What did people tell you? Before you conceived about Gender?

Hello,
I wanted to ask those of you that told people you were trying to conceived or pregnant. What did others tell you the gender of your baby would be? Were they right?

I'm asking because the people I've told we are going to ttc, have told me I'm going to have a boy next. The few people I've told about swaying still think I will only have a boy.

I know they don't control what will end up in me but just kind of wondering what every one told you guys? I would love to feel more confident and happy about ttc. Not nervous!
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I honestly think people like to be negative sometimes and tell you what you don't want to hear even tho they really have no IDEa what you will have... Don't over think it too much you will drive yourself insane

Well we were very open and honest with everyone about swaying and wanting a boy. Our friends and relatives were very supportive of this and we got encoragement and well wishes for a Son.

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Originally Posted by Cinss

Well we were very open and honest with everyone about swaying and wanting a boy. Our friends and relatives were very supportive of this and we got encoragement and well wishes for a Son.

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What a blessing. The only people who have been supportive and positive is my mom, husband, and my first son's dad's wife. We are friends!

I haven't told anyone at all!! Not even my husband! Although he would probably be like Ookkkaaay! And you think it's gona work?! Lol but he's not the one who wants a boy it's me! I will probably tell my twin sis after I do fall pregnant.. But don't worry at all about what people say or think the best way to deal with stuff like that especially with people is acting like nothing phases you, and your happy regardless offl gender! I just feel like once they know you didn't get desired gender they'll find ways to pick at it!

When I told my SIL we were ttc a girl my SIL said to me I would be a horrid girl mum and wouldn't know what to do with a little girl! I guess it is because I love playing boyish games with my kids, running, jumping, spiderman and this afternoon I was Tow Mater!! I just don't get this reply she seems to have forgot that I am actually a female and at one point of time I was a little girl!! I am 100% sure I would love playing barbie and skipping ropes as well !! Then she goes on to say if I knew how to change a baby girls diaper.. I could not help myself I just had to say " no I have been cleaning my (insert male anatomy here) for the past (insert age here) years I wouldn't have a clue!! Ever since this I have never disused gender and ttc together with anyone except you guys and hubby of course :)

I got that reaction from some one too. They told me that I'm not girly enough to raise a girl and since I'm more of a tomboy that's why God gives me boys.
I told way to many people when I first thought of ttc and now I regret it. I hope by the time we are actually ready to start ttc they will have forgot. I feel so dumb. :(

Don't feel dumb! People say all kinds of ridiculous things to make people feel bad about their choices. Just ignore them, and then come here to chat with us about it!

I have 3 boys and everyone is just ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE that #4 is a girl. Honestly, I'm starting to get sick of it. I know either way it turns out we'll get gender comments. They drive me nuts.

Long before I was ever even pregnant with #3 people would say "you know you will have another boy". It always annoyed me because I wasn't asking for their opinions on the gender of my 3rd child. When I finally did become pregnant I was almost 38 so I saw a genetic counselor and did the first trimester blood screening and even she told me because of the fact that I already had 2 boys I would most likely have a 3rd boy. They were all wrong. I know how aggravating it is to hear unsolicited opinions on something that is upsetting to you to begin with. I hope your 3rd child will be your much hoped for girl. :)

It was a nice experience. I had a big tummy when I was conceived. Some said I will have a baby boy as I got a big tummy. Some said I have lost my beauty and that is a symptom of delivering a baby boy. Everyone was wrong :giggle:, and finally it was a baby girl :crawl:

I have 2 boys and this baby was surprise!! At first everyone said girl. I posted my 9 week ultrasound to announce my pregnancy on Facebook. My silly sister swore she saw a penis, lol! There is a little bump but we all know at 9 weeks they look the same. Now my sister and my mom are saying boy. My mom says it's just a gut feeling she has. She is usually right so I didn't like hearing her guess. My 8 year old son has said girl from day one. I even asked him the other day, "So, you think it's a boy?" And he said, "I hope it's a boy but I feel like it's a girl." I hope he's right so bad! I found out in less than week.

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Originally Posted by Wanting-a-girl

I honestly think people like to be negative sometimes and tell you what you don't want to hear even tho they really have no IDEa what you will have... Don't over think it too much you will drive yourself insane

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THIS. I think some people just really truly like to rain on your parade and other think they're doing you some favor because they think people are set for one gender or another. It's not true at all and it is totally possible to have 6 boys in a row and then turn around and have 6 girls in a row (Michelle Duggar did it without swaying!!)

I did have some people who were very nice about it and I never hid my gender desire from anyone, I have too big of a mouth. ;)

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Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush

I did have some people who were very nice about it and I never hid my gender desire from anyone, I have too big of a mouth. ;)

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So glad I'm not the only one!! ;)


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People can just be mean and most pass gender comments without even thinking (you wouldn't walk up to a woman that can't conceive you go poor you, no babies , don't you feel sad everyone else gets one and not you - or something equally as mean) and i think most don't even realise how cruel they are or mean to hurt with them (but then i suppose if its something you've never faced you don't know how raw it can be), on the other hand i suppose some people like to see others fail.

To be honest i was so sick of the gender comments i didn't tell anyone i was pregnant until i was 24 weeks (although it was easier to hide it as it was winter and i just wore waterfall cardies etc). I hate the fact that gender comments make it sound like your existing gorgeous children are not enough (or worst still less than desirable - three boys, poor you - and right in front of them too, its really upsetting).

In reality though i still get plenty of them - with ds3 i kept getting poor you or aw no you'll have to try again in a few years or i'm sure you'll love him when he arrives (er excuse me we love him already he's hardly a consolation), now i stand a chance at a daughter its the fist thing everyone asks me - oh i hope you get a girl, do you know what it is, when i reply we think its a girl but it doesn't matter as long as its healthy most people go - oh are you sure, you know those scans are often wrong

You can't win either way so my best advice would be avoid it for as long as you can, its the last thing you feel like when m/s and tiredness are at a high

Well our first child was a surprise, so no one was able to tell me anything beforehand. My DH was convinced he was a girl, and a couple of my friends that didn't have kids said they hoped for a girl for me, but I knew he was a boy and actually wanted a boy first. I used to have this friend that kept telling me my second baby would also be a boy, that she just couldn't picture me with anything but boys, and it used to drive me nuts because she had two girls. Well she was right, my second child was a boy, although we didn't get to keep him. :tissue: Now it makes me sad to think about it. I guess she wanted me to have two boys because she had two girls and liked to dress them the same, and probably thought I would enjoy it too. I now believe she wasn't saying it to be mean at all, although I took it that way in the past.
People just say things without thinking, and oftentimes they really don't mean any harm. It's all how we interpret them.
I have a cousin who is the "baby gender predictor." He has 100% accuracy with gender predictions, it's kind of scary (over 40 correct predictions so far). I sort of want to ask him what my third baby will be, but I'm afraid of what he'll say, or if he can even predict future babies haha.