has everyone else had to deal with dh saying no we/I aren't having any more babies and if so how did you cope
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has everyone else had to deal with dh saying no we/I aren't having any more babies and if so how did you cope
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My dh was like this in the beginning. (I have 4 boys, my youngest 8 months) i had a long chat with him about my desire for a daughter etc and he reluctantly gave in to try again. Prior to having a chat with him i was having my own thoughts about another child but really it was more my ache for a girl. As i couldn't even decide myself what to do, i did manage to talk to a psychic-medium. If they said it was another boy I was going to leave it but she did say it would be my girl so the idea has been in my head ever since. My main thing is if we do have another boy My dh is going to place alot of the blame on himself as he carries the x and y. He already feels bad he couldn't give me a daughter. So i do worry when the time comes. I found out with all of my boys and this time i don't plan to. My only advice would be to have a heart to heart with your dh. Unfortunately high tech isn't for us as we are in Australia and from a financial point of view either.
Mum to 4 Boys awaiting her Princess
I'm exactly the same as you I'm from Australia but I have 4 girls and I myself have been to a psychic medium and she told my next would be a boy I'm 33 next year so I think I will leave it for a while and try again in 12 months time maybe then we will be in a better head space for the talk as when we talk about it now it never ends well
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Sounds like a plan. Im 31 how similar are stories are 😃
All the best for the future xx
Mum to 4 Boys awaiting her Princess
They are very similar what state are you in
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It will be very hard for me to try for a boy as I don't eat as often as the he diet requires
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Hi. My dh has said no more babies since number 3 and I'm now pregnant with number 5 but I have recently found out that my girl sway has failed so I will most likely be wanting to sway again in a couple of years even though he says no more. Whenever I want to try for a baby I tell him I'm coming off birth control and that if he really doesn't want anymore then he should use some protection and he never does. I have never gone behind his back and have always given him the option of not ttc. we never argue about this and when we find out I'm pregnant we have both been equally as happy. My point is I think that some men may not like the idea of more kids but when it happens wouldn't change it for the world. I want to enjoy the children that I have now before swaying again, they are only little once and I don't want to miss out on things but I still want to pursue my dream of having a 2nd dd at some point in the future. If you have time on your side there is no rush eh? Good luck.
I haven't been on birth control for 7 year since last pregnancy he just pull out every single time so the ball is in his court at the moment and as I have older children (14 ' 13 '12' 7 and all girls) I think they would enjoy having a baby around
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Im in NSW. I can see how thats very girl friendly 😂 you can always do your research and try your best at HE and see how you go.
Mum to 4 Boys awaiting her Princess
I am currently pregnant with number 3. DH seems to think we are done but then he always talks about getting a large vehicle for all of our babies and makes comments that make me think he knows there will be another. Who knows if I will actually want four once we have three but honestly I can't imagine ever wanting to be done with this phase of life. Causes me major anxiety!lol I just love being a mommy!!!
Anyway, maybe just have a long talk with him. I know that may not work for you DH but I don't know what else would work. :(
Good luck girl!
Btw, crazy how similar y'all's stories are!!!
Thanks heaps everyone and as much as I want a baby like yesterday I think I know deep down at the moment isn't the right time so maybe in 6-12mths we will be in a better place then I will have a talk to him so he can hear (as much as he doesn't what to hear it) that I mean what I say and that it isn't some crazy idea 😊
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If you ease into it it's not that bad. That is how all us boy moms eat!Quote:
Originally Posted by bec2483
Re your DH - luckily time is on your side being only 33, just be patient and revisit the idea at a later time and he may be more receptive to it.
Thanks atomic and I love how you are so incouraging it gives this mum of 4 girls hope
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I know how you feel. We've tried once in America ivf/pgd. Unfortunately didn't work for us.
Hubby has now said, his too old!
My husband has been pretty wishy-washy since we found out #4 was another boy. For a few months though, he was very adamant that we're done. I won't lie, it was upsetting to me but I just tried to enjoy my baby and ignore him.
Lately though, he's been back to a little wish-washy. He always pulls out but we had a few oops moments in December around the time of ovulation. He says he was worried but he really didn't seem to be and he even jokingly asked if I was pregnant. Like someone else said, as long as he doesn't go for the V, the door is open for a 5th.
But anyway, to answer your question, I agree with the others. You should sit down and have a good chat with him. That's what I did with my husband. I just asked him to give me time. I thought that maybe after a few months or even a year, that the GD would go away and I would be totally on board for a vasectomy. I told him that I wasn't ready to make a permanent decision and I think, deep down, he wasn't either. I offered to go back on the pill but he didn't want me to. I haven't been on in it probably 10 years.
We still aren't ready apparently b/c DS4 is 17 months.
With all of the birth control options today, there is no need to make a big decision if both of you aren't completely ready for it.