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I dont think having older siblings of the opposite sex makes for a tomboy girl or a sissy boy, but we get the comments too, people seem to think if we get a boy he will turn out gay for having 3 older sisters :mad:Quote:
Originally Posted by homebirthing princess
If we have a girl- I would love for her to be a tomboy :). I don't really like pink, purple and frills. But it doesn't matter because we all love our children the way that they are. So it doesn't matter if our sons turn out gay or our daughters turn out to be tomboys. Don't listen to other people.
And I love everyone's doggy pictures. Unfortunately we had to give our sweet dog to a rescue organization last year after she bit my older son right above his eye. It was shocking because they grew up together.....she knew Ryan since he was a baby. And she was such a great dog- but after that horrible night I just didn't trust her with my babies anymore. I'm not sure we will ever get another dog because if she was capable of doing that then any dog is capable. She was the sweetest, easiest dog. She has great new owners now (a couple without kids)- and she lives on the beach in NC. I'm happy for her. Attachment 6430
Oh gosh, I hate when people make comments like that. I used to dress my brother in little girl dresses all the time and he came out just fine!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Cinss
Aww I'm loving all the doggie pics! We have 2 Turkish cats, but no dogs for now.
Congratulations on the little boy mummypink! I know how you feel, but I can tell he will be very much loved in your family! So I decided a couple of years ago that I want to be a sonographer, and lately have really been itching to get more info about going to school for it, so I've decided to see how much of it (if any) I can do online for now. I'm really excited about it, and to top it off, tonight DH said that we could have one more baby after this one so long as I go back to school and get a job! It wouldn't be for a while because I'd really like to have my boys all in school before I go back to work, but at least I know I have one more chance! :)
Ok those of you with 3 already: how hard was it going from 2 to 3? My boys will be 4 and almost 6 when this one is born. I had a REALLY hard transition going from 1 to 2 because they were only 21 months apart and they were very overwhelming. The baby cried constantly unless he was being held or fed. Seriously- my mom didn't even want to watch him for me because he was the worst baby ever. And my older son was just such an active toddler. He never stopped......or listened. I am excited about #3 because my boys will be so much older and are already so independent. They will also be in school for the first 8 weeks the baby is here. I'm thinking my transition from 2 to 3 will be much better. A friend of mine on FB keeps making comments to me about how hard it's going to be and how I have no idea what I'm in for, etc. She just had her 3rd a month ago but she also has a just 5 year old and a 20 month old. Tonight I asked her to post more pictures of her newest little guy and she said "Just wait till your third gets here and you will see you won't have any time to take pictures". Well I highly doubt that because I am NUTZO with the camera. I take a million pictures every month- even when the boys were babies (probably took even more photos then). So seriously- how hard is it? I'm thinking she's having a tougher time because of the close age difference to her 2nd son......
Sorry to say, for me 2 to 3 was really really hard, but then again we moved across the country away from family and friends when the 3rd was only 3 months old. So I had a 4 year old and 2 year old and a new baby in a place where I knew no one. Even with that said, I think it still would have been harder with 3 because I only have 2 hands, and when my husband is home, we are still out numbered.
I am in a similar situation to you Jark22, my two boys are 5 and 4 and are 17 months apart in age. I like the idea of them being more independent when I have this next one. With my 5 year old in school and my 4 year old at preschool, I'm sure I will get plenty of prime time with #3 for photos etc :D
Cinss, some of the best men I know have 3 or 4 older sisters :o Your son will be just like them!
:sigh: Dumb comments... will they ever end?
When it comes to transitioning from 2-3 kids I don't count. It was like starting all over again since there is such a hugs age gap between 2 and 3... 10 year difference. When I was the nurse for my OB... I had several patients with multiple children tell me all the time that going from 2-3 was really hard but 3-4 and 4-5 were a breeze.
Hope your ok today mummy?
Xxx
I wondered about the going from 2-3 thing too... DS1 will turn 4 when I'm 38 weeks, and DS2 won't be 2 until July. I'm so nervous about having 3 so young! DS1 will hopefully be starting preschool around August though, but we are home alone so much that I'm scared of taking care of 3 little ones all by myself! Too late to be thinking about that now though, huh lol.
Thanks HB, I woke up feeling ok and then I remembered and it kind of hit me. I just feel really sad tbh, I feel like I have let people down which I know is really silly and no one is saying anything to make me feel like that. I'm putting on a brave and happy face for everyone, but inside I feel like I'm grieving for my little girl. :(
I keep reminding myself how lucky I am, a friend of mine lost two babies and another can't have any so I feel totally selfish for the way I'm feeling. I know I'll be ok, and I'm sure the feelings will go away but I think I had convinced myself without realising it that this really was going to be a girl. I had everything planned out in my head of the things we could do together as she got older, how nice it would be to have female company etc etc. Now it feels like it has all been taken away from me.
I'm going to go and have a good cry in the shower now the boys have gone to nursery, I think I just need to get it out of my system.
As for going from 2 to 3 children I'm not so worried about that, I know it will be hard work but as there was 17 months between my first two I think it is going to be fairly easy in comparison. Both the boys are toilet trained, and understand instructions which of course ds1 didn't when ds2 was born. They are both eager to help and excited to meet their baby brother. They will be 5 and nearly 4 when the baby is born, of course it all depends on how easy or difficult the baby is and I'm sure it will be a bit harder getting back into a baby routine as I was never out of it when ds2 came along. xx
I love the doggy pics, we are a doggy family too ( and cat and horse LOL)
We have 2 rescue collies, lassie and kenzie, and a boxer pup names winston.
Winston:
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Kenzie (her coat has grown back now, she had to get shaved because it was in such bad condition when She was rescued)
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And the one who stole my heart....Lassie
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Milo the Ragdoll (who deadset thinks he is a dog, I'm not really a cat person, but Milo is so unlike a cat it's not funny)
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Oh mummypink, I am shocked you are also having a boy! How could it be?? The boy rate in this group is getting too bizarre, I mean even if we all swayed boy it would have been unbelievable! Anyway, I hope you're doing well and that GD hasn't hit you too hard.
This last few weeks DS1 has been keeping me busy, turns out he has some kidney disfunction , something that's called Nephrotic syndrome. He was hospitalized for a few days for check ups and observation, and at first we thought he would get over it without treatment. Unfortunately, last weekend his face started swelling again (edema due to kidney problems) and now we have to start giving him steroid treatment for at least 4 weeks. I must say that seeing all those sick children in hospital has made it very clear to me how valuable our kids and our own health is, more than ever. So, I just wanted to remind ourselves that we should be thankful for our healthy children, no matter boys or girls!
Hugs mummypink. I'm so sorry you are hurting, please don't feel guilty for the way you are feeling, it's normal, it it will get better, I can't speak from experience (yet!) but everyone on here says that all gd disappears when they hold their bubs.
Your little girl might still be in your destiny, just not right now.
Hope you feel better soon xo
MummyPink.. my :awe: goes out to you. I send you (((((((BIG hugs)))))))) to deal with this unexpected disappointment.
I am so sorry. I guess your little guy saw how much FUN your family was and wanted to be a part of it. I believe when you meet him he might just be the absolute light of your life, but for now I can only imagine how you are feeling.
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Thanks lovelies, so glad I have you all to understand. I've been really tearful all morning and my dh is in a bit of a mood with me as he just doesn't get it at all. I feel like a complete selfish cow as a result, my friend is due her baby girl any day now too.
I think I am officially crazy as I've been Googling how often u/s are wrong, which is mental as quite clearly you could see the boy bits and at 19 weeks it isn't going to be wrong!! I just never imagined having three boys, from the moment we had ds1 I always thought we would have two boys and a girl.
I know it will be fine, I'll move on and get over these horrible feelings but right now it feels like gd has swallowed me whole. :(
I just woke up from a horrible dream. In it I had had a baby this past spring who was born sleeping. My doctor wouldn't let me hold the baby and my husband didn't want me to know the sex because he thought it would be too painful. In the dream, I was pregnant just as I am now - and we still didn't know gender (same as now). I begged my husband to tell me the gender of the baby we lost and of course it was a girl. So in my dream I had so much anxiety that this next baby would be a boy because I felt like losing that baby in the spring was the only chance we had at having a little girl. I hate crazy dreams like this. I wake up sad and then I always try to analyze them....... Hoping the next 11 days flies by without too many more crazy dreams.
Hugs Jark xxx
Mummy its fine to feel sad hun its a shock when you have something planned in your head for so long!!! Dh never understand but we all do so instead of keeping it all bottled up plz talk to us! Take time to grieve for your little girl hun and don't feel ashamed!!!
Big hugs xxxx
Grace I hope your little boy is ok hun xx
I'm having a bad day today, think its because my scan is on Saturday so I've started worrying again! I'm finding myself googling how often do techs get scans wrong aswell mummy! I've been having dreams of going on sat and being told its a boy! It's stupid I know, in a way I wish I'd have kept the gender a suprise now. My aunt just came over wiv a bag of pink knitting and said she better be a girl this lot took me ages!
I've also found out that my mum has been telling my brother (and god knows who else) that she has a really bad feeling about me being pregnant and she thinks something bad will happen....as if I'm not worried enough its because my sister was stillborn and she always says to me that girls are harder to carry! I guess because I've been told girl its making me panic about everything more I'm so scared to get excited incase something happens and bursts my bubble iykwim?
Sorry to moan ladies x
Hbp- most of me really wants to hear girl. But I know when I do my anxiety will triple. I Have a better track record with boys. Obviously. My doctors have told repeatedly me it has nothing to do with that. But I can't help but wonder since dhs mother lost a baby at 11 weeks, too early to know the sex for her but I wonder if it was a girl too. Anyway, realistically , there are reasons you can't carry boys but not girls I've been told, I'm sure things will be great at your scan
So much to catch up on.
Congratulations on your sweet boy Mummypink!
I've been so busy I've hardly had time to think about being pregnant! We brought home our new Basset hound puppy, Loretta. She is an angel, except she cries in her crate and we live in a townhouse so I have to be careful my neighbors aren't bothered. I've been letting her sleep on the bed St night, I forget how much work pups are!
We had ds3s first bday party on Sunday and ds1 made his school basketball team and has practice every evening right in the middle of dinner time.
If anything, this pregnancy is going too fast, I'm not ready, haha!
Mummypink, the day after I found out this baby was a boy was extremely hard for me. I cried the entire day. I never showered or got dressed. I had crazy thoughts running through my head. But that day passed, and so did the feelings. It's completely normal and healthy. I hope in the next few days things will start looking up and the idea of having another ds will put a smile on your face. I hate GD!!!!
just had to pop in and say I love all the dog pictures!
mummy, you are so brave and I know you love that little man when he comes! Before we found what DD would be, my husband got really snippy at me with the idea of me crying if I found out the baby had been a boy. I actually thought I'd cry either way, but I was so stunned to hear girl that I had no tears, just wonderment of "could the tech be right?" and while preggo, every time someone told me I wasn't carrying the baby like a girl, but looked too round, like I was having a boy, I'd worry all over again, hbp! So don't worry--I'm sure the baby is still all girl.
Lassie I had a cat named Oliver that was just like a dog. He played fetch, ran around like a dog and even followed my dad around everywhere...he would even jump in his truck to go for rides with him. He begged for treats and food of all kinds and was the greatest cat ever. He was hit and killed by a car a few years ago...I cried for days on end.
Sorry to hear about the hard time with gd today mummy. It will pass as time goes on, big hugs to you!
Grace I hope your ds will be okay, so scary to have a sick kid. :-(
My DH and I have wanted a girl for so long... I'm not sure if he's just trying to be tough so he's not gd'd again, but he keeps saying he wants a boy. He even told his brother in private that he wants another boy. Last Monday when we got home from our nt scan and had a great girly nub shot with 100% girly guesses he was a little snippy with me. He even told our 3yo, "do you hear what your mommy's trying to do? She's trying to make your baby brother a baby sister!" Sigh! Then after our early gender scan where I heard 99% girl and again more 100% girl guesses... He tells me don't get too excited... It's going to be another boy... Just watch! Ugh, I'm so irritated with him.
I'm going to ignore all his comments. It is what it is even if she turns into a he. I really think he's trying to cover up from being disappointed though. With #3 we were told 85% girl at our nt scan and she said have fun shopping... Just don't paint yet. Then at our next ultrasound at 18 weeks it was clearly a boy. We were both gutted. I really hope this is a girl and he's just being silly.
Ok, rant over!
Grace - hope your son is ok! You are right our little ones are so precious!
Thank you so much to you all for your support, I know a lot of you are struggling with gd too so it really means a lot. I'm actually starting to feel better, I took our dog out for a walk and started telling myself that if the thought of never having a daughter was upsetting me so much that I needed to stop thinking about it! Dh has said we could have another one and although I seriously don't think that is an option for me as I couldn't do this again at least it is an option. Also, and I know this is truly insane, but it actually made me feel better looking at u/s pics that turned out to be girls. I know the tech was absolutely 100% and she even said there is no way this one will turn out to be a girl, but I figure if a tiny bit of hope is helping me along at the moment then that is ok. By the time my 32 week scan comes around we should have chosen a name for him and I will have got my head around it so having a confirmation of boy will be just fine.
HBP - I don't think there is any way your baby will turn out to be a boy so please don't worry! It is really rare that they get it wrong, at least on Saturday you'll have your mind put at rest and then you can go seriously crazy shopping for pink! :)
Brandles - It sounds like your dh is trying to protect you in a typical man way!! Not long now until you will get confirmation that it is def a girl and then I'm sure he will be over the moon.
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Big hugs mummy, my heart goes out to you and others with GD. xx Congrats on your baby boy.
Grace~ I'll be keeping your son in my thoughts.
Winn~ Congrats on your newest family member, I hope she adjusts to her crate soon but glad she's doing great otherwise.
Rosie~ Oliver sounded like such a wonderful companion, I'm so sorry his life was cut so tragically short. :(
I wish I didn't know about the nub theory! ARRRRRRGH!
That's exactly how I felt :) you do become abit nubsessed! XxQuote:
Originally Posted by suregena
Your bubs def looks girly tho and one of the pics looks just like my babys goin by the scull xx
Where's your 12 week photo? Do you have one? I read through a huge portion of the confirmed boy nub thread on in-gender and it's definitely made my hopes go down to tube! There are some very girly looking nubs on there! And I keep convincing myself that my little one's nub is going up but then again, I don't frequently look and guess people's nubs so maybe I'm getting anxious for no reason. It's stupid because I don't mind if I have a boy but the hope of a girl has suddenly made me all irrational and silly! Like... OH MY GOD, A GIRL?! I mean, stupid me *gasped* like a dummy when the tech/sonographer doing my NT scan, because I know her and she knew I was finding out gender anyway, and she said she wanted to say girl. She heard me gasp and said, "DON'T GO BUY ANYTHING." Probably thinking, "Oh good grief... what have I just said to this woman?!" Hahaha....Quote:
Originally Posted by homebirthing princess
But see, now that doesn't even make me feel secure since so many people in the confirmed boy nub thread said their techs said girl only to turn out boy. NO ONE IS SAFE!!! Ahhhhh! God, 3 weeks is soooo far away.
I have said this many, many times over the past week or so. ;) It just made the waiting (and obsessing) worse! I'm dreaming about nubs now -- and not just about my baby's nub, but about other people's, too!Quote:
Originally Posted by suregena
I am working on our "we're expecting" announcement for FB right now. I'm excited and dreading it at the same time, because I am already tired of the "two words: birth control" and "I bet you hope it's a girl" comments.
Nubs make the whole thing more complicated, i have decided. It's horrible. I am dreaming of nubs as well (we had a gender scan that was determined solely on the nub. Lol). And I was actually quite fine thinking this baby was a boy until my nub turned up "very girly." But then, "very girly" doesn't mean much at the CRL my baby was measuring. I don't know where that stupid study got its numbers, because my baby was measuring 12 weeks, but the CRL was in their "11 week" range. So that just makes me even more skeptical that I could actually have a girl. I actually hate having the hope and having dreams that the baby is a girl...because I think that will make it worse when the tech says boy. My gut has said boy from the beginning...but as I know a few people finding out (and the gut instinct thread on here), it doesn't seem to matter what the "gut" says...I am seeing more wrong than right. So gosh only knows. But I am obsessing as well. And I will be delighted with a healthy baby anything, it's not planned to be our last so it isnt a "desperation" thing (although it will be with our next one if this is a boy, since that one WILL be our last). But geez. Its like a sickness, the obsessing.
I would love a link to that stupid study, LOL, because your post about it gave me a little bit of hope. ;) Seriously, nub theory has caused no end of worry and frustration and obsession and heartache and hope and anger since the scan.
We let our youngest make the FB announcement, since he's never gotten to do it before. ;)
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Shell, I love it!!!! And your little guy is so incredibly cute!!! Great announcement!!!