Congrats! I'm late to the party, what was your sway like? :D
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Congrats! I'm late to the party, what was your sway like? :D
Took a little break to enjoy the normal life. It was refreshing reading about the in-law debacle for some of you. We are finally telling my in-laws today. Actually, I am shrinking into a corner and sending my daughter in to tell them!! [emoji23][emoji23] I’m just not ready for the backlash. I honestly just wish people could be happy for others, instead of projecting their own worries and anxieties on others. Okay. Done with that.
Welcome to the new joiners! How awesome! Hoping to hear good news from everyone soon!
Surrounded, my sway was lax. Very very lax. I think about 6 mo of ttc with swaying, I finally let go of some things and let fate step in. And we finally had a bean stick!!
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Ohmygosh, I’ve been feeling the exact same way (the oh no this is too good to be true, something must be wrong). I’m driving DH crazy and my next ultrasound isn’t for another 2 weeks!
Congrats Simkan!
On Tuesday I was at my first midwife appointment and was 11 weeks that day. Every thing went well. She couldn’t really get the heartbeat though, just heard a flash of it for a few seconds. I’ve found it at home though since 10 weeks so not worried at all. My ms has lightened up a lot lately too, thankfully! I’ve lost a few pounds so far.
I have my 12-13 week ultrasound booked for July 30th and I’m hoping for a nub shot. Also booked an early private scan for 16 weeks August 21st to find out what we are having. I just need to find out to get passed this anxiety and depression surrounding it. This is my 6th and last baby. Inside I just know it’s a boy already. I am hating the idea of having to tell anyone.
Anyone else have appointments or ultrasounds coming up?
Hi Noemi,Quote:
Originally Posted by Noemi2017
Very few symptoms so far. I had one pregnancy puke and have been nauseous off and on. I was EXHAUSTED when I was pregnant with my son but so far the fatigue hasn't hit yet. Other than that - nothing really. I'm not super concerned though because I barely had any symptoms with my son besides the exhaustion.
How are you doing? Any symptoms? :)
I'm so sorry for your losses teampinkdream. I hope you are able to get some clarity about your losses and go on to have a beautiful, healthy pregnancy and baby.Quote:
Originally Posted by teampinkdream
I go Monday for my first ultrasound, Ill be 12 weeks so a tad too early really for the nub theory. Im hoping to book a private one mid Aug for gender, if I dont get a blood test done. That all depends on insurance really.Quote:
Originally Posted by Cassidy4
So sorry teampink:sadflwr:i will pray for u next one is your sticky bean:pray:
Congrats simkan:celebrate:
Hello babygirlwishing, i dont have any symptoms so far. With my son i suffered nausea exactly at the beginnig of 5 week. So we will see, i hope we can feel good this time and our small beans grow up and are healthy:pray:
Ladies, do you only qualify for NIPT testing if you're high risk or have previously had issues with pregnancy. I don't go until the first but I definitely want to do testing due to family history. I did genetic test with my son, but it ass very basic and only checked for a few things. I just didn't know if there was a difference between basic testing and NIPT?
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Good luck on your ultrasound! Yeah, that will be a bit too early because they tend to all look girly then. They tried to book mine for around then but I called and rebooked saying I couldn’t make it to that appt, just so I can try to get a good nub shot lol!Quote:
Originally Posted by SurroundedByBoys
I just tried to figure all this out before my NIPT last week and it's VERY confusing. If you're asking about insurance coverage, the most common reason that insurance companies will cover it is if you will be 35+ at the time of delivery. They may cover it as well if you have a family history or if there are "soft markers"/something abnormal on an ultrasound, but I'm not sure as I didn't look into that. Also I learned that usually the test cost is applied to the deductible first before it's covered at whatever your plan's cost share is (like 10%, 20%). So if the deductible hasn't been met it may cost more out of pocket. The basic NIPT tests for the 3 major trisomies - 13, 18, and 21 (Down Syndrome), as well as Turner's Syndrome. Some companies also offer a more expanded test that tests for more sex chromosome disorders, but be aware I've read online that those can be less accurate and possibly with more false positives. I also learned that if your insurance company will not pay, most of the companies that do the testing will offer you a cash price. Depends on the company but that seems to be between $150-$350. Panorama - the one I did - is $200. I had to call my doctor's office, two of the testing companies that my doc's office uses, and my insurance company to try to figure all this out. And I STILL don't know if my insurance will "cover" it (I'll still pay 20% if they do) because even though I'll be 35 at delivery, most insurance companies wont pay for the test if you're having twins! But if they don't at least I know what the cash price is for Panorama.Quote:
Originally Posted by Eighme
I don't know what basic testing you did (sounds like it could have been NIPT - was it just a blood test?), but the other options are the nuchal translucency ultrasound, the triple screen or quad screen - all which test for the same trisomies as the NIPT and are a bit less accurate.
AHHH SIMKAN CONGRATS!!! I'm so happy for you!!!
It was such a pain for us to figure this out too! Even though we have unexplained RPL, and I stressed how we had uncovered some chromosomal issues, because I'm under 30 they were giving us a hard time about covering. Then at our nuchal, the nasal bone was seen but "not bright enough" so the tech said she'd say it wasn't visible because then the NIPT would have to be covered (Progenity). I haven't gotten any sort of bill yet or anything but my midwife said they have a deal where we'd never pay more than $99.Quote:
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Sorry guys for being MIA. I will need to catch up with the posts. Have been busy planning and prepping for my friend's bridal shower and bachelorette party. I have to figure out how not to drink at the party without my friends knowing. Since it will just be the girls, I wont be able to change drinks with DH. It will be tough.
I have been trying to cope with the change. Most of my symptoms have gone away except for fatigue. I am so sleepy all the times. Besides working, all I want to do is sleep. I normally dont take naps, but I have been getting up later and nap at least once a day.
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That is fantastic! So glad you are getting your little girlQuote:
Originally Posted by simkan
Thank you!Quote:
Originally Posted by SurroundedByBoys
So I was quite worried about my sway because I was reading a lot of other forums before I joined here and thought it would take ages to fall pregnant because everything we did made falling pregnant harder.
Did le diet. With skippung breakfast. But probably only like 8/9 weeks before falling pregnant.
Cut out caffeine because I drank it when getting pregnant with my boys
Cut out red meat and anything with potassium.
Both DH and I drank lots of peppermint tea.
I took folic acid, cranberry, calcium and vitamin b.
I also drank alot of cranberry juice, ate dairy and made a shake every night of Spinage and frozen berries.
Here is where I was worried. We BD every day, with a 3 day cut off.
Made him sit with a warm wheatbag on his lap for a while before.
And unintentionally jump and dumped the last two nights cuz kids woke up right at the end lol
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Ah that's a tough one! Can you be sober driver? Maybe everyone else will get so drunk they won't notice? HeeheeQuote:
Originally Posted by shinay
I'm usually not a big drinker so people don't get suspicious when I don't. They'd be much more suspicious if there were a cheese platter and I didn't have soft cheeses.
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Shinay canyou say you're on a course of antibiotics for a UTI? It would also explain frequent toilet trips as well in case that's hit you yet [emoji6]
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Simkan: congrats on getting your girl! Woohoo [emoji322][emoji322][emoji322]We have had many good news in DDG lately and I hope that it is a good sign we all will get our DG. I am sorry but how many weeks are you? Will you be telling family soon? I know everyone will be so thrilled with the news [emoji4] As for me, the surprised bridal shower will be at my house so I wont need to drive. I am not big drinker myself, but they will still at least expect me to have at least a few drinks hahaha. And lol about the cheese. I have been wanting some soft cheese, and I read that it is okay as long as it is pasteurized, is it true? I havent had any, but will be hard to stay away from it for 9 months [emoji33]
Pbn: good suggestion. If she asks, i might just tell her that. Maybe she will be so happy with all the guests and surprises that she wont notice a thing.
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You can have any soft cheese as long as it's pasteurized, and it's pretty hard to find raw soft cheese outside of specialty shops! I eat feta all the time and did all through pregnancy with DD!Quote:
Originally Posted by shinay
What kind of drinks? I'm an expert at this point on hiding it since I'm a well known drinker amongst friends and family and have been perpetually pregnant the last 3 years! Especially since the antibiotics/not feeling well isn't something that works imo lol. Or at least no amongst my alcoholic friends and family ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by shinay
Beer: bring an empty bottle or can! Fill it with water when no one is looking!! This is the best one. There's still photos of me circling around friends holding up a can with no one the wiser!
Wine: Bring juice or sparkling grape juices to fill your glass when no one is watching (I've done a lot of bathroom glass fills!). White grape passes well or white wine, pomegranate is a great sub for red. If you offer to pour wine, you can get everyone distracted then go into the kitchen or wherever to put the bottle away/cork it then do your sneaky "wine." Or open it in the kitchen and pour your "wine" first then come out to pour everyone else's.
Liquor/cocktails: Red solo cups?! Easy! Put whatever in yours, EVERYONE assumes it's alcohol. I just did this last weekend at almost 16 weeks and still no one suspected until I told them this week! Nice cocktails in glassware? If premixed, make a "base" cocktail that people can add liquor too. So like a alcohol-free margarita mix or some sort of mocktail, say, "It goes well with vodka or rum," then just don't choose either. Alternatively, having just soda pop or something sparkling in your glass (especially with garnishes like olives, mint, lime, etc.) is usually enough to make it seem like you're drinking.
Shots: This is still my challenge round! People usually do these together so it's hard to hide and I usually would just say I'm driving or I'm already too tipsy from earlier drinks. I'd plan bathroom trips during shots and also have done, "I'll do the next round!" and gesture to my drink or convo I was having with someone and usually people would forget/be too drunk by next round lol
TP, this is the best advice ever! I come from a.family who loves their alcohol and friends too! So this is great advice to have on hand until I'm ready to tell everyoneQuote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
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This is such great advice I wish I had an opportunity to use it!Quote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
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I'm 11 weeks now. My parents and a couple friends that I see all the time know. I'll tell everyone after the 12 week scan. I'm going in on the 30th for that.
Yes I've also heard pasteurized is fine. During my last pregnancy I went to a cheese factory for a friend's birthday and it was all pasteurized and I figured.... hey they're making it here. It couldn't be more fresh so I had some. I did panic afterSent from my SM-G930F using TapatalkQuote:
Originally Posted by shinay
TP: you really do get this thing down. Thank you for all the details. This is amazing and super useful. We will most likely do cocktails, beer since it is too hot outside and maybe some wine. The beer bottle with water is great idea. No one would be able to tell. Anyway, how have you been doing lately? Did you mention before you did the NIPT test? I forgot if you decide to find out gender with NIPT?
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It will just be a little more than a week now. How exciting! Cant wait to see more scans. I have a hard time keeping secret here. I just want to tell our whole family already, and get some advices from my mom but I am afraid my mom and MIL wont be able to keep the news to themselves and tell EVERYONE. It will be their first grandchild after all. But you see, it makes me stressed out more thinking how I will have to tell everyone if sth goes wrong (knock on wood). How do you guys tell family and make sure they dont tell a bunch of people?Quote:
Originally Posted by simkan
Btw just got myself "What to expect when you are expecting." Cant wait to start reading when I get home. Heard lots of good things about the book, so I hope it will be a good guide for me through this 9 months journey.
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Haha, I am so glad the advice is helpful everyone! For both (hopefully) successful pregnancies, I've been met with, "But I just saw you drinking" by a few people each time we revealed! That's when we give our winks and say, "DID YOU?" Haha -- people are persistently surprised because I throw them off like this.
Shinay -- we did NIPT and thankfully at least whatever was tested in that was normal. Still nervous since our chromosomal abnormalities were rarer ones (like Trisomy 8), but so far so good I hope. And no, we didn't find out gender -- didn't even check to get it tested and put in an envelope since I didn't trust the place where we get scans done for the midwives haha
Now in continuing, "TP is never happy," a sort of surprise occurrence happened and we did end up telling my in-laws. My FIL was predictably an asshole and literally didn't even look at me. My MIL was ecstatic though since she was familiar with some of the losses (and hadn't been the one to be super insensitive before -- she had defended FIL when he had said horrible things). My SIL who I love was so happy since she knew about almost all of the losses and had experienced many herself (I swear, it's the men in my husband's family, since she's married to my husband's brother).
Now, both my MIL and SIL admitted they thought it was a boy. But then my SIL said, "But I'm always wrong about other people's kids." So that sort of bummed me out? Then when I gave my MIL hand me down clothes from DD for my other SIL (who had a girl a few months ago), my FIL sort of yelled, "But what if you have another girl?" I pointed out that even if we did, we wouldn't be needing these clothes for a good year anyway, so at least she could use them, which MIL was very gracious about.
Lol, but now I've gone from, "No one is guessing because they think it's a girl!" to "Well people are guessing boy and still putting caveats making me feel bad!" I am never happy! (Though admittedly -- SIL was right about DD, and she was the ONLY person who thought DD was a girl!! Everyone else thought she was a boy haha).
So some symptoms already started. Im hungry every half an hour and if i dont eat i dont feel sick but i dont feel good. I also cant drink hot drinks just cold water:) i cant decide what food i like because i dont know it myself:D
TP, you are gonna drive yourself bonkers!! Don’t worry about what other people think, after all it really is a guess! [emoji6] We finally told my in-laws too. I used my daughter to tell them and it worked like a charm. She’s been so excited to tell anyone that it worked! Her excitement wore off, and they were thrilled for us. Whew. I was seriously dreading that one.Quote:
Originally Posted by Throwaway_panther
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TP I totally understand why you feel there is no right way for people to guess the gender. That's part of why I had to find out.
If people said they thought it was a girl I was upset that they were getting my hopes up when I didn't want to flirt with the idea that it could be a girl. And if people had said they thought another boy I would have thought- You B**** lol
Maybe just make it clear that you don't want to speculate and that they'll find out the gender when you do after the birth!
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Hi ladies! I'm hoping I can join you. I'm kinda in between due dates I reckon but if I go by LMP I'm due March 31st.
We didn't exactly sway but hoping for a girl. We will be team green for as long as we can (I'm just TOO good at spotting a penis on an ultrasound lol!)
I've tested this AM at 4+1 to double check that line is getting stronger and it sure is [emoji173] https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/201...d739f946a3.jpg
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Welcome Hopper :) congratulations!Quote:
Originally Posted by hopper
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Welcome and congrats!!Quote:
Originally Posted by hopper
This is how I was with my son shinay! FX it's a boy sign for you too :)Quote:
Originally Posted by shinay
Just realized my reply didnt post for some reason?
Anyway TP, I know people's comments can easily get to us especially with all the pregnancy hormones. But i agree with simkan, maybe let people know that you just want to enjoy this pregnancy without talking about gender. And I am sorry about the insensitive comments your FIL made. That is how men are. You should just ignore him.
And just a comment about your posted sway, I want to go team green as well, but DH really wants to find out. He said we can go team green with our last baby (we want to have 3), not this one lol.
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Yayyy Hopper, the line is getting much darker. Welcome to the board! So when will your first appointment be?
Babygirlwishing: thanks dear. i sure hope we will get our DG [emoji4]. With your boy, did you get lots of symptoms and when did they kick in? I dont feel anything much besides sore boobs and sleepiness.
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Shinay i also didnt feel anything till 5w6d and now i feel nausea all day long. I cant eat what i was eating before, it is really difficult choose some food, i have no taste:(
This is me too, Noemi! I'm 7 weeks but my nausea really limits what I can eat. Literally nothing sounds good anymore. It's been a struggle to eat lately!Quote:
Originally Posted by Noemi2017
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