not one to moan but.....

Wa s having a discussion today about swaying. I think every one in the world knows my partner and I would ideally like a girl. The thing is like the person I was talking to earlier and a few other friends etc are so negative about it. They either instantly say you get what you given there is no such thing as getting your body into a girl/ boy state , its down to the man or the one that really gets me is bet your have a boy no matter what you do or twin boys. Its like they really want you to have the opposite of what yoy want so you are proved wrong.They are so negative about the whole thing. Any way rant over haha. Just bugs me that people want you to have an opposite or can be so negative and dismissive so quickly .

So sorry, people can be so ignorant sometimes! I only talk about swaying to friends and family who I know will understand. My sil and sister both have a boy and would love a girl, so I told them about swaying. And now they've really opened up to me about their gender desire. But others, like friends with pp's or that are convinced they don't have a preference, I will not talk to them about it. We don't need their mean comments to bring us down! That's why I love to come here, no judgement, we all get it. Good luck and praying for pink for you!

I. This was one of my sisters I was talking to today. She brought up the subject as my other sister has just had another boy . she wanted a girl this time but is obviously happy now with her two boys. She is very aggressive and competitive and even though slim eats all day.I just said if she tries again she should look on here . I got the its all bull etc etc. This sister also has a boy and is very competitive etc and used to eat a lot all day and lots of dairy and multi vits .I was explaining all the research etc but she was having non of it so I gave up . every one has their own opinion but then she started saying your have a boy prob twin boys .twins are in our family. Your def have a boy. I don't say anything to friends any more as they say the same .anyway I guess that's what some people are like. They like it when you are wrong. Bit like my nan and a few other people told me I was not clever enough to do 2 maths courses .....I got 98% in first exam and 80% in the 2 nd despite being really unwell and missing nearly half of the 2 nd course as was so ill .so poo to any negative people out there haha.

I have had the same reaction in the past and found it irritating. I've pretty much kept my GD to myself now - my DH knows about it but whenever anyone else says anything to me about having 'all boys' and how much hard work they must be, I tend to disguise my irritation with a joke or say no actually my boys are amazing (which they are!). But sometimes it seems as if people feel sorry for me.

its almost like it's socially unacceptable to be disappointed and that we should have the mindset to be thankful for what we get! Which to a certain degree is true - some couples struggle to conceive let alone have multiples of the same sex. But it's still doesn't stop us from feeling this way. When I found out DS 3 was a boy at my 20 week scan, I was devastated! I was crying and really down. A family member of my ex openly said that they were disgusted that I felt that way and that I should have never got pregnant in the first place. Which again is TRUE to a certain extent but not helpful and just rude. I never asked for their opinion on it so what gives them the right to comment.

All I can say is thank god for these boards! Because other than here, I literally have no one else to speak to about it (DH is going along with it but doesn't believe in it too much) and just reading about others facing the same situation seems to soothe my soul and my GD.

Don't let others opinions put you down! You know in yourself how you feel and as the saying goes:

'those who care don't matter, and that those that matter don't care!'

I don't think any one has the right to say how you should feel or act. That's awful. Yes I'm not saying anything now to any one apart from on here and to partner .hope you get your dream some day .x

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Originally Posted by Honeysucklelanegirl

I don't think any one has the right to say how you should feel or act. That's awful. Yes I'm not saying anything now to any one apart from on here and to partner .hope you get your dream some day .x

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You too!! Fx crossed for all of us with sparkly fairy princess dust on top!!! Lol x x

B.t.w .I think my first post came out a bit wrong. Hard work typing on a phone haha. I ment 2 of my sisters are very aggressive and competitive , always trying to oyt do every one and each other and no one is right but them .was trying to explain to one about the eating patten etc hence why said about how they eat on here .if that makes sense lol.

Ugh so sorry your own sisters don't even try to understand! My sisters and I come from an all girl family and we all long for a daughter. My mother says it often she was thrilled to have her fourth daughter, she never wanted a boy. She has her reasons of course, but it stung in the past. Now she knows how awesome sons are (she ADORES her grandsons) looking back she would have been thrilled with a boy as well. But she understands my longing for a daughter and I think she longs for a granddaughter as well. I need their support, but I don't fully let them in on my deepest feelings. I feel to sensitive about it still and hold out hope one day those feelings are gone because I get a daughter. So sorry your family doesn't seem to support you. Maybe they struggle themselves as well and are trying to protect themselves? I hope you can proove them wrong and show them that swaying works!!!

phone has packed up now got to get a new one.doh. that must of been why I was having so much trouble typing message and missing bits out. my mum had 4 girls. I love science stuff and personally even if I was not truly bothered what I had girl or boy I would still be interested in this and read up on it etc. it just makes so much sense . scientist and researchers are discovering new things every day . I think one day diet etc will prove it sways .

Honeysucklelanegirl, I had the same problem a few days ago with one of my sisters. She pretends to be supportive of my swaying but every once in a while, she'll make a snotty comment about how it's all fake but I can waste my time if I want to. I think deep down, she's just frustrated that I'm ttc again at the same time as she is (I used to fall preg very easily/without trying and she doesn't). She had infertility problems and took 5 years to conceive her DD1 and then another 5 years to conceive DD2. But now she has 5 kids (4 DD and 1 DS), so I have a really hard time being sympathetic toward her when she is ttc. Our relationship has always been rocky. I think I'm done discussing ttc with her. It's hard/stressful enough without her snotty comments. Not to mention that my anxiety has been through the roof lately. :/ Why can't people just be supportive? Ugh!

Why can't they just say things like "you'd make a beautiful girl" or "you'd be a great mom of a boy or a girl!" Why do they have to feel the need to put everyone down or argue about things they obviously have no clue about!

Huge hugs!!

I can't even talk to my family about it because they tell me how none of the stuff applies to them (my mom ate like a pig and never exercised but got two girls, and my sister got one of each without changing a thing) or they say "you're going to end up with 6 boys!" despite knowing our plan has always been 4 kids, even if we'd had a boy and a girl already. It's so bad that even though we were team green for both our boys, I'm planning on finding out the gender if we get pregnant again, and not telling anyone we found out if it is a third boy, because I don't want to spend the rest of my pregnancy hearing "I told you so" or "you'll just have to try again for your girl". I'm so thankful DH is 100% behind me on all this, because I would be completely hopeless otherwise.


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I have never talked to anyone about swaying EVER. Not even DH LOL! It's taboo IMO.

My partner is great . he desperately wants a little girl to. We only want one child so hope it works! We disscuss the latest things on here a lot . I'm not saying anything more to any one else though ....especially my sisters haha. My nan was awful to one of my sisters when she had her baby years ago now. My nan was like " uh its a boy." In a really nasty way .my sister wanted a boy. Its weird when she was 15 she said she knew when she was going have a kid she was going to have a boy and call him Ryan. 5 years later she did! I don't know why she was being funny with me when isaid I want a girl when she said she wanted a boy. Bizarre ! But there you go. Definitely just keeping it to my self and partner and you guys now.less pressure .x