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As i write this my niece (who i am extremely close to) is going to hospital because she is in labour with her 2nd child- a girl. Her first child is a boy. I love my boys to the moon an back but i really want to experience having a daughter, and all these ppl around me are having their pigeon pairs, and i want to slap them.
All I can say is that I know exactly how you feel, and it really sucks :(
Everyone around me pregnant with their second is getting their baby girl and I seem to be the only one pregnant with a boy!
I am sorry I can't help but, so you know, I know exactly how you feel. Hugs x
I'm actually kinda dreading seeing her tomorrow at the hossie. Everyone in the family is soo excited because its a girl. They seem to get so much more excited when girls are born. Makes me and my babies feel like an unimportant piece of crap when i give birth because they are boys
Ha, I know that feeling too :( I have been announcing the gender the last few days and all I got were "awwww sorry about that" and so on. My mum even said "oh no how horrible".
I actually feel sorry for my poor unborn DS!
(Sorry I am not helping much, I am having a self pity party myself here).
Its ok, you're allowed to! :) its strange how family can hurt you the most
Thanks, I wish I could be of more help :)
So you are gonna TTC this year? Are you going to sway? Good luck :)
I think it's so horrible that people are so insensitive that they actually say that to your face. I too have 2 boys. I always imagined that I would have a girl but I still wouldn't change my boys for anything. Don't people realize that? That the child we are carrying is an important human being no matter what their gender. When people ask me if we'll try for a 3rd I do say yes. And alot of the time I do get asked or told " hopefully this one will be a girl". I can never admit how much I do want a girl. I just say whatever will be will be etc I don't want their pity if it is another boy. Trust me.. I know if I find out that I'm having another boy that I'll be upset but I'll definitely try to keep it to myself, this forum and one trusted friend who has also been through gender disappointment. I don't see how people feeling sorry for us or telling us sorry helps the situation at all. It's natural to feel the way you do Mum4life but I'm sure once you get to know your nieces daughter you'll see it differently. You'll be the cool great aunt who gets to dote on her and buy frilly dresses for. That's how I feel about my nieces and friends daughters. Hope you're feeling better soon xx
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I have started the diet and will be planning on a girl sway in a few months. Oh i have no doubt i will love her but its the first few visits that get me. I have told everyone we aren't having anymore because they will all make stupid comments about it needing to be a girl. Well turns out her labour stopped in the middle of the night even though her contractions were strong and regular, so now its still a waiting game. Its kinda deja vu because last time she had a baby, which was her first we had been ttc for nearly 2 yrs by that stage and her pregnancy was an oops, and it was hard seeing her and bub then too.
I really do feel for you [emoji17] it's hard when others seem to get so easily what we have to struggle so hard to get and even then there is no guarantee.
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When one of my Sils heard I might try for a third the first thing she said was " I think you'll have another boy ". It really annoyed and it upset me. I played it cool but I was really boiling. I can't understand why somebody would look at me and think " she'll only have boys". Out of the family I'm the most girly... I'm slim, I love dressing up etc that's why I found it so odd that she said that. Why not just say nothing?
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Totally understand these feeling, the rude comments and the pressure to have a girl. Some days it just makes me want to stop at my 2 boys. When people ask if I'll have another I say I'm not sure or no I don't want the oh I hope it's a girl comments!
I won't tell anyone im trying or swaying except for you ladies and I don't think I'll tell anyone I'm pregnant until I know the sex.
Think I'll start in mar/April
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Only my DH, Atomic and you girls know I'm swaying. That's actually a good idea to wait until you know the gender. Last pregnancy I found out I was having a DS but we didn't tell anyone. It gave me time to get used to the idea and nobody said anything to me when they found out we had a boy. Only later the comments started[emoji34]
Hehe... I'm amazed at what I get away with. Not snacking, no meat, weight loss etc and not many people query it.
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So are you ttc now?Quote:
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Yes, I started the diet and exercise in October and have lost 9kg. Im just trying to maintain my weight now. This is our 2nd month TTC.
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I am such a blabber mouth but its not hard to keep it to myself about the diet and ttc/pregnancy with all the comments. I even have a friend who is so horrified by the thought that i want a girl she just doesn't get it. She is pregnant with her 2nd boy which is what she wanted, and just does not get the desire for a girl and is always saying i shouldn't have anymore babies. No idea why. Because it might be a girl? or a boy? or because it will be my 4th, and she only wants 2? Ugh i don't know
Mum4life... I'm the same. I'm usually an open book which is why I thought being on this diet would be difficult. At work we all eat lunch together... Over Xmas with family...
I don't know why people feel the need today comment on the number of children you want [emoji15] as long as you and your partner can handle it that's all that matters.
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I honestly found going from 2-3 super easy, so i may as well throw another into the mix lol, last one though. I don't know what the problem is. Actually in her words 'i'm not allowed to have more babies' i mean wtf is that?? -_-
That's good to hear [emoji3]I'm making the jump from 2 to 3... hopefully it's not too bad for me either.. Fx we catch an egg first anyway
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Could you're friend possibly be jealous at how well you handle and cope with having 3 when she only has the 2. Or maybe she secretly wants a girl and is scared that you'll realize her dream. Not sure... Just ideas..
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Very well could be either.. i think she has issues with the one atm, but there is 7 yr between her first and second. I found going from 1-2 so much harder than going from 2-3, so you should be fine! :)
She was sure she was having a girl and said she wanted a boy, and was really happy about it being another boy, so i dunno
Who knows what people ever really feel or think? I only have told my DH and one real life friend about my true gender desire and only that friend because
she admitted Hers to me.
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So my niece is finally in true active labour and baby will be here tonight. So will be seeing her tomorrow. I am thinking of my niece and cheering her on atm, but my stomach is in my throat
I will be thinking of you tomorrow, hugs!!
When people ask if I want a girl I just brush it off, say whatever will be fine etc, on the inside I'm screaming YES!! Only dh knows how much I want a girl no one else. It the only reason we are going to try again! I need to start my diet!!!
I have been skipping breakfast so that's a start, and I have my clomid ready to go.
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I'm the same! There's a girl i am friends with on fb she has 3 girls and is desperate for a boy, so we chat, and my best friend has 6 kids- 5 boys and 1 girl so she knows how i feel. DH also knows, but really thats it.. I feel as though if any of my kids should of been a girl due to diet, exercise etc it should have been ds2 &3 lol. I also had a lot of (unintentional) pink sway factors when ttc last time (which resulted on ds3), it took us 2 1/2 yrs to conceive then. Everytime i diet and exercise i get pregnant... with a boy! lol
Wow.. So you've pretty much done the diet and exercise twice? What are you going to do differently this time?
Its amazing how gd can bond or break a friendship.
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow xx
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Thank you! I never intentionally swayed. i lost weight and watched my intake but my diet did consist of high nutrients, and more boy friendly. But a combo of some things i did eat, supps i took, exercise etc. strongly sway girl lol my plan is to do a hard sway with diet, cardio and 1 attempt at O, maybe clomid, have DH take OLE and pray... pray hard... from my own experience i do believe that diet does play a big part because i have previously done everything except the diet all at once and got blue, so now i do it all
i am thinking trying inositol as well.. i did use that too when ttc ds3.. supps i used with ds3 were: clomid (only a few cycles), vitex (not together with clomid), metformin, baby aspirin for blood clotting issue.. i also took a prenatal which i know sways blue pretty strongly. I have never intentionally swayed though
Do NOT take inositol without consulting your physician or Atomic! I took it in the beginning of my sway from April to November. I took it because I felt I could benefit from the insulin lowering effects from taking inositol, since I had late onset with DS2. I had a chemical in November that caused me to make an appointment with a RE. They did testing, and I found out I had FSH levels of 45 and a nonexistent AMH! I have NO symptoms of menopause yet my numbers suggest I have been in menopause for YEARS and should not have DS1 or DS2!Quote:
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I have found out through research that inositol improves/normalized ovulation through increasing FSH levels. Well no wonder why mine were so out of wack! Flash forward to now, and I am working to balance my hormones through acupuncture and Atomic's fertility diet. While I will never know if the inositol alone or in combination with BFing caused my hormone imbalance, I would NOT take this unless your doctor feels it is right for you.
These supplements do not often get the testing and research done on them to fully understand the mechanism on how they work. Please do not take anything without careful consideration first. At first glance one may think "I could benefit from this", or "it should be fine as long as I follow the instructions on the label", but these supplements can potentially wreck havoc on our bodies when we are already doing things to change our condition to begin with.
Please AVOID inositol without discussing it at length with your GP or Atomic first. Please.
Sorry for being on my soap box, but I will do anything to prevent someone from going through what I have. I have now been ttcing since July, and I deeply regret messing around with supplements.
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I should add that I took it with both DS1 and with DS2. I took it for non swaying purposes. I just upped the dose when we started ttcing this time around.
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I wasn't planning on taking any supps until i got my plan.. So i visited the baby today, and it went so much better than expected. I didn't get a jealous feeling holding her or anything else..she was just a baby. Gender didn't matter. I still really want a daughter though lol
So happy to hear that for you Mum4life [emoji1] it wouldn't make you a bad person if you did feel upset but it's easier for you if you are happy for them. I'm expecting a niece or nephew later this year and I know I'll be a bundle of nerves until I find out what they are having.
Very happy for you [emoji4]
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I was very surprised tbh.. on the way to the hospital, i finally told DH just how bad my gender desire is. He kinda got it, but understood better when i said well look at this way..'what if we had 3 girls instead, wouldn't you like a boy?' and he finally got it.. He is very supportive and is willing to do the LE diet and supps as well. It was nice being on the same page.
Wish my hubby got it
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Lol... My DH is supportive... Of me doing the diet & exercise [emoji6] he is willing to wear tight undies and take supplements. You've caught a good one there [emoji4]
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