:wave: ladies im back!!!
Well i drove 4hours on Tuesday and arrived in Scotland at 1.30pm, Marjorie told us grandad phoned an hour ago he was waiting for his medication and the ambulance was bringing him home from the hospital which was an hour away. We made a brew and phone rang, it was the hospital wanted to speak to someone not Marjorie so i got on phone and they told me Grandad had took turn for the worse and someone needed to get upto the hospital straight away. They said his heart had stopped and he was being worked on :( So back into car and back out for another hour drive (longest hour of my life) we got there and took straight to relatives room. We knew, sadly grandad had passed away. My aunt and i went to see him (never seen anyone who had passed away before) it was horrible but i had to do it to make sure it was him and they didnt have wrong person...iykwim.
Drove back to house and had to break the news to his wife. It hurt as she didnt seem that bothered (she more interested in her cats and dogs) They hadnt really been living as a propper couple for along time. He was just a glorified carer for her as she is disabled.
It has been the worst few days of my life, the next day we had to start cleaning the house which was disgusting dog and cat poop everywhere. The smell was horendous, i was wrenching non stop :( I do think i did too much as i was getting really bad tummy pains/cramping but it has settled down now i am home. The crisis care team wanted her to go into restpite but she wouldnt, they wanted animals to be looked after by other people but she wouldnt let them. This is a women that can do absolutely nothing for herself but she would not allow anyone to help. She has no one in scotland, we said she can move to lancashire near us and we will visit her and we will look after animals and take them to visit her but she was adimant that she wasnt going anywhere and neither where the animals.
The nurses said they will give her 1 week and if the animals arent being looked after they will have them taken off her. She only thinking of herself chain smoking one after another (she knew i am pregnant) and i had to inhale her smoke while i was there.
On the plus side tho we managed to arrange the funeral in the couple of days and he will have a good send off, back upto scotland on wednesday for the funeral. I am absolutely shattered.
sorry im whittering on, i will catch up as soon as i can. speak soon ladies hope you and your beans are well.x
