I'm 28 weeks, and whilst I know it's the right decision it's really really hard!
Anyone else in the same position?
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I'm 28 weeks, and whilst I know it's the right decision it's really really hard!
Anyone else in the same position?
Me! Well i call it team green but same thing. I am only 18 weeks and haven't had my scan yet but dh would kill me if we found out so it isnt happening. This is my first time not finding out and it feels good actually...like it is what I am supposed to do. I really have no desire to know right now.
As much as I love the surprise at birth, I still really want to know lol. Just wish I could fastforward time a bit :(
I am totally cyberstalking both of you! :)
I found out with both of my boys. For my third i am definitely not finding out. It will be hard to do but i think its the best decision.
I am. I'm nearly 16 weeks and it's killing me! I found out with my 2nd and didn't with our first. I had GD with our 2nd so I decided to go team green this time to hopefully help any GD feelings. It hasn't helped that do far this pregnancy has been different to the others and everyone is adamant it's a girl.
Mars-may I ask how you're handling other people's comments about not finding out, and what their opinion is on gender..I'm 6w5d now. Would love to go team green. But, on other hand, I don't want to announce the pregnancy without knowing gender.
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Only one person is predicting this one to be a girl (one of my 3 sisters), maybe because I've insisted to everyone as soon as they ask if I know what we're having that I don't know but am sure it's another boy so they don't argue!
Smarston most people are surprised we aren't finding out. A lot think it's great to have a surprise. When people say to me oh bet you hope it's a girl etc I just say well it is what it is, can't change it. :) or I say maybe maybe not. You will find out in a few months when I do!
It is hard as I kind of get my hopes up a bit too so I'm trying not to think about the gender but I really can't help it. I feel like this is a girl but I felt that way last time and was so upset when we found out it was a boy.... Of course we wouldn't change him now though :)
Yup the worst part of this all is getting my hopes up. I am scared of being beyond upset at birth when i find out it is another boy even though that is what i am preparing for.
Augh....Rosie. That's my fear. I will absolutely love and adore my child but giving up the dream of NEVER having a girl in the delivery room seems terrifying. It's the word NEVER that triggers by GD if that makes sense
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Yup! Same here...this is it for me. We are done. Never having a girl scares me and i dont want strangers thinking i dont love my boy if that is what comes out. I will love him to pieces but i will need to miurn the loss of never having a daughter.
I'm the same. I don't want to even tell my family (if I can help it) until I know the gender. I want to wait, but I don't at the same time; and my hubby WILL want to know.Quote:
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Rosie me too - this will be 5 for me, if I'm fortunate enough to make it work; it will be the end. I don't need the snarkiness or judgement of anyone either and I KNOW I'll have GD....
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I will say that not telling a soul I was even PREGNANT until I knew gender with my final pregnancy was a godsend to me. Even though I had an inkling at the 13 week ultrasound it was very far from a sure thing, and it really, really was a lot more peaceful going into that ultrasound at 18 weeks with no pressure on me at all. My husband didn't come to that one and I felt like that helped. Having him there with DS 3 and 4 I feel like it made it more stressful (to me, maybe others might feel differently) and I was able to have my reaction without having to temper it based on his presence. Then I was able to come home and just show everyone the ultrasound picture and be all like, "yep, I"m pregnant again, and it's a (lima bean)" and people didn't have time to react one way or the other. But for whatever reason I didn't show early with that one compared to some of my others where I could never have hidden it. IF you can pull it off, I recommend it.
I expect I will show terribly early with the others but hope I can put it off on too many donuts lol
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I wish I had the option of hiding it that long, had a bloat bump by 5 weeks and people making comments by 9 weeks
Me too! I had to come clean and tell people by 10weeks because A) I'm so sick and can puke at the drop of a hat and B) I clearly look pregnant! My body has awesome muscle memory, which is great when exercising again postpartum but NOT great when trying to hide a pregnancy!Quote:
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I admire you ladies for being team yellow/green. We are going to find out early with MaterniT21, and we will have an US at 13.5 weeks. I just feel so blessed to be pregnant after struggling for so long! I'm already in love with this baby, regardless of it's gender [emoji4]!
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I love the baby too and know it'll be adored no matter what. Had some bleeding from 14-16 weeks which scared the life out of me, and made me want this baby regardless. Also have a friend who is ttc and struggling and feel guilty because of that. Just can't help thinking that this is my last chance, though :(
I know, it's hard! I think you have a healthy outlook. Just keep an open heart and mind. My advice is to not allow yourself to grieve yet. I've seen so many people grieve for something ahead of time, and it was unnecessary. Plus, it can prevent you from being in the moment and enjoying this experience fully. I know it may be easier said than done, but I just wanted to pass along what I have noticed over time [emoji3].Quote:
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I think you're doing great!
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I see your point, equally not sure I want to do my grieving whilst holding a newborn so need to prepare myself in some ways
GD is very wasteful of time and energy in a lot of ways :(
I have no idea how I managed to hide it, I really don't. I think because I had just lost quite a bit of weight, when the bloating started it was just me going back to what I'd looked like for the past 3 years LOL.
Wishing you guys the best of luck!!! :nails: