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I don't know why I don't believe what I was told at 23 weeks maybe it is because it's not what I exactly wanted to hear... Looks forsure girl but I keep thinking nothing is 100% and what if maybe slim chance something his hiding up there?? The baby is breech and in a terrible position but she said she saw labia. I'm just driving myself crazy and prolly won't believe until I'm holding baby in my arms.
Here's the other pic given
I would trust the tech they know what they r doing. Usg mistakes r extremely rare.
The sooner u can accept its a girl the sooner u can get done with ur grief and be ready for her.
I am sorry u didnt get what u were hoping for but second guessing wont change anything.
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It's hard when you were really hoping for the opposite. I know I have been there and felt the way you do. With my third, I even scheduled a 3D ultrasound purely with the hope that the 20 week was wrong. It's a clear girl. The 3D ultrasound did end up helping me feel better because you can really see the baby and look at her features. Maybe you could have that done but that is clear labia on your ultrasound. I am sorry you didn't see boy.
Thank you both for the messages. I know once baby arrives I will it no matter what but yes it is hard. There could be a 4th in the future but I ofcourse don't want to make that decision until we see how 3 goes!! Just thinking I will never get a little boy breaks my heart...
I know how u feel. 2 months ago i was in a miserable place knowing i would never have a boy of my own. I will admit at one point i just didnot want to be pregnant anymore. 3 kids is going to be physucally hard for me to manage and i didnt feel like i wanted to go throught with it. But over time i have grown to like the idea and accept that this is the end. This is my life and my story. I can choose to be miserable or color it happy with my 3 girls. And i am finally choosing the latter. I for the first time heard someone feel excited for me to be having another girl, her words were " wow another girl, man some ppl r so lucky" it made my heart smile !!
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I know it hurts worse for people so say oh man I feel bad for your husband or when wedding days come around. If I heard positive things I would probably feel better too! I'm starting to love the fact that my three girls will be so close in age. My oldest will be 4 next week and my other dd is 2. I think 4 would be really tough as my hubby works swing shifts and I don't think I could take another gender dissapointment.
Having a girl today is not like it was 50 years ago. Girls can be anything and do anything they want to do(in most countries).
Girls are badasses and they are lovely and they are complex. So are boys. I got the "sorry for your husband" comments but that is easily silenced as they become actual human beings with lives and interests. Boy or girl, once they grow up, the gender thing fades. At the end of it all, you are left with yourself and DH. That relationship is key and so is having a life beyond your children.
I understand wanting a son, and they are really great, but I would not trade my girls for anything.
Every time I hear someone is having their 3rd girl or already has 3 girls I tell them they have my dream family! I always wanted all girls! I have two boys instead!Quote:
Originally Posted by Bluebooties
Reading these posts make me feel better more and more. Thanks all for the support I really appreciate it!!!
That is exactly how I felt with ds4. I kept thinking maybe it will change , maybe I will be told girl when the baby is born . I use to look over the ultrasounds daily .
You are blessed and 3girl is amazing .. Ohh how I would love to have 3girl XXX
My girls will be 6, 4 and Newborn and the older 2 are so ready to mother the new baby. It will be fun to see :) ... i got the "poor dad" comments too, they do hurt and make u feel as if u failed to fullfil a "service" of providing DH with a son but once the baby is here all these will go silent then u will only hear her laughes and giggles
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Do join our due date group there r a bunch of awesome supportive ladies who will make this journey even better for u. I myself am due early june
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I know all to well about pouring over ultrasounds to see if little boy bits were 'hiding' googling 'girl ultrasound turned out to be boy' and comparing... I also have heard the 'oh your poor husband'... 'how are you going to afford college and weddings?'... 'girls, are so expensive... or more work' blah blah blah... Seriously, it's none if anyone else's concern, unless they plan on paying! haha. People just don't understand that words are like daggers, especially, with already sensitive subjects while we are already so emotionally/hormonally vulnerable.
Our girls are about the same ages as yours, and they're pretty amazing. I am glad we have them closer in age... it can get pretty dramatic, too. I agree that our girls have so many more opportunities than they did years ago, which I find comforting. I am sending you big hugs! I know what it is like to pray you will see a penis on the ultrasound! But, like the other ladies said, once she is here all of that crap will be silenced... maybe not your desire for a boy but the amazing bond your girls will have! <3
I will join the group!! Thanks!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Bluebooties
You hit the nail right on the head! I still can't quit googling U/S pics and stories. I guess they give me hope even though I was confirmed girl. I will prolly do that til the days he arrives. Maybe a boy will be in the cards soon! My hubby says if it bothers me that much we can def try for a 4th. I will wait to see how having 3 is though before deciding that forsure haha!!Quote:
Originally Posted by bre_cooper11
You will have to keep in touch if you try for that boy!! Do you plan to sway? I'mQuote:
Originally Posted by RachelleO
Not sure I understand what's all entailed in swaying so would def need to do my research!
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bluebooties
Are you having a boy this time?!
I'm so there looking at my US and thinking maybe something will pop out saying to myself nothing is 100% but I just need to upset! Thanks for the comment ��. I will send you pink dust and you send me blue dust...deal?!Quote:
Originally Posted by Faithinpink
No i swayed for a boy, my first ever sway and found out in january its our 3rd DD.Quote:
Originally Posted by RachelleO
I didnot sway for any of my first 2 daughters.
A 4th kid is totally not possible for me so this is it for me
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Your so right nothing is 100%.Quote:
Originally Posted by RachelleO
Thanking you for pink dust , I need it bcos I'm always thinking to myself how in hell am I going to be able to conceive a girl after so many boys.
But I told myself before swaying nothing is 100% and I must try so I'm in the 2ww now and am praying hard for my girl , this is my last child.
My ds4 is my golden child bcos of the hard GD I suffered. Give yourself time , cry it out it helps but trust me once you have that baby girl in your arms you will be ok.
What I did was packed my US away when I was ready and started thinking of the positives.
Many woman I know would love to have 3 darly daughters including me.
My cousin has 7...
P.s Rachel �� I'm sending you alllll my blue dust just incase you decide to go again .
Take care and congratulations xxx hugs
Your so right nothing is 100%.Quote:
Originally Posted by RachelleO
Thanking you for pink dust , I need it bcos I'm always thinking to myself how in hell am I going to be able to conceive a girl after so many boys.
But I told myself before swaying nothing is 100% and I must try so I'm in the 2ww now and am praying hard for my girl , this is my last child.
My ds4 is my golden child bcos of the hard GD I suffered. Give yourself time , cry it out it helps but trust me once you have that baby girl in your arms you will be ok.
What I did was packed my US away when I was ready and started thinking of the positives.
Many woman I know would love to have 3 darly daughters including me.
My cousin has 7...
P.s Rachel �� I'm sending you alllll my blue dust just incase you decide to go again .
Take care and congratulations xxx hugs
I am sending you every ounce of pink dust, if you send a bit of your blue dust this way too!! Praying for a BFP & a girl for you!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Faithinpink
You'll have to let me know how 5 kids goes!! We are 80% a go for ttc again for #5 :nails:
If you decide to try again and sway, you should become a member and/or look into a custom plan. I also looked into what pink swayers were doing and compared that to my life style... Which I just naturally mirrored. I actually do have a son (biologically not Dh's), he is 8 going to on 15, lol - which makes my emotions seem ridiculous (because, duh, I already have a son) and more intense at times (because, duh, what boy wouldn't love a brother). Him being the oldest and having 3 younger sisters is also it's own challenge, complete strangers put all this pressure on HIM to watch out for his sisters... Yes, we should all look for each other and Id like to be protective but damn he's 8, let him be a kid people!!! Ugh. Anyways, I digress, Look into a sway plan, they give you all the information in one place for you!Quote:
Originally Posted by RachelleO
Good Luck, praying for healthy baby & I know from experience, she will take your breath away & you will love her to pieces!! As alike as our girls are they are also their own person, with their own personality!
Life is funny isn't it? All I want is a baby girl! And all you want is a baby boy. I'm sorry this isn't the boy you had hoped for. Thinking of you xxx
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Yes I think that same way.Quote:
Originally Posted by Melly45
In life we don't always get what we want, but we get what we need
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You guys are all soooo wonderful and are helping me in so many ways! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!