Dreaming Pink Opposites Due Winter 2013/14

Charlee, you expressed how you feel about being an opp on the longtermers thread perfectly. That's exactly how I feel. This forum has been a big part of my life for a year now & I still feel the pull. But omg it really hurts to see those with hope for pink or already know they're having a girl. I feel such a failure & like there's very little hope for next time. What really stings the most is that I even c*cked it up whilst on Clomid. That's some going! I don't know where it leaves me for next time.

I know my need to control it & get it right was my biggest mistake but I'm hopeless at just throwing caution to the wind. I heard a lady I used to go to toddlers with had her dd after 2 boys this week. I knew she would too. The irony, huh?! If I only relaxed about it all it could've been me. She was convinced she'd be having ds3 too. I feel so stupid. I'm in constant turmoil over wanting to control every aspect of my next sway & knowing it's the worst thing for me to do. I need a genuine oops! 

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This must be my life's lesson in patience & letting go of trying to.control things. Hmmm, I'm learning the bloody hard way! 

Sorry for the pity party, really feeling down today.

2lb, huge hugs. I feel very alone irl just now and just want this one here so I can shower him with love - although not right now!!

Please don't stay away the support is so valuable on this thread. X x

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Dreamofpink u brought tears to my eyes, I totally understand how you feel! I'm very emotional 2day! A friend irl due in dec has found out she is expecting a girl, it hit me harder than I expected it to!
Don't feel a failure about your sway esp not with the clomid, I also took it (CD3-7 50mg), I think I would include it again(desperation now talking!) So i also did something drastically wrong! Arrrrgggghhhhh it's horrible feeling like this!

I feel my boy tendencies of control kicking in now 2, already thinking and planning another sway (CRAZY), it's all about the control! Maybe if I research it all now with DS3 on board I can relax with the info in front of me later? But saying that I wonder if I should take a step back and think of this little one more and concentrate on my family of 3 boys!

I don't have a lot more on my brother...the newest news gives hope that he will heal and walk...but I think that it will be long road ahead.

I don't want to intrude in on this space as I know (for the last 4 weeks) how it feels to have any comments of the opposite gender mentioned when you are most vulnerable and needing the support of moms in the same position as you. I have valued your love and support and think the world of my fellow mums!!!

Lots of (((hugs))))!!!!!

Hey Ladies,
Just coming by to say Hi and see how everyone is doing! We had planned on waiting until Dec. to find out the gender but I'm starting to second guess if it's a good idea or not. I'm pretty much banking on a boy (my sway pretty much was no-existent the month I got my BFP, as the 4 months I swayed I went from being super fertile to losing O and booking an appt. with the fertility doc. I finally realized it wasn't worth it and I had to drop the diet. A month after dropping and eating healthy again I got my BFP - so lets be honest.. totally a boy!) It's been hard seeing the recent girl ultrasound updates and has made me realize that I may want to step away from this site. I feel like it's almost making things worse! I'm so alone in real life being the only person with all boys and it annoying enough already - then having to see people in the same situation as you get their girl makes you feel more alone again! I just wanted to say I fully feel the way you both are and want you to know you aren't alone! One of my biggest annoyances with all this is that I've never once been able to enjoy a pregnancy due to the looming gender factor and knowing how no one will be happy if I have a boy. If it weren't for the negative comments and peoples reactions I would be so happy with a family of all boys. I just hate the pressure that your family isn't perfect and people pity you (when I do love my life with my boys!) It all totally sucks. Anyways... thinking of you ladies! xo

Msblakely (and boy mamas),

Your previous post totally hits home. I just found out I am pregnant with 4th boy(last babe) a few weeks ago. It is so hard reading all the pink posts, but I am also truly happy for those who get to experience both genders and get their girl. I sometime feel as I am in denial and this babe is a girl. I do feel like I have let down family, which is very difficult. I think they however are more sad for me because they think a girl is what I really wanted(of course, yes). They just want me to be happy.
I have been racking my brain as to reasons why I was given all boys and not 1 girl...I do believe there is a reason. I thought about if I were to choose only 1 gender it would have been boys over girls. I absolutely am in love with my boys and think it is kind of unique and cool to be a mom of so many little men. Hopefully, my boys will be best friends and mama's boys for life. It is a hard pill to swallow, but I have to believe that these boys choose me and a girl did not. Maybe a girl would have thrown my family off?
We are an amazing group of women who are going to raise amazing men! I pray that I get some great daughter in laws one day and tons of granddaughters:)
Thinking of all you mamas and may we all find happiness and acceptance with what we are given(one day:)).

Dream - I replied to you on the long termers thread :)

MS BLAKELY - You said it perfectly! I feel like the only moments of "failure" come from others, not myself! Isn't that strange?? I have said repeatedly that I wish no one IRL knew I wanted a girl this time... maybe this pregnancy would have felt different. But EVERYONE knew I wanted a girl, so when I announced I was having another boy, everyone gave me condolences instead of congrats! I was thinking "what the ***k?" I am thrilled at having a HEALTHY BABY... there was a time when I wasn't sure that would ever happen for me.

I have woken in a good frame of mind 2day, I started back at my moderate exercise this week, went to the gym last night and feel much better 2day.

I do agree its other people's reactions that sting the most, your own GD is hard enough never mind dealing with everyone else! Very few people know gender of this little one, we will tell everyone after our 20 week scan on the 27th, it has/ is allowing me to come to terms with things before we tell everyone else!

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Originally Posted by Charlee

MS BLAKELY - You said it perfectly! I feel like the only moments of "failure" come from others, not myself! Isn't that strange?? I have said repeatedly that I wish no one IRL knew I wanted a girl this time... maybe this pregnancy would have felt different. But EVERYONE knew I wanted a girl, so when I announced I was having another boy, everyone gave me condolences instead of congrats! I was thinking "what the ***k?" I am thrilled at having a HEALTHY BABY... there was a time when I wasn't sure that would ever happen for me.

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I've tried to watch what I say in the past by making it seem like from DS1 that I always wanted boys. However, there are people that know how girly I am so they have to assume I have some want for a daughter. I obviously do just to experience each gender (I'd want a boy if we had 2 girls!) but the main thing is peoples reactions and comments!!! How STUPID are people to say such a thing to you instead of giving a HUGE congrats, because all children are a blessing and if you're lucky enough to be able to have 3 healthy kids you are so beyond blessed!! Gender is the last thing that people should point out but for some reason it's always the first! A friend of mine just had a girl after 1 boy and I couldn't believe the comments on her instagram pics - seriously, sickening! "Having a girl is like being trusted with the most valuable jewel ever" - actually no, being trusted with ANY child is that! "You got your girl" "Girls are the best" "You are going to have so much fun dressing a girl, they are amazing" blah blah blah. Anyways.. there's my vent for the day.. just had to get that out LOL!