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I found out an early scan yesterday that my baby has died. I should be 8+6 but the baby's heart has stopped (we saw the heartbeat 11 days earlier). Feel absolutely devastated and can't help blame myself for this happening.
Today I have to go to hospital to discuss options and as I've never been through this, I have no idea what to go for. I've heard the tablets are absolutely excruciating and I think I've ruled those out, so the two choice I have are wait for a natural miscarriage or have a D and C. Both those scare me. I worry about complications from the operation and I just want to conceive as quickly as possible afterwards. I don't know what to do. I've been awake literally the whole night worrying. Any advice would be ghratefully received... thank you all


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I'm very sorry about your loss honeybee :(

I have experience with all 3 of those options. The first time I opted for a d&c and physically it was pretty good and was over quickly. Later I worried I opted for it too soon as mine as a blighted ovum and I read that they were sometimes misdiagnosed. This is one reason why I chose to leave it to happen naturally the next time even though I had two scans and knew that pregnancy would not work out. The natural miscarriage started right on 9 weeks although the baby was only about 5.5 weeks in size. It wasn't too painful but I lost a lot of blood and ended up in emergency and then had a d&c again. This d&c did leave me with some stitches on my cervix which I only discovered when I checked my cervix position so I found it upsetting that no one had mentioned it to me.

My 3rd miscarriage was like your situation and I had seen the heartbeat in a scan and thought everything was ok until I got some spotting and went for another scan to discover the heart had stopped. Due to my previous m/c where I needed a blood transfusion they didn't want me to leave it to happen at home and I had to choose between a d&c or the tablets. I didn't want to do another d&c so I opted for the tablets and was admitted to hospital to be monitored while it happened. It was more painful than the natural one but that would have been because the sac was bigger (about 8wks). I remember wishing at one point that I had just opted for the d&c as it did get difficult towards the end but once it was over I felt revealed and glad I went through the process.

It is a hard choice to make and I don't think any option is that much better than the other. I hope you can decide which option is right for you. Take care.

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I found out an early scan yesterday that my baby has died. I should be 8+6 but the baby's heart has stopped (we saw the heartbeat 11 days earlier). Feel absolutely devastated and can't help blame myself for this happening.
Today I have to go to hospital to discuss options and as I've never been through this, I have no idea what to go for. I've heard the tablets are absolutely excruciating and I think I've ruled those out, so the two choice I have are wait for a natural miscarriage or have a D and C. Both those scare me. I worry about complications from the operation and I just want to conceive as quickly as possible afterwards. I don't know what to do. I've been awake literally the whole night worrying. Any advice would be ghratefully received... thank you all


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I am so so sorry.
Practical advice - with my ectopic they had me wait it out, it was for the best in the end, and everything passed naturally.
Although the wait took over a month, and felt like longer.
They offered me an injection, or laproscopy op, but could not give me the tablet as was not in the uterus.
I am glad that I went with the wait now.
I've had 3 D&C's, 1 under sedation which was much better than the other 2 (totally knocked out).

So sorry to hear about your loss. It sucks.
I had a missed abortion in July where foetus stopped growing at around week six. I did never hear heart beat so don't know if it was ever a living foetus or a false. I waited to let my body do the MC natually and I am glad I did so. It passed quick and smooth, a lot of blood but no pain, at week 7-8. After that my Hcg-level decreased stadily and in 2-3 weeks I was good and ready to TTC again. If I was you I would take it naturally or take the pill while being motionered at the hospital.
Good luck. Hope it goes quick. You will be allright again. Just give yourself time your to grieve and heal. Hugs


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So sorry honeybee- I have had a d and c before, it wasn't bad, they put me to sleep, woke up and it was all finished, bled for a while after.

I am sure if u are prepared for what to expect, it might be easier to pass naturally. I have been ttc for ages now and nothing, who knows maybe the d and c had something to do with it.

Either way, I wish you everything of the best.

Thanks so much everyone. I just can't stop crying :( I know that sounds pathetic but I have spent the entire night reading horror stories online and scaring myself silly. Every time I open my mouth to speak, I cry :( Have phoned work and am off all week - they were lovely. I have an appointment tomorrow at 1:30 to discuss options but my inclination is to wait for a natural. My sickness has completely vanished and I am having the occasional period type pain so I'm hoping it may begin soon. My big fears are infertility from the D and C, losing a lot of blood and being very ill, and infection. I just want this over with. I never knew it would be so hard to make this decisions and that I would feel so unbelievably heartbroken. Thank you so much for all your replies. It's comforting to know that others have been here and got through it. At the minute it feels impossible that I will get through this so it is good to know others have. Thank you. Xxx


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Those of you who've had a natural miscarriage, did it start off suddenly or escalate? I don't know if I dare go to the shops in case it all suddenly gushes out?


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I found out an early scan yesterday that my baby has died. I should be 8+6 but the baby's heart has stopped (we saw the heartbeat 11 days earlier). Feel absolutely devastated and can't help blame myself for this happening.
Today I have to go to hospital to discuss options and as I've never been through this, I have no idea what to go for. I've heard the tablets are absolutely excruciating and I think I've ruled those out, so the two choice I have are wait for a natural miscarriage or have a D and C. Both those scare me. I worry about complications from the operation and I just want to conceive as quickly as possible afterwards. I don't know what to do. I've been awake literally the whole night worrying. Any advice would be ghratefully received... thank you all


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I am so sorry for your loss :'( Hugs and prayers.

I have three angels. I had a late-term loss born vaginally at 20 weeks 5 days, an early loss D&C, and an early loss that frankly was a nightmare due to medical mistake where the pregnancy was thought to be ectopic. They did a D&C and gave me 2 methotrexate shots only to discover that it was not ectopic (upon discovering baby in utero but it was too late the medicine ended the pregnancy). The vaginal birth was just like any other vaginal birth (except that the bag of water refused to break) & it did not impede me trying again. My doctor said one normal cycle which was roughly a month and a half from the date of loss. The D&C was quick and emotionally easier to handle than my other losses from the standpoint that there was no guesswork, it was done, it was over and I could grieve. As always my doctor said I needed to wait one normal cycle. However, I needed 3 months before I felt like I was completely healed physically. My period was especially painful for the next 3 months- feeling much like it did immediately after the D&C. I also had a chemical pregnancy 2 months after the procedure but I don't know for sure that that was due to the D&C. May 3rd loss was atypical so your experience may be completely different. I had the D&C so I had to deal with that again but I also had the shots. I did not actually lose the baby for about a month after the shot and procedure... but to be fair baby had a heart beat, weak but there, for about a week after everything so it took about two and a half to three and a half weeks to complete. That one was by far the most physically difficult as well as emotionally difficult. Emotionally, in addition to having feelings in regards to ending a viable pregnancy (unintentional or otherwise), I also had to deal with the fact that I was pregnant but not really. It really messed with my head. Physically, the day it happened started off painful but tolerable. However, it quickly went from tolerable to intolerable. I couldn't figure out why until I actually passed the baby's tissues early the next morning. Apparently, I was going through labor. which was odd because my actual late-term vaginal delivery with pitocin was more tolerable. Although it may have been a combination of confusion about what was happening as well as the emotional aspect that made it worse. I will never know for sure and can only speculate. I am fairly certain that healing from the D&C played a role.

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Twointow83, how absolutely horrendous. I am sorry you had to go through all those things. And to everyone who replied - I should have said how sorry I was that you've all been through losses. It really is such an awful thing to go through.
Nothing is happening here. No cramps or spotting. I still have sore boobs but the sickness has gone. I just don't know what to expect really but I'd ideally like to pass it naturally and go to hospital if necessary. We are only five minutes away so I suppose that's reassuring in some way.


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Nothing happened for a while with my ectopic.
Took a day after the period cramps to kick in, and then stopped and restarted again.
But I think mine was cos it was stuck in the tube still, and only bits coming

And it is normal to cry, I took to my bed for 4 days and was crying almost constantly

Oh no I'm so sorry to hear this.

You are not to blame for your loss - it is a normal feeling but very very few losses are caused by anything a women did or didn't do (and the ones that are, are things that are easy to avoid like drinking and drug use during pregnancy).

I don't have any advice b/c my losses were early and natural but just please let me know if I can help you in any way.

I forgot to say but while I understand feeling like it's your fault it really isn't. Sometimes crap happens and we are not at fault for it. It's okay to cry. It's okay to scream. How ever you feel the need to grieve do so. Only by allowing yourself to grieve fully and completely without reservation will you be able to move forward. I always felt like the biggest whiniest baby because I alternated between completely numb and bawling my eyes out. Talking it out help me but I always felt like doing so was a burden on others. They never complained or anything just the way I felt. Bottom line don't hold it in do something bigger small memory love your little one if that helps you. Just make sure you are dealing with it and not ignoring it as that will only let it Fester and make it worse in the long run. Pregnancy after loss it's hard enough without adding emotions you haven't dealt with to the overwhelming beer cry. Its okay to scream. However you feel the need to grieve do so. Only by allowing yourself to grieve fully and completely without reservation will you be able to move forward. I always felt like the biggest wine East baby because I alternating between completely numb and bawling my eyes out. Talking it out helped me but I always felt like doing so was a burden on others. They never complained or anything just the way I felt. Bottom line don't hold it in do something bigger small in memory of your little one if that helps you. Just make sure you are dealing with it and not ignoring it as that will only let it faster and make it worse in the long run. Pregnancy after loss is hard enough without adding emotions you haven't dealt with to the overwhelming fear that pregnancy after a loss brings.

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Twointow83, how absolutely horrendous. I am sorry you had to go through all those things. And to everyone who replied - I should have said how sorry I was that you've all been through losses. It really is such an awful thing to go through.
Nothing is happening here. No cramps or spotting. I still have sore boobs but the sickness has gone. I just don't know what to expect really but I'd ideally like to pass it naturally and go to hospital if necessary. We are only five minutes away so I suppose that's reassuring in some way.


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Twointow that's how I feel right now. Like the biggest cry baby. I'm either shaking either fear or crying or just completely numb. I didn't want to see the dead baby on the screen at the scan place and made them cover the screen. Then I felt awful for not wanting to see my baby. I just couldn't deal with looking at this lifeless blob that had had a heartbeat two weeks previously. I really really wish I could fast forward and it be Christmas Eve and this all over and complete but unfortunately I can't. I'm just struggling to be a grown up and deal with it right now!


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Nothing happened for a while with my ectopic.
Took a day after the period cramps to kick in, and then stopped and restarted again.
But I think mine was cos it was stuck in the tube still, and only bits coming

And it is normal to cry, I took to my bed for 4 days and was crying almost constantly

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MrsSparkles thanks for coming over here from the DD board, I appreciate that so much. How far along was your loss? Did you feel it was manageable physically?


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I'm so sorry Honeybee.

I've had 4 losses.

1 @ 7 weeks which was like a heavy period

2 natural @ 10 weeks, and an emegency d&c @ 12 weeks (i wanted natural but they were twins so I lost 2x the blood but avoided a transfusion)

The worst was the d&c. I was sore for a week and my period never returned for 7 weeks. It took almost a year for my periods to return to normal. They went from HHMLL to MMLL and i was terrified of scarring.

My most recent mc was at 10 weeks and here are a few tips to help it go smoothly for you:

1) start drinking red raspberry leaf tea 3-4x per day which tones the uterus in prep for labor. Continue until red bleeding stops. This tea helped a lot. My contractions were way smoother than when I did not drink the tea.

2) During the m/c stay hydrated with gatorade (keeps your electrolytes balanced)

3) get yourself some Depends disposable underwear for the first few hrs of really heavy bleeding (maxi pads just make a mess of your panties, pj and bedsheets)

4) get a rx for some Tylenol 3. I only needed these for the first couple days.

5) have a hospital bag packed and ready to go just in case

6) make sure someone is home with you when the bleeding starts.

7) Optional: have an Anora kit sent to you & get a mc test done (i found out my twins were normal boys, and my girl had chrom problems. It helped knowing the gender of the babies, naming them, finding out the problem etc). You will need a strainer over the toilet to collect the placenta and sack. Place this in a sterile container with saline and keep in the fridge until sending out for testing.

8) your mc will start when your progesterone levels drop below 10 ng/L. This can take days or a few weeks. If you are getting anxious have your progesterone level monitored every few days to see where you are at.

9) start taking 50 mL/day of Floravix liquid iron supplement now and thru the first month after the mc. During the mc you will lose blood and your hemoglobin levels will drop. The iron will help you replace these bloodcells quickly. Yes the dose on the bottle is 20 mL/day but you can double the dose no problem.

MrsGoodies, that list is fantastic - thank you so much. Dh is hunting down where to buy the tea from now. I'm in the uk.
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Hi honeybee,

I know they have Red Raspberry leaf tea & Floradix in the UK.

For #8, your mc will start when your progesterone levels drop below 30 nmol/L (10 ng/L)

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Hi honeybee,

I know they have Red Raspberry leaf tea & Floradix in the UK.

For #8, your mc will start when your progesterone levels drop below 30 nmol/L (10 ng/L)

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Yes I've just ordered some off Amazon to be delivered tomorrow. Thank you [emoji846]


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With my natural m/c it started with bright red spotting / light bleeding on the Wednesday night I felt releived it was going to start on it's own. I wasn't cramping so I went to work but had hubby on call to pick me up. It didn't end up starting until Saturday arvo and we had time to drive back from the other side of town and then I popped out to the shop to get more pads. Once at home it got quite heavy but I only really had mild period cramps and just took some paracetamol. I was soaking through pads very quickly and should have gone to the ED earlier but I was silly and left it until I passed out and DH called an ambulance. I don't think this is something that happens thst commonly but just try not to ignore it like I did! I was feeling faint and cold so I should have gone sooner.

Everyone is quite different but I think you should have time to get back home if it starts. I hope it all goes well. Give yourself time to heal. I stupidly went back to work the Tuesday after and was a mess (no one knew about it either).

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With my natural m/c it started with bright red spotting / light bleeding on the Wednesday night I felt releived it was going to start on it's own. I wasn't cramping so I went to work but had hubby on call to pick me up. It didn't end up starting until Saturday arvo and we had time to drive back from the other side of town and then I popped out to the shop to get more pads. Once at home it got quite heavy but I only really had mild period cramps and just took some paracetamol. I was soaking through pads very quickly and should have gone to the ED earlier but I was silly and left it until I passed out and DH called an ambulance. I don't think this is something that happens thst commonly but just try not to ignore it like I did! I was feeling faint and cold so I should have gone sooner.

Everyone is quite different but I think you should have time to get back home if it starts. I hope it all goes well. Give yourself time to heal. I stupidly went back to work the Tuesday after and was a mess (no one knew about it either).

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Oh how scary Purple... did you end up having a blood transfusion? So happy you are pregnant now. Nothing is happening here yet and I just want it to start on its own, like you did. I am a teacher and I spoke to the deputy yesterday. I ended up crying down the phone and she insisted I didn't come in all week even though I said nothing might happen this week. I'm relieved not to have to be in work feeling like this though. Hospital appointment at 1:30 today so I'll see what they say...


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Oh how scary Purple... did you end up having a blood transfusion? So happy you are pregnant now. Nothing is happening here yet and I just want it to start on its own, like you did. I am a teacher and I spoke to the deputy yesterday. I ended up crying down the phone and she insisted I didn't come in all week even though I said nothing might happen this week. I'm relieved not to have to be in work feeling like this though. Hospital appointment at 1:30 today so I'll see what they say...


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I ended up with 2 units of blood. It was quite a traumatic experience. I'm glad you are able to have some time off as I think I pushed myself to get on with it too soon.

I really don't want to scare you from the natural option as I would still consider it again (not that I plan to ever be pregnant again after this one!). I just like to make sure no one ignores the heavy bleeding like I did.

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I forgot to say but while I understand feeling like it's your fault it really isn't. Sometimes crap happens and we are not at fault for it. It's okay to cry. It's okay to scream. How ever you feel the need to grieve do so. Only by allowing yourself to grieve fully and completely without reservation will you be able to move forward. I always felt like the biggest whiniest baby because I alternated between completely numb and bawling my eyes out. Talking it out help me but I always felt like doing so was a burden on others. They never complained or anything just the way I felt. Bottom line don't hold it in do something bigger small memory love your little one if that helps you. Just make sure you are dealing with it and not ignoring it as that will only let it Fester and make it worse in the long run. Pregnancy after loss it's hard enough without adding emotions you haven't dealt with to the overwhelming beer cry. Its okay to scream. However you feel the need to grieve do so. Only by allowing yourself to grieve fully and completely without reservation will you be able to move forward. I always felt like the biggest wine East baby because I alternating between completely numb and bawling my eyes out. Talking it out helped me but I always felt like doing so was a burden on others. They never complained or anything just the way I felt. Bottom line don't hold it in do something bigger small in memory of your little one if that helps you. Just make sure you are dealing with it and not ignoring it as that will only let it faster and make it worse in the long run. Pregnancy after loss is hard enough without adding emotions you haven't dealt with to the overwhelming fear that pregnancy after a loss brings.

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Twointow that's how I feel right now. Like the biggest cry baby. I'm either shaking either fear or crying or just completely numb. I didn't want to see the dead baby on the screen at the scan place and made them cover the screen. Then I felt awful for not wanting to see my baby. I just couldn't deal with looking at this lifeless blob that had had a heartbeat two weeks previously. I really really wish I could fast forward and it be Christmas Eve and this all over and complete but unfortunately I can't. I'm just struggling to be a grown up and deal with it right now!


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Hugs. That is completely normal. Everyone reacts is loss in their own way but it's always a massive pill to swallow an I completely understand not wanting your last memory of your baby to be a negative one. I promise it will get better as long as you allow yourself to work through it. Unfortunately, you are at a bit of a standstill. I was never able to let go and fully grieve until AFTER the loss was complete. BUT it will get better. A day at a time. Little by little. Hugs.

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Thank you towintow. I am still stuck here in limbo. The scan yesterday showed that my body has absorbed the embryo which I find so weird because two weeks ago it had a heartbeat and everything. Even on Sunday it was there and measurable. The sac is still there but they can see two areas of bleeding in the uterus so even though I haven't had any bleeding yet, they are hopeful I will miscarry naturally. I just hate the waiting and worrying. It seems weird that my baby now doesn't even exist at all. I can't understand it.

In case Atomic reads this... should I take ubiquinol once I've miscarried do you think? I'm 35 and worried my eggs might be deteriorating. Or could the miscarriage be a one-off? I know you can't answer that. But I've not had one before and am scared to have another.

Anyway, thanks all again for so much helpful advice and most of all, support. This is such a great place to share such experiences and feel like there are people who have been through similar and understand, when it's not always that easy to talk in real life. So thanks everyone. X


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Am having really strong contractions but no bleeding is this normal do you think?? Am so scared


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Yes. I bled before and after but during there was no bleeding. .. barely even any spotting.

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That's what I'm experiencing. Haven't passed a spot of blood for entire pregnancy but been contracting for the past seven hours [emoji33]


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I popped both my babies out quicker than this!!


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I'm hoping and praying it ends soon and is easy on you. :heart:

(Hugs) Honeybee.

Yes! The cramping is normal. It goes on for a few days before mc, gets very intense during the mc....then eases up and only comes when you are getting ready to pass another clot in the days following.

It really sucks!

1) You might pass a mucus plug first (looks like pink ewcm with bloody streaks in it)

2) you might have really wet panties/gush from water breaking

3) Then the spotting starts as your cervix starts to dilate.

4) After that comes the red clots and heavy bleeding (here's where you put on those disposable underwear)

Did you get the Tylenol 3 (with codine) prescription yet? It will help a lot....

Just realize your body knows what to do and stay calm and hydrated.

I'm afraid I will be joining you soon with miscarriage #5...4th in a row :(

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My loss was harder than my still birth. Roughly the same amount of time bit no pain killers I had (including narcotics... I stock up. When I get hurt I use only what I have to and save the rest dor non emergency pain problems so I can avoid the ER as much as possible) did anything for the pain. Very intense.

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(Hugs) Honeybee.

Yes! The cramping is normal. It goes on for a few days before mc, gets very intense during the mc....then eases up and only comes when you are getting ready to pass another clot in the days following.

It really sucks!

1) You might pass a mucus plug first (looks like pink ewcm with bloody streaks in it)

2) you might have really wet panties/gush from water breaking

3) Then the spotting starts as your cervix starts to dilate.

4) After that comes the red clots and heavy bleeding (here's where you put on those disposable underwear)

Did you get the Tylenol 3 (with codine) prescription yet? It will help a lot....

Just realize your body knows what to do and stay calm and hydrated.

I'm afraid I will be joining you soon with miscarriage #5...4th in a row :(

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Oh no, mrsG, have you had a scan today? Oh I'm so sorry. It is absolutely rubbish and awful. We can support each other through this if you want to. My cramping stopped overnight and I still have no blood.



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My loss was harder than my still birth. Roughly the same amount of time bit no pain killers I had (including narcotics... I stock up. When I get hurt I use only what I have to and save the rest dor non emergency pain problems so I can avoid the ER as much as possible) did anything for the pain. Very intense.

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I'm sorry twointow. I had no idea this process was so hard. My cramps have completely stopped now so I am no further along and no nearer the end. I went to bed terrified I would haemorrhage in the night and absolutely nothing happened so I'm still waiting. Sigh. Today is Ds1's birthday so I can be with him while he opens his presents which is nice.


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MrsSparkles thanks for coming over here from the DD board, I appreciate that so much. How far along was your loss? Did you feel it was manageable physically?


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Mine was 8 weeks the first time, and the others no more than 6.
The ectopic last time, they thought 6-8, but it was hard to tell as nothing was seen.
I felt different each time, he ectopic was harder because it went on so long, but easier because it was natural.
It sounds so silly, but somehow I felt like it was my bodies way of making up for the loss, by passing naturally.

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I'm sorry twointow. I had no idea this process was so hard. My cramps have completely stopped now so I am no further along and no nearer the end. I went to bed terrified I would haemorrhage in the night and absolutely nothing happened so I'm still waiting. Sigh. Today is Ds1's birthday so I can be with him while he opens his presents which is nice.

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Please don't worry about hemorrhaging in bed, you would most likely wake up if it starts in your sleep. Just keep an eye on the number of pads you soak through and how frequently. If you are filling a pad every 20-30 mins then it is too much bleeding. With the one I lost too much blood it really was gushing out compared to my other miscarriage where it was more like a heavy period. Also if you start feeling cold then that is another sign of too much blood loss. You will be ok as you know the signs, maybe explain some things to look out for to your DH as well so he can be prepared.

Sorry you are still waiting but your body may be waiting for the right time for it too happen. I think mine waited until it was the weekend so I wasn't at work, you could be waiting until after your DS1's birthday.

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Please don't worry about hemorrhaging in bed, you would most likely wake up if it starts in your sleep. Just keep an eye on the number of pads you soak through and how frequently. If you are filling a pad every 20-30 mins then it is too much bleeding. With the one I lost too much blood it really was gushing out compared to my other miscarriage where it was more like a heavy period. Also if you start feeling cold then that is another sign of too much blood loss. You will be ok as you know the signs, maybe explain some things to look out for to your DH as well so he can be prepared.

Sorry you are still waiting but your body may be waiting for the right time for it too happen. I think mine waited until it was the weekend so I wasn't at work, you could be waiting until after your DS1's birthday.

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Thanks purple. I'll do that. Dh is very aware and is working from home. My labours were both incredibly quick and intense so he's worried once it starts, it may be similar although I don't know if labour is a predictor of how you will miscarry. The anticipation is really making me anxious now. Perhaps you're right about waiting - I was so worried about ds1 having a rubbish birthday. Tomorrow afternoon is his party so maybe it will begin once that is over. That would be hard in a way as it will be the weekend and the boys will be off school but we shall see. Thanks again for your reply.


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My miscarriage this year was about 12 hours start to finish. My labours were much shorter, about 5 hours for ds1 and 2.5 for ds2.

It is great you have a very supportive husband who will help you through this difficult time (I'm sure it is hard for him too).

Thanks purple. It has completely stopped and I haven't lost as much as a spot of blood yet. I just hope I can avoid the tablets as I've heard bad things about them. Maybe like you, i was waiting for the weekend. It has to happen sometime, surely??


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How many weeks are you Honeybee?

I usually had to wait 2-3 weeks from the time I found out.