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Hello ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wow, its hot today, lovely!!!
Seem like we have nothing to talk about now we are on fb!!! KELL,, get FB lOL x
So petal how are the ht plans going? I must admit I tempted to try for my girl one last time, but now the opportunity to send the boys to private school, not sure I should risk them losing out on such a great opportunity. I went to a cr@p school but I did well, so did my sister. But you are pushed hard at private school. Great if your self discipline is low. Still I have years to ponder the pros and cons.
Hey maybe, yeah its a tough choice to make, my sister in law and her sister went to private school and they both work in a supermarket!! I think you can do well in in any school aslong as you want to, but... when its your child and you have that chioce to potentially change their lives its very difficult, what does dh say?
HT plans seem to be falling into place, got pre-testing in november, start bcp 1st dec, fly out feb half term and the rest......??? lol.
I still think you should come with us he he x x
Petal I would love too. Where us your pre testing?
Ooh HT how exciting!!! What a journey.
Well, I popped in to say hi and ended up talking to myself in the August thread!!
Still undecided about #4 .... what's new!!? xx
Mrs I - me too!
Hi mrs I!!! hope you are well:-)
Maybe, pre testing about an hour away from me, london was too far so found my own clinic :-)
Did you make a desicion about the boys schooling? x
I need to get more chatty on here!! Been struggling a little bit the last week as although im still not big, i feel like my lungs are been squashed so much that they are about to collapse :(
Petal, i am sooo excited for you! Im gonna be majorly cheering you on!
Mrs I.... i reckon you should go for number 4! noone ever regrets the kids they have do they! thats what i keep telling myself anyway :)
How is everyone else? Inglewood, sunset, how are those goregous girls. Kell, you too, how is lily doing now?
Babymad... your little man is just so adorable, he really melts my heart. Cant wait for my little man to arrive. Still slightly undecided on name as dh hates giving in to me on this topic (i chose both ds1 and 2's names!). So i think it will have to wait till the birth is over and then he doesn't have a leg to stand on!
Hi deaks!! Wow it's going fast isn't it?
My boy is only in year 4 so I have a few years to ponder things. He would need to pass a entrance exam first. I know a few public school kids who work in shops, but I also know a few who have turned out quite well. But I guess I worry that a normal working class kid would fit in. Still if you have to pay to get into uni why not get into the top uni? Things have changed a lot since I was a kid and student. With the eu opening up I think the kids need to aim a bit higher to even get any job.
Hi girls i'm here now! :)
Deaks ~ wow I can't believe you are 34 weeks already! how are you feeling apart your from your lungs being squashed? is your pregnancy progressing well? I haven't seen you much on FB. DD is doing really well.. she's into everything and crawling everywhere and it wont be long until she starts pulling herself up :)
Petal ~ how exciting that you're going HT :D are you nervous?
MrsI ~ I vote for a 4th ;) how old is your ds3 now?
Petal ~ how is your little boy getting on? how old is he now?
Inglewood ~ how are your girls doing?
Maybebaby ~ good luck with your decision! If money was no object to me then I would definitely send my kids to a private school, but unfortunately there's no way I could ever afford it. How old is your ds3 now?
Indigo ~ how are you and baby doing?
Babymad ~ how are you and baby doing?
Hello to everyone else!! let's keep this sept thread active :)
Maybe, i agree... ds1 had his SATS earlier this year and he is only 11 but i felt it really important that he revised and most of all that he wanted to do well, so he revised and done really well, particually his maths, and now he has the results he has a sense of acheivement, he knows that because he tried his best he did well. A freind of mine told her son not to bother revising because exmas arn't important and that he can always get a job working off shore!!!! i mean, no disrespect to off shore workers but i dont think its right that she's told her son not to bother trying!!! mental. So yes, maybe, i think kids do need to work that bit harder now to get into uni and get good jobs, if we had the money, id send my boys to private school.
Hi Deaks!! aww not long now!, i know that feeling of the squashed lungs, not nice! how are those yummy little boys of yours?
Sunset, yes i am nervous but still doesnt seem real lol, we are going to Genesis feb half term next year. DS3 is great, almost walking :-( hes so funny, pulls the funnist faces, he makes me laugh so much. Ur dd is adorable, love her pics on fb x
Cant believe the kids are now back at school, soon be bloody christmas!!! sad to say ive started xmas shopping already lol x
Ps, id rather not write anything on our fb page about HT, hope you all understand lol x x
Hi girls!
I have missed chatting with everyone :)
How are everyone's babies doing?
Maybe ~ Exciting that you are thinking about HT!
Deaks ~ lovely to hear from you! Wow 34 weeks!! Have you thought of any girl names....just incase :) Hugs re not feeling well x
Petal ~ so excited for you! A hi-tech friend went to Genesis and now has twin girls :) maybe I could sneak off with you ;)
Sunset ~ we are good ta, hope you are enjoying the crawling stage :)
Inglewood ~ how are the girls doing? Love seeing pics of them :) As I love seeing everyone's pics on FB, it's lovely seeing everyone's kiddies :)
Charlie ~ how's your little man doing? X
How's everyone doing with GD?
Beck is doing well, he's a very happy baby and the boys love him :)
Hey ladies,
Babymad, lovely to hear from you. Haven't given a second thought to girls names to be honest, im 100% convinced its a boy and im pretty sure that 14 week scan where sonographer hedged her bets on boy and the willy i spotted at 20 weeks were for real! How are you doing with gd? its hard for me to know how i really feel as have ht to fall back on. But somedays i surprise myself by thinking i might just stop with these three. Probably because i have totally had enough of being pregnant. Don't fancy going through it again much!
Sunset, everyone keeps telling me how small i am so i really don't feel like i complain but i do wander whether if i had a bigger bump and perhaps more water retention whether the bubs might have a little more room in there and stop fighting my organs for space! Would love this baby to come early but its just not going to i know.
Petal, my boys are fine thanks. Loving ds1 being at school and the things he has to tell me. He is so excited by it all. Ds2 is fine too and am thinking of getting him into nursery before baby comes instead of after. Give me a bit of a break for the last few weeks!
Loving catching up on everyones news... hopefully now its a new term we might all have a little more time for our thread. Petal, have you had many chats with genesis? does it all seem straightforward enough?
HI girls,
Everything is going well so far... just waiting for november really to get the pre-testing done, managed to find a clinic nearer to me than London which is a bonus!! Just got to get myself n dh on the vitamins n stuff now lol. Ive spoken to Savvas on the phone, he seems nice! i think it will seem more real once christmas is over.
Its nice having the big boys back at school, they needed it! although the school run drives me insane!
Glad your both doing well, i too love looking at everyones pics :-))
Babymad, yes come to Cypus with me!! he he. Have you totally ruled out anymore ivf?
Deaks, i felt like you do when i was pregnant, and even for the 1st 6 months or so i was 'content' with the 3 but then my mind started wondering and here i am lol. x
Deaks ~ I hated being pg too, I do think it would be different though if you knew 100% it was a girl. When I was pg and knew it was a girl it was a wonderful feeling and I had decorated the whole house in pink (in my mind) with baby girl cards and gifts, it was amazing. The 'knowing' would defo get you through the pg. and the end result of course would be worth it.
I'm doing ok, really enjoying Beck and lucky as he's a very happy baby which makes it more enjoyable. I am a baby person so defo in my element at the mo. Having said that I have had some dark days and days with lots of tears, I suppose they will stay with me forever. I love Beck so much so I'm lucky I'm not struggling with my relationship with him but I am still struggling with my situation on a daily basis - the reality of never having a daughter is very difficult for me to live with and the loneliness that brings is just as difficult. Just writing it now makes me cry and the longing is still as strong as it ever was, I don't believe it will get any easier...I suppose you just 'get on with it' as there's no other option. The sadness has definitely changed me as a person. I will always be the best mum I can to my boys though as they deserve my unconditional love and receiving theirs is what keeps me going x
Are you all ready for LO's arrival, I still think you maybe having pink ;)
We've had a tough couple of weeks, renovating the house is in full swing at the moment and with that and four kids with no help its taking it's toll on me and my DH, we are utterly exhausted. Our house has always been such a big project and takes every spare second we have...it's hard going. Another two years and we should be finished....whether I'll still be alive to enjoy I'm not sure!! I know it will be worth it as its a beautiful home but it's defo killing us off at the mo!
My DS1 and DH are ill in bed with a sickness bug - really hoping I don't get it! bless em.
Petal ~ I was like that too, felt content for awhile, especially as I love the baby bit but then I was booking screening tests in London before I knew it! No, we could never do it again. I don't have any regrets, I suppose I wish that things could have been different and we could have done PDG again, that's the only thing I dwell on really but in reality it couldn't have happened and my DH wasn't supportive enough to make it happen, whereas I would have done ANYTHING to make it happen but he just wasnt feeling what I was....that's the difference I suppose. I don't blame him, I just wish things could have been different and we had had a second chance....all the girls I got to know through hi-tech have all had their girls now, so perseverance does bring results! Can't wait to follow your journey :) x
Sorry I've waffled on!
How's everyone doing?
Xxx
I have days where I think about having a dd still. I guess like you babymad it never goes, but it's much more of a back burner now. We really need to secure a mortgage for a four bed house first. Six people won't fit into this house however much I kid myself! Also i feel that I need invest everything into the kids I have. Never say never.
I too love the baby days. Little laughs, gurgling, sucking feet I wish so much they could stay this way forever.
hi all back again gonna have another atempt at diet then ttc next month. can i join the fb group i might find it easier to keep up because when ever i've been on this thread before i've struggled keeping up.
Hi have you all enjoyed your weekend?
We had a private speech therapist come out on friday and it was sooo helpful! I feel ten times better having spoke to her and she really reassured me :) she is going to give us some exercises to do with ds2 for 5-10 minutes everyday to get us started.
cocos-mum you should definitely join us on fb :) i'll see if i can do it x
HI Girls from the uk. Can anyone help me with the clearblue fertility monitor please? When it gives its smiley face is this the same as a positive opk? how have you used it to help you plan attempts? any advice would be greatly received. I have been trying to concieve for a while now and I think my inability to use the monitor properly is not helping, thank you in advance x
Hello all
Not been on here for ages... just busy busy I guess... and we are trying to organise the big move back to the UK. Its coming up fast.
Missgozo - sorry I never used the clearblue... hope you work it out...
babymad - I still get sad moments. I love Duke so so much... but I still yearn for that girl too. I'm pretty sure DH is absolutely against any more (we haven't talked about it) and also I'm wary as I'm sure my health isn't going to let me have another one anyway. I can't help thinking about how this isn't how I thought my life would pan out when I was younger. I always thought I'd get a daughter eventually. I think it will be a while before I fully deal with what we are going to do and how I feel about it.
Sunset - really glad you were able to get some speech therapy advice/help!
Duke is going wonderfully! I'm always saying he's my easiest baby. He just smiles and coos and has only really howled a handful of times. He's sleeping through the night too. If only my older 2 would be so kind as to sleep through the whole night!!! :P
Pinga ~ wow your little boy is doing really well :) not even my 8 month old baby sleeps through the night yet *zZz* Good luck with the move, when is it you're moving again?
missgozo ~ welcome :) I never used the clearblue digital so i can't help, sorry. Are you doing diet as well?
Thank you Pinga and Sunset - I am doing the diet but I worry how well. I have been using a plan atomic designed well worth the money in my opinion but my fertility monitor is playing up. How do you girls monitor ovulation without temps? I tried temps for 3 months and was very bad at it to be honest, have fab excuses but I was just rubbish!!
missgozo - I had good temps with a clear pattern - I used to do it am and pm and I was able to identify my temp shift really well. Also used cheapy ovulation tests. So was able to work things out with a combination of the 2. I always did my temps at the same time. Hope you manage to get it sorted. Its a bit of a pain at times isn't it :)
Sunset - we're moving at the end of the year (after Christmas). I love the sleeping through the night bit! Some of my friends say that formula fed babies sleep through the night earlier. Goes to show its got nothing to do with it!! I think poor Duke has been given a cough courtesy of a pesky older brother!!
We had a surprise fathers day on Sunday. We missed the actual one which was a couple of weeks ago over here due to a birthday party. So I decided to make it a surprise! We decided that surprise Mothers/Fathers Days are great! Its so lovely to get that surprise! Made a yummy breakfast with the boys while DH was out running (28km so he was gone a while). Makes you feel extra special!
Petal - oh meant to say - how exciting that you'll be going HT! Will be following you with fingers crossed!
Hi girls,
Babymad, the newborn/baby stage is just the best isnt it! shame is the shortest time thou! I dont think i will ever get over not having a daughter if ht doesnt work, i really try not to think about it too much, but its there and always will be. Like you say we just have to 'get on with our lives'. I think i'll be 80 and still thinking about it lol.
Ds3 has stared waking during the night again to be fed, has his bottle and does go back to sleep, must be a growth spurt!
36 weeks Deaks!! how are you feeling? have you got everything ready?
Thanks for all your well wishes :-)
Pinga, the suprise fathers/mothers day sounds a GREAT idea, how lovely, bet ur dh was suprised!!! i will suggest it to my dh haha x
Hi ladies sorry it's been so long, no excuse really I'm just dumb and didn't look
For the new thread lol!
Petal how exciting about ht! Not long until the journey begins for you :)
Deaks wow not long to go! Hope you are feeling ok, I have to admit I wasn't a
Great fan of my last pregnancy, let's hope s/he moves down do you can breath soon :)
Maybe oh what a decision to make, I don't envy you with that.
Inglewood how's the girls?
Pinga good luck sorting the move out! Where abouts do you plan to move to?
Sunset how's your little lady?
Well we are good, been busy! Had my mum stay for two weeks which was lovely! And dp went away for two weeks which was also lovely lol! Then ds2 turned 3 and my birthday was yesterday!
I'm trying to get Out to play groups with Charlie and Lily as much as possible to keep us entertained! I'm still checking them out though to see which ones I like best!
Lily is great, she will be 8weeks old on Friday I can believe it! The tummy aches seem to have calmed down now! She smiles and coo's loads it's adorable :)
And last night she slept from 9:30-5:30 had a feed and is still asleep now! Can't complain about that huh!
Hope all mummy's and babies and bumps are all good xx
Hi Kell,
Happy belated birthday to you and your ds!! hope you both had lovely days :-)
Wow Lily, 8 weeks already!! its so scarey how qucikly time fly's isnt it! she's doingreally well sleeping that long!! ds3 was up loads last night, he's got a cold, picked it up from playgroup agrr.
I know, 5 months and we will be on holiday in Cyprus!!! :-)))
HI to you all x
Hi kell!! Time is just zooming by isn't it? I have ordered some baby k things in the mothercare sale for 12-18 months! Before I know it he will be running around (but he can't sit even yet!)
Nightmare right now with each of my boys. Not them, by school, childcare and the dra
Dreaded nhs speech therapy. Spoke to ds2 teacher today and recons the school will know what's up within weeks of starting (next week). Feel overwhelmed by life this week.
Petal ~ only 5 months how exciting!! :D
Kell ~ 8 weeks already and wow what a good sleeper she is! i think my dd needs to spend some time with your baby, maybe she will learn a thing or 2 :P i am one tired mama! My dd is doing great. She’s so interactive now and loves to play with her brothers :) she’s started giving out open mouthed kisses haha it’s so sweet
Maybebaby ~ fingers crossed life gets easier for you all soon... it’s so worrying isn’t it. I’ve been speaking to the teachers at my sons school (ds2 will start nursery in November) and i’ve had a good response from them. I’ve also been given exercises of the private speech therapist so looking forward to start doing those with him and hopefully that will be of help while we wait for nhs speech therapy. Let us know how it goes with your son, hopefully he will get good support from the school.
Pinga ~ good luck with the move! Exciting times! :)
Deaks ~ thinking of you, not long to go now :)
Hi all, finding it so hard to get on here at the moment. Have had my parents staying with me to help me out a bit since tuesday and although it really does help me in many ways, it also causes quite a lot of hard work too... laundry, cooking and hoovering (especially as they have a dog too). Anyway, have finally got me house straight this afternoon and hoping to get on top of emails, fb and our thread! Feels like time is flying by and im desperate to meet my new little man (though everyone teasing me its gonna be a girl ... i even started googling when a boy comes out a girl and how likely that is to happen!). Have got everything sorted for baby and even managed to land myself an ex-display bugaboo £250 reduced! so just need to get hospital bag packed now but going out to buy maternity pads etc doesn't exactly excite me much! Am dreading the birth.... just hoping i get there soon enough for some pain relief!
Anyway, im glad to read most of the bubs on here doing well, though charlie it sounds like there isn't much improvement for you. I really hope you manage to find someone who can help you both very soon as that cracking point is not a nice place to be at all... am thinking of you.
Petal, cant believe its not long till HT.... eek! am desperate for it to go smoothly and work first time for you :) As you know my plan was to do HT next april, but at the moment i am wandering how on earth i would cope with another pregnancy that soon!
maybe, somehow missed your last post and just seen it now, you ok hun? You sound in need of a relaxed weekend and some good news next wk X
good luck with the birth deaks! i am very excited for you and cant believe you are nearly full term :) how exciting! if you don't go for it in april how long do you think you will leave it before going ht?
Hi ladies, wish it was majority rule, because us against my dh would mean i would get my 4th child after all!!!! He says he's not totally against it if we manage to get the extension done in the next year or so .... then promptly resorted to his get out clause '...but I'm too old ...' so back to square 1. Still really clucky, especially now C is getting so big.
Lovely catching up, weeks just pass without getting on to say hi, wish there was the app for android like there is for Apple phones to keep up with this site!! hugs xxx
Thanks sunset! so glad im nearly full term... going to start of the pineapple, sex and curries as of this tuesday!! Dh and i chatted about ht last night and we are still up for going to california next easter so think we may just book flights and a holiday and then if by the time easter comes i don't want to be pregnant again just yet we could always freeze any female embryos and go back for transfer later (the body is supposed to be more receptive when it isn't as full of meds anyway). But im sure if i get told there is a girl to be used, i wont be able to help myself there and then!
Hi everyone,
Haven't been on here for a while, life has been very hectic. DS1 just started school and I didn't know how stressful and emotional it would be. He's been on half days for the last 2 weeks and I've struggled with all 3 of them in the afternoons. Glad he's starting full time tomorrow so I've got a bit more time for the other 2. Started working again yesterday too (own business) so think I've put a bit too much on my plate.
Glad to read all your posts and see everyone is doing well. Deaks, I can't believe you're nearly there!!! So exciting. Also wonderful news that you and Petal are going for HT.
Life with DS3 is wonderful. He was quite poorly at 6 weeks and in hospital with a Urinary Tract Infection. I don't know whether it's because I had a difficult pregnancy or the scare of him being in hospital but I feel very protective over him, moreso than I did over the other 2 and although I still have a very heavy heart and longing that I don't think will ever go away, DH and I don't think we'll try again and so my swaying journey ends here. We haven't completely ruled out having a 4th in time (although time not completely on my side)but we're not going to plan for it and I just don't think I could go through another sway attempt and don't have the money for HT. To be honest, I'm just about coping with 3 and take my hat off to anyone that has 4+. Without family around I think we'd struggle.
I'm selling my swaying stuff, if anyone wants anything, let me know - http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...m-selling.html
Pinga, lovely to hear that you're coming back to the UK. Where did you decide to move back to in the end? Pleased to hear Duke is doing well
Has anyone heard from CharlieISpy? We were due around same time and wonder how she's doing.
Hi to everyone else - Sunset, Indigo, Maybebabythree,Kell,Zanacal,Inglewood,Babymad, Petal, Pinga, who else have I missed(!!) hope you're all doing well x
mrsincredible ~ sorry to hear that your dh isn't onboard quite yet. he might change his mind? do you want to be added to the secret group on fb?
deaks ~ i thought you were going to europe :S are you going to america to have it done? :D
maybepink3 ~ glad to hear your ds3 is doing well now! you will have to keep coming on here and tell us how things are going :) we still want to hear from you :) charlieispy is unfortunately not having the easiest of times right now. her little boy isn't gaining weight properly and has just been readmitted to hospital :( fingers crossed he will be back home real soon x thoughts and prayers are much needed.
are you on fb?
Hey hun, yes we decided fairly early on that our first attempt will be in the US. I think realistically there will be only one attempt there unless there is a spare to freeze in which case i will return alone somehow. Any other attempt/s will be at genesis but i wanted to try HRC first as i don't think dh would have agreed to the US as a second or third attempt as it is more expensive. Plus i know at genesis they are more keen to replace more than one egg and that wont be an option for us at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sunset
I didn't realise charlies little boy had been readmitted to hoss.. thats awful but i really hope they can get to the bottom of things now.
Maybepink, lovely to hear from you. Glad things are better with ds3, he sounds like a little angel. I think we all get that heavy heart feeling... hopefully it makes us into stronger women who take things for granted less.... thats what i tell myself anyway! Not convinced ht will work for me anyway so im sure i will be in the same position considering an au natural 4th but just don't think i can cope with the emotional rollercoaster again.
Hi everyone else! X