I'm sure she was bothered! People feel guilty for saying they'd like a specific gender. I know a lot of people like bug families but I'd say there are more that keep going to get a certain gender, especially if they've only got one gender!
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I'm sure she was bothered! People feel guilty for saying they'd like a specific gender. I know a lot of people like bug families but I'd say there are more that keep going to get a certain gender, especially if they've only got one gender!
Thorz, I know what you mean by DIYing, I've just started getting my energy back, plus I'm trying to be positive about hubby's job interviews and that if he gets it we'll have to get the house on the market. It's definitely motivation! There are so many small jobs to do, but this is my big project at the moment:
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A cloakroom under the stairs. It's mainly for the kids but if we're still here in September then it saves me lugging a bump up the stairs to go to the loo.
Wanting -- Facebook is definitely a double-edged sword. :( I would have been upset too.
Thorz -- I agree with Fish and Northern. I have a hard time believing she didn't have a preference. For all we know, she may have gone HT/IVF. ;)
Northern -- nice work there! Where would you be moving to if DH's interviews work out? As much as I like living in the US, I also miss Europe. I'll always be torn between two continents.
So for those of you who have gone through GD...I feel like I am entirely at the whim of unpredictable emotions. One minute I love the idea of being a mom to all boys and the next minute I am googling ultrasound predictions gone wrong. :( I still have this completely foolish hope that maybe it's a girl afterall and that even experts from in-gender like ColdWater could be mistaken. She said she is "pretty confident." I feel so stupid thinking that that doesn't mean she is 100% certain. Maybe the "erect penis" she said she saw is a swollen clitoris sticking up? Ok, now I am laughing at myself. But even Lovemy4 is convinced it's a boy so what chance do I have? :( Then again, the quality of the scan is so so horrible, I have a hard time seeing anything.
Oh this GD thing sucks so much and I feel like I will have regrets down the road for not enjoying my pregnancy the way I should. I just can't help this feelings...2 more weeks until my 18-week Level II u/s. I need complete and utter confirmation in order to move forward.
Thanks for reading my rant.... :(
Divakotka, IF he gets it we'll be moving almost a 3 hour drive away across the country, towards Norfolk way. We looked at houses online before the first interview so we'd know if we could afford down there. We've found some gorgeous houses, between 5-6 bedrooms! We've currently got two plus a room slightly larger than a box room, which is where the two boys and baby will be. I'd love to have a proper nursery with a rocking chair, etc.
Goodness I hope he gets it!!
diva - :hugs: feel for you really do honey
northern - norfolk is lovely very jealous!
Diva you got to give yourself time to adjust you will get there but for now don't feel guilty for how you feel
Hi all, is it too late to join in here? I'm nearly 16 weeks with number 3, and have two little boys and I've been hoping for a girl each time. This is absolutely our last child, I barely managed to talk Hubby into trying again, but he'd like a daughter too. I didn't join in the groups when I was TTC because I thought it would make me stress more, and then I didn't join in later because I thought it would make me worry about it more, but there's no one I can talk about this with IRL and it's quietly doing my head in!
Does anyone else feel like they need to keep it secret, that they have a gender preference? I feel like people will think I don't love my boys, or won't love this baby as much if it's a boy, when I know that once I meet him it won't make any difference, my boys are my life, and wouldn't swap them for any girl in the world. Many of my friends are also dealing with infertility, so trying to talk about this with them would just seem plain ungrateful and insensitive.
I'm pretty sure this is a boy too. I didn't know about nub theory when I had my NT scan, so I only have two pics to go on, but the little forked bit looks very boyish indeed. I was trying to hold out til my morphology scan at 19 weeks, but I gave in and booked a gender scan for this coming Monday, so at least I'll know one way or the other! Logically I know it will be fine in the long run, but somehow I'm still quietly terrified all the same, and dreading all those comments people make.
Divakotka, I'm thinking of you, I remember how hard it was to adjust when I found about about each of my boys, and hoping they'd somehow got it wrong.
Northern Shutterbug, fingers crossed for you!
Wanting a Girl and Thorz, how exciting, that sounds very promising!
Hi honeychild and welcome! I could have written your post! This is also very much our last baby and just like you, I had to "convince" my DH to go for a third. I played the "we could have a girl" card knowing that he secretly longed for a baby girl as well. When we found out that DS2 was a boy, we actually handled it very well. I was bummed for literally about two hours and then got really excited about giving DS1 a little buddy. And in the back of my mind I thought that we could always have a third one down the road. And here we are. Except that this time, there is no fourth baby down the road so that's why I am struggling...
-- Wanting, I know I need to give it time. I am just so impatient and I absolutely don't like seeing myself like this. I just want to move on asap...thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it.