That Shettles boy timing has really cut odds of conception for people so I would start trying sooner than you think you "should" and keep going even after you think you've ovulated in the every other day pattern.
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That Shettles boy timing has really cut odds of conception for people so I would start trying sooner than you think you "should" and keep going even after you think you've ovulated in the every other day pattern.
my cycle went slightly haywire.. caught off guard when I got low in cb digital advanced on CD 9 and straight to peak on CD 10. So we BD CD 10, 11 and 12. Based on my BBT chart, looks like I O'ed on CD 11.Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
I have to trust my CM better. I actually got some ewcm on CD 8 but hubby was tired and didn't wanna BD. Hope we BD enough fingers crossed
Fingers and toes crossed too! :bluecheer: :bluecheer: :bluecheer:
I know I am paranoid. But in case this cycle doesn't work. What should I do to up my chances? heheQuote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
Everything in the blue sway plan is designed to boost chances of conception. I think that the problem has been the Shettles timing and once that is gone I fully expect you to get pregnant quickly.
The ONLY concern I have is that sometimes when people have been on blue sway diets a long time they can end up giving themselves a kind of mild PCOS but as long as your cycle is fairly regular (ovulating early is fine, I'm talking about really long cycles developing suddenly or super short LP) I don't think that's what we are dealing with here.
Hi Atomic, I’m ttc Pink, have 3ds I’ve ov earlier than I was expecting but I haven’t exercised for at least 2 weeks, I’m thinking to skip this month and get back to my exercising, you’ve given me great advice previously about diet and the one attempt might be a good option for us. I got the solid smiley face this morning on my opk while yesterday was a blank circle, my Lh surge missed the flashing smile stage?! Would this be right to skip having not managed exercising? If the opk does the same next month should we dtd at +opk in peak stage?
Thanks atomic. Emotionally unstable as we have been trying for so long. Not sure if we should see the doc again just to check what's going on.Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
I guess we have to try to BD earlier to get a baby.
My LP is always around 13 or 14 days. I think that's pretty standard?
Agh sorry only just now seeing this - if you had already been dieting for 12 weeks I would probably have had you go ahead and try even after 2 weeks off on diet. But it's totally up to you - if you'll regret it forever if you try and get an opposite, probably better to wait, but remember that for all we know this is a great month for a girl for you and next month may be worse! Follow your heart on this!Quote:
Originally Posted by AlliBalli11
Yep 13-14 day LP is just right.Quote:
Originally Posted by Joyjoy88
I suspect that once Shettles goes on his way we will be looking at a lovely positive test very soon. If you think it may help to see the doc, by all means, but I don't see anything that would indicate this is a necessity.
Thanks Atomic.... I am just so lost in what to do.. I personally think there should be nothing wrong given that I got pregnant twice before but after trying so long with no news, it just makes you wonder. :( I think I have to do BD way way more. Perhaps start from CD 7, 9, 11,12,13 depending on the positive OPK. What do you think? Or should i just BD 5 days straight? from CD 9 till 13?Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
I want you doing every other day when the fertile window is not open (so the first option is better to me than the second).
While it is possible to develop secondary infertility, I really do think this is a Shettles thing and we will be hearing good news from you very soon. If we go another 2-3 months with BFN even with more intercourse then we may want to see a doc at that time to see what's going on.
Thank you for the encouragement. It really made me happy. :bluecheer:Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
AF is expected on Monday. I must not give up and have more faith.. And of course use the methods you have taught me ! Will go with CD7,9, 11,12,13! Operation flood the egg will begin soon! hahaha
:highfive: You got this!
Hi atomic!
I am new to this site and would really like to sway blue if possible. Some background on me, I am 31 years old and have 2 daughters aged 3 and 20 months. My husband is 34. I would like to possibly try to get pregnant with our final child before the year ends, but I know that’s a big ask. My first two daughters were conceived in the first months ttc so I never really paid much attention to how fertility works exactly. I am really really hoping for a boy this time. Last cycle I tried shettles as I had not come across your site yet and didn’t end up concieving, as I only did one attempt on O day. This cycle weBD on 0-4, 0-2, 0-1, 0 day. I’m basing my O purely off CM as I haven’t yet really gotten around to temping or OPKs or anything ( will have to try if we don’t conceive this month).i have also been doing your diet recommendations that are on this website. My question is do you think we DTD on the correct days to help sway blue?
Thanks for all your help
Love your work and your website
Hi and welcome Viola!
Yes I think that was a fab attempt for a boy! Very much how I got my boys!!! I would have you guys pick it up with every other day for a few days to ensure youre covered in case ovulation happens a little later than you think.
Thanks atomic ! Fingers crossed we end up getting a BFP this month. The reason we didn’t DTD after O was that my daughters both had the flu and then I caught it too.
Does being sick hurt chances of a successful conception?
Also I took some cough syrup to up my EWCM , should I stop that now? And start it up again if we go into another cycle ?
Also I know you’ve written conceiving too closely doesn’t help with blue sways , do you think there is enough gap now? My dd1 was 10 months when we conceived dd2, now both are 3 and 20 months.
Thanks ! Sorry for all the questions
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Being sick may cut chances a little but we've had plenty of people get pregnant in months they'd been ill.
Yes I would stop the cough syrup now, it's not harmful but just to save money.
20 months is more than enough time! That's fine!
Hi atomic!
I’m now on my third month TTC and I’m using the clear blue digital opk (already opened the box after I read the strips are just as good if not better). I’m continuing my HE diet attempt ( breakfast cereal everyday when I normally don’t have anything) and eating a lot more read meat, having nuts and cheese as snacks and lots of full cream milk. I’ve gained almost 3 kg [emoji58][emoji58][emoji58] . I’m taking elevit and getting DH to take menevit and will attempt 3-4 BD in my fertile window. I’m so wanting to pregnant already, a boy would be perfect but even another girl baby would just completely fill my heart and home.... seems everyone from Meghan Markle to Amy Schumer to everyone is pregnant [emoji50]
Would you recommend anything else to do in my boy sway? I will be buying some robitussin as well for more ewcm.
Between part time work and my two DDs I have no energy left for much workouts....
Any help or advice would be great !
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What I'd do now is cut back on any empty cals such as bread/baked goods, sugary treats, even fruit juice. Bananas if you're eating lots of them Focus on getting the most bang for your buck - the most nutrients for the fewest calories.
What is hubby doing for release when not in the fertile window?
I normally don’t have juice or bread or baked goods but I eat a lot of rice for lunch and dinner. Does that mean a chicken sandwich for lunch isn’t good for HE diet? I’ll have a banana a day with my cereal as well.
I normally have homemade curry with rice for dinner
DH releases with me every 2-3 days outside the fertile window ...
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A chicken sandwich is fine for HE (as is the curry) but I"m trying to think of ways for you to slow down or stop the weight gain. You have gained enough and there is no benefit to gaining more, and it may even harm your sway to gain a massive amount of weight so we need to cut back on carbs and possibly portion sizes to stop the weight gain now.
I would lose the banana as it's basically just sugar and starch. It doesn't actually help make boys, that's a myth.
Yes let's add in the guaifenesin (robitussin) and I want you to be sure you lay flat for at least 30 minutes after sex, and most important spend part of that time on your stomach, not only on your back. Some of us conceive better with some tummy time.
Thanks atomic! I’ll keep all that in mind. I normally have a very small appetite so I usually don’t have any mood for breakfast, maybe a couple of biscuits for lunch and then I have a big dinner of rice and curry at around 5-6 , but have been eating well every meal and snacking too so I think I’ll minimise the portions but try to keep all the good healthy foods in and go for some nice evening walks to balance out the extra calories.
Thanks again ! I’m just coming into my fertile window and hopefully will O on the 30th so fingers crossed for a success conception this month !
What are your thoughts on the Ava website and bracelet btw?
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Good luck and blue dust headed your way!
I think the Ava is ok, but not at all necessary (and quite expensive.)
Hi Atomic Sagebrush! I am new to the forums. I am looking to sway pink in April 2019, so just getting ready... We plan on having sex (with DH ejaculating inside) every day from the end of my period to 2-3 days before O. I'm an old hand at tracking my BBT and have started using clearblue OPKs to assess how many flashing smiley face days I get before the big O. Hoping this will help me to pinpoint O so we can cut off 2-3 days before (my CM is very unreliable).
I've also just ordered cranberry, baby asprin and calcium citrate from the online chemist. How long before TTC should I be taking these vitamis? I'll also limit my salt intake and try to eat a lot of chicken, rice, broccoli, blueberries etc. I am allergic to dairy so sadly I can't incorporate that into my sway.
Does this all sound like a good pink sway to you? Thank you in advance!!
Hi and welcome Cookies!!!
I don't recommend doing that daily BD to a cutoff. I have a full explanation why not to in this thread: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...nk-lately.html
If you do choose to go that route (which of course is always at your discretion) do be aware that your ovulation day and number of flashy smileys can change by the month even if it's been predictable in the past.
I do not ever recommend cranberry for women as it hasn't worked and has risks and side effects. You cab give it to your partner though. Baby aspirin is safer than cranberry, but only marginally and has its own risks and side effects, not to mention it also doesn't work. I have full explanation of all that in this thread https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...echniques.html and also why pH probably does little to nothing for swaying here: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...ph-pickle.html
While I personally don't believe in calcium for swaying, I do leave it at your discretion (I hope that the calcium is without Vit. D!) 600 mg daily and be sure you wean off rather than dropping it suddenly. More about minerals here: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...s-edition.html
You do NOT need to eat lots of dairy to get a girl and in fact it may actually harm your sway. We follow a different type of diet on this site that we've gotten good results with (even among the many of us who tried the high-dairy diets in the past and got opposites with them.) You can find that here: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...l-version.html and the LE Diet FAQ here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...-diet-faq.html
Hi atomic
I am trying to work out my blue sway this month, as DH has to work til 8-9 pm every night this week.
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I hope this attaches properly. We BD last night (28) and my app says I should ovulate on the 31 (or 1st according to Ovia) so I was wondering if you could help me pick the best nights to BD on?
I was thinking to BD on 30 31 and 1 ?
I hope DH is able to do that after working late , but if not what are the best nights for a blue sway?
On a side not my OPK still hasn’t been a positive for an LH surge today (29) but my CM is watery since yesterday
Thanks so much in advance
I hope the attachment came up properly
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Thank you SO MUCH Atomic! Gosh I wish I'd chatted to you before I bought $100 worth of supplements (apparently I can't return them either as they're vitamins!). Oh well! The diet sounds much more do-able - do you think diet is the single most important factor when it comes to swaying pink? I'll have a read up on timing too. XXQuote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
Hi Atomic, I just purchased a personalised plan so hopefully that will answer most of my questions!
Hi atomic
I had a positive clear blue OPK this morning (30th) and we will have our BD tonight and tmr ,skip 1 night and try again. Kinda a mix of SMEP I guess. Pls let me know if I should just BD 3 days in a row or just stick to my plan
Thanks !!
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Diet, exercise, one attempt are most important. In fact I think they're the only things that really work (aside from jogging/biking for DH and smoking for him)Quote:
Originally Posted by Cookies22
Not sure if I posted these for you yet, but the debunking of timing is here: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...le-timing.html
Here:https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...9-no-12-a.html
and here: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...m-y-sperm.html
Thanks so much for your purchase, and don't hesitate to post any followup q's in your coaching forum (that's where your questionnaire is posted) as I check that forum several times a day and you'll get quicker response time!
Well, the Ovia is not always right, but yes the 30th and 31st are good nights to BD.
Then follow up with attempt on the 1st incase the Ovia is a day late.
Then I'd do a few rounds of every other day just to be certain we're covered.
I'd go ahead and still DTD on the 1st to be sure you're covered in case you ovulate a bit later than the Ovia predicts. Then go to every other day after that.Quote:
Originally Posted by violagirl87
Hi Atomic,Quote:
Originally Posted by Joyjoy88
I finally got my BFP with BD on CD 8, 10, 11 and 13. Wanted to BD on CD 12 but DH got tired so skipped on that day. And based on my temp rise, I ovulated on CD13. Hopefully this is good enough to sway a boy.
Btw, do I continue with the multivits and vitamin D?
Lastly, thank you so much for your guidance! I couldn't do it without your help.
Oh that's wonderful news Joy! I was wondering how you were getting along!! That's very much like the kind of pattern that got me my boys.
Yes continue with multivitamin and Vitamin D - the amounts we recommend on here are totally fine to take during pregnancy.
Thank you! I am praying for a smooth pregnancy.Quote:
Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush
Oh and the supplements do I continue the fish oil and calcium.
Yes there's no harm in continuing those into pregnancy. IF you want to come off them, be sure to wean off gradually by spacing doses further and further out till down to one per week, then drop them.
Hi atomic!
I have 2 questions:
- my weight gain on the HE diet is quite a bit now, I’ve gone from 52 kg to 56 today and I’m so worried.
My general diet since last month is cereal for breakfast, nuts as snacks, some sort of chicken or beef sandwich or meat curry and rice (with veggies sides)for lunch, and rice and meat curry ( with veggies sides) for dinner .
My whole life I’ve had a very small appetite and pretty much had a big dinner and just a couple of cookies throughout the day prior so this is a huge change for me ....and probably how I got 2 girls also
Could u give me some advice to either stop the weight gain or even lose it without losing the HE diet?
Sorry if this isn’t in the right thread but I was wondering if I should get tested for hormones and see if progesterone support could help get a successful conception... sorry if it’s a silly question but I might just be going bonkers in this tww [emoji2960]
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Cut portion sizes back. Eat the same things, just less of them. You can eliminate snacks if you prefer to eat larger portions at meals, or just eat less at every meal and snacks. Fill up with more fresh fruit and veg, cut way back on juice, dry fruit, potatoes, breads, and other carby things.
I"m going to message you a Dream Members only thread that will help with this. :)
Thanks atomic!
I’ll say it again ur amazing for all your help [emoji847][emoji847][emoji847]
On a side note, I don’t know if anyone remembers but in in Friends Ross and Rachel have a one night stand ie one attempt in the fertile window resulting in a girl .... hmmm seems atomics theory really does work [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]
Just a lighthearted observation to hopefully make people smile
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Ha ha yes a friend and I (who had 3 b 1 g) also have a theory about that - on TV shows whenever an unplanned pregnancy changes everyone's life for the better, it's almost always a girl and when it ruins their life totally or is in some way stressful, it's almost always a boy.
Once you start looking for it, it is really obvious!
I'm gonna have to start looking at this your way Viola!!