blood sample! Xx
Fingers crossed for blue bundles :)
Congrats Oncue..Yes either gender is fine with me too..hats off for having 3..i find quiet busy with thinking about two only..lol..i have been feeling very tired and not wanting to eat much.. social calendar had been busy with work so dint come online and missed out the news!! but here i am today is day off so catching up on this..i have told a few people now..Crazy cat have you told your boss? I am planning to tell after 8 weeks at least..i am not telling the relatives and friends unless 3 months are over..i am a bit superstitious on these things and want to avoid..Ladies do you have same symptoms or different? I have pretty much same symptoms.. So i think its a girl..i am craving same food items that i craved with DD. More tires this time as i have a toddler and hubby keeps busy.. How do you manage house work? I am thinking of hiring a cleaner or something to help with cleaning at least..
Boysway: YOu are going good with everything arriving finally..good luck for this month..n no stress that worked with me in getting pregnant..its easier said than done but for me stress and for hubby was lack of sleep was main reasons..
Thnks expnx1. Yes I think life will get busy especially as DD1 will still be 3.5yrs old when the new one arrives! It's been tough as I have been so sick. I'm not having any cravings (I didn't with the girls either) but I can eat meat this time, which I cldnt before. I am spewing more this time too and my legs are super hairy hahaha - I have never had very hairy legs! Apart from that it's very similar. Since we had our 12wk scan we have told all family and friends as it comes up. I think once u get to 3 kids the novelty wears off people hahah.
Housework is very difficult, DH is so helpful even after long days of work he comes home, cooks dinner if I haven't yet, baths the kids, puts them to bed and then tidies up. I feel bad for him so hopefully it goes away in a few weeks. I just want some normality back.
Hope everyone is feeling well xox
I work for my brother, so yes, I already told my boss :-) In fact, the majority of people in our company are family, so the secret is out there, lol. The only hard part of that has been my sister-in-law, who works directly for me. She and I have sort of been TTC buddies since late last year, both originally swaying for blue. They ended up getting pregnant pretty early on, but then had a MC. They've now been trying again for about 4 or 5 months with it not taking, so she's starting to get pretty depressed about it. I felt bad telling her my news, but thought she might be more hurt if she found out I told everyone but her. At this point, when I ask her about her progress and how their attempts are going she's now saying she appreciates that I asked, but that she'd rather not talk about it anymore :-( I know everyone deals with things differently, and if that's what works best for her, I'll of course support it, but I feel bad. It was their first pregnancy so she doesn't even have a little one to help distract her. I'm really hoping they get a sticky bean soon!!
As far as differences for me, yes, this one seems pretty different so far. I'm still getting similar symptoms, but they are milder. I'm not 100% sure if this is because they truly are milder or if I'm just managing them better, but who knows. I also want to puke at the thought of sweets, which is exactly the opposite of my last, so I'm hoping that's a good sign for a boy :-) I've been loving milk and fruits this time around as well. In my gut I feel like it our little boy, but I know that doesn't always work out, and my gut could just be reacting to my wishful thinking, lol. I was sure our daughter was a girl, but we also swayed for a girl, so again, wishful thinking. Who knows!
Since I'm fairly certain they won't do an ultrasound at our 8 week appt, I'm debating pushing the normal 12 week one to 13 weeks so that I can try and get a more accurate nub shot :-) It would be pretty cool to have a good idea of gender by then! But if not, I suppose we'll just have to be patient. When the time comes to schedule it, I'm not sure the idea of a good nub shot will outweigh my eagerness to simply see the baby, so I may still do it at 12 week so I don't have to wait another week!
As far as cleaning, I am quite lucky, as my hubby is the neat freak in the family and therefore the cleaner :-) He has been really good about making me snacks and such and generally helping out more with our daughter. It makes me want to be pregnant more often since he's so stinking sweet to me when I am, lol. But he keeps commenting how "Isn't it nice knowing that you'll never have to go through this again though?" Since he's 100% positive we'll stop at 2. I'm still not sold on that, but don't think it's worth fighting over right now. I would like to be done at 2, but if this one ends up pink, I'm just not sure I'll be okay with that. We shall see. It's a discussion to be had much further down the road!
Oncue, I hope your symptoms get better soon! My DH told me the other day that I was halfway there since we're 7 weeks and the symptoms last time stopped about week 14. I said, yeah right... the symptoms didn't start until 6 weeks, so it's only been 1 week out of 7!! Definitely not even close to halfway there, lol.
Must be nice for family at work to know - at least with feeling sick they understand and don't think ur just slacking off and taking naps at ur desk haha!
That's so interesting about the food, as I also have been loving milk, dairy and fresh fruit. I wouldn't say I crave it but if it's in the house I will choose it first over anything else.
I think it's really hard when others are trying and you get pregnant. My sister has a 6yr old, and ever since he was born she has been trying, so she has been unsuccessful for about 5.5yrs. I Skyped my family to tell them our news as we live in different cities, and even though she was happy, I could see she was also heart broken as she wants to be pg so bad. I felt really bad actually.
My symptoms usually stop at 14 weeks too, so I'm praying it's the case this time. I can feel it easing, I just hate the vomiting. I'm trying to remain optimistic that this is our boy, but I'm ok as well if it's a girl. All I know is this is definitely the last one! Xo
wow everyone seems to be having fun times with thinking of what its gong to be.. i have booked my appt with OB at 8 weeks and also i get a first US. I dont think i can find the gender untill 20 weeks. I think i wouldnt ask at 12 week as it would be very clear so its better at 20 weeks at least its definite then about the gender. I dint sway last time with DD or even with this one. So if I am lucky it can be a boy but if its a girl i would be happy as well as same gender siblings have more fun i guess than different gender. I am one of the 3 sisters and we have amazing bond. we don't have a brother and we never thought about it. The only difference this time around conception is I am 6 kgs heavier than i used to be with my DD. As initially i was trying to sway and ate alot but dint conceive. But i was eating normally after that. I think not thinking about swaying helped me to conceive thats y i told my DH when TTC with this one that i just want a baby healthy and super cute like DD and not worried about gender.
I'm pretty excited for all of us to find out what we are having. I think the nub shot at 13 weeks wld prob give a good indication of gender, and the potty shot around 20 weeks wld confirm it. I got a scan at 12 weeks, but it doesn't show too much. I didn't ask my obstetrician either to get a nub shot as I forgot. As soon as he showed me heartbeat and measured length I just didn't remember to ask hahah.
I am starting to get a bit of pregnancy baby brain though! DH always laughs at some of the dumb things I have been saying or forgetting. I don't ever remember it being this bad with my last 2 pregnancies! Hahaha
Oh wow, Oncue, that must be hard for your sister! Poor thing. I'll send some baby dust her way!!
Yes, it is nice working with family for that reason. They are pretty understanding about things. My office at home is also the guest room, meaning we have a pullout sofa, so needless to say, I do take quite a few cat naps on that couch :-) I started working for my brother almost 4 years ago, right when we got pregnant with my daughter, which I am so thankful for. I don't know how I would have survived at my previous job with how sick I was last time. I would have for sure been fired. It was an awful work environment and not family friendly at all. Plus it was an hour commute and long hours. Corporate America is something I hope I never have to go back to!!
I'm also not really having cravings per say, but dairy and fruit seem to be my saving grace. Along with white toast with peanut butter and honey. I think the protein may be what's helping keep the MS at bay a bit more than last time. Plus since we were all eating a bit more protein to begin with, I think our bodies may be used to it, Of course I'm also hoping it means we got our boys...we shall see! Oncue, you find out soon, right? I am so excited for you!
Ewpnx1, I am right there with you on the gender stuff. If I could choose, I would choose to have a son, simply because I'd love to experience raising both genders, and I know my DH would love to have a son for the more manly type of activities. However, I also see the benefit to giving my daughter a sister. I never had one - only brothers, and although I never missed having one growing up, I could see how it might be nice to have a sister as an adult. I am lucky that my brothers married fairly awesome women, so I at l;east have some by marriage :-) My mom is one of five daughters and they are all still so close. Although I consider myself extremely close with my brothers, it's still not quite the same. I don't call them up and chit chat with them the way I do my mom and girlfriends. Either way, we will be happy! My DH is one of those guys that I think would handle being a father of only daughters really well. Even though I know he would love to have a son, I also know he'd really embrace another daughter.
Boysway, any updates for you?
Yep crazycat I find out in about 10days I think. Makes me nervous actually thinking about it!
How awesome to work from home (I checked out ur links too! Very cool!) with both DDs I worked part time and I called in sick sooooo many times! I probably wld have been sacked but as I ran a teaching program i basically Cld get ppl to fill in for me. I confided in a colleague that I was pregnant and she basically helped run things for 6 weeks both times. I was very lucky. After DD2 was born I resigned and am a SAHM.
I definitely think if u guys end up with DD2, u will be ecstatic! My DDs are opposite personalities in every way, but they have the most amazing bond and gentle kindness towards eachother. I also have 3 sisters who are my best friends, and when we were pg with DD2, I didn't mind either way the outcome. If she ended up a DS it wld be awesome esp for DH, and I knew a girl wld be fab for DD1, either way you can't lose. X
It sounds like everyone's pregnancies are progressing beautifully :)
Oncue, fingers crossed for extra special news when you have your scan :)
I am on CD 1 as of today (early hours of the morning in Australia). I'm hoping my cycle might settle. Two cycles in a row of 33 days. LP of 14 days with ovulation being CD 19. I hope if I remember to take my vitamins all the time, especially the brewers yeast my cycle will remain the same. AF seems to come with little warning besides really sores bb's. *TMI* but thankful I was already wearing a pad as AF has gone straight into medium to possibly heavy first day and I'm in the last 30 mins of nightshift.
I'm hoping this is the cycle for us. If not, there is always next month :) In saying that, I may not be in this mindset if we don't get an attempt this cycle but trying to remain positive for now.
When I eventually get a bfp I don't know how much I will look into symptoms during my 2 ww beforehand. Bb's were so sore for a week and felt full. I also had cramping through a good part of my last cycle. I think acupuncture might have something to do with that.
It will also be interesting to see how I go when I get my bfp. With each pregnancy the morning sickness has lessened. I mainly had dry retching with my last pregnancy. Strangely, also with my last pregnancy I knew very, very early on I was going to get a bfp. From 6 dpo I had sore bb's and fatigue. I still remember the sore bb's very clearly. They felt like they were on fire. My sil even picked up on my pregnancy before I told her because of my bb's, lol. I'm kind of hoping to get strong symptoms like that again.
Go boysway! I'm so excited for u this month! Positivity and being relaxed will definitely help. We will remind u to take ur vitamins and brewers yeast if u need! I wld love for u to get ur BFP this month! It's good u have had two cycles that have been similar, hopefully this one is on track to be the same and u will have a good idea of when O is coming. With regards to ur DH, are the supps helping? I was going to suggest maybe trying something different to maybe spice it up more if u haven't tried that already? I know with my DH (prob most guys haha) that when it's spontaneous, random and something a bit kinky haha that he reacts like a wild beast hahahahha. That's prob TMI!! If he isn't expecting it and it's out of the ordinary, he prob won't ever relate it to timing and ovulation etc, so it may make it more successful. Bringing it back to primal urges instead of reproduction! Hahaha.
Like I said, I feel really good for u this month! I can't wait for u to join us. I hope u don't get morning sickness as it's just the pits. I hate it. I am basically rendered useless hahaha.
Yes, I get my blood results next week so will know for sure then about the genetic tests and also we shld know bubs sex too. I'm excited but nervous too as we've never found out, and it seems so early to know! Xx
Thanks oncue :D I won't ovulate till around the 5th or 6th which is a few days after my SIL's birthday party. Hopefully that will help dh relax for a while. We have tried mixing things up a bit and he gets very close (iykwim). The moment he gets near me it's a no go :( Right now, it's been almost a month since we have bd. I hope something changes with dh very soon. I hope your m/s eases soon. It is very exciting finding out the gender. I have found out with all of my kids. I am tempted to not find out when our time comes around but I can't help but think I might need time to adjust should we be told it's another girl. I had GD with #4. I wouldn't change her for the world but, it did take some time while pregnant to get used to another girl coming our way. I think I was really convinced because my pregnancy was so much more different to the others.
I finally got Dh to the drs regarding his problem. He will be having blood tests in a couple of days to check his hormone levels. Hopefully we can get to the bottom of this without needing to go HT. I really don't think that is a path we would go down.
I hope it gives u some answers and also helps get things on track xo
Me too oncue :)
hi guys..boysway good luck with the tests n trying this cycle.
oncue: i hope u get to know the gender n its i wish its your blue bundle of joy.Crazy cat: u have an awesome job lol..i work 45 minutes drive n 3 days a week..driving makng me sick..feeing lazy in these winters n dont feel like cooking or doing anything..thank god there is option of cleaners n home cooked food take away service..lol..using that alot..DH is busy so thats my option..i had same symptom of feeling very tired last time n this time around very tired again..2 year old DD keeps me busy for anything else at the moment..i have first OB appt next week once i complete 8 weeks..i have a holiday booked in October for a month..but thank god it would b 2nd trimester so hopefully i m back in my energy..holiday was booked earlier n dont want to cancel..so how long u ladies planning for a break after this baby? i had one year break after DD.
This is our last chance at a boy. No more babies after we eventually get our bfp :(
My fingers are triple crossed for you Boysway! We too are done with this one, whether it's a boy or girl :-(
Ewpnx1 - you must definitely not be in the states, lol. A month vacation is unheard of over here!! We are lucky to get a week off work at a time for holiday, maybe twice per year. And as far as maternity leave, it's pretty sad around here. We get nothing provided from the government at all, and only companies with over 50 employees are required to keep your job open for you - an only for 12 weeks, tops. It's pathetic really how un-family focused our country is :-( Fortunately, even though I work for a tiny company, it's my family, so they are much better about it. Still, according to our policy, we pay for 2 weeks of leave for the mother and then allow an additional 10 weeks off unpaid and still return to your job. Of course being the sister, I did get better than that last time. I took 6 weeks completely off work and then ended up working part-time (maybe 10-15 hours per week) for the next 6 weeks until coming back full time, and my brother did not end up docking my pay at all. It was sort of unspoken though, so I'm not really sure what to expect this time around. I've signed up for s short term disability insurance policy that will pay 50% of my salary for 4 weeks, so I'll at least get that no matter what, but it still stinks. I would LOVE to be able to stay home with baby for a year, but in our family I am more of the bread-winner, so my salary is definitely needed. I am lucky that I work from home though, and now that we have a larger home I'm going to see about getting a nanny to come to our house to watch the baby so I can still nurse on demand and such.
Oncue - you're getting your results this week, right? Cannot wait to hear!!! :-)
Wow crazycat, those are pretty bad maternity leave conditions. I stopped working after dd2 but I think maternity leave in Australia has improved and it was pretty good when I needed it.
Yes, I shld find out my results by Friday so I will definitely keep u posted! I am going to ring my obstetricians rooms today to try and see if they are there yet. DH is really wanting to know too haha, otherwise I wld have been ok to wait it out. I actually feel nervous in finding out as I don't want to feel disappointed and this is def our last (just like u girls) so it seems so final too. It will be sad not hear boy as that's what we were hoping but it will also be sad not hear girl as we have been blessed with 2 wonderful girls and I feel like I know how to raise girls (so far!!)
Crazycat: i am in Melbourne Australia. Here its pretty good. You cam even extend to 2 years without pay. Govt also pays some 10000$ for working mums..i got that with my DD..plus get 6 weeks paid leave and then unpaid can be up to 2 years..I love Australia as this country is very family friendly..I migrated here 7 years ago..I will see how i go this time as i might take a break altogether for some 2 years to raise two kids..My DH wants that too..I am lucky that we can afford that. However i have always worked and kind of got bored at home after one year with first one but hoping this time around i will be so busy with two that i wont think of work lol..Hubby is really supportive and doesnt mind if i work or not...Oncue: are you talking about that genetic testing results?Good luck my friend had that too and wait is klling..My DH is funny as he wants more kids and would like twins this time and i said to him there is no history ever in family lol..8 weeks USG on Monday and he wants it to be twins lol i said to him cant imagine feeding two as i breastfed my DD till 14 months and it was challenge with one only.