I feel like giving up...

I don't know why but I am feeling very unmotivated and bummed right now. I feel like either giving up altogether or just throwing caution to the wind and going for the 50/50 chance. I dunno...I just feel like I know I can't stick to a LE diet, heck, I don't even know what to put in my diet. I have such low willpower when it gets to the diet aspect, DH is getting antsy and points out how 4 kids will change so much... duh, I know that... I want 4, I do, and I really want a girl. That being said, money freaks me out a bit and sometimes I think I am nuts for wanting to make our budget more stretched than it is, but then I think that the biggest impact is daycare, and that will be temporary. Don't get me wrong, I know a baby costs more than just daycare, but we'd be fine with everything else. I know that in my heart, I'm not done yet, we're not complete. I know that I want another. I know that I want to try for a girl. I also know that I won't do well on this diet, and by the looks of things, that is the biggest player when swaying. ***sigh

not really got any advice but i do know that feeling well - i was so sick of swaying and down right miserable. I had said the month i got my bfp i'd had enough and was planning a ttc break, got my positive test 4 days later. I hope the end is in sight for you soon :hugs:

The biggest motivator for me was how big the hole was i had for a daughter and how much i wanted that - much more than all of the stuff i was dying to eat. Anything in life worth having is worth working for, you just need to find that little something that works for you - kinda like the wall you hit when running a race - i hope you break through it and get the little person your family needs x

Hang in there, honey.

Remember the diet is pushing our bodies in a direction it doesn't want to go so it is a bit miserable BUT its for a few weeks of our life and it could very well be the factor that gets us our DG!! So just tell yourself 'This is not pleasant but its only for a few weeks of my life!!" That is an easy sacrifice for a beautiful baby girl!!

I am having a hard time too. I have been rolling a long doing great waiting for ovulation this weekend for my first attempt and then yesterday my body said "DONE". Huh? My body is done and I have had to FORCE the yucky boy drinks down my throat and FORCE myself to eat when I REALLY don't want to. All the mounds of processed Halloween candy laying around haven't exactly helped either!

And when it comes to expense, convenience, etc with three kids, you figure it out as you go...no sense in worrying about something that hasn't happened until it happens!!!

Good luck, you can do it!!:cheerteam:

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Originally Posted by My Three Sons

I don't know why but I am feeling very unmotivated and bummed right now. I feel like either giving up altogether or just throwing caution to the wind and going for the 50/50 chance. I dunno...I just feel like I know I can't stick to a LE diet, heck, I don't even know what to put in my diet. I have such low willpower when it gets to the diet aspect, DH is getting antsy and points out how 4 kids will change so much... duh, I know that... I want 4, I do, and I really want a girl. That being said, money freaks me out a bit and sometimes I think I am nuts for wanting to make our budget more stretched than it is, but then I think that the biggest impact is daycare, and that will be temporary. Don't get me wrong, I know a baby costs more than just daycare, but we'd be fine with everything else. I know that in my heart, I'm not done yet, we're not complete. I know that I want another. I know that I want to try for a girl. I also know that I won't do well on this diet, and by the looks of things, that is the biggest player when swaying. ***sigh

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So how long have you been on the LE diet for? The longer the better and you may be really close to that DG! I know how you feel though, 8 months into my boy sway i gave up, i left this site for a while and stopped charting, i did force myself to continue on the diet and i only ended up taking 1 supplement instead of the 7 or 8 i was for swaying. 2 months later i got my bfp, and i was so glad i was still doing the diet, i would have all kinds of regrets if i wasnt, and because i was on the diet for so long i feel like i have a great shot at a boy, and it is hard when you are going through it, but trust me when you get to the other side it seems like it wasnt so bad after all.

That's the thing, I haven't been on it much at all. I don't cook the meals, and DH wouldn't go on the diet with me, so I end up eating dinner, just less of whatever it is. I feel like I don't know anything about what is acceptable and what isn't when it comes to the diet. I drink CL and diet coke, skip breakfast most days, but I feel like I just don't know what to eat and what not to. I have read through the threads and see the limits so I am looking for lower sodium stuff, protein, etc, but just feel so disheveled with it all. Plus there is tons going on at work, which is stressing me out, which is not good for a girl sway at all. Just pitying myself is all.

Remember though, just eating less *and* losing weight in itself does sway pink. Maybe you're not doing a strict diet of tahini and fat free yogurt, but simply eating less does help to sway pink. If you think about it, swaying really is a massive continuum. You don't have to have a perfect textbook sway to conceive your DG, and even if you do have a perfect sway, opposites happen sometimes. So just eating less and skipping breakfast by itself is helping your sway. :)

Stress is inevitable. Women in high stress occupations tend to have more girls so if it's work stress that's keeping you really busy, that can be helpful for you actually.

By the book sways aren't for everyone. Maybe that's not for you, and that's okay. :) Sounds like you have already done a lot of good work just by reducing your portion size and skipping breakfast. That's a great thing! Pat yourself on the back for that. :) Good luck with your sway and hang in there. The LE lifestyle isn't forever. :) *hugs*

anything you manage is a positive thing - i know how you feel it is depressing......however i read posts by atomic, mocha girl and zanacal even if they are quiet old to remind me that it can help :fx: and :hugs:

I know the feeling all to well. Some times i want to give it my all and sway well. Then other times i want to give up it's to much to make a big change after 12 years, so what do i do go out and buy a big juicy burger with fries. At that moment i feel so good but then think OMG what did i just put in my body i am suppose to be dieting then i am like i am out that month on to the next month of trying. Try to hang in there. I just keep in my mind this will be my last try for a girl. I want to TRY to give it my all and if it takes a month of Eating less (starving it feels like lol) i have to do it. But I've seen so many successful girl sways where the Ladies had a few cheats.

dh does not need to do diet.

number one regret of elderly people - "wish I had more children".

I am new to this, but I honestly believe if you just lower your sodium and potassium the best you can and take your supplements then that is all you need to do as far as diet. I am a bigger believer in the vinegar/lime douche or rephresh. Maybe its because my mom got her boy after 3 girls by solely doing a baking soda douche. As long as your ph is low enough while you are fertile, shouldn't that be all that matters? I may be wrong but that is how I see it! Good luck, we are here for you!

:DS::DS::DS::pray::pinksperm:

Hi Thorz, we do things a bit differently on this site than they do on IG and here's an explanation for anyone curious about what the differences are. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...sh-anyway.html

I really strongly don't advise anyone to eat their normal diet and just lower sod and pot and take cal-mag supps. At least not without doing more investigating first to see what the data really indicates. :)

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

dh does not need to do diet.

number one regret of elderly people - "wish I had more children".

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love this quote, thats always been my biggest worry - i'll be an 80 year old woman and still sad that i never got my daughter and didn't try hard enough. I really do believe you never regret the kids you have only the ones you don't.

ps lovin the new pic Atomic, a beautiful little face next to all your posts just to give us pink swayers that extra little bit of motivation. Can't believe how quick she's growing though x

That's the thing that I keep goin back to in my head....in a couple of years, I'd be too old to even consider having a baby, and I don't want to look back on these few months and wish I had. I'm goin for it. I may not have the best sway, but it's a sway nonetheless. Plus I bought the cutest little girl outfit. LOL It's under my mattress, just praying that my little girl will wear it someday. :)

I am bad on the diet...I know this. I am doing what I can with it, and will not worry about the cheats. I did start the baby aspirin, still doing Rephresh after AF to O, will not worry about timing or J&D since last month I didn't catch the egg despite dtd the day before O. I am too old to mess around here...gotta beg preggo fast!

I hear ya! Sending you my "OMG that old lady is having a baby dust!" ;)

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Originally Posted by Mrs_P

love this quote, thats always been my biggest worry - i'll be an 80 year old woman and still sad that i never got my daughter and didn't try hard enough. I really do believe you never regret the kids you have only the ones you don't.

ps lovin the new pic Atomic, a beautiful little face next to all your posts just to give us pink swayers that extra little bit of motivation. Can't believe how quick she's growing though x

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Thank you! I am so thankful every day and I want to help everyone get their happy ever after too. :heart: