Ooooh! Keep us posted. If you are prego, Begonia is OK if I giggle....just a little. :) It's like you plan and plan and plan but how much control do we have really? :)Quote:
Originally Posted by begonia
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Ooooh! Keep us posted. If you are prego, Begonia is OK if I giggle....just a little. :) It's like you plan and plan and plan but how much control do we have really? :)Quote:
Originally Posted by begonia
hahahha... i bear it innocently as it helps me to sway hard ;) , he is really a funny guy and i know he just does it for fun ..... but now i really should take action as it has become so severe that he asks me what dress color sways blue and what not?Quote:
Originally Posted by iluvmyman
if i wear pink he screams hey did u give up swaying, i said NO , then y you r wearing pink, i am sure pink doesnt sway blue :p
TTC5...i would suggest TTC when you are really ready and would be best time to bring baby.. just take time..3 month before i also had same thought and i decided to wait.... after giving up now i am ready to TTC in oct or nov.
This made me smile lol ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by iluvmyman
TTC5, Talk to your DH and see what he think, Just do whatever you feel is best for you, I agree only you know what you can handle:agree::agree:
Maybe I'll wait another cycle, Think I am ovulating late again..and that's because of L'arg!!! If I get more EWCM then I will go for it, but If my CM stays creamy then I'd rather wait ... I really hope not all of my hard work will be for nothing.Quote:
Originally Posted by begonia
L'arg did mess with my cycle ..Quote:
Originally Posted by begonia
I totally AGREE with you iluv, When I go out site with my kids ..OMG they drive me CRAZY!!! and I say ''what heck am I thinking'' really. I just want another boy so bad ..I love the relationship that my girls have with each other and would love to have that for my DS. And 2 of each would be very neat.Quote:
Originally Posted by iluvmyman
TTC5, I'm glad u could smile and it seems like you have a lot on your plate! I feel ya, girl. )
MFC, could you do the EW's if you don't have enough EWCM, and not have to miss a month? You might not want to risk it though.
I'm such a horrible wife! I took my mood out on dh and told him I did not want another and he got upset said he was just getting used to the idea of another one =(Quote:
Originally Posted by My Fabulous Children
I feel even more bad now!
Want to just go to sleep and wake up to a new day tomorrow.
Adding you now!! =DQuote:
Originally Posted by daisyfay311
I'm so glad you understand me, I was out w/ my girlfriends today and said there is no way that I'm letting anyone know I'm a homeschooler cuz I will give homeschool a really bad name. They were crazy, wish I could say that isn't somewhat normal though. :) DD1 was so compliant and I was so good and was never an issue ever and did I have it together.....then came DD2. She's cute my Oh My is she difficult. I used to think DD1 was so good cuz I was such a good parent. HA!Quote:
Originally Posted by My Fabulous Children
It's so hard right now with the little ones and trying to keep the house clean (failing miserably, in case you were wondering :)), plus everything else on our plates. But when all is said and done, I couldn't imagine ever looking back and wishing we had less children. There is a season and this crazy one will pass. That's not to say I don't call my DH crying that I just can't do it all and the kids are ganging up on me. :)
I'm super sensitive this way, but I only have so many years to have children, then it's gone, gone. I'll never get the opportunity to help create a life, to feel a baby kick inside my stomach, to nurse, to hear my child call me mom for the 1st time.....you know what I mean. What a precious gift, and one I've taken for granted in some ways.
2 boys would be great fun. I want my son get to be a "big" brother again also. DS#1 is such a sensitive child in a good way and has always loved babies. He keeps DS2 alive in such neat and precious ways. After what we went through I think it will be so healing for all of us.
Keep having children MFC, as many as you and DH think you can handle. You can do it!!!
Man, I am always so long winded. Thanks for bearing w/ me. :)
I'm sorry sweetie! Just give him a little smooch, take a bath and go to bed. He'll forgive you. A good night sleep will do you wonders or get a little break. My Frapps always make me a little happier. I put my DH through such torture w/ my hormones. LOL! When I'm pregnant I tell him to leave at least once. I hope you feel better tomorrow. I'll b prayin for ya!Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
Thanks iluv =) xx
Hi ladies i'm back after a month's break. I cant believe that so much has happened in a month. I see a lot of girls from IG have joined since i was away, welcome ladies! AF just came today so i'm on to the BSD/COT etc. I'm not planning on taking clomid this month because i usually ovulate on my own once i stop the pill so hoping to a natural ovulation. I will take clomid next month if this cycle doesnt work out for me.
I cant comment to all thread because so much has happened but i know Jen had bfn, sorry to hear. TTC5, hope your daughter's well. Congrats to Chunksta & GL to all the ladies in 2WW
Welcome back babydes!
iluvmyman I am so glad you joined our little thread! You definitely bring some great encouragement and perspective, so thank you :-) And too funny ... I could have written the EXACT same thing re: my DD1 and DD2!
HUGS TTC5!! I am so sorry you're having a tough run love. I hope that today feels better for you. FWIW I got all kinds of mad at my DH yesterday and said the same thing about maybe we shouldn't have anymore. And he got pretty upset too. Which is funny b/c a year ago this was all me, wanting a third, and now I'd say it's more him. So I think it really hurt his feelings.
MFC thanks for sharing re: L'arg! I am dropping it. I really liked how regular my cycle was. I haven't had a cycle longer than 28 days in over a year, so this is definitely abnormal for me and since L'arg is the only change (I'd been taking fish oil and EPO for months) I think I'm just not going to do it. FX you get your boy ... ITA that if I have one boy I will wish for one more, just so he could have a brother. But DH is like, NO! THREE! THREE is it! LOL :-)
I hate not knowing when AF will arrive!!! Driving me crazy! We have a ton to do this weekend so I guess I'll just make sure I bring the necessary supplies everywhere we go in case the ol' witch shows up.
Lola I hope you're doing OK sweetheart! Just thinking about you so thought I'd give a shout out :-)
Oh and I meant to wave hi!!! to babydes! Glad to see you!
Thanks Begonia!
I am feeling better emotionally but this darn flu has taken a hold of me, can't get to sleep and it is almost midnight ;(
grape seed is antioxidant it's for DH too. I also ordered the wheatgrass same thing what I have in powder but in gelatin capsules. So we just drink this until I got it.Quote:
Originally Posted by My Fabulous Children
omg you scared me now...almost 3 and waking up? What's gonna happen with my DD4?:worry:Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
You and DH should tell the family to try to move out soon...I would go crazy living with others :hair:
Sometimes I also think WTH Im doing TTC again? We are all alone , never any help , nothing. So it's hard with 4 kids. Besides it will be another girl anyway who am I kidding here , right?:think::sad:
I will use EW's any ways, but naturally EW would be better, It will make me feel more comfortable about my attempt, but I'm finally seeing some watery/EW CM ..I hope I am O'ing soon.Quote:
Originally Posted by iluvmyman
So sorry TTC5! I hope your feeling better now ..and I'm sure your DH will understand and forgive you, XOXOQuote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
Selfish little jerk monkey of a husband. Grrrrrrrrrr. We had a nice talk the other night that ended in tears(mine, not his). He basically told me that he didn't want anymore. That if we had another his life was basically over. All I heard of course was "me me me me me". I don't know what to think or do right now.
I'm sending out tons of blue dust and hugs to everyone, in case I don't pop in for awhile.
Oh no how hurtful =(Quote:
Originally Posted by mmsgirlie22
I can't kick them out unfortunately.. Mum had to leave an abusive relationship and is not doing well at all she has had a breakdown, she has nothing but the suitcase they came with, suffers severe anxiety and depression. It isn't good at all =( We are all they have now and are trying to get her well again.Quote:
Originally Posted by Flava
Thanks sweetie. I have moments where i'm just in tears because it's so heartbreaking for me. He's being such an a$$ right now.Quote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
FX it is just a phase and he will snap out of his tanty?!
Oh, that is so awful. I'm so sorry you are dealing with that. My DH goes on about how he wants a son and I cheerfully say I am up for having three if this sway comes out girl and he acts like three kids would be the worst thing that could ever happen to him. He has said the same thing as yours, that his life would just be over. I don't get it?! I just don't see how they can feel that way. Maybe he is just scared and overwhelmed about having another baby to care for? Worried the sway might not work? I hope he comes around.Quote:
Originally Posted by mmsgirlie22
And btw, I notice you are in Mississippi too!
Oh Mmsgirlie I am so sorry that happened! What changed his mind, he was on board when you got the IUD out right? Goodness. My bestie is in the same place with her DH now, too ... wanting a 3rd and him saying no more. It is SO hard. I hope he comes around to your side soon!
TTC5 I'm glad you're better emotionally! I do wonder if it had anything to do with the supps? Regardless I hope you can keep peace for yourself with all you have going on. You're a wonderful daughter and sibling to do what you're doing for your family.
Flava you've got a shot at a boy! It ain't over til it's over love and as long as you're willing to have more babies, you're ALWAYS going to have a chance at a son being one of them. I know what you're saying though ... I only have 2 daughters and there are days I feel like there's no way I can hope for a son. But more days than not I try to focus on the fact that it is POSSIBLE! Like Atomic says ... you have NO shot at your DG if you don't get pregnant.
This is really more a statement for another thread/part of the site but I'm too lazy so I'm going to vent here how much I LOATHE people who, when they find out I have 2 girls and want 1 more baby, say "Oh! You know, we would have had more if we had two of a kind too. But since we got one of each we're done." Like there's a "perfect" family and they have it and I don't. I want to dump my wine glass all over their laps. I don't think people realize how smug they sound about this topic so I don't say anything snarky in return .... but oh how I want to put them in their place!
[QUOTE=mmsgirlie22;31703]Selfish little jerk monkey of a husband. Grrrrrrrrrr. We had a nice talk the other night that ended in tears(mine, not his). He basically told me that he didn't want anymore. That if we had another his life was basically over. All I heard of course was "me me me me me". I don't know what to think or do right now. /QUOTE]
Girlie, that's the best opening line I've ever heard! I am soooo sorry! You know I know how you feel and I'm sorry. I wish I could give you all the advice I was given but I can't remember it all. DH's work had a program for counseling and it might really help to get some advice like I did. When my DH finally jumped on board w/ this ttc, we were out of the house on a date, had some drinks and a great time, and the conversation went so much better. It might help just to get you both in a different element (we were out cuz our church was starting the book 10 great dates which has a really fun 1st assignment to talk about).
I hear a lot of men talk about their families being "complete" and not understanding why they need anymore DC. It's not a bad thing, and pretty common. It must stem from somewhere, though. Maybe if you go out on a date, have some drinks and relax you can get him to open up and really get to the deeper surface of why he thinks that. Like is it money, space, stress on him as a man, feeling like he can't stretch himself anymore, he's worried about your stress or doesn't get enough alone time w/ you as it is etc. Then, you can really see where his heart is, understand him and speak directly to his concerns. Men think so much differently then we do and they are not going to always understand this deep longing a lot of women have to help create life. This is a huge subject and we need to know where each other is truly at.You may have already done this though, and I get off my soapbox. :)
My counselor told me that for the sake of our marriage we really needed to come to some kind of middle ground. I was like there is no middle ground, either we do or we don't and someone has to lose. I can't say that he'll agree with you but let him know that he needs to just listen to you and see where you heart is.
A lot of men also seem to ask, "If I give you one more child, will that be enough or will we never be done", and you need to sort of think about that. Personally, my answer is, I'm not sure how I'll feel but I know that right now I am longing to do this again.
I'm thinking about you and I hope you will be OK. You might need to just give him a break for a couple weeks or month and bring it up again. When I was trying to convince DH for baby #4, he was saying no no no. I left it alone for a couple months and when I brought it up again he said yes. I heard him tell someone else that when I waited a while and brought it up again, he knew how important it was to me and that's when he agreed. FYI - I then decided I would be OK if he didn't want #4 and may have been pregnant even when I told him that. Oops! :)
Hope this helps a little. B prayin for you! :hugs:
I have a feeling I may have ovulated TWICE this month... see my thread "help with crazy cycle" lol... I think it may have caused a sudden surge in hormones?
Awwww you are too sweet. And to you, I really appreciate you, Begonia. You made me feel so welcome and at home when I was stressin about my sway. I'm so glad you are here and you are super down to earth!Quote:
Originally Posted by begonia
I know I'm a little long winded and I try to be funny....I do get a lot of odd looks though, when I make little cracks in my day to day life. Good thing I don't have to see this groups odd looks when reading my posts, though, and I've yet to get the rollin eye emoticon so I'm feelin pretty good w/ my sarcasm so far here. :)
I appreciate this forum so much and love the women here. I guess having a lot of drama in your life gives you some perspective.....that, and like several years on most of these girls. :( LOL!
Ohhhh, it's so nice that your life is so frickin' perfect! You have my permission to b**** slap the next person who says that to you. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by begonia
Begonia I completely agree with you! My absolute worst comment I cannot stand is whenever someone I know IRL or facebook has a boy/girl family, they call it the million dollar family. It makes my skin crawl. My family is just as amazing with two DDs...it drives me crazy!!!
Iluvmyman...have you POAS yet? I am not sure when I will do it. Trying to wait and see if I miss AF but I dont think I have the
willpower. I am trying to think I am not pregnant so I am not disappointed. Man this was easier when I wasnt tracking everything!!
Good luck to anyone else in 2ww.
Really!? The million Dollar family! who came up with the stupid saying? You can have a "million dollar family" and be miserable. That's so dumb! Why does our society continue to set these unreachable precedents! The people who coined that phrase are probably the same people that think you shouldn't have more than 2-3 children.Quote:
Originally Posted by princessap
Princess, I did POAS a few days ago (BFN) and will POAS in the morning but I really don't think I'll get a BFP. I think tomorrow will be 11dpo. I should start AF on Wed but there is NO WAY I can wait that long. You should POAS in the morning w/ me. :)
OK Begonia, I know you see right through me. I did POAS this morning (I couldn't help myself) and it's still negative. I'm bummed cuz I don't want to eat the diet anymore. I've been drinking carmel frapps again and I feel guilty either way and I don't want to do the diet again. It's so all consuming for me (everything but the kitchen sink of coarse). I like milk, and sour cream gosh darn it! :) I wasn't really prepared for this to take longer than a month once we tried.
I really don't know how people do this for so long, but I know i will cuz I really, really want this! :) Ok, I'm done w/ my fit now. I really doubt I'll get a BFP in the morning. :tissue: :bigsmile:
Hey babydes! Welcome back hun.
I'm dropping L'arg too!!! Good to hear that the EPO didn't change your cycle I might try it next time ..Quote:
Originally Posted by begonia
How sad :sad: I am so sorry girl. I really hope your DH change his mind. Talk to him only in the right time. Take care. ((HUGS))Quote:
Originally Posted by mmsgirlie22
Wow ..Its hard. You are a good daughter for helping your mom and I hope she can find place soon? What does she plan on doing, 10 people living in the same house I would go crazy. I really hope your mom gets better very soon. XOXOQuote:
Originally Posted by TTC5
Make that 11 now, my sister is coming too. that is another long story.
Mum is up and down right now, but I have a few appointments for her with social worker, drs and public housing to help us out.
I'd rather live squashed and have my Mum better in the long run, just a small sacrifice to pay for a woman who spent many years raising me and going without herself.