Stay away from pre-seed?

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July 18th, 2013, 11:34 AM
gurly

Stay away from pre-seed?

I know PS sways blue but I'm still up in the air about if I want to use it or not. I'm a couple of days away from ovulation and really want to get pg right away. I've been pg twice and both times I conceived with PS. There were only a couple of months we ttc without it so its not as if we ttc'd a long time but still I'm certain PS helped me conceive. The first time I got pg I m/c. The second time I got pg with my DD and that was a couple of cycles after the m/c. A thought I had is that my nutrients may have been low from losing a lot of blood after the m/c so that may have swayed pink despite the PS?

I want to have a girl, I would definitely be disappointed if it was a boy. I can see myself being less excited about the pregnancy but I don't have that desperation to have a girl like I did before I had DD because I did get my dream gender. It feels like more of a want, instead of a strong, strong desire or almost need. I know a lot of you understand what I mean when I talk about that strong desire.

Basically, this will be our second and last child no matter the gender. I want a sibling for DD but would love, love for her to have a sister and on a selfish note I'd love to experience having a baby girl all over again and get some use out of all these cute girl clothes DD hardly wore.

In my situation, wwyd?
July 18th, 2013, 01:01 PM
bunnywabbit

I can totally understand this. Honestly, if it were me in your situation, I wouldn't use Pre-Seed. True, you may end up pregnant very quickly, but when if you reach scan and are told it is a boy, will you be able to handle it? If it were me I'd likely spend a very long time with 'what ifs' - if I hadn't used Pre-Seed would have got my DD? Personally, as hard as it is, I'd rather wait for an extra 28 days (or however long your cycle is), stick with the diet and supps and try again at positive OPK. At least you would have tried and done all you could possibly do.

Whichever you decide, I hope it works for you and you get your pink bundle. :hug2:
July 18th, 2013, 01:30 PM
The Anchor

People haven't definitely gotten girls using Pre-seed. But, it does sway blue by making your environment sperm-friendly and allowing many more spermies to get to the egg (more sperm = more boys) Have you been TTC for many months? Have you been doing the diet and exercising? These are more effective in declining your maternal condition. IMO, I would give it a few months without the pre-seed, and if you aren't successful (and you just want to be pg) then go for it.
July 18th, 2013, 01:31 PM
atomic sagebrush

Just because something sways blue, doesn't mean you can't still get a girl with it. We have had great results for blue with the Preseed and I personally do not recommend it for pink until someone has gone a good 6 months without getting pg (and in most cases more like 9!)

I would not use the Preseed, no way, no how.
July 18th, 2013, 02:24 PM
aftmjt

I am having my first son on first attempt using preseed after 3 girls I had never used it before
July 18th, 2013, 03:23 PM
Raining

I have two boys. Used PS both times.
July 18th, 2013, 05:43 PM
shannashimmers

I didnt know this and I used PS and had a boy. What lube is good to use for a girl?
July 18th, 2013, 06:25 PM
myrainbowgirl

Sylk is what Atomic recommends. It's what we used this time, of course I don't know gender yet! You'll have to order it online, though.
July 18th, 2013, 08:39 PM
shannashimmers

Ok I will look for it. How did your appt go today?
July 19th, 2013, 02:33 AM
gurly

Quote:

Originally Posted by myrainbowgirl

Sylk is what Atomic recommends. It's what we used this time, of course I don't know gender yet! You'll have to order it online, though.

Does Sylk also help you conceive like pre-seed does?
July 19th, 2013, 03:23 AM
bunnywabbit

Quote:

Originally Posted by gurly

Does Sylk also help you conceive like pre-seed does?

No, Sylk doesn't help conception. No gels that help with conception would be suggested for a pink sway. Sylk is just a lubricant. I used it sparingly as the diet and antihistamines dried up my CM. I used only just enough to make BD possible.
July 20th, 2013, 02:09 AM
isis

Quote:

Originally Posted by shannashimmers

I didnt know this and I used PS and had a boy. What lube is good to use for a girl?

UGHHH I didn't know this!! I wish I knew before. I'm already in the 2ww. SIGH.
July 20th, 2013, 03:53 AM
gurly

Quote:

Originally Posted by bunnywabbit

I can totally understand this. Honestly, if it were me in your situation, I wouldn't use Pre-Seed. True, you may end up pregnant very quickly, but when if you reach scan and are told it is a boy, will you be able to handle it? If it were me I'd likely spend a very long time with 'what ifs' - if I hadn't used Pre-Seed would have got my DD? Personally, as hard as it is, I'd rather wait for an extra 28 days (or however long your cycle is), stick with the diet and supps and try again at positive OPK. At least you would have tried and done all you could possibly do.

Whichever you decide, I hope it works for you and you get your pink bundle. :hug2:

I've been thinking a lot about this, your reply really resonated with me and I've asked myself those questions.

I still go back and forth on what I want to do...
July 20th, 2013, 04:47 AM
Mum to three girls

Quote:

Originally Posted by aftmjt

I am having my first son on first attempt using preseed after 3 girls I had never used it before

Me too.
July 20th, 2013, 11:08 AM
atomic sagebrush

Quote:

Originally Posted by shannashimmers

I didnt know this and I used PS and had a boy. What lube is good to use for a girl?

any lube except those marked "sperm safe" or "conception friendly" will sway pink, but they also all lower odds of conception.

i usually recommend sylk because it's a good lube and has low pH but it's totally up to you - some people use KY jsut because it's readily available, or Acijel due to its reputation as a strong girl sway.
July 20th, 2013, 11:09 AM
atomic sagebrush

Quote:

Originally Posted by gurly

Does Sylk also help you conceive like pre-seed does?

No. EVerything that boosts conception, sways blue. That's how swaying seems to work - if it helps sperm meet egg, it sways blue; if it makes it more difficult for sperm to meet egg, it sways pink.
July 20th, 2013, 11:10 AM
atomic sagebrush

Quote:

Originally Posted by isis

UGHHH I didn't know this!! I wish I knew before. I'm already in the 2ww. SIGH.

don't despair, as the OP points out, you can still get a girl with preseed. there are no magic bullets.
July 20th, 2013, 06:33 PM
shannashimmers

Which is better the sylk or the acijel?
July 21st, 2013, 05:23 AM
bunnywabbit

IIRC, Atomic said that Sylk was better because Acigel isn't a great lube...

http://http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/10568-acijel-success-failure-rates.html - Post #15
July 21st, 2013, 01:13 PM
atomic sagebrush

Quote:

Originally Posted by shannashimmers

Which is better the sylk or the acijel?

We don't know. I tend to recommend Sylk because it is a way better lube than Acijel. But some people swear by Acijel because it has some acid that IG used to claim was a magic bullet for pink (it's not and there have been plenty of people who got Acijel opposites). Until we have side by side blind studies with people doing nothing else to sway, we can't know.