A heartfelt thank you to Atomic
Hi Atomic,
You likely don't remember me, but about a year ago right now I was swaying as hard as I could for a dd and seeking your advice on a few things. My dh had only given me three months to ttc and I was on my third chance. You responded to me that the things I was doing were preventing me from conceiving at all and suggested ways to tone down my sway, reminding me that I would never get my dg if I couldn't get pregnant at all.
Based on your advice I made the case to my dh to try for two additional cycles, telling him everything you told me and explaining that it really hadn't been possible to even conceive those first two tries since I was doing too much. Based on what you said he agreed to try two more cycles if our third try didn't work, which it did not.
Had it not been for you, our three tries would have been up and I would have "closed the door" on my desire for a dd, as I initially promised my dh I would if he gave me those three months of TTC a girl. But your advice and reasoning convinced him and he did agree to those two more tries. Sure enough, we got pregnant on month 4.
Despite a 12 week nub that looked very boyish, we went on to deliver a healthy baby GIRL two months ago. We never verified gender after getting a 12 week nub guess so I was preparing myself for a fourth boy. I don't think I could ever fully describe the emotion of that moment in the delivery room.
It is amazing to me that you, a complete stranger, have profoundly changed the course of my life for the better. Ever since the day I found out my second child was my second ds in early 2007, I think the idea of a dd ran through my head every day of my life. My feelings only intensified three years later when I found out my third LO was another ds, as this was to be our last child. For so many years I felt a deep longing for a dd and wondered how I could go the rest of my life missing a person who didn't even exist. I wanted so badly to just be at peace with my family, and I do love my sons very, very much. But the idea of a dd was always on my mind and in my heart.
Thanks to you, I have never been more at peace. My brain, my heart and my soul feel so complete, and everything feels right in the world. I spent so many years wishing my brain would just leave me alone, to stop thinking about a child I thought I'd never have. And if it wasn't for you I would have over-swayed for our third and final chance, and would certainly have spent the rest of my life wondering what might have been.
Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to help others achieve their gender dreams. I've thought of you many times when looking into my sweet daughter's big blue eyes. You truly played a big role in her existence and I am so grateful.
