Fear of gender guilt

I feel like the worst mother ever!! I have been super emotional the last couple days, I really want to know my baby's gneder! It is driving me nuts! I really really want a son, I have 2 amazing daughters & I love them to pieces! I just want a new expereince because this will be our last. We had to go through IVF to get this baby, we have MF infertility. This is my husbands 1st, but he has been my daughters dad for 9 years now, he is awesome with them. My oldest is demanding it be a boy..lol
I just feel so guilty for wanting a son so badly, I will absolutely love a little girl if that's what we have, I love all the cool things they have for girls now, and I know girls!! lol But there is a big part of me that wants a son. I am really scared that I will feel the smallest amount of disappointment if we find out we are having a girl.
I cannot wait to find out so I can just find out we we are having & celebrate it, and if it's our princess I can get used to the idea.

I just feel so gulity for feeling this way!! Can anyone relate?
Please understand I will love this child, male or female so much, we wanted a baby so bad!


My best friend had her son in April & she really rubbed it in, just like she rubbed in when she got pregnant so fast when hubby & I were trying for quite awhile (We ended up having to do IVF with ICSI)! I just feel added pressure cause she knows how bad I want a boy, & she kept saying she wanted a girl but a boy would be cool too...ugh I think I will die if I have a girl just because I know she will rub it in!!

I am probably being an irrational witch, but thats how I feel today anyway...

Thanks ladies! Go team :DS:

Here is a pic of my 11w4d u/s..any clues to gender?

http://mob1173.photobucket.com/album...5/IMG_1133.jpg

i'm awful at guessing so no guess from me,

We all understand hope and pray its a DS

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Thank you so much Fish2012!

I completely understand. I have two girls also and I am now currently pregnant with a boy. Before I found out what I was having we were going to go team green, but the weeks went on I was an anxious mess! I was crying for no reason, and getting snippy with people for no reason. The whole not knowing was driving me mad!! I just wanted to know whether it was a boy or a girl and move on with my life and start preparing for a boy or a girl.
I can't tell from your picture, but I wish you the best of luck:)

Thanks so much for the reply dloui 128, I am so glad you are getting your boy, I hope I have your luck! I won't know till Oct 5th!

I completely understand how your feeling (although in reverse) i had such bad gd with ds3 and am so worried it will happen again. Worst part about all of it always seems the not knowing and the getting your hopes up over the time you wait. No-one doubts you'll love your baby what ever happens but it won't stop you feeling sad for what you have lost (your chance at your son) and its ok to feel this way.

Where abouts are you, one of the moms on here from the uk used someone in kent with a really good reputation for gender guessing at 12 - 13 weeks was right for her and something i think we will do. Is this an option for you, won't change the result but might help stop you going crazy.

Do you have a bigger picture of baby you could post in the ultra sound guess, girls are really quite good at it over there and i can't enlarge this pic enough to tell x

I know its easier said than done but don't let other people get you. I had this off my mil and sil when she was pregnant, everyone was convinced it was girl, the first in the family and how exciting it would be. My son was ignored and pushed aside, then she ended up with a boy to. I think some people don't realise how hurtful things are and how horrible gd is, some just don't care but they make things much worse either way so try to avoid her if you can (or if she's a close enough friend explain to her how she makes you feel)

Mrs. P Thanks so much for the reply! I live in Canada, so no hope of seeing that lady :( I guess I will have to wait until Oct 5th when I get the anatomy/gender scan done. I am really crossing my fingers for a boy but what will be will be I suppose. I just can't wait till I know either way! lol

I will try to find teh u/s group & see what they think. Thanks!

I hope this pic is better & bigger.

http://i1173.photobucket.com/albums/...B/IMG_1133.jpg

hiya hun, i feel completely the same (reverse way as i am desperate for a girl!!) i really hope you get your little boy, im sorry im not very good at nub spotting but some of the lovely ladies on here are, good luck hun xxxxxxx

I just wanted to let you ladies know we found out at our 18 week U/S we are getting our SON!! We are so over the moon!!

http://i1173.photobucket.com/albums/...B/IMG_1437.jpg

Congratulations!!!!! Very happy for you. Enjoy your little man.

Congrats on your boy!

Congratulations am so thrilled for you.

Oh wow just logged on and saw this, huge congratulations on your little man - that mummy son bond is the best feeling ever i'm really happy for you, it really is a blessing all moms should get to experience (and despite wanting a dd i wouldn't trade that for the world). Really really pleased for you x

Congrats on your baby BOY! :DS:

SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! :bighug:

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Congratulations! It is good to see that some dreams can come true!