coping strategy that really helped me!!
Hi ladies, I am a mom of 4 beautiful boys, and am currently pregnant with #5 (gender unknown). I have a little story to share that might help some of you:
A few months back (before I got pg), I was trying to think of a way to channel my strong desire for a baby girl into something positive, rather than it being this constant emptiness and longing tugging at my heart. I started wondering if I were given the chance to go shopping for a little girl, like REALLY shopping, how it might relieve some of the hurt in my heart. So I looked up some local charities and ministries through my church and contacted them about donating items. Then I went shopping! Went to Babies R Us and went crazy! Then went to a department store and bought a bunch of adorable little outfits. It was sooooo fun, and then afterwards (actually right around the time I conceived), took all the items to the charity and dropped them off. Around Christmas, I am planning to "sponsor" a local little girl and buy gifts. This may be something I do on a regular basis as long as we can afford it. It felt so good to shop, and of course was wonderful to know I was helping someone else in the process!
Now I COMPLETELY understand that not everyone (maybe not even many) would be able to do this financially. In fact, I used my own birthday money to buy some of the items, and at Christmas, will probably have to figure out a way to make it work (probably fewer gifts for myself or asking my boys if they would like to help out a needy child, understanding it may mean a little sacrifice for themselves. I don't think I would force them, but just encourage them).
It was such a positive experience, I just thought sharing it here might have positive impact for both us ladies with GD, but also babies/kids around the world in need. If you decide to do this, consider coming back here to share your story! Would love to hear of some encouraging, uplifting things coming from our GD!
