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Just wondering how life was growing up with all brothers. My dd is going to have 4 of them. I only had 1 sister so I've never had this eperience. My dd is 3 and very outgoing. I tried so hard to give her a sister. In the end she is getting 4 great brothers, but I worry as she gets older that she'll always long for a sister. Thanks ladies.
Oh my gosh your going to hate my answer. I have two older brothers. As adults we are very close, but growing up I craved a sister. I asked my parents for one when I was younger (my mom was 40 wen she had me) I still want one TBH. I am going to be TTC #5 soon and am swaying for a girl. If its a boy, we will try for #6 in a couple years. It's very important to me.
My son will have 3 sisters and no brother. He will make friends, have lots of play dates and sleepovers and he has his dad just like she has you.
She will be fine. Just because you have a sister, it doesn't guarantee any kind of bond. At 4 years older, they would be light years apart growing up in regards to maturity and interests anyway.
Can I ask how old you are?
NBP...I was hoping you'd chime in. I needed to hear from you today. Thank you. Having one of those days.
3men I have two brothers both older. Growing up I played wrestling and sock bombs and fortress with them. I had friends and I never really wanted a sister. Even as I got older I just made my friends my sisters. My brothers and I are very close and my oldest brother and I are the closest. I wouldn't trade them for a sister if someone paid me to.
i have 2 brothers, one stepsister that i gained later in life that i rarely see, but i grew up as a huge tom boy, i hung out with my brothers and looked up to them and their friends. When i grew up i was girlier and my bro and his friends all protected me :)
I only had 1 older brother and i didn't know any different, i did want my mum to have another baby so i could play with a younger sibling but she wouldnt so i got a baby doll that kind of almost filled the spot, and i always had a dog too which was probably just as good as a sibling. Our son is going to have 3 older sisters, and we wont consider swaying again for a brother, i think they will be fine, being the only one is very special in my opinion.
I have 2 younger brothers and I'm glad I didn't have a sister. No squabbles about clothes or make up and I am super close to my mum who is more like a sister. It didn't bother me at all.
I had 2 brothers, but one passed away when I was 3. My Livie brother is 6 years younger then me and although we didnt always get along when we were younger we get along great now. I had always wanted a sister though... I remember being dissapointed when my brother was born cuz he wasnt a girl... I think thats also why I want a lil girl to cuz I had no sisters and I have 4 boys.. Lol. Im sure she will be fine growing up with her brothers, just think she will never be bullied and will have alot of protection. I feel Sorry for her when she gets a bf though... Big brothers are gna be the first to step in.. Lol.
Plus you never know she might even grow up being a Tom boy from being raised with all boys. She will be fine. She might long for a sister later on Or maybe she wont, she might be one of those girls that enjoy being the lil princess :-)
Thank you so much ladies. I really appreicate you taking the time to tell your stories. It really does make me feel better.
I'm glad you got opposite answers to your question then mine! I just know people are going to think I'm nuts going for number 5 but it was hard on me growing up without a sister. But I'm very glad that people have different experiences because if number 5 and 6 are boys...then my DD will not be having a sister close in age! I will be 25 in 3 weeks.
I hated my brother and have only really become close to him in recent years, my other brother i never really spent anytime with growing up (same dad). But then i was never close to my mom either like my brother was. I always wanted a sister and someone to be close with, although this disappeared as i am now close with my mom and i have my brothers girl friend who i really get on with.
I did have a best friend who was like a sister to me and she spent a lot of time with my family. I think girls will bond with any close female and a good friend can fill that bond. She will be closer to some of her brothers than others (personality dependant) and i have friends with older brothers and they are really close but mine are younger so that gap was hard.
Ava will be ok and will grow with the family she has never knowing any different, it's you that i'd be more worried about xxxxx
Thank you Mrs. P...you are a very wise woman. I need to get over this. I think seeing my new baby boy will help this go away. And these hormones...ENOUGH ALREADY!!! lol
I only have 1 brother. I'm glad I didn't have a sister growing up- because I liked being the only girl. However- now as an adult- I really, really wish I had one......for a number of reasons.
I am VERY close to my brother who is 3 years older than me. I thank my lucky stars every single day for this man. We were not always close as adults but since my sister passed away, he has really stepped up to the plate and showed me the importance of the sibling bond, whether it be brother OR sister.
Growing up, I was the girliest girl you could EVER imagine...but if it was not for my brother, who shared with me all his passions (Star Wars, Tolkien ETC!), forced me to play chess, Battleship, marbles, all the boy cartoons, go carts....ALLLLLL the boy stuff, I would of done nothing but comb Barbies hair and change her outfits...seriously! Now, as a mom of 4 boys, I am so greatful to him for showing me all about boy toys and to appreciate them. We still both have a passion for boy toys..lol. My sister had her own interests and quite honestly, I played alot more with my brother than my sister.
Your daughter is lucky girl!! :)
I have two older brothers and I always wanted my family to be the same way. I loved having two older brothers and never wanted a sister and I wouldn't have it any other way. I always thought I was lucky because I learned so much about men and they always protected me and still do. My dh was one of my brothers best friends and is now best buds with both of them. It's actually quite wonderful and now I have my sister in law as my best friend and sister. My point is that I loved having two older brothers so much that I'm praying my third will be A daughter and she will have the same joy I did.
I have 2 younger brothers and I wish every day that I had a sister!
I had an older brother and eventhough I was a girlie girl, he would always want me to play with boy toys and I would do that too. I never wanted a sister, I wanted a younger sibling because I hated being the youngest. But being a child I didn't realise that someone has to be the youngest.
I adore my brothers. I don't have a sister and can honestly say that I have never thought twice about wanting one or that it would be "better" if I had a sister. My mom says when she was expecting my youngest brother that I "wanted" a girl. But I adored him as a baby (I was 6.5 when he was born) and our relationship is great. He is such an amazing person and watching him and my other brother have this fun, rough, close relationship actually makes my heart so happy. My brother (middle) NEEDED a brother. They are so good for each other.
But me, I am independent and never felt like I needed a sister in my life. I am very close to my mom and sometimes think I wouldn't want to share her with a sister. We are partners in crime. I think our family worked out just how it needed to be. Me and my brothers are all so different and we really enjoy each others company and variety of opinions. I don't know how it feels to have a sister, but I don't know that it could be "better" than what I have now.
I have 2 brothers and am 9 years older than the youngest. I adored him growing up and he is the reason I always wanted a son. I still feel very protective and close to him (well both of them actually). I have also bonded with their girlfriends in the past.
I have a lot of female friends who are very close to their sister in laws. :)
I have a brother very close in age and a sister who is 6 yrs younger. So even though I have a sister, I grew up with my brother (she was a bit left out poor thing). I loved having a brother to share everything with, we did everything together, bed time, bath time, we played house, played outside, climbed in trees, were friends all through adolesence, we always shared (some) friends, even as teenagers. So he was my peer growing up. My sister became my friend once I was an adult, so even if I have the sister bond now, it was my brother who I grew up with. I am still close to my brother. Remember than your daughter will have 4 sister-in-laws to bond with and do girly things with, in addition to having her mom all to herself and girlfriends to grow up with! Make sure she has sleepovers with friends and cousins if she has any, so she can get some of the girly-time in. My mother isn't bothered with a mother-daughter relationship and has two daughters, so for me it sounds great to have a proper mother-daughter relationship, something I might (probably) never have, but you will.
You don't miss what you don't know! That's what I think anyway. You are just thinking of your own experience. I have 2 brothers, younger than me. Sure I wanted a sister growing up but you don't have sibling disappointment or anything like that. And you are close with cousins and friends. TBH I liked being the princess of the family and bossing my brothers and parents around.
I have three older brothers and it was/is hell.... I think it will all depend on how u raise them I don't think my parents set good values in our family cause I'm really the only one that has them! One thing I would make sure that she is ver open to you and comfortable to talk to you my one brother did unimaginal things to me!
I have a brother 3 years younger than me. We weren't very close growing up but now as adults we are.
Two older brothers and I *never* wanted a sister. I couldn't imagine anything worse! I had my own room and space, no one ever tried to borrow my clothing...
I wasn't close with my brothers ( still not) but I never craved a sister. And now that I'm grown and married and so forth, I've never felt a yearning for a sister, either.
I'm the oldest and have 2 younger brothers. When I was growing up I always wanted a sister and even now I wish I had a sister. I think it's my own feelings that are making me want to give my son a brother. Plus he keeps asking for a brother.
Another reason I feel I want a sister is because I have no close females in my life. My mum died when I was 13. My MIL is also passed ( she died when DH was young) I don't have any close female friends either. Maybe thats why I really wish I had a sister.
Ladies, thank you again for your posts. I really appreciate them. I'm feeling much better about my dd not having a sister. And if I start feeling sad again I have your posts to pick me up. You guys are great!!!