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This is our last chance at getting our little man to complete the family and I am after some advice from any ladies out there who are DTD 2 - 4 days unprotected? I know its advised but I find it hard to not feel nervous about, would just like to put my mind at rest. Darn Shettles method can really play havoc on your mind!
TIA
Shettles theory is the definition of bullshit; it was initially based on false and frankly idiotic assumptions, has never been proven to work, and has thoroughly been disproven in numerous scientific studies. Put it out of your mind! Have you read atomic's Trouble with Timing essay?
I recommend sex every other day all cycle long, increase to daily (even twice daily) the second you get a positive OPK. Good luck!
I got 3 of my 4 boys dtd in that pattern
we DTD every 2-4 days and then once my OPK went positive I DTD daily until it went negative
The reason I recommend what I do is that I have observed that a fair % of the TTC a boy DH's cannot DTD quite this often and thus I prefer the every 2-4 days with 3 attempts at pos OPK. I worry that if the subset of the blue swayers husbands who can't DTD quite as much, try to dTD this often, they might end up unable to complete the transaction when DW is fertile.Quote:
Originally Posted by maidentomother
recap - my pref. is DTD every 2-4 days from AF-pos OPK and then 3-5 attempts at or around pos opk - just before, during, just after pos oPK
The reason I recommend what I do is that I have observed that a fair % of the TTC a boy DH's cannot DTD quite this often and thus I prefer the every 2-4 days with 3 attempts at pos OPK. I worry that if the subset of the blue swayers husbands who can't DTD quite as much, try to dTD this often, they might end up unable to complete the transaction when DW is fertile.Quote:
Originally Posted by maidentomother
recap - my pref. is DTD every 2-4 days from AF-pos OPK and then 3-5 attempts at or around pos opk - just before, during, just after pos oPK
Ahhhh. Good point. Would you say that EOD until right before O is still ideal if DH can handle it & there are no sperm count issues?
It is but it happens often enough with the blue swayers so I am somewhat wary of suggesting it to any blue swayer. What I fear could happen is that they start off going for it, DH can't manage it and then they end up with one attempt in fertile window and he's tapped out till fertile window closes.
What feels the safest to me is the every 2-4 days unprotected BD, this is good release pattern for healthy sperm and also enables the wife to be exposed to hormones in the semen and then hit it with the 3-5 attempts if possible at or around the pos OPK ensuring that all are within the fertile window. :)
Thank you all so much for your replies, change in circumstance means another few months till our 1st attempt but the more planning the better :happy:
Thanks for asking the question! I felt this was a helpful thread! :)
I DTD every other day and got two beautiful boys! Not sure if that helps or not?
Frequent BDing- every other day (if DH has a very high sex drive like mine [emoji6]), otherwise BD every 2-4 days leading up to your fertile window, then every day through ovulation- plus HE diet and moderate exercise with weights = baby boy! This is how I got both of my much desired boys!!!
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For first ds1 we dtd at least 4-5 times in fertile window (used online fertility calculator thing available through multiple sites) my cycles were very regular then, could set my watch by them lol. DS2 thought I'd get pregnant even quicker by charting temps opks thru fertility friend app - took wvwn longer but distinctly remember 3 attempts up to and including day of ovulation. From memory morning and night friday, morning Saturday and ovulated Saturday. Hope this helps!