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They all assume everyone has family and friends to visit, talk with, and help. All their funny rules about company. Guess one thing I don't have to worry about. Just very depressing knowing you are bringing this life into the world you would like to share with everyone and knowing they won't meet them until 2 years old like your other kids. No one bringing you food, or gifts, or offers of help, lol.
Where are my mom's that can relate?
I know I'm not alone in this but damn sure feels lonely.
Are all your friends and family overseas? You've only got a few weeks to go! So excited!
If I lived near you I'D visit :)
Oh I'm so sorry you're feeling down. I have lots of my own family around but DH's family all live 5 hours away. Not a huge distance but you would think it is since they never come visit and especially not right around the time baby is due. We have to make the effort to pack up all the kids and go see them. It would be nice if they came when we actually need the help.
Any mom/baby groups around that you can join? I know it's not the same as family, but it can help with the loneliness.
Not overseas just cross country so it might as well be lol.
Just a 6 hour flight but with a family of 7 going on 8 very $$$ so we don't make it every year. And they never have $ or time to come this way. I wish they were a 5 hour drive away that would be awesome, weekends, holudays, birthdays, whenever. Seeing true friends and family every couple years is just not the same as living there.
I think I get worse every kid. Been trying to get my dh to move back for years since mine and his fam are both over there. He has zero friends too but he doesn't care and is a loner gamer kind of guy.
I feel for you hun, my hubby is like yours a lone gamer. We have no friends I don't trust people. I dis-owed my family because they were so rude and selfish, and we were dis-owed from my hubby's family because we wouldn't accept a stranger coming to us claiming to have had a baby by my hubby without a dna.Quote:
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Sometimes I feel sad that it's my children that miss out, but most times I think at least those people are not in my children's lives to let them down!
Hope you feel better soon and that new baby picks your spirits up!
((((Hugs))))
me too, totally relate!
Thing is my family 3 brothers, 4 sisters, get along and see each daily, weekly, my kids have lots of cousins. My mil does not but pick or tell us how to raise kids. Just spoils them w junk food but I let her since she only sees them every few years. My dh is so happy around his bro. We are both happier and diff. People when around our fams. But besides myself being happier I think about my kids not knowing their grand parents as I was very close to mine and they are getting older and won't be here very long:( it just depresses me more and more. I feel myself hating dh for trapping us here but really his job pays sell enough for me to be a sahm with 6 kids so how can I complain? If I could go back in time I just never would've moved over here but no use thinking of that:(
Same here. All family out of state ;( kind of by ourself me hubby 2 DD's and this new baby on the way.
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My FIL and mom haven't even officially met my DD2 who is now 4 coz we havent been able to make an out of state trip in 4 yrs for one reason or another
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Sorry blue:( yeah if we didn't fly over we would never see them. We save up miles so that helps.
We do the same :)
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After this baby i am definately planning a trip back home ... fingers crossed
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Yup same with our case mil passed away in September last year after 5 years of not seeing her 2 oldest grandsons and as for my youngst she only met him for about 10mins about 5 years ago when he was 2days old. It's so sad that you don't get to see family for one reason or another!Quote:
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Also I find its not just baby sites that expect you to have friends and family around, it's midwives and health visitors,doctors and social workers.
I lost count of how many times I have been asked don't you have any family or friends to support you or talk too? Then I have to explain I don't then they look at you if the problem with it al actually lies with you not them!
Very true. Midwives want you relaxing for two weeks but my dh takes a couple days off and is back to work. Luckily they come for all home visits for baby can't imagine how most women are expected to go to for all their checkups after babe. They need to bring back home visits.