ttc after 4 boys and recent Second Trimester Loss of our 18 week Baby Hope
Hi guys, I am a mom to 4 beautiful healthy boys. Our 4th boy was supposed to be our last so I gave up the dream of having my very own daughter nearly 5 years ago when I learned I was having another boy. I love them all dearly and would not change a thing!!!. However while on vacation (without kids) my husband asked if I would give him another child. I was kind of shocked as he had been fixed 4 years earlier but excited too. It took some time for his reversal and then a few months of ttc. I definitely down played my excitement though as I was 100% confident I would have another boy. I was 37 at my 12 week fetal dna test and soon learned I was having a daughter. At 17 weeks I began to bleed, at 18 weeks I began to labor, by 18 weeks and a few days I delivered our daughter at home. Her heart beat, she was beautiful. She lived for 11 minutes. She looked perfect. We still don't know the cause. This was Dec 26, 2016. I mourn for her and the loss of my dream. I've known about swaying since I had my 3rd son and we tried swaying (very lightly) with my 4th son. I will love any baby God provides for our family but if there is a proven way to increase my odds I really need to try.
Here are some things that will hinder me. I work out 3 days a week with a trainer. I'm willing to tweak these workouts to be more high intensity and cardio driven but working out keeps me sane and less bitchy :) I don't want to douche as the Drs think an unknown infection may have caused my loss. So aggressively disrupting my healthy balance scares me. When we conceived DSs and DD we DTD 4, 5, 6 or more times in our fertile window including O and after just to be sure we hit the target. Never more than once a day. The only difference with my daughter is that I was taking a fertility blend VITEX because I noticed I was starting to spot 3-4 before my periods would arrive. I only took it the month I conceived and not religiously. I average 27-29 day cycles and typically O day 15-17.
I have been burying myself in information on swaying and I am so confused. I ordered the plan for TTC girl from your website last week but I haven't received it yet. I guess my questions would be what has the best odds of success and can I still succeed if we enjoy the baby making process DTD often and I work out a lot (although totally willing to do high intensity cardio and weight loss). Thanks again for all the hard work you've put into this sight it has been an excellent tool to take my mind off of loosing our little Hope.
ttc after 4 boys and recent Second Trimester Loss of our 18 week Baby Hope
Hi Amber, so very sorry for your loss this story hits hard as I am 16w5d and I can't even image going through that right now. Just unimaginable.
I really hope you get your rainbow baby girl. Check out the LE diet, exercise is great but is supposed to be cardio only not weights for girl sway and technically for girl it is supposed to be just once in the fertility window to increase girl odds. (I feel bad even addressing swaying advice after such a heart breaking story but I understand research is probably a good distraction) Good luck hun.
