just did a second OPK, definitely positive
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just did a second OPK, definitely positive
No idea on the zigzag but just wanted to say good luck!Quote:
Originally Posted by suregena
What time to you get home?
There is no point to this post, but i just have to vent and this is the only place i can do it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lassie1982
Told DH about the positive OPK, and how we should try and DTD again tonight. Boy oh Boy was he pissy about it!!
I know that the whole DTD regimentally is hard for him, i get that, but i have gone to lots of efforts to make it as interesting and pleasurable for him as possible. Anyone would think i was asking him to pull teeth, all I'm asking for is another BD.
He could tell i wasn't pleased with his reaction so he goes off on one about how hard it is, and we have done it 6 times in 5 days and how difficult it is for him, and all i have to do is lie there blah blah...Im kinda hurt, because i havnt just been *lying there* i have made an effort, a lot of effort, and every single time he has made it feel like the worst chore in the world having to BD, poor him! But you know what - it aint all a bag of laughs for me either - i've been on the diet for 6 months, and yes its still a challenge. And i stick to it, but its hard, dam hard. For 5 cycles i have felt like a barren failure because i just can't get pregnant.
I guees we are both just at the end of our tether. DH has been great, he really has, but this month he is just over it, so over it
Sooo sorry. :( how awful. I lost count how many times we BD'd in a row. Hubby didn't mind it at all and only struggled a little a day he FR twice prior and had several ales at night before so he was a little tipsy. Would he rather just do it in a cup (less pressure?) and you immediately insert it??
I'm having my hubby take a photo of this morning's test and email me it at work... cannot concentrate at all!
Good luck, suregena! Remember that lines often aren't as visible in a picture, though!
Suregena, when you get the test pic, post it, even if you can't see the lines. I can take it into photoshop and "tweak" it to see if anything shows up... I did that with a few of my really early test results.
Lassie, we were in a very similar place, except that my DH wasn't so much pissy as despondent. During our third cycle, he had some performance issues (I had him doing FR twice a day, so he got super worn out) and that totally got to his head. And of course the more he worried, the harder it was to perform.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lassie1982
Even into fourth cycle, when we decreased FR by 25 percent, even the first couple of times DTD were tricky (again, totally psychological). So I basically had to take over ... start things off orally and then have DTD be with me on top. The oral was partially to let him relax and help rev up Mr. Happy, but also because we dropped Sylk and I was going to need *something* to allow for reasonably comfortable entry (because if I showed any sign of discomfort, that's all it would have taken for Mr. Happy to leave the party!).
So I wonder if that would help? It would let your DH just "lay there" instead (ha!) and it would let you put on a bit more of a show, which might increase his feelings of goodwill. Men are more visual than we are, so seeing the lady up top can be provocative for them. And my understanding is that woman on top is quite a viable pink-sway position (here's hoping so, anyway!).
You've already gotten some great attempts in, which will help your chances of pg, while still doing lots of pink sway stuff. This could totally be your month!!!! :fx:
I can't remember -- are you temping so that you'll be able to confirm when O officially happens?
It's been two cycles and I still haven't gotten pregnant. I thought for sure I would be this last time because I thought I got the timing good, but I must have used too many swaying things. I stopped the diet because I thought I would have gotten pregnant (with my other two it was preggers at first try). It's soooo frustrating! I can't imagine how dificult it must be for those of you who have been at it even longer. I keep my fingers crossed for us all.
I wanted to try again this coming cycle but it is a boy month on the chinese calendar. My husband believes in this calendar because a lot of his female friends got girls during girl months. So I don't know if we should just skip this month or just go for it. I would definitely wait if I had the time (because of the boy month and falling off the diet), but I'm in a rush because of my age (I'm 40). Arggh, don't know what to do!
Haven't had a chance to catch up on post yet. I just called doc because HPTS are still negative and AF is one week late. I spotted 11 days ago. I called for something to start AF. I have NEVER EVER BEEN LATE EVER. The nurse practitioner said I could be pregnant, going for blood work in 5 minutes, she said they have had women throughout the pregnancy's that get negatvie HPTs. Really??? I still have no hope, but interesting!! Will know on Monday!
Heavenlee, I wouldn't worry about calendars at all. All you have to do is look at a local hospital's baby webpage and you'll see lots of boys and girls born every month. If it were as easy as "get pg this month, have this gender," nobody would have ever have to sway or have GD.
I would return to the diet ASAP. That's the thing that seems to sway the hardest. It's the other things that might be standing in the way of pg that I would consider dropping instead (maybe drop antihistamines OR RepHresh OR Sylk ... I'm not sure what you're actually incorporating into your sway, but those are standard early inclusions in a pink sway that people start dropping when they can't conceive).
Getting pg in a pink sway is more challenging ... but it also means you're suppressing fertility, which is what you want for a pink sway. It's tricky. I only just got my BFP a week and a half ago, on my fourth cycle trying. I got pg in my second cycle with both my kids.
Also, you do want to keep your age in mind. Crummy as it is, our fertility does change as we get older. So you don't want to waste too many months on things like Chinese calendar, only to find yourself unable to get pg at all. As Atomic says, you can't your desired gender if you can't get pg.
So, yep, I'd say get back on the diet, ignore the calendar, and consider what non-diet parts of your sway might be droppable. GL!!
Eeeee! FX for you!!Quote:
Originally Posted by HopeandDreamG
Thanks dramabird! You're right, we should just forget about that calendar. I actually just got off the phone with DH at work and he agreed to just forget about the calendar and try again this coming cycle. I just got back on the diet and think I'll do away with the Zyrtec this month and see how that goes.Quote:
Originally Posted by dramabird
I know because of my age it will make it harder to get pregnant. I just kept thinking that we could get pregnant quick as always. Doesn't always happen right.
Can I join in? :trips:
I am officially in the 2ww, but not sure if I’m on 2dpo or 5 dpo. I had a really weird cycle; positive opk almost a week early, dtd at what I thought was -2 and -1 but never had a temp rise. Took another opk the first day I would’ve expected my temp rise, it was completely negative. Two days and no temp rise later, did another one and caught a strong second line, but not quite positive. I gathered I hadn’t ovulated the first try and wasn’t sure if I was catching a second surge on the way in or out, so went ahead and dtd (after both hubby and I had stopped supplements and I had loosened up on diet, after being SUPER strict for 6 weeks- of course!). Temp rose the next day, so if the second surge was the one I ovulated on it appears that I may have dtd right on top of o, or even o+12 (though I’m not sure that would count for much). On the first set of attempts, DH’s output was super low for him, and I was like the Sahara, so I doubt anything survived all the way to when I actually ovulated way later. On the second attempt it might’ve been too late. Trying to be realistic and not get my hopes up but boy, forgot how painstakingly slow the 2ww goes!
Let me just say to agree with you ladies, not sure if it was the on-demand nature of things, the FR or the licorice root, but hubby was not as gung-ho as usual! It took a little convincing but one of our attempts was totally un…productive. Oh well, hoping for my BFP because this may be our only attempt before letting fiscally-responsible brain taking the reigns. (we’ll see how long that lasts)
Sway included hard core diet/ions/no exercise/compressed FR/replens/magnets (silly, I know)/supplements (cran/acidophilus/dropped the cal, mag halfway through) and prayer.
Fingers crossed!
Appropriate colored dust to all of you ladies!!
I can see a barely-there shadow (already tried photoshopping it, too hard to see. All my tests lined up show a faint positive 9DPO and 10DPO, 13DPO, and then they fade out to practically nothing), like all the others... but at 16dpo, I just think it's no good and on its way out. Soonish.
Now I have to come up with a newish plan. I'm a little pissed off because I've managed to gain like 4lbs?! Argh. Like, seriously, I had ONE day where I was at 1,800 calories (but pretty high in fat) and the other two days were about 1,500-1,600... and, here I am! And this is why my diet has to stay at the bare minimum of calorie intake to shift anything. :()
I'm trying to breathe and think positive. I know that I couldn't go on for more than three months, so I hope I can get it this go.
*DH 1x a day licorice root
*DH FR at least once and up to 3x a day starting possibly CD3 or more towards the end of my cycle (last time he started CD5.)
*Hot baths when he wants
*I do soy isoflavones CD3-7... although I am CLUELESS of what dosage... input, anyone? What the most ideal dosage?
*Diet (obviously, though I have to shift whatever this weight is I've got pronto, ugh... my body doesn't do weight loss very well! It has a number it likes to sit at and a few 'cheat' days, not even bad ones, have totally screwed me.)
*I will use antihistamines every day, possibly from end of AF, to counteract the possible increase of EWCM from the soy.
*I have one tube of repHresh I think I may use between all the BDs + what the soy could be doing with EWCM
*I am thinking of drinking 1 cup of red raspberry leaf tea to help my lining around ovulation for maybe only 5 days, and stop before implantation?
*Unsure where to go with peppermint tea. Might be overkill?
Any input for a vegetarian guy and gal trying to make a girl baby? :P
And I hate that I just seem to be prone to have a lot of early losses. Ugh.
Still cramping but no AF yet.
Thanks Drama - its so good to know that there are those who completely understand :)Quote:
Originally Posted by dramabird
Yes I'm temping, here are my temps. I thought I had o'd on CD 13.
But then i have had +opk's yesterday, and a slight temp drop today so now i have no idea :(
CD June
4 97.21
5 97.38
6 97.17
7 97.24
8 97.02
9 97.05
10 96.63
11 97.15
12 97.51
13 97.28
14 97.69
15 97.58
OMG how exciting! Good luck xoQuote:
Originally Posted by HopeandDreamG
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Originally Posted by heavenlee
I agree with Drama - chuck the calendar out the window! Goodluck :luck:
i upgrading to VIP on fertility friend.
It says i ovulated on cd11 ?!?!?!
Bummer suregena, I noticed your temp dropped below the coverline this am :(
I'm glad things are moving along though, so you can gear up for next month.
:hug2:
Hi can I join in too? I am either 4 or 5 DPO today. I purchased a whole bunch of IC preg tests so I will probably end up driving myself crazy this month by testing. I usually wait until 4 days before AF is due but I am goin to be flying to Texas for 2 weeks and I have to know before we go! Lol.
Suregena, fingers crossed, your temp is above cover-line this morning!!!
AF showed for me today so it is officially cycle day 1...our 1st TTC cycle! Hopefully everything will go as planned. It does seem that my cycles are getting shorter. I usually have a 28 day and it went from 27 days now to 25 days so I think I am O'ing around CD12 or 13 so I am going to plan for that.
Ha, baaarely! My cervix is confusing me. :( It feels VERY wet in there... like, a crazy abunance of CM. I don't get it.Quote:
Originally Posted by KraizyDaizy
I drank RRL tea yesterday (don't ask me why) and it gave me twinges just after consuming it. Er, I'll not touch it just in case. I don't know. I feel like I should go to the doctor seeing as it's 18dpo and no AF yet... maybe to see if they can fill in a blood test form for me (I work at the hospital so it's easy for me to hop over to get a blood test!)
:/
And for the record--all previous symptoms have now ceased to be! So I just have zero hope that this was ever healthy and sticking.
Yes - do that, get a blood test. I still think its odd that you havnt had AF turn up yet.Quote:
Originally Posted by suregena
ANd as much as it seems incredibly unlikely that you o'd on cd 34, it not entirely out of the realm of possibility.
You're best best is to rule things out one by one. So i would definitely get the blood test.
The frustration I feel right now is immense. This sort of *insanity* only happens whilst swaying (it's what it feels like to me because, seriously... the one other time I attempted to sway Dec/Jan cycle, this exact confusing nonsense happened... it's like my body just cannot *deal* with it. But I'm stubborn and will carry on and hope that the soy isoflavones is my ticket to get the show on the road. Sigh...)
My day in and day out normalcy never made me have a weird cycle. I had no cycle due to breastfeeding then I slowly weaned *myself* (not my son) from pumping at work and that brought my cycle right back (because I wanted to get ready to TTC #2.)
First attempt was Dec/Jan attempt. I just didn't seem to be Oing after being on the diet + vitex. And we gave up (so I don't technically count that as a TTC cycle in the end.) My AF showed up CD55... when my cycle was 28 days the month before.
Same thing this time... my last cycle was 29 days. Now since diet, we're heading into CD55+ territory again! It's really making me want to bang my head against the wall......
I'm so sorry suregena! How frustrating. I also find it odd that it's carrying on like this, but cautiously optimistic that it means something good... an absence of symptoms does not necessarily mean it isn't viable. I was going to suggest a blood test too... that should def. give you some answers. And if you felt like the RRL tea was causing any trouble, it's best to steer clear... I never felt anything like "twinges" so who knows...
I really hope I didn't ovulate on CD34 (even though it'd be pretty impossible to get pregnant from then, anyway, since we last BD'd CD28) because I know I probably put on 2lbs. Urgh.
I don't know, sigh...
hey everyone. just thought i would check in on everyone.
sorry ive kind of forgot about this thread
also an update for anyone who missed my birth announcement.
my baby GIRL ,Sasha Maree, was born on june 5. weighing 7pound 10 ounces
i still cant believe we fluked a girl.
good luck to everyone still ttc. im proof miracles do happen...:)
She's beaaaautiful! :)
Congratulations, Dannikins. Loooooove the blue ruffles ... what a perfect way to bring your little girl into the mix!!
Congratulations Dannikins, she is beautiful and stories like yours give me hope for a fluked girl!!!
Take care and enjoy her! xx
Dannikans I am so jealous!!! She is beautiful!!!
Suregena, nice temp rise there! Get bloods drawn I say!!!
I think my body is a cruel, cruel thing!
Dannikins, such a beautiful little girl! You waited to find out, right? (I can't remember) What a beautiful surprise!!!
Ribbons, just looked at your blog, and the food looks so yummy...dumb question bout what does WAPF stand for? I may have even misspelled it! And I can't believe you have that much time/effort to make delicious wholesome meals with MS!!
Yeah, I just went and looked too - seriously yummy (except for the meat stuff, which I don't eat... however that Thai soup looks DIVINE so I'll forget for a moment it includes fish and may come up with a vegetarian alternative for when I can eat normally again! :P)
WAPF stands for "Weston A Price Foundation" (westonaprice.org)... it's a traditional way of eating that stays away from processed foods and focuses on whole, organic products directly from the source. A lot of WAPFers are small farmers - large gardens, raise chickens, goats etc. Very different guidelines from modern eating - high fat (much of it saturated), high protein, low carb, lots of butter :) ie - exactly OPPOSITE of LE, I don't think you could get more opposite. I hope that worked in my favor!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by auroara78
Trust me, the m/s has DEFINITELY kept me from cooking as much :) I'm posting recipes like once a week now (normally I'd be posting daily!) It's easing up a bit, though, thankfully.
You can make it with tofu and/or mushrooms too!!! I made it for a vegan friend once :)Quote:
Originally Posted by suregena