Tried other sites? My experience

I have posted a few times on In Gender site. First all nub shots were boy predictions. Then I posted a 13 week potty shot that seemed more girly to them. Then I posted here on this site and it was almost all boy predictions. Then for fun, I posted again and InGender went back to boy predictions. My point is that these were all the same pics, no new ones. Some say not to go by potty shots at that early gestation. And I am wondering if there are any other sites you have used or any that have ultrasound techs on hand to answer questions? Also, do OB's tell early ultrasounds well or is it more of a tech's opinion. I find out in a week the gender, and as you can tell I am making myself sick with stress about this roller coaster of emotions :)

It's called nub guessing. It's a guess whether your tech makes it or we do.

You and your tech get a live action view and can guess with more accuracy than we are able to because all we see is a a still shot.

If the tech takes the time to get baby in the right position and then look, at 13 weeks, it's a highly accurate prediction.

With what you post on here and anywhere else, it's just a guess.

Well according to what you say, it sounds like it points to a boy according to what I understand.
You said both sites pointed to boy by nub. Potty shots at 13 weeks are apparently unreliable so I wouldn't go by that at all!
I guess think boy as that is the general consensus but it still is not 100% at this point so prepare to hear either!

Google nub-guessing if you are looking for more "guesses". There are some ultrasound techs out there who do this, I couldn't give you any web-sites if that is what you're looking for. It is usually just a tech opinion, some of them are well learned in the theory, some not.

There is a tech on Baby center's ultrasound forum I believe. Her name is turtle something. We used to have one here but I have not seen her post in a while.

Yeh turtle was good and cold water or love my 4 on ingender are generally accurate. Diamond 5 and jenaemma aren't techs as far as I know but also both good at guessing. I think boy from your shots xx

Thanks so much for the thoughts and direction!!!

I think your nub looked very boyish, but like others have said, nothing is 100% at this stage. We all try our best to guess but sometimes it can be tricky going off of a pic or 2!

Best of luck!!

I am sorry to hear that you are upset and my advice is to step away from the computer and get out somewhere and enjoy your life, because that baby's gender is set at this point and all the guessing in the world will not change it.

All ultrasound techs worth their salt will agree that it is really not reliable at 13 weeks and nubs are just guesses at that point even when done by very skilled techs. That is why the majority of doctors offices will not tell gender before 16 weeks minimum and oftentimes more like 18-20 weeks.

BTW at 13 weeks potty shots are not at all reliable and so any guesses you receive at that point on potty shots are worthless.

Nub shots taken before the end of the 12th week gestation are also totally unreliable.

I have seen a TON of people come onto the sites heartbroken after receiving inaccurate guesses from techs and doctors. I actually find the techs to be better at gender than the OB's are.

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Originally Posted by nuthinbutpink

It's called nub guessing. It's a guess whether your tech makes it or we do.

You and your tech get a live action view and can guess with more accuracy than we are able to because all we see is a a still shot.

If the tech takes the time to get baby in the right position and then look, at 13 weeks, it's a highly accurate prediction.

With what you post on here and anywhere else, it's just a guess.

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Yes and I also want to reiterate that even a tech on a site (were you to find one, bearing in mind that you can't know if the person on the other end of the computer is actually a tech or a 50 year old dude who gets his jollies looking at ultrasounds LOL) cannot get a good read off of one picture whereas your ultrasound tech is looking at the goods for 20-45 min. depending on the length of your u/s.

You are looking for something that doesn't exist and you need to stop stressing since it's not good for you or your baby's health. :heart:

Atomic Sagebrush....Thanks for the time you took to respond. I agree with your observation....I sometimes regret ever making myself sick over this with the computer. It is all too consuming. And I should be enjoying this easy pregnacy and magical 2.5 year old girl. I am just dreading my own feelings of disappointment before even knowing the gender of this second child. I hope I don't go into some deep depression or anything. Just the fear of the unknown. Thank s again, I will sleep better actually, thanks :)

I completely understand Cherie!! Wishing you the very best of luck, and if you do end up feeling sad in a week then please come join us in the Gender Disappointment forums because we have all been there! :)

i have one other question...in addission to the thanks and how much i appreciate your words atomic sagebrush!....You mentioned 13 week potty shots are not so reliable. I have heard this before.....my question is why then do some look like total weiners and some are hard to make out and some even look this three lines already....doesnt that mean the are 'deteriminable" in a way? just confusing. Like can it look flat and then a few weeks later just turn into a penis that protrudes??

I think it's because the baby's bits could either be a penis or swollen lady bits xx

(apologies for "graphic" terminology)

Up until about 11 weeks, the penis and clitoris are the exact same in both boys and girls. They are identical and no one could tell them apart because they're the exact same structure. About 11 weeks, boys start to make testosterone and it is testosterone that causes that structure to turn into a penis, and for the ovaries to move down into the scrotum and become testicles. This process takes time and for much of that time period, the difference between the developing labia/vagina/clitoris and the boy bits are indistinguishable. By late in the 12th week and then into the 13th, you can start to see the differences but they aren't visible from the bottom, things still look pretty similar from that viewpoint at that stage of development. only from the side can you tell anything reliably at that point of gestation.

I can tell you what my very understanding uls tech told me at my DD 13 week scan. Keep in mind this is just her opinion but she had been doing this for a long long time. She said at 13 weeks she prefers to look at a potty shot. She said if it is a boy that you can usually see boy parts. She then looked at my DD and didn't see any "boy parts". What we did see though was 3 dots. Now that was just MY experience.

I have also seen some 15 week uls that looked like they were boy parts and turned out it was swollen girl parts. Take a look on page 6 of this post... scroll down, second to last post on that page. This person ended up having a girl!!

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ultr...g-13w2d-6.html

The bottom line is 13 week potty shot or nub is just a guess. It isn't set in stone. My thoughts on it are if you are going to get your hopes up or be crushed by a nub or 13 week potty shot you are better of not looking at all. I had a 15 week uls done that I paid for (and the uls tech was amazing) and he guaranteed the gender. He also spent about 30 minutes getting the perfect potty shot before he told us that she was a girl. He also prided himself on not ever being wrong once he called the gender. He told us that he isn't always able to tell at 15 weeks but if he couldn't say for sure we could come back at no charge.

I hope you are okay and you will find out soon. Don't stress too much... it isn't good for the baby.

Thought I would stop by one last time, before tomorrow which is my 19 week scan. I have never felt so many emotions. I just worry I will be so depressed if it turns out that I am carrying a girl. I just pray fro a boy so bad. I wonder if I will ever be truly happy if its not a boy for me. I need this. Too much bad has happened to me quite frankly :)

Good luck for tomorrow hope you see your little man on the screen xx

sending you a ton of blue dust!!

Thanks :) I just read a post I had not read from Atomic Sagebrush about the potty shot etc etc....every bit of info helps. Although sometimes I wish I did not know all this now..its enough to drive a woman crazy. I do hope to have a good day, I was up all night crying , so sad we put this much pressure on ourselves when all we really want is to have that family we envision in our minds as little girls. But so be it, and the feelings are strong . Its a battle we kind of fight inside, because no matter what great husband you have, they dont fully get it. My husband was baffled last night, only thinking of what a great day today would be when we see our baby again on that screen. I wish I had his optimism and utter joy in just the fact that its a human life :) But still I have to recognize my wants and fears no matter how silly they may seem in the whole picture.

Awaiting your update and hoping for good news hun xx

thanks...oddly enough I feel optomistic for whatever thats worth.....Mulberry Smurf

Any news?? Xx

its a girl....trying to process it as much as I can, but of course feeling like life punched me in the face.

I'm sorry you didn't hear what you wanted:(
So hard.

So sorry you didn't hear blue :( I would love to have heard those words it's a girl but I know for you it must have been tough. I am sure you will start to look forward to your new daughter soon hugs xx

Take the time to process it :) hugs she will be the light of your life when she arrives but I too took it bad when I heard DS 2 at the 20 wk scan so I am thinking of you and soooo many people have been in your shoes so please talk and share xxxxx

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Kind of in the no talking stage....my husband even resulted to writing me a hand written letter. Funny how i wantes the boy so bad and yet he doesnt get it.......somehow i gotta pull myself out of this. Its scary.

I am so sorry Cherie - I know that first week is just so hard but I hope and pray things get better for you soon.