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Baby is healthy..we'll have a tribe of three girlies.
Happy Bub is good but admittedly had to fight back tears...so disappointed, I was so sure this was my boy. No wa hubby would ever ever do HT and gender selection, and not even sure he will ever agree to a fourth. Just shattered. :(
I l ow I will love her but the thought of another girl just kills me..I know it's Terri Le terrible to say that, but I just don't think I can cope.
Oh LMSM I'm so sorry you are feeling so down xxoo big hugs and give youself a break, you only just found out, you will cope. Your thoughts and feelings will settle down in time to come. Let them be what they are for now. You're only human and entitled to feel this crushing disappointment. It will pass. Big hugs again xxoo treat yourself kindly today. Get takeout for dinner and take a nice long warm bath with a book or some candles.
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Īm a terrible mum, I want her to Be someone different than what she is...when she was clearly meant to be. I know I will love her and it's selfish to be so greedy, when she is healthy. I know how many are desperate for a girl and I am /will be blessed with three healthy lively girls..I think the fact is more letting go of ever having a little boy that looks like my hubby that is hard. Why I even thought I could be so lucky to have a healthy Bub, fall pregnant quickly AnD my dreamed gender...how foolish.
For now I need to cry , it will get bette after but the thought of announcing gender and getting comments kills me already..
Take care ladies :HH:
You're not a terrible mum. You're grieving for a lost dream and that is all. Be kind to yourself and yes cry it out and keep talking xxoo
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Oh LMSM - Big hugs my dear. You are a wonderful mom who dreamt of having a boy and worked hard for it. It's ok to feel sad. Doesn't mean that you will love your little girl any less. You are grieving for a different reason and you are allowed to feel the way you are feeling. Isn't that the reason we all are here. Trying to make our dream come true. I m so so sorry that you didn't hear boy. My heart breaks for you. Its only natural to be sad. I must say all you ladies are so brave. I still don't feel ready to find out the gender. As if that's going to magically make the baby what I want to hear. You are a smart, brave and loving mom. Cry if you need to and then we will take one day at a time. We are here sweet. Pls share. We all are in this together and can't do it without each other. I wish I could come and give you a big hug.
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Oh LMSM, (((Huge Hugs)))! This is the time to process your feelings! You're definitely not a terrible mom! Please don't try to force yourself to feel something before you're ready to! Give yourself the time you need, even if it takes all pregnancy. We are here for you!
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*hugs from someone who understands*
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Lmsm - so sorry you didn't hear boy. So glad she's healthy! Take your time to come to terms and you are not a bad mum xo love and hugs
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LMSM, my dear so sorry!!!! Sending you lots of love. We are all here for you....
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You're not a terrible mum at all lmsm! I've been there had the gd bad with my fourth baby. It's crushing when you feel baby is one gender and then discover nope different gender. You are grieving the baby you dreamt up not one growing in your womb. You will be a good mum to her just as you are your other girls and the love and bond is always amazing for sure! Right now grieve and get it out and maybe once bub is here and you still want to try again maybe dh will want to as well by then. So many hugs!
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LMSM - so sorry you didn't hear boy. Let yourself take time to be sad. You're not disappointed with this baby, just disappointed for a lost dream. Take care of yourself. Hugs x
Awee LMSM hugs. I am so sorry u didnt hear boy but glad to hear baby is healthy. I have been in ur exact position so i know how u feel. Let urself grieve and don't keep it in we r here for u. Time will heal eventually
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Awww LMSM I know this all to well. I was upset with ds2 cried with ds3 and bawled with ds4. You aren't wrong to think this could have been your boy you had just as good of a chance as the rest of us. Give yourself time to cope and don't share the news until your ready. It is so hard to "fake" you didn't mind gender in front of everyone! Just tell them your not finding out!
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(((HUGS))) LMSM. You are a wonderful Mum!!! I have felt the same way as you. It is perfectly normal. I too wonder how I am going to cope with my house of boys. You will do GREAT! Let yourself be sad. It is normal. You know you love this new baby so much already. Hang in there and talk to us no matter what. We all understand.
I am so so happy that your baby is healthy! (((HUGS)))
Lmsm-I'm sorry you're disappointed. You have the whole pregnancy to come to terms with baby being a girl and I'm sure you'll love her just the same as your other 2 and it doesn't make you a bad person for wanting a certain gender.
Everyone that is where the weather is crappy. Stay safe and dry!
I guess I'm just surprised the BH started so early seeing as though I'm on #3 and never had this before. They don't hurt and aren't uncomfortable so I'm not concerned at all, I know I'll go overdue regardless. I'm shooting for a valentines baby this go around (i'm due the 5th) lol.
Thanks max!! They came today! ❤️
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Mommy if you get to where you need more opk I have about 25 wondfo left I think I'd be more than happy to mail them to ya
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Thanks so much Ash! That means a lot to me! [emoji8] All you ladies are The best!
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Yw I don't think you'll need them though [emoji120]🤞
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Thank you! I'm hoping they work this cycle for sure!!
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LMSM-Congrats on 3 healthy girlies [emoji175]I'm sorry for your disappointment, it's only natural! Huge HUGS!! Retail therapy always helps...go buy yourself some cute maternity clothes or anything that would make you feel happy at the moment! Watch sappy movies & cry it out if it helps! You are absolutely NOT a terrible mom!! Take the time you need to come to terms with it & in the end you will be holding a beautiful baby girl who needs & loves her momma [emoji173]
Weather update: With the latest hurricane track, looks like SC will be spared the brunt of this storm. We may have flooding, strong winds, heavy rain & possibly tornadoes. However, it looks like it's headed straight for South Florida & up through GA. Praying so hard for them! This storm is massive & going to be catastrophic [emoji17]Living on the coast & being so close to the Beach & waterways, we are probably still going to evacuate early tomorrow AM! Packing & securing items from outside our house today. Ugh, not looking forward to this!!
So many prayers Lola!
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Huge hugs Lola! I'm glad you're evacuating anyway! Please update us when you can!
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Lola, so crazy...but glad you're spared. Be safe!!!
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Omg xx, you're 36+5!!!!
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Me again... :)
Has anyone used one of these? Looks like an amazing idea to get your belly back after delivery. Curious to get thoughts...
Postpartum Bellefit Corset - Lynzy & Co.
Lola, glad you hear you are taking safety measures anyway! Praying for everyone!
So I just have to put this out there because all of you ladies will understand. My SIL just gave birth to a little girl last weekend. So for days I have been bombarded with pics of her. I am very happy for her and DHs family (especially since she had a bad miscarriage before this and was in labor for 40 hours), but it is cutting like a knife. She has a little 3yo boy and now a little girl. I was quite jealous when they found out. But the worst of it was today when my MIL put up a pic of her with the baby. She made a comment that was innocent, but stung quite a bit. She said "after 5 grandsons, it is nice to have a little girl, I am ready for pink and frills." I just started crying after reading that FB comment. It feels like our boys aren't enough. :( Sorry. Just had to put it out there to people who understand how hurtful those comments can be.
It does not help that EVERYONE comments that they bet this one is our girl. Even after I assure them that we are most likely having a boy, they are adamant that, nope, this will be a girl. UGH. Some people.
Max I've never used one before but plan to this time. For the belly back and for the postpartum cramping that gets worse with every baby [emoji37]. AND bellefit has postpartum leggings also that I'm going to HAVE to try!
Shan I'm so sorry I know she didn't mean anything from it because I've had those before this will be the first great grand girl after 7 boys. It does hurt [emoji20] I'm sorry
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Hugs Shann! ❤️
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Wait max the postpartum leggings I want are by belly bandit ❤️ they look amazing
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Oh got it!!! I know that brand ash, will look it up!!
Shan, I have something similar but on DH's side there are 9 granddaughters and no grandsons. Several years ago my father in law said to me (jokingly but probably also partly seriously) "all these granddaughters and none of you could give me a grandson"? I thought that was so strange...all healthy, wonderful kids, what more could you ask for? This time around I know they will be praying for a boy and I can only imagine the comments coming my way also. Hang in there and try to ignore....
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Lol the pressure will be on when me or my sil finally conceive as well, because boys outnumber the girls a lot!
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Max and Ash- Belly Bandit Mother Tucker corset is the way to go! I've used it for 2 of my 3 pregnancies so far and just got a new one. It totally helps with the back pain postpartum and helps with relieving pain as your organs move back to where they belong! I can't do the leggings- I just wear regular ones. They make my sciatic nerve pain worse because they compress too much.
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(((Huge Hugs))) Shannshaff! We are here for you!
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Stay safe lola.
I understand how you feel shann. My DD1 was my MIL's 4th and since then i have been having to deal with such comments each time i have been pregnant. U'd think i'd get used to them by now but nope they still hurt as bad
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LSMS - (hugs) - I'm surprised for you!! I really think you'll get excited in time. It's not that you want to change the baby you are carrying, it's that you lost a dream.
Shann- I totally get it. On MY side there's 1 grandson and he is definitely the favorite. Like my Dad gets him extra gifts at Christmas bc he's the only boy - what the he((? As mad as it makes me, it makes me sister upset too bc her daughter, his sister doesn't get why he gets more. At least my kids are oblivious! My husband and I laugh about (even though sometimes it make my blood boil) bc he's such a girlie boy, doesn't like to be outside and is SO fussy. But, somehow still favored. I've come to terms with it knowing it's the grandparents loss. If they don't see the amazing grandchildren due to gender then again that's their loss.
Max- soo that girdle, like how does that flap work for peeing and (sorry this is gross) but bleeding?? I saw that, but my belly comes back pretty fast, I guess bc I'm tall it never gets that big. I just always carry 10 pounds in my face/arms/legs/butt until I quit nursing and work my butt off.
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On a good note, 18 week growing belly!
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Kat-cute bump!! Still little!! Same granite that Ash & I have lol.