So that means I cannot get stressed Or angry at all? I think I must Be a natural
Born worrier , that although my face doesn't show to be like that, but deep inside me I am a sensitive person who can get sad, angry, jealous, mad and worry about everything in this life! Though I am not sure how a woman's personality sways for certain gender but i find it hard to find a relaxing life for me these days!
You have described me here,this is me to a t.
actually stress is shown to sway pink and many studies have shown that those with stressful careers have more girls... so even if it raises testosterone levels, it doesn't raise it enough to sway blue and actually still sways pink
studies have shown that high testosterone levels too sway blue, though
I do think it's hard to separate personality and hormones, I think sex-drive is a good indicator, though.
Normal day in, day out stress is NOT what sways. Every one of us, boy mom and girl mom alike, face stresses and challenges and get upset over things that happen. Those things are out of our control. The things we CAN control are the sort of things that sway - things like taking on challenges, wanting to be in control of every aspect of one's existence, and getting carried away obsessing over swaying are the things that sway blue.
Please read the following because it helps to explain a little bit the kinds of personality that REALLY raise testosterone.http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...tifically.html
"stress" is kind of a ill-defined amorphous term that can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people.Quote:
Originally Posted by rainbowflower
The kind of stress that sways pink is the kind of stress where an individual has no control over things that are happening to them, even to the point of feeling victimized by it. Chronic, unrelenting stress where a person never gets to succeed or win and is at the mercy of forces entirely beyond their control (we've all had jobs with THAT kind of stress, I'm sure.) will lower testosterone.
On the other hand, the kind of stress that sways blue is the type that comes from taking on challenges and feeling successful at them, feeling that one is in control of at least some things, that they or their team is winning or succeeding in some way - you can have an extremely stressful job and have T thru the roof! Swaying can actually sway blue for some people because they view it as a challenge that if they do everything perfectly, they will "win" and therefore "earn" their DG - this works great for blue swayers but not so well for pink. At the same time, some swayers feel like they don't deserve their DG, their sway is not good enough, fate/God/the stars are set against them, or that they have to produce a child of a particular gender for their husbands/families or they are a failure, and this is a good mindset for a pink swayer but not so hot for blue. (THESE ARE JUST GENERALIZATIONS. Please no one take any offense, this is just a general observation and not true for every individual.)
Also, a person's mental attitude has a LOT to do with our response to stress. Some people have a mindset where they can take a setback and turn it into a challenge, and these people tend to have higher T levels than people who get very defeated after things go wrong. So even when you analyze people's lifestyles, it can be deceptive because we can't look into their hearts and minds and really truly KNOW what is going on.
no, I don't think that sort of stress always sways blue
the studies specifically looked at high-powered/stressful jobs, such as management roles, where the women WOULD have responsibility, the decision making, the challenges... no doubt they didn't ALL feel out of control/overwhelmed by their jobs or they wouldn't have stuck it out
Well, we'll just have to agree to disagree then. I'm quite convinced on the basis of not only several studies and Valerie Grant's book, but beyond that, the overall trends I've seen on the forums. There's no real way to discuss those observations without giving offense to people on both sides of the aisle.
All these studies are just overall trends and there are MANY factors at play like diet, etc.
I have a colleague at work with exactly the same job as me - we're both in Management roles and we both do well in the workplace but when we're under stress it really affects her. She gets very little sleep because she lies awake all night worrying, her skin gets bad, her diet becomes terrible etc. whereas this is not at all how I react. Just an example of how different people can react to exactly the same situation in the same job and how one probably has high testosterone and one probably has low!
Yes, I don't know why I have sons! I lie awake every night stressed, and I always feel that defeated feeling like I won't get what I want...It's all very interesting isn't it?!
I think it is really difficult to pinpoint one main reason for having a certain gender. I think there are things that influence gender more than others. I don't think even the HT girls or their doctors know why they have more than one gender over another or why some cycles they don't have healthy DG and have only healthy opposite embies.
I have always had a very high stress life, but have two boys. I also conceived both in very different circumstances and was not immediately symptomatic of PCOS, except for very mild hirsutism.