Suddenly ok with anything

The past few months I've been going through the motions. I want a baby girl and I will do what I need to to sway. Then i went through the what if it's a boy what if I'm not ready for another baby what if what if.
My husband will be home in a week and we will start trying for our girl. But today I decided it doesn't matter boy or girl I have my homebirth. I need to heal from my C-section and my hospital births. I am calm and ready for another and it is an amazing feeling.


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Good for you! :agree:
At one point, I was sure I would be OK with another girl. I was so wrong...:sad: Now that I'm actually expecting another girl, I'm devastated. Hoping for a miracle that she somehow turns into he :sad:

But if you're sure in your emotions and would be happy with just another bubba, that's great! I wish I could have that healthy attitude.

I have also come to terms with "either sex will be fine" i just want a newborn baby, i really dont care if its a boy or a girl :)

The exact same thing happened to me on Thursday. Up until then I think I wasn't really that broody for a baby, I just wanted a daughter, and I was worried about how I would cope if I had another boy. Then suddenly on Thursday I realised that I really want a newborn, and while I still have a strong preference for a girl, I think I'll be OK with another boy. I was even considering not swaying, but I don't think I'll go that far! Hopefully I'll still feel like this when I'm pregnant!

That's great you guys! I think it can even help your sway to be more accepting and laid back about it.

Zivic, I think it's naturally to have a flare-up of GD if you hear opposite at your ultrasound. I think it's a temporary thing - it's hard to have those warm fuzzy feelings for that blurry picture on the screen - once you get a real live baby in your arms, you'll never be able to picture her any other way. :heart:

I had to make sure I was really OK with another boy when I tried my sway. While I still really, really wanted my daughter, I started to think about what a third little man would look like so much to the point when they said girl at the U/S I was elated and happy but I felt so odd, like that boy I was so sure was going to come into my life, had poofed! I am still very happy my sway worked though, and am excited but nervous about having a girl...what will I do with a girl? I know boys...I think the unknown is starting to get to me a little!

Me too Auroara! Scared ---less actually! I'm thrilled of course but it just hit that there is a whole new set of problems and worries that I never had to take too seriously before.

Plus, I cried when I packed up my boy clothes to give away! :( I'm happy to have a daughter but still sad that I'll never have another baby boy.

i too thought I would be totally ok with either. But I wasnt, I was devastated for several weeks (I found out really early). I was mainly upset because its my 3rd in less than 4 years and I kept wondering if it hadnt been better to hold off and keep that option of another one for in 3 years or so, agewise no problem, I have quite a bit of time left. At the time I was secretely hoping for twins, like pretty much with every pregnancy. a pair or 2 girls... a dream....

Fast forward, I am now 25 weeks and much much better (I found out the gender at my nuchal scan, like with all my babes, so it has been a long time....). I cannot get rid of all the girls stuff, eventhough this should be my last baby. I am now realising that my main issue is the fact that I am 32 years old and this is supposed to be my last baby and it feels wrong, it hurts.

My husband found me crying in the cellar when I was sorting out my daughters baby clothes and he said, sweetie, just keep them for now and we will see how we feel in some years time (bless him <3 )

If you really really want another baby right now, you will be fine with either gender. Dont have a baby if you just want a certain gender, wait til you get the baby fever, that was my only mistake really, although either way... YOU WILL BE FINE it could just take some weeks ;)

Thanks for your response! Yes, mine is mostly baby fever. It's just to. Be pregnant and birth again. For me it's come to be more about my ideal birth, gender is not important compared to that.


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After having a MMC in Dec and 6 months of ttc I would really like just to be pregnant now and I don't care what it is just as long as I carry it for 9 months and it comes out healthy - ttc is depressing :-(

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Originally Posted by strawbell

After having a MMC in Dec and 6 months of ttc I would really like just to be pregnant now and I don't care what it is just as long as I carry it for 9 months and it comes out healthy - ttc is depressing :-(

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yeah, I fell pregant first try every time and this certainly didnt help me this time. i was so ungrateful I realise now. I just took it all for granted. Sending you lots of babydust xxxx

For me i felt like after a year of swaying girl and 2 chemicals that i just wanted a baby, any gender baby. But i have to say that when i found out it was my third boy, wrongly or rightly i was pretty devastated for a while. Thankfully i came to terms with it pretty quickly though. I hope your feeling of contentment either way lasts :)