Please help me name my twins

I will be 28weeks with boy/girl twins on Sunday and am really devastated as we haven't decided on names yet. I can't really enjoy the pregnancy because I don't feel like the babies have an identity yet. Don't know how to explain what I mean but finding a name is not fun for us anymore. I feel like everybody knows how their baby will be called even before they fall pregnant and we are not even close yet.

I want to name the boy Milan and can't think of another name. I went through all the name books and apps and all the other names just don't feel right to me. DH does not agree at all but doesn't have any other ideas.

For the girl I would love something simple like Sophia, Emma, Elina, Alissa but DH insists on naming her Viana which I don't like AT ALL!!!

Maybe it's helpful to know that we have an Arabic surname so we can't use names like Benjamin, (which I love), sebastian or any typical American or European names. Our DS is called Dilano (pronounced Delano) and I think Milan would fit perfectly fine with his name....

Does anyone know a secret how to convince DH?

Well my DH is the same way. Very insistent on the name that he decides. If it makes you feel any better DS2 and DD didn't have names until we were leaving the hospital. With DS2 they were kicking us out of the hospital.

I have no secrets to get him to change his mind. I can only empathize with you. I tried throwing out several names but he didn't like any of them. Just know that you aren't the only one this a stubborn DH. My DH won't even discuss names until I am about 7-8 months along. Then when we can't agree (cause he only likes one) it really stresses me out.

I am sorry... maybe the other women on here have some ideas for you??

Is there any reason you "can't" use American or European sounding names other than your surname? Personally, I don't think they have to "match", unless that's something that's important to you.

I have an Italian least name and my boys are Adrian (Italian) and Owen (Gaelic). Our 3rd will be Micah (Hebrew) if it's a boy or AnaSofia if it's a girl.

My husband didn't like the name I chose for DD3 but when she was born I said she looks like a ----- & he said ok you can have that name. Ha ha ha Now he likes her name they will get used to it.

Thank you so much for your reply, I really thought I am the only woman on this planet with a stubborn DH. Never heard of any friends having the same problem. They all had a name in mind before they were even pregnant and once the babies were born they were named how the mother wanted it.

In Germany we have a time frame of two weeks after baby is born to find a name otherwise the government will give it a name. At our last OB appointment the doc told me that I should keep in mind that cesarians are more common with twins and as soon as we went out the door DH said "well, looks like our problem is solved. You'll need general anesthesia and won't be able to tell the nurses how we want to name the babies so I will take my chance!" HA, sure! I am glad it's not that easy.

Abifasc nope it's just because of our surname. It's typical Arabic and it's really hard to use a boys name that sounds good with it. It's much easier with the girl names but we still haven't agreed on one.

Sorry pumpkin. I didn't know the trouble you were having but I think once babies are born DH's are easier to sway (we all know about swaying lol). Once he sees all you go through I think he will change his mind. Maybe just start calling them Milan and Sophia in front of him! Lol

BTW I love Adrian as long as it is pronounced English but don't like the sound of it in german.

Sunflower you are so right!! I mean I went through a year of swaying, two losses, a surgery, clomid, femara and injections and now he wants to decide how we are going to name the babies?! I was even trying to find a compromise and offered names like Diana and Liana (not in love with them but they are close to Viana) because I could live with those names but he is not ready to agree to a compromise.

No secret...except I only brought up the name a bit in the time we talked baby girl names before knowing that she was a girl. Then we found out BOY.....no more mention of her name, but as soon as we found out GIRL, I asked if it was ok to use that name as it was perfect! He tried to change it or my mind at 36 weeks, but I just pretended I did not hear his other option!!!

I hope that you can convince your DH to let you name your cute pumpkins!!!! Good luck!

I told my DH he can name all the babies that he has... good reminder of who is going through all the stress, pain, and scars!! I really think men have no idea how physically and mentally difficult it is to carry and have a baby!!

We also are guilty of not having names picked out until after birth. I will have a short list of boy and girl names. It's nice to look at the baby's face and then decide, if you're having trouble. Sorry I don't have any name suggestions for you. I'm sure you'll find something though. Good luck! :)

My husband is also very opinionated about names and does not like to discuss it in advance.

is there any nickname that he would like for Milan like Milo or something like that? My husband didn't love the name Susannah but he did like Suzy so that was our compromise (and now he likes Susannah as well)

She did not have a name till noon the day after she was born and we hadn't even started talking about it till my water broke!

PS - I like Viana! Very pretty.

You can try nymbler. You enter the names you like and then it gives you suggestions based on those. I put in a couple names you mentioned to try it out and one of the names it came out with was Nila which I think is beautiful. Not certain if it or others will work for you (or dh). Personally I have named all my kids after seeing them (although we had lists of possibles). Good luck!

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BTW I love Adrian as long as it is pronounced English but don't like the sound of it in german.

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Thank you! I love it too.
My dh has always been really difficult with names. He likes popular, classic, no-fail names and I like uncommon bug not weird names. He doesn't offer suggestions, just says 'yes' or ''no'. I found if I could figure out the style he liked, or the sound, or whatever he was more apt to agree. But he does let me have a tiny bit more say since I carry the baby and all ;)

My first DD was completely named by dh without asking me....DD2 was born a week before Christmas so I really wanted a festive name....named her Natalia....Italian....means birth of Christ....and Italians say bueno natali meaning merry Christmas.....poor DD3 I was literally not being discharged because I couldn't find her a name :( lol but eventually we agreed with Alexa. All 5 of our names are A or N so we wanted to keep it going.

Hmmmm how about a girl name that starts with "M" as well? I have a Lauren & a Lindsey & I think its cute having the same first letter.
Suggestions-
Mia or Mya
Madelyn
Marianna
Madison

For dealing with Dh-I DONT compromise.I look at it this way.his suggestions and input are important BUT I have to put up with all the pregnancy & delivery & post partum so I get final say in ANY baby naming!he doest argue with that & hes damn lucky he doesn't!lol

Oh I like Mya Viana.that's cute.Madelyn Viana sounds cutetoo.GL!

Mya Viana is beautiful!!


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I will be 28weeks with boy/girl twins on Sunday and am really devastated as we haven't decided on names yet. I can't really enjoy the pregnancy because I don't feel like the babies have an identity yet. Don't know how to explain what I mean but finding a name is not fun for us anymore. I feel like everybody knows how their baby will be called even before they fall pregnant and we are not even close yet.

I want to name the boy Milan and can't think of another name. I went through all the name books and apps and all the other names just don't feel right to me. DH does not agree at all but doesn't have any other ideas.

For the girl I would love something simple like Sophia, Emma, Elina, Alissa but DH insists on naming her Viana which I don't like AT ALL!!!

Maybe it's helpful to know that we have an Arabic surname so we can't use names like Benjamin, (which I love), sebastian or any typical American or European names. Our DS is called Dilano (pronounced Delano) and I think Milan would fit perfectly fine with his name....

Does anyone know a secret how to convince DH?

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What about if you 'combined' Viana with one of your favourites, or pick something you like that sounds similar? Would something like Sienna, Tiana, Gianna or Alana work?

Atomic thanks for the advice, I might want to ask him if there is a nickname for Milan that he might like :).

Yesterday I tried to explain to him why it is so important to me to be the main part in choosing the name because I don't think he realizes what I went through to be were I am now. Hopefully he will be more cooperative now!

Willows girl I wouldn't mind naming our children after giving birth. My plan wS to make a list with our favorites and then choose but there is no such list because he is so stubborn.

Choosing Viana as a second name is a good idea I'll see if he will agree to that. No idea why I didn't think of that myself.

Strawberrymom I already tried that...no luck. I like Nila though!

Bunny I love Tiana and it's very close to Viana but already tried my luck and guess what....he doesn't like it:sad:.

I don't get why I have to to all the work and whenever I fall in love with a name he just says NO.

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Atomic thanks for the advice, I might want to ask him if there is a nickname for Milan that he might like :).

Yesterday I tried to explain to him why it is so important to me to be the main part in choosing the name because I don't think he realizes what I went through to be were I am now. Hopefully he will be more cooperative now!

Willows girl I wouldn't mind naming our children after giving birth. My plan wS to make a list with our favorites and then choose but there is no such list because he is so stubborn.

Choosing Viana as a second name is a good idea I'll see if he will agree to that. No idea why I didn't think of that myself.

Strawberrymom I already tried that...no luck. I like Nila though!

Bunny I love Tiana and it's very close to Viana but already tried my luck and guess what....he doesn't like it:sad:.

I don't get why I have to to all the work and whenever I fall in love with a name he just says NO.

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We ended up using the name my husband chose as her middle name.

I really like Liana, Alana & Chiara.

I'm no help, just wanted to say that I TOTALLY agree, mothers should have the first naming rights after all they go through before AND after the child is born. There is no way I'd compromise on my fave names!

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Atomic thanks for the advice, I might want to ask him if there is a nickname for Milan that he might like :).

Yesterday I tried to explain to him why it is so important to me to be the main part in choosing the name because I don't think he realizes what I went through to be were I am now. Hopefully he will be more cooperative now!

Willows girl I wouldn't mind naming our children after giving birth. My plan wS to make a list with our favorites and then choose but there is no such list because he is so stubborn.

Choosing Viana as a second name is a good idea I'll see if he will agree to that. No idea why I didn't think of that myself.

Strawberrymom I already tried that...no luck. I like Nila though!

Bunny I love Tiana and it's very close to Viana but already tried my luck and guess what....he doesn't like it:sad:.

I don't get why I have to to all the work and whenever I fall in love with a name he just says NO.

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I think I'd tell him you're *really* disliking Viana, but you're willing to pick a similar name WITH him that you both like. I really hope he's willing to meet you partway...

Would Deanna or Rianna/Rhianna work for both of you?

I would suggest that since you are the mom, carrying twins no less, that you should have more pull with the first names, he then can have more pull with second names. Try to have your first names picked before hand so he will maybe try to work a second name out that goes with your picks.


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What do you think about Amin, micah is also Nice!
Or vienna?

Viana Vagina...DONE! You can thank me later.

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Viana Vagina...DONE! You can thank me later.

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In reality I do sympathize you, but use of humor is my coping mechanism. I couldn't help myself. I do think that if you can get a few friends/family members to say that to your husband, you will soon be back to the drawing board. Good luck love! I do think Milan is super cute.

I also think Milan is super cute. I had a friend in college named Viana. Her parents were Victor and Diana, and they decided to combine those to make her name. I thought it was pretty and she was WAY cool (we met in an automotive repair and technology college.) So, I like that name, but I never thought about how I'd feel about that name if I ever heard it in abstract rather than attached to someone I knew and cared about.

I also like Tiana, Kiana and Rhianna. We might have named DS1 Rhiannon if he'd been a girl.

I just thought about how cute twins named Vienna and Milan would be. Two awesome European cities, aww :)

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I just thought about how cute twins named Vienna and Milan would be. Two awesome European cities, aww :)

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Cute!

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Viana Vagina...DONE! You can thank me later.

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:rofl::rofl: thanks for making me laught!!

Thanks Ladies for all the replies, you've been such a great help.

So Friday night DH went out with his friends and I wrote him a message and explained what I went through to be finally be pregnant and why it means so much to me to pick names that I LOVE and not only can live with. He wrote back that he doesn't want me to worry and that he canceled all his plans for Sunday to find names.

Sunday started just like I expected it to. He came up with to suggestions and we started arguing. I tried suggesting Liana once again since it is close to Viana and he said he would think about it. A little later he came up to me saying that he would rather name the girl Liah than Liana. I really like the name but of course I made him think that I am not sure about it. It didn't even take 5 minutes and he offered to name the boy Milan if we could choose Liah for the girl :bigsmile:. Totally happy with that AND he is soooo proud that he picked the girl name he can't stop talking about it!!

It feels like some heavy weight fell off my chest!

That's great news! It must be a huge relief to have come to an agreement. I like how he thinks he has "won" somehow after you made him think that you weren't sure about Liah. Lol!! 😉
The names are beautiful and I can't wait to hear about the arrival of these twins!! 😀


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