i'm new here and i'm in despair!

Hi everybody!!!
I’m new to this board and I want to share my story.
I’m in despair now!
I don’t have children at all and most of all I strived for is becoming a mother. I want to feel what is it to be a mother, to have child, take care of him and know that somebody in this world needs you very much. I guess it’s pleasant feeling …
I wanted to adopt a child. I’m from Germany and wanted to adopt a child from Russia. Due to my problems with health I can’t carry out a child myself so the only two options for me are adoption or surrogacy. I was totally against the surrogacy so I decided to adopt. I was in queu for 3 years…I gathered all the documents…I even can show you the photo ofmy boy….
here is his photo ion official site Детальна� �траница ребенка - У�ыновление в Ро��ии
And what now? the forbidden foreigners to adopt their children and the three years of torture ended with no result.
I’m in despair!
My friend also had problems with health and she took part in surrogacy program in one clinic. She said that I’m stupid and should try also this program but I didn’t want to…but now I think she was right then. Her baby is more than a year now and I have nothing.
So now I also want to try this clinic. She says that it nice. Now I’m waiting for arranging the date of arriving…

Hi Emma, big hugs!!! I'm sorry your adoption fell through. :( Something similar happened to a friend of mine but with a happy ending...she applied to adopt a little baby boy who had yet to be born and was very excited (she had gone through many miscarriages, more than 10, and was unable to carry a child). While waiting for the child to be born, she found out she was pregnant...didn't think much of it because she always miscarried....except she didn't!! Halfway through her pregnancy, the birth mom of the baby she was going to adopt changed her mind and my friend was devastated. But...my friend was halfway through her own pregnancy too and found out she was having a boy, she was going to be getting her little boy anyway. :) Sometimes bad things happen but great things happen afterwards...hang in there!
Maybe you should post on the adoption board or infertility board, they may know more about surrogacy and all that it entails. Good luck!

Emma, check out this message board about all things surrogacy: All Things Surrogacy - BabyCenter

I'm sure the ladies there can help put your mind at ease!! :)

Surrogacy is a great option!

Hi and welcome, I'm so sorry to hear you are struggling. I hope it all works out happily for you.

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Hi Emma, big hugs!!! I'm sorry your adoption fell through. :( Something similar happened to a friend of mine but with a happy ending...she applied to adopt a little baby boy who had yet to be born and was very excited (she had gone through many miscarriages, more than 10, and was unable to carry a child). While waiting for the child to be born, she found out she was pregnant...didn't think much of it because she always miscarried....except she didn't!! Halfway through her pregnancy, the birth mom of the baby she was going to adopt changed her mind and my friend was devastated. But...my friend was halfway through her own pregnancy too and found out she was having a boy, she was going to be getting her little boy anyway. :) Sometimes bad things happen but great things happen afterwards...hang in there!
Maybe you should post on the adoption board or infertility board, they may know more about surrogacy and all that it entails. Good luck!

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such a story with happy end!!!wish i also could have happy end...
i'm in another situation. i can't carry bcz doctors forbid me to get pregnant...my organism just will not cope with the pregnancy and i can die...
but maybe happy end will be when i use the surrogacy as an option.
my friend used and now she has her little angel...
she suggested me to do it together but i was against.. now i regreti didn't listen to her.

thax for the information given :happy::happy:

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Hi and welcome, I'm so sorry to hear you are struggling. I hope it all works out happily for you.

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thank you so much!

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Originally Posted by nuthinbutpink

Surrogacy is a great option!

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now i also think so!

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Hi and welcome, I'm so sorry to hear you are struggling. I hope it all works out happily for you.

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thanx for support!i also hope:worry:

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Originally Posted by nuthinbutpink

Surrogacy is a great option!

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now i also concider it as an option!

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Hi and welcome, I'm so sorry to hear you are struggling. I hope it all works out happily for you.

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Thanx for support

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Emma, check out this message board about all things surrogacy: All Things Surrogacy - BabyCenter

I'm sure the ladies there can help put your mind at ease!! :)

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thanx for useful inf :)

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Originally Posted by Houseofblue

Hi Emma, big hugs!!! I'm sorry your adoption fell through. :( Something similar happened to a friend of mine but with a happy ending...she applied to adopt a little baby boy who had yet to be born and was very excited (she had gone through many miscarriages, more than 10, and was unable to carry a child). While waiting for the child to be born, she found out she was pregnant...didn't think much of it because she always miscarried....except she didn't!! Halfway through her pregnancy, the birth mom of the baby she was going to adopt changed her mind and my friend was devastated. But...my friend was halfway through her own pregnancy too and found out she was having a boy, she was going to be getting her little boy anyway. :) Sometimes bad things happen but great things happen afterwards...hang in there!
Maybe you should post on the adoption board or infertility board, they may know more about surrogacy and all that it entails. Good luck!

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thank you very much!

You can also check here is you are considering surrogacy as an option ********* - Center for Reproductive Medicine I saw they provide such services and it seems to me the prices are acceptable.

thank you so much!
i think it's great clinic and the conditions and prices are also affordable.need some time to think over.

it is very important step and you should see all pros and cons of this deal. Think everything over. Probably, I wasn't in the program of surrogacy (was in ED program) but if you have questions concerning the clinic itself I'll be glad to help you.

Hello, dear Emma. First of all, I'm really sorry about your situation. I want to say, that everyone is choosing his own way to the dream. Your friend tried surrogacy and succeed, you tried adoption and did not succeed, but it doesn't mean that your choice was wrong, it means only that your way to your dream will be a little bit longer than hers. Don't feel guilty, don't think you're stupid. If you have already decided for yourself that you are ready for surrogacy, don't change your mind, move on and everything will be ok. By the way, my best friend was on the surrogacy program in Ukraine and succeed. So, it is rather good variant

thank youall for support and understanding.
didn't write for long...was so busy with alll this preparation...
if to be short i decided to use surrogacy program.
and now my surrrogate mother is pregnant for 1 omth already...i'm sohappy!can't describe emotions and feelings!!!

hi, emma!!!! it is so great! my congratulations for you!!! it is great news! did you use service of the clinic or found your surrogate by yourslf?

Aw that's amazing news Emma, good things come to those who wait!! you may have missed out on the adoption but this child has been sent to you for a reason. Enjoy the surrogacy and you'll be soon be holding your little angel also x x

I am so very sorry! I wish they would allow surrogacy here in my state, as I'd be a surrogate if I were allowed. I think you should try that and research it. It could be amazing and I'm sure that the wait would be worthwhile, now. I think that would be an excellent choice for you. I think that some women are surrogates not simply for money, but because it is a joyous gift to help another woman become a mother. If you are able to choose the woman to do this, be sure to ask her why she chooses to be a surrogate. The way she answers you will be a great way to know if she's the right one.

I see that you are expecting already via surrogacy and I am so happy for you! Praying for a happy and healthy pregnancy and delivery of your precious baby! Wonderful!

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thank youall for support and understanding.
didn't write for long...was so busy with alll this preparation...
if to be short i decided to use surrogacy program.
and now my surrrogate mother is pregnant for 1 omth already...i'm sohappy!can't describe emotions and feelings!!!

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Great news, Emma! Congratulation. How did you find a surrogate mother?

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Originally Posted by Leticia

hi, emma!!!! it is so great! my congratulations for you!!! it is great news! did you use service of the clinic or found your surrogate by yourslf?

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i used the services of the clinic. didn't want to search for surrogate myself. i trust clinic. they have a huge database of healthy surrogate mothers. they sign agreement with the surrogate thus she can't say in the end: i don't want to give you my baby!

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Originally Posted by Petal

Aw that's amazing news Emma, good things come to those who wait!! you may have missed out on the adoption but this child has been sent to you for a reason. Enjoy the surrogacy and you'll be soon be holding your little angel also x x

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thank you for such kind of words.

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I see that you are expecting already via surrogacy and I am so happy for you! Praying for a happy and healthy pregnancy and delivery of your precious baby! Wonderful!

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thanx forall your wishes!

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i used the services of the clinic. didn't want to search for surrogate myself. i trust clinic. they have a huge database of healthy surrogate mothers. they sign agreement with the surrogate thus she can't say in the end: i don't want to give you my baby!

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What was the clinic and how did you find it?

really great. I'm glad that women our days have changes to get pregnant with a help of reproductive technologies. I'm pregnant through ivf some through surrogacy it doesn't matter bcz final variant is - motherhood!!!!)))) I'm proud for those who didn't give up and continued their way till positive result!!!)

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What was the clinic and how did you find it?

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it is ukrainian clinic. my friend used its services and recommended me. i wrote the story abt how i was against surrogacy and she wanted to persuade me an wanted to come together there. but i refused tried to adopt but failed. and she succeeded. so i decided to follow her advice.

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really great. I'm glad that women our days have changes to get pregnant with a help of reproductive technologies. I'm pregnant through ivf some through surrogacy it doesn't matter bcz final variant is - motherhood!!!!)))) I'm proud for those who didn't give up and continued their way till positive result!!!)

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my congrats on your pregnancy? what is the term?

it is good decision. it is better to use services which someone used already and succeed. Did you go there to sign some papers?

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it is ukrainian clinic. my friend used its services and recommended me. i wrote the story abt how i was against surrogacy and she wanted to persuade me an wanted to come together there. but i refused tried to adopt but failed. and she succeeded. so i decided to follow her advice.

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Is everything legal?

and is there the point that mother forced to give back the child and have no right to the baby in future?

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Originally Posted by mira

of course!!!
and surrogacy is also allowed in the country by the law!

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I know that surrogacy is unforbidden in UA. Just like Leticia, I wanted to find out whether there is a point in contract between you and your sm, according to which all rights on future child are yours

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it is good decision. it is better to use services which someone used already and succeed. Did you go there to sign some papers?

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yes. during the first visit we signed the agreement between us and the clinic.

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Is everything legal?

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of course!surrogaccy is officially allowed in Ukraine.

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I know that surrogacy is unforbidden in UA. Just like Leticia, I wanted to find out whether there is a point in contract between you and your sm, according to which all rights on future child are yours

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yes. when child is born the clinic has to prepare all necesarry documents for the child. they do birth certificate where we are the parents of the child.

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yes. when child is born the clinic has to prepare all necesarry documents for the child. they do birth certificate where we are the parents of the child.

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Have you met your surrogate mother personally?

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and wahat is the proce of this program????