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No itchy nipples here neither, but my breasts have been tender since beginning of this pregnancy. And they have grown to doble size!
Like you GirlieC I also think this takes forever. I am week 29 now so also in my third trimester [emoji120][emoji4]. Nausea has returned and I feel like a whale. I gained 17 kilo! My DH is also not so nice at the moment. He feels guilt because he dosen't feel the same exitement as I do and is stressing and worrying about how we can handle a fourth child workwise, moneywise and as a family. He think life right now is more than enough work. I hope his worries disapear the moment he hold his daughter.


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GirlieCat, you shouldn't leak enough colostrum to where it would go through your bra, so nothing to worry about lol. I haven't heard that about going over with your first...I had the opposite! Lol Had DS1 at 36+2 weeks, DS2 at 38w, DS3 at 39+6w and DS4 at 40+6 weeks ugh! Really really hoping I don't go over with this one..this pregnancy has seriously sucked the whole time!

29+2 now. Had midwives appt yesterday. Bub growing nicely, heart rate good. Glucose test and bloodwork normal. Thank goodness. Will be so glad when she's finally here and I don't feel like sh*t anymore

What is it with these girl pregancies? Maybe there is some truth about feeling like shit when carrying girls. I heard this from many. Could it be the massive amount of girl hormones in your body?


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Mummyof4boys & Kelbear - Such awesome pictures !
Thank you for sharing them with us.

Girliecat - Not leaking yet, although sometimes I wake up with a little bit of 'crust' on my nipples (That sounds so gross!) which I googled and they said it is colosturm.

All my family know now, my Grandpa cried and told me my Nana had sent the baby down from heaven (which made me cry too).

We went to see the consultant to have a growth scan - 28 weeks and buba is 2.1lbs which I think is good.
Consultant thinks I need constant monitoring as she suspects baby will get into distress at home birth ....she thinks I may develop placental insufficiency because of medication.
Hearing that my idea of the perfect birth, could result in a tragedy is really overwhelming.

Try not to worry too much about the birth MrsSparkles, hopefully all will go as you hope.
I had borderline results with my gestational diabetes test with my first pregnancy and had to change my diet so I understand how challenging that can be girliecat, I found it got easier as I got used to it so I hope you find the same. I also found that if I did have a treat or more in one meal than I should have that a 20 min walk helped keep my blood sugar levels within range. With a change in diet and a small amount of walking (20-30 mins once or twice a day) I was able to keep everything in range and Bub was not adversely affected and was a good weight and had no blood sugar issues at birth. I hope it gets easier for you and you don't stress about it too much. You might also find that you put on less weight/gain slower with your changed diet as I put on 8 kg in first 2 trimesters then only 3 1/2 kg in the last trimester once I had to change my diet. Try not to stress about it too much.

Thanks Kelbear, I'll try not to worry.

How is everyone doing on shopping ?
We have the pram, crib, and I think enough clothes for newborn age, still adding to the 0-3 month pile.
My Dad is in the USA next week, so he's going to Carters, and Target for me.....I know most Americans will probably think ewwwww. But seriously I LOVE Target, it's a novelty for me :blue cheer:
Anyone have any recommendations for cute baby clothes (in the USA), so I can get him to stop by there.

Kelbear, I totally agree that the new diet will help with weight control because I literally feel like I am on a weight loss diet with the way I am eating more protein and less sugars. Also switched to brown rice, wheat pasta and whole grain breads. I am getting used to it, but I do miss my morning kids cereal...which doc said to cut down to just once or twice a week instead of daily. I am very weight conscious but I am actually under the normal weight gain because of it. I am 28 weeks and have only gained 11 pounds (5 kg) so the new food recommendations are really only about controlling sugars and not weight.

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Thanks Kelbear, I'll try not to worry.

How is everyone doing on shopping ?
We have the pram, crib, and I think enough clothes for newborn age, still adding to the 0-3 month pile.
My Dad is in the USA next week, so he's going to Carters, and Target for me.....I know most Americans will probably think ewwwww. But seriously I LOVE Target, it's a novelty for me :blue cheer:
Anyone have any recommendations for cute baby clothes (in the USA), so I can get him to stop by there.

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Sparkles, you made me laugh because I live about 4 minutes from Target and almost never shop there, but I did do my baby registry there since others shop there and they have a good baby section. If you like Carter's brand, I would skip going to a carters store and instead go to a store called Kohl's who carries carter brand but cheaper. Avoid Babies R us- they are way over priced compared to Target and Kohl's. I personally like Walmart for baby clothes but that is largely a cost thing.

We bought a crib yesterday from someone selling a new one they never used. I got it 50% off the retail price. That is all I have bought. My mom and sis have bought her lots of clothes, but I haven't personally bought anything. Hoping to find a dresser for her room soon, then we will paint and slowly start putting the nursery together. We are a long way from being ready but that has to do with waiting for baby shower in May to see if I get the important items.

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Sparkles, you made me laugh because I live about 4 minutes from Target and almost never shop there, but I did do my baby registry there since others shop there and they have a good baby section. If you like Carter's brand, I would skip going to a carters store and instead go to a store called Kohl's who carries carter brand but cheaper. Avoid Babies R us- they are way over priced compared to Target and Kohl's. I personally like Walmart for baby clothes but that is largely a cost thing.

We bought a crib yesterday from someone selling a new one they never used. I got it 50% off the retail price. That is all I have bought. My mom and sis have bought her lots of clothes, but I haven't personally bought anything. Hoping to find a dresser for her room soon, then we will paint and slowly start putting the nursery together. We are a long way from being ready but that has to do with waiting for baby shower in May to see if I get the important items.

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Thanks for the tips, I am going to check out Kohls and Walmart websites after I post.

I bought a crib used too...well it was pretty immaculate. Their baby had grown out of it really quick, so I got a brand new mattress to fit it.
All up for bargains :D There's no point spending a ton of money on things that are going to be used for only a year or less.

I've bought almost nothing for the baby because my mum has spent so much on clothes and baby gear - all pink and mostly with cats all over them LOL! she's a crazy cat lady and determined to brainwash my kids haha. I think the only thing left to get is a new car capsule and maybe a Moses basket. Although, if she's anything like her brothers, she will be a crappy sleeper and I'll just end up mostly babywearing. Got a nice stash of baby carriers ready lol

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I've bought almost nothing for the baby because my mum has spent so much on clothes and baby gear - all pink and mostly with cats all over them LOL! she's a crazy cat lady and determined to brainwash my kids haha. I think the only thing left to get is a new car capsule and maybe a Moses basket. Although, if she's anything like her brothers, she will be a crappy sleeper and I'll just end up mostly babywearing. Got a nice stash of baby carriers ready lol

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That's so kind of your Mum, make the most of her generosity I say ;)
Must be so exciting being able to get all the pink stuff after 4 boys :D

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That's so kind of your Mum, make the most of her generosity I say ;)
Must be so exciting being able to get all the pink stuff after 4 boys :D

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Mum has gone overboard with everything which has saved us a lot of money! I haven't come to terms with having a girl after 4 boys..I'm not letting myself get excited because I know US techs do make mistakes. I think a lot of this doubt is because of hubby. Whenever I show him something girly that I've bought he'll say "Well lets hope it's a girl then" or some other insensitive comment...makes me want to cry every time :( He still isn't convinced because that stupid stupid Intelligender pee test said boy. I still refer to baby as "it". I was hoping so badly that they'd be able to show him on the 3d US that is was definitely a girl so he could see for himself, but no, baby's feet were crossed right in the spot we needed to see and wouldn't budge! Just wish the next 10 weeks would speed up and be done with! Sick of feeling miserable all the time :(

Mummy, I am sorry you don't feel confident in baby being a girl. I have had 3 ultrasounds since the blood test showed girl and each time I hold my breath when they look for gender. All three have said girl so I am finally feeling confident.

We finished our birthing classes through the hospital, but they were very generic and not focus on a particular birth type (they covered natural, medicated and c-section). I am very set on doing a no pain med, all natural birth. Any other moms have suggestions on what to read or watch to help with techniques for achieving a natural birth?

Girls, I can I please ask about your opinion? I might book a 3D scan just for fun but wonder if there could be any risk to the baby? I have a friend who claims that ultra scans are not good for baby and should be avoided if possible. Do you think it is better not to take the scan?


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Mummy, I am sorry you don't feel confident in baby being a girl. I have had 3 ultrasounds since the blood test showed girl and each time I hold my breath when they look for gender. All three have said girl so I am finally feeling confident.

We finished our birthing classes through the hospital, but they were very generic and not focus on a particular birth type (they covered natural, medicated and c-section). I am very set on doing a no pain med, all natural birth. Any other moms have suggestions on what to read or watch to help with techniques for achieving a natural birth?

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I have had unmedicated vaginal births for all of my children. The best advice I can give you is practice various breathing techniques. With DS1, I ended up using the Lamaze breathing technique (it's just what worked for me at the time). With DS2, repetitive breathing helped me stay ahead of the pain. That is the key. To get your mind right, you have to stay ahead of the pain. If you allow yourself to feel the pain in the moment instead of rising above it, you will be so overwhelmed. Ride the pain like a wave- it will come on gradually, it will peak, then it lets up so you can have a break. Use the time between contractions to calm your mind, regroup, and rest a bit. Keep breathing though. I always find breathing deeply in between contractions helps me. I also squeeze my DH's hand during the peak of the contraction. It helps me to release the pain and not hold onto it. Plus, it makes my DH feel like he's helping me (he is in a big way!). I always bring a stress ball to squeeze in case he needed a break, but he never does. I never found distractions like music helped me. I don't like to be distracted- I like to be in the moment- this helps me deal with the pain better.

You got this! FX and GL to you!!



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Oh, and different positions helped. With DS2 I had horrendous back labor because he was facing the wrong way. My OB had me go onto all fours and that helped SO much! I knew when he twisted the right way because the pain was SO much more manageable!

With DS3, I needed to walk around. My OB let me pace in the room until I needed to push. I walked the entire time, breathing, and squeezing DH's hand!



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Girls, I can I please ask about your opinion? I might book a 3D scan just for fun but wonder if there could be any risk to the baby? I have a friend who claims that ultra scans are not good for baby and should be avoided if possible. Do you think it is better not to take the scan?


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I have had 5 ultrasounds so far and have a 3D one in a few weeks. I don't see anything wrong with them, but that is me.

Thanks XX. I think I am not a distraction type either, but more a focus and rise above so your advise was awesome!! I am going to research and work on breathing techniques. We went over some in my class but I need more practice and options.

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Thanks XX. I think I am not a distraction type either, but more a focus and rise above so your advise was awesome!! I am going to research and work on breathing techniques. We went over some in my class but I need more practice and options.

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You're welcome! Definitely practice a few, because those that may seem silly now but may be just what works later. That's how I felt about the Lamaze breathing. I thought at the time there was no way I would choose that one, but that was the only one that helped me with the hard and fast labor with my DS1.



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I had 'Ina Mays : guide to childbirth" recommended to me on here.
It's incredible, and fills me with confidence that I can have an unmedicated birth.
Would highly recommend it !

I have had all of mine unmedicated except the last one. I was given an IV drug (can't remember which one) and I will never do that again. On top of not doing much for the pain, I was hallucinating and had to really focus on the fact that I was having a baby. It was nuts. And I lost 2 hours with my baby. I can't remember his first 2 hours of life. Gone.

Deep breathing helps me through it the best. But that is what works for me. I have to have my DH there to remind me to breath because I have a bad habit of holding my breath. And I have realized when I get to the point of "I can't take this anymore" it is right at the transition to pushing. SO now I know when I feel that, it is almost over.

I will say that I have nice quick labors, I am not sure I could do it for many many hours, so just remember that if you need to, there are other options.

Thank you all. I will look into that book Sparkles.

Anyone watch the Ellen show? I applied to her Mother's Day Special today. It is for pregnant mom's expecting their first baby and films in the LA area the 2nd week of May (in case anyone else is in this area). I am praying so hard that I get a ticket. She gives away so much free stuff and it would be a huge blessing to get to go.

Weirdest thing happen today...it was like a flash back to first trimester. I ate breakfast and within minutes felt sick and minutes later threw it all up and then some. I felt fine after but it was just so strange. Hope it was a one time fluke.

On another note, how many Braxton hicks are other ladies getting daily? I get at least 12 a day, although I am not counting, doc isn't concerned, but I was just wondering what it is like for others.

I'm almost 20 weeks and have been getting Braxton hicks for the longest time as well! Just found out I'm having a baby girl after two boys and I am shocked! I had bv when I conceived (sways boy) and wasn't swaying girl at all at the time. Sometimes I wonder if the gender of a child has a lot to do with the man!

I get lots of Braxton Hicks as well. Kind of freaks me out sometimes because they are so uncomfortable! Midwives say it's perfectly normal as long as they aren't painful.

I still have moments like that too GirlieCat. My sickness never entirely went away though. It's not the same nauseous feeling I had but I still feel sick and bloated in the stomach like I need to vomit. Plus I still have the awful after taste a lot of the time which makes it worse. I spewed while brushing my teeth yesterday lol. Oh the joys of pregnancy haha. 9 weeks 3 days to go! Eeeek!!

Hi ladies. How is everyone doing? This is a very quiet group. I am 30 weeks today and full of emotions- still feels unreal, scared, nervous, uncomfortable and impatient. I wish I could say I was excited too but that is never an emotion I feel when I think of her being born. I am struggling with the concept of being a mom...

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Weirdest thing happen today...it was like a flash back to first trimester. I ate breakfast and within minutes felt sick and minutes later threw it all up and then some. I felt fine after but it was just so strange. Hope it was a one time fluke.

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I could have written this myself !
Happened this morning and yesterday, I didn't throw up, but the nausea was so strong it kept stopping me in my tracks.

How are you feeling today ?

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I'm almost 20 weeks and have been getting Braxton hicks for the longest time as well! Just found out I'm having a baby girl after two boys and I am shocked! I had bv when I conceived (sways boy) and wasn't swaying girl at all at the time. Sometimes I wonder if the gender of a child has a lot to do with the man!

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Congratulations !
And yes, I think it is all up to the man really, but swaying helps the boy or girl swimmers survive or not !

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I still have moments like that too GirlieCat. My sickness never entirely went away though. It's not the same nauseous feeling I had but I still feel sick and bloated in the stomach like I need to vomit. Plus I still have the awful after taste a lot of the time which makes it worse. I spewed while brushing my teeth yesterday lol. Oh the joys of pregnancy haha. 9 weeks 3 days to go! Eeeek!!

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Nooooo, whilst briushing your teeth. Hope you're feeling better x

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Hi ladies. How is everyone doing? This is a very quiet group. I am 30 weeks today and full of emotions- still feels unreal, scared, nervous, uncomfortable and impatient. I wish I could say I was excited too but that is never an emotion I feel when I think of her being born. I am struggling with the concept of being a mom...

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Hi GirlieCat,

is it the actual being a Mom that leaves you feeling this way ?

I am excited for labour, and birthing this little man.
Feeling confident that my body will know what to do, and the amazing bonds that will happen (Me and DH, and both of us and baby).

When I think too far ahead though, I do start to panic a bit.
Like "How am I going to keep this baby alive, and how am i going to raise a well rounded individual"
That's natural though isn't it ? I hope it is.

Dear GirlieC and all other due-buddies. I am 30+ weeks like you G and counting the days until my due date. I am still very exhausted and have also nausea often. This pregnancy has been a hard one compared to my previous 3. Maybe it is because of my age. Maybe it is because I am carrying a girl this time. I don't have much energy and count the days until I can go on maternity leave.

GirlieC, I think it is normal to feel scared and struggling with the concept of being a mom. Just relax and don't blame yourself for feeling this way. Does your DH feel the same as you or is he exited?
Yes, this is a quiet group. Think everyone are busy and have little time to chat.



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I am not sure why I feel this way. Everyone always says "Oh you must be so excited" and all I think is...uh no. Hubby isn't excited either. I think it still all seems unreal to both of us. We are going through the motions of doing what we need to do to prepare (nursery, registered, planning baby shower) but I still can't image us coming home with a baby and being a family of 3 now. It freaks me out and doesn't seem real.

I think we were so focused on the goal of just getting pregnant (when I didn't think I could) and then having a girl (when so many told us to expect a boy) that those were our goals...forgot that those goals lead to an actual human that we will be responsible for. I am sure hormones are not helping because I am definitely more emotional these past couple weeks.

I will be fine eventually, but lately it is just hard to not get stressed out by all that needs to be done still and the wonder of when she will come and how labor will go and how things will be once she is home. Hubby tries to be supportive, but he sucks at anything emotional. He can cook, clean and fix things, but he can't have a conversation about emotions if his life depended on it.

GirlieCat, I remember feeling exactly the same way in my third tri with my first baby. It's normal to be nervous and it's normal not to be able to picture what life will be like after the baby comes!

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GirlieCat- It felt so surreal to me with my first child. I had just gotten my mind around to TTC, when Bam!, we got pregnant! I remember feeling like, "Oh crap! I've got to deliver this baby and take care of him! How the hell am I supposed to do that?!?" It all felt so foreign to me. I went through the motions with people, because I was still trying to process my feelings. It wasn't until the nurse laid him on my chest, and I whispered his name into his ear, that I felt unconditional love for him. I became his advocate when he was in the NICU, and we had the nurse from HELL! I still recall feeling primal love for him that shocked me in its strength. I never saw myself as the motherly type, but it changes you when you go through labor and meet this little person who is completely dependent upon you. Trust me, when you meet her, your bond will be forged, and it will forever change you!

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XX said it perfectly!! I think a lot of us have these feelings before becoming parents. My husband and I never wanted kids but he is 12 years older than me, so when he was approaching 40 his attitude changed and he felt like he did want to be a dad after all! I didn't really care either way so just sort of agreed to it. We got married fairly quickly (eloped with 2 family members as witnesses) once we decided, as we'd already been engaged for 3 years and just never found the perfect time to do so (issues with my mum). Literally a couple weeks after we got married I fell pregnant first go! The pregnancy wasn't too bad looking back, easy compared to this one lol, but my waters broke at 36 weeks and I delivered 10 hours later. I was scared not knowing what to expect and it wasn't a good birthing experience and hospital stay at all! But despite that, it was instant love when they placed him on my chest. Having a child truly does change you for the better I believe.

I should also add that every birth is different so don't be scared that you may have a bad experience too. My 3rd son's birth was the most amazing, empowering, wonderful, healing experience! I'm so hoping this one will be the same :)

Hi everyone,

I'm in my 31st week now. DH and I are very excited to become parents. I made multiple trips to the library to check out tons and tons of parenting books. In the end I returned most of them almost immediately and only read four: Bringing Up Bebe, Secrets of the Baby Whisperer, Dear Parent, and Montessori from the Start. I'm also keeping Baby 411, The Nursing Mother's Companion, and The Diaper-Free Baby on hand. Between these books, all the handouts and videos our doula recommended we watch, and upcoming classes we will take, I feel like I'll have as much baby knowledge as I care to have before the birth. :)

I've started to slowly buy baby items, a few new things every week although it looks like I'll have one big order of $250 to take advantage of the Amazon completion discount. My goal is to have everything ready by week 36. It doesn't seem like we'll be having a baby shower.

We officially started our landscaping project a month ago, but rain has really slowed us down. I'm just praying everything is done and we get our garage back (currently being used to store various garden stuff) by the time baby arrives. I think it will be.

There's been a lot of drama with my mom lately. The latest thing I really need to deal with is to tell my parents that we will *not* be staying with them after the birth. My mom kept mentioning the possibility and now my dad is explicitly saying he thinks it's best if we stay at their house for 4-6 weeks after the birth. They live 12 miles away from our house and I was really envisioning that they would come to us when they have time and then *go home*. My dad works part-time and my mom is also busy so them staying at our house is not in consideration.

I've also lined up a few possible people that could come up to 15 hours/week (I don't want to pay for more than that) to supplement any family help we get. I hope that's enough.

What's your due date Amelia? Must be pretty close to mine :) I don't blame you for not wanting to stay with them. I couldn't think of anything worse! Lol. My MIL who i love dearly, came to stay for a couple weeks when DS1 was 4 weeks old and she drove me mental!!! I know she meant well, but I couldn't stand being told how to do things the "right way". It was quite funny sometimes as he had bad colic and she didn't know what to do with him either lol. Hubby suggested she come stay when this Bub is born and I replied with a "HELL NO!!" Haha

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Dear GirlieC and all other due-buddies. I am 30+ weeks like you G and counting the days until my due date. I am still very exhausted and have also nausea often. This pregnancy has been a hard one compared to my previous 3. Maybe it is because of my age. Maybe it is because I am carrying a girl this time. I don't have much energy and count the days until I can go on maternity leave.

GirlieC, I think it is normal to feel scared and struggling with the concept of being a mom. Just relax and don't blame yourself for feeling this way. Does your DH feel the same as you or is he exited?
Yes, this is a quiet group. Think everyone are busy and have little time to chat.



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That's really good advice!

It must be so much harder to be pregnant when you have another child too.
Saw this on Mama Naturals Youtube, made me think of what 2nd time around would be like lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkCXGTNmhcI

Definitely think this group is quiet, maybe because we have a lot of opposites, and people are sad ?