starting to panic a bit

I am making myself a bit bonkers, here's my dilemma- I am supposed to O on the 1st of October. I was planning to DTD as an O+12 with 9 days of abstinence from DH. This month is perfect for a few reasons, new moon, chinese gender ( I know these aren't very important if at all but I can't shake it) however I've done so-so on the diet, no red meat but too much chicken and no significant weight loss. My PH is in the low 4's. My concern is that I am limiting myself by only relying on the one attempt and I am 37 (DH is 35) I am now thinking I need to add in more attempts but that would cut DH short on his abstinence. What would you all do? I guess what is really bugging me is that both DS were conceived on O I believe so that is kind of freaking me out. Then on the other hand if we DTD now it would be ideal boy making as it's a 3 day cut off and 4 days abstinence. UUGGHH what to do!! Thanks for any input.

Just want to send you lots of pink dust! FWIW my girls were conceived with frequent bd'ing ;)

Thanks TTC5!

could you hit the diet hard now and try to lose a lb before OV?

Has your Dh done anything to change his ph ?what is his ph?Are you taking supplements?If it were me i would double up on cranberry and calcium these last few days and try to eat as little as possible no breakfast and make Dh take supplements too?

Oh i am also same age ,and conceived my 2x boys on or near o ,and im trying abstinence and also cant decide between 0+12 Or cut off?I think we will just try on o day just maybe 6hrs after,I have drastically changed my body chemistry with diets and supplements and my cm is completely different,so im confident that will help,what about your cm is has it changed?im undecided as of yet too,i o on the 8th getting nervous as well!

DH i staking the supps including licorice root, avoiding red meat and trying to keep salt and potassium low and he drinks tons of crystal light too. He has been exercising but not too much with weights (he has to because of rehab from a broken leg) I am really trying to be good about the diet, I've never been a breakfast eater and I think my body just stores anything I put into it because I've always been an irregular eater. His Ph was 8 last time I tested but that was before he started modifying his diet and taking the supps so I have to hope it's low enough since I won't have another sample before our attempt. I have cut out the calcium and magnesium for me but he is still taking it. Atomics thoughts on it made sense to me but I am still drinking milk and eating yogurt so there is still an increase in my calcium intake levels anyway. I feel like i have changed a good bit of my chemistry. something Atomic mentioned in a thread was a possible theory of a rise in temps if you have reduced your testosterone levels (if I remember correctly and it's not just wishful thinking) and this month since starting the saw palmetto my temp has been a bit higher which I found very encouraging when I layered my charts on FF today! Hopefully I am remembering that theory correctly and it has some truth to it! I plan on using sylk and have been using rephresh every 3 days for a few weeks just because I quite like it and figure it's probably good to keep the walls healthy and free of cell build up. I have the benadryl but will only use it if I feel I need it and may or may not J&D, i'm hoping to have an instinct on that at the time. I don't want to make it too hard to get a BFP. Wishing you luck Sweetsister!! Thanks for you advice!!

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Originally Posted by rainbowflower

could you hit the diet hard now and try to lose a lb before OV?

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That is what I am going to try to do!! Hopefully I can drop at least a pound or two! Thanks Rainbow!!

Oh honey your post is me and were also the same in ages for me and Dh, were doing a 0+12 for the same reason I can't risk doing things like last time. It also looks like will be Dtd together too lol I'll be ovulating end of the month. Good luck for both of us

How crazy is that Belle!! I'll be sending you pink vibes!!

Thank you, will think of each other, especially on the "night. We need to keep our mind off the good bits incase we raise our ph lol

Hahaha!! So true!

Personally, I would go ahead and try. I think the diet helps, of course, but I wouldn't toss an entire month if other things seemed favorable. I might be sure to use some antihistamine and RepHresh/acijel and then if I didn't get pg that month, I'd take it as "meant to be."

I wrote a new essay that might help with the BD patterns.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/show...-pink-and-blue