Lying or self defence ?

I am not even pregnant yet, but am thinking about what to say to "defend" having 3 boys...
-three of a kind is so much fun, we are three sisters and we are so close.
-girls can be hard to raise especially when teenagers.
-same gender kids have stronger bond.
-I love being a boy mom
-I have always wanted 3 boys

The last one is a lie!

Anyone feeling like this, or done it? Do people believe you?

The one comment that wont be a lie " as long as the baby is healthy and happy, it does not matter if it is a boy or a girl", I am going to use that one a lot ;)

I had all these excuses too. It is so crap we feel the need to even have excuses. I don't know if anyone believed me although no one made any sort of rude comments about boys but I don't think I would believe it from anyone who said it. Maybe just because I feel that way you know?

Whenever I get the '3 boys!' comments I usually reply with "They are such good and happy little boys, I'm so lucky" and that usually stops any further comments and turns the chat positive. It still annoys me though!

Whenever I talk to Mums of three boys or hear of a Mum expecting boy number 3 or more in a row I try to think of the most positive comment ever which I find hard because I can't quite help feel that she must be disapointed because I know I was.

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Originally Posted by Cauliflower

I am not even pregnant yet, but am thinking about what to say to "defend" having 3 boys...
-three of a kind is so much fun, we are three sisters and we are so close.
-girls can be hard to raise especially when teenagers.
-same gender kids have stronger bond.
-I love being a boy mom
-I have always wanted 3 boys

The last one is a lie!

Anyone feeling like this, or done it? Do people believe you?

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Hi coming from an asian background and with 3 girls u couldnt be made to feel any worse! I often hear people sau oh so and so has all boys lucky her! For all they know she may be going through thousands of personal issues but no people say she's really fortunate which makes me think im not. People often ask how many kids I have and when i respond 3 girls they say no boys then? Like Ive forgotten to mention it! Life why cant it be simple.

Yup, classic self-defense. I did it a lot when I was newly expecting my third. And I think I genuinely believed it was a boy...but my dad (yeah, my DAD) was like "I think you just think that so you won't be disappointed if its not a girl." He never really knew how strong my desire for a girl was (no one but hubby did). So I think we can even play tricks on ourselves. I would totally talk up how cool 3-of-a-kind is (I do actually think it's cool. But I still wanted a girl. Lol). I would say "Oh, we don't care, either would be fun!" But it was mostly to save face if it was a boy. I didn't want anyone to pity me, or my beautiful son. It's pretty normal :)

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Originally Posted by hotdogz&boyz

Yup, classic self-defense. I did it a lot when I was newly expecting my third. And I think I genuinely believed it was a boy...but my dad (yeah, my DAD) was like "I think you just think that so you won't be disappointed if its not a girl." He never really knew how strong my desire for a girl was (no one but hubby did). So I think we can even play tricks on ourselves. I would totally talk up how cool 3-of-a-kind is (I do actually think it's cool. But I still wanted a girl. Lol). I would say "Oh, we don't care, either would be fun!" But it was mostly to save face if it was a boy. I didn't want anyone to pity me, or my beautiful son. It's pretty normal :)

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Thanks hotdogz! We actually have a boy in the family born with heart problems. And I forgot to mention the most important, "as long as it is a healthy and happy baby, the gender doesnt matter". And this one wont be a complete lie either ;) I hope it is enough to shut them up ;) trying to keep my GD to myself, but it is hard sometimes. I have a beautiful niece who is 5 months old, I adore her, she is so beautiful!! Hard to keep the feeling for yourself then...

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Originally Posted by desperate4blue

Hi coming from an asian background and with 3 girls u couldnt be made to feel any worse! I often hear people sau oh so and so has all boys lucky her! For all they know she may be going through thousands of personal issues but no people say she's really fortunate which makes me think im not. People often ask how many kids I have and when i respond 3 girls they say no boys then? Like Ive forgotten to mention it! Life why cant it be simple.

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I completely understand. I have the ame background. But believe me, my parents are so happy they have 3 daughters, who look after them today and have done better (education wise) than any of the boys in the family
Be proud of your girls!

And it is less hard to have 3 boys than 3 girls I know...

I really dont think one gender is harder rhan the other

Most people knew how much I wanted a girl, so I was actually very honest and said yes of course I was disappointed not to have my daughter, but how could I be disappointed for long with DS3 as he was such a sweet little chap - that certainly shut people up! FX though you will get pg and get your girl. xx

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Originally Posted by ever hopeful

Most people knew how much I wanted a girl, so I was actually very honest and said yes of course I was disappointed not to have my daughter, but how could I be disappointed for long with DS3 as he was such a sweet little chap - that certainly shut people up! FX though you will get pg and get your girl. xx

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Thank you!
xxx