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I had a small bleed early yesterday so went and had an ultrasound and not heartbeat was found. I now have an appointment with my OB today as we live several hours away so could not get to him yesterday.
Just wondering for those that have been in a similar experience what can I except to happen now. I have had 3 previous c-sections. I am completely lost and kind of numb.
Oh no! I am so, so sorry.
Oh no!!! I am so deeply sorry. This is terrible. I am heart broken for u. I haven't been in ur situation but I'm sending u much strength to get through this nightmare. Lots of love xxx
Oh so sorry for your very sad loss :-( Thinking of you
I am so so sorry, my heart is breaking for you. I hope you are able to find peace somehow...
That is devastating. Sending you strength to get through this time. xx
I am so so sorry. :( I have no advice but just wishing you peace.
Have induction scheduled for Wednesday lunch time.
Oh no I am so sorry!!! I know there is really nothing I can say to ease the pain, I'm just so sorry, I hate to see anyone else go through this. It's truly the worst experience. I've never had a csection so I am unsure of the procedure in that case. I'm so sorry. Life is so unfair.
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I'm so sorry:(
Omg ...my heart goes out to you ...:(
M so sorry to hear that
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Thank you for all your kind words.
i am so sorry to read this :(
from the experience of a family member who went through this a few years ago (at 22 weeks) she was booked in to the maternity hospital and was induced.
sending lots of strength your way xx
I am so sorry hun, no words can express the pain you are going through I know it to well. I lost my son at 20 weeks. I think what happens next will be a complete blur for you my sweet. The baby has to come out and because you have had 3 c sections I am not sure how they will go about getting baby out. You may be given the choice to labor naturally considering it is not the same as a normal labour and the risks for complications of baby well they aren't there anymore, the pain medications you can take are increased. I know with my loss I begged for a d and c but they refused as they said it will do more harm than good and a longer recovery time and possible infertility. So I assume they will help you naturally as a c section is a great recovery time and months before you can ttc again naturally you are good to try again whenever your emotionally ready. In any event if you do go natural rest assured the pain that you will feel will be emotional and it isn't as physically painful at all. There is a risk with going natural a bleeding risk that you may indeed need a d and c anyway but for some reason they made me go through it with an induction small tablets placed at the cervix to get things moving. Like you I had some spotting before hand and they said it was a sign my body new it was time and the whole process was reduced to hours they said it can take days. The most important advice is take all the help and information you can from the hospital, pack a little bag with mementos you can keep from baby.. A teddy, blanket, little hat, camera and foot prints and hand prints are something you might like to do as well.... Be kind on yourself the next few months are going to be hard...spend quality time with your family and your partner these are the two things that got me through the hardest parts. Also if I had the chance again I would have spent longer with my little one. The hospital will help you make arrangements of whats to come after there is a lot but do not worry about this they will take care of it for you and help you and your partner decide what exactly you want. Take care honey and if you ever need someone to chat to pm me!
I am so so sorry. Absolutely heart breaking :(
Totally devastating - I'm so so sorry. Sending hugs and prayers. xx
I am sorry for your loss. Words cannot describe the devastation you must be feeling. You are in the thoughts and prayers of all of us. We will be thinking of you as you say good bye to your precious child. I hope it is as quick as possible for you.
Very sorry to hear :(
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so so sorry for you. sending you strength and hugs
I am so very sorry & can only imagine the devastation you must be feeling. No-one should ever have to go through this :(
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oh no im am so very sorry to read this, i cant begin to imagine how devastating it must feel :( Thinking of you and hope you are well looked after during the next days, weeks and months.
I am so sorry.
Bless you heart I am so utterly sorry and gutted to hear you're going though this, my heart just breaks and please know I understand what you're going through, I have lost 2 girls (2012 & 2013) at the same stage and the numbness and shock I felt after 3 healthy boys is so devastating, I'm so sorry I didn't see this sooner, I wish I could have messages you to give you an idea of my inductions & labours, you will be strong and get through this and every day will ease, I'm sending you so many prayers and such strength and courage for you today, gosh I wish id seen this yesterday, please feel free to contact me, I can help you through this process if it's what you want, I'm so sorry xx you are going through the hardest day today, you can get through this I promise you, bless you and your little baby xx
I'm so relieved to read the post from rainbow baby, just glad you got the right advice and help when you need it most, bless you rainbowbaby, I hope your advice helped her, it's all the things I would have said too xx
Just so desperately thinking of things that could help you but these CDs are definitely for later in time.....for now just scream and shout and cry as much as you need....
I just had a look on circle & bloom for you and they have a special meditation cd specifically for what you're going through, listening to these really helped me, I used to walk every day for half an hour listening to these meditations, they can really help you to emotionally heal. W
When I used them they didn't have the one specifically for loss, I used ones for positive thinking and healthy mind, but this is a new programme they've released and so so needed and circle & bloom are so wonderful & they re not charging for this new programme...their programmes are normally about $30... have a look, it'll be a way for you to make time for yourself to process your pain and grief, I know how busy it is with 3 kids and going through this tremendous loss xx
Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep is a wonderful organization that provides free services to capture any moments you may want to with this baby. Their website is difficult to view but I think it is a great service and perhaps something that may help.
Only I am just so very sad to be reading this, I am crying at what you are now going through. I know how much your struggled to finally get pregnant and this is just not fair.
I have no advice, I am just so very sorry and I think Rainbow baby gave some really nice advice xxx
I'm just numb reading this, I'm so utterly devastated for you and I wish I could give you big hug. It brings me back to my two losses and my heart aches for you. I did not labor my 19-week baby, my OBGYN though that D&E was the better way to go, I'm glad I didn't have to go through labor since I know that was going to make me feel worse than I already was. I did recover quickly physically, but emotionally was another story, it will get better, no matter how horrible it looks right now. I couldn't take pictures or other things like that, the ultrasound pictures and movies before the surgery were enough for me to have and that's how I wanted to remember her. Take time to grieve, scream, cry, be angry at anyone and anything and know we are here for you! You can always PM me. I'm so sorry..:sad:
Thank you all. Have started the induction lunch time yesterday , waiting on 2nd dose and hoping after that all will go quick.
We're all thinking of you all around the world, you can do this and however hard and utterly sad it feels the sun will shine again in your heart I promise....I will go to sleep praying and thinking of you, I wish I could hold you hand and help you through this...my advice is to spend time with her, don't be scared, she will be beautiful and you'll look back and treasure your moments with her, I too like rainbow baby wish I could've had longer with her, it is something magical I will always remember holding her and even so young you will recognised her, be strong and let the midwives surround you with compassion and love, I pray for comfort and strength and most of all peace in your heart, be strong you can do this x
Im so sorry , and am just devestated for you xo
<3 aww sweets my thoughts are with you and your beautiful angel today xoxoxoxo Bears of hope are the organisation that helped me through all the emotional pain after, their Australian based and not for profit a god sent. They have free counseling advice and a facebook chat forum..Plenty of women on there who have been through it as well!! Rest assure you will feel normal again.....it took me months to feel normal again. <3
Thinking of you xx
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Shedding tears for you right now. I can only imagine the heart ache an know there are no words that can ease it. I have included a link to an organisation that has volunteer photographers for parents going through what you are now. I hope you are surrounded by your loved one and can find some solace in their loving embraces. So very very sorry.
Heartfelt : giving the gift of photographic memories - Home
I delivered our angel at 1:20 this afternoon, but had to have placenta surgical removed. Will be home with my family in the morning.
Thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers and helpful information. I wish no one had to know this pain.
So wish there were words because that's all we have on here. I'm glad at least that part is over for you. Huge cyper hugs. I just don't know what to say except I'm so sorry.
Had to come back here and check on you before bed.. I am so sorry sweets. Rest in peace little angel. Be kind on yourself and rest up <3. Hoping you get to go home soon as posible!! <3 <3
So sad to read this. Praying that you'll find the strength to get through this difficult time. Thinking of you x
I'm so sorry.
So so so sorry. You have lots of prayers going out to you tonight. xx