Why does bd every four days sway girl?

Hello ladies, so I only have two months worth of clomid, from the research I've done on the site it's reccomended i bd every four days from
End of AF, can I ask how is this girl friendly and also is this best for sway yet also conceiving. Should I in fact bd every day within the fertile window and if so does it matter how frequenctly we bd before the fertile period? If so please reccomended what is best. I'm really really praying for a girl. I start TTC in a month. Been on diet , supps and surrounded myself with negative ions. With to mention I conceived my son couple of times in fertile period after week or so of abstinence and also I was on a very restrictive diet back then , thanks ladies! All suggestions appreciated for this worried mamma x

We don't know, but it's working.

Our best guess is because it's an easy way of being in with one attempt in the fertile window without having to do all the "control-freak" work of the OPK and timing the one attempt

Do NOT NOT NOT BD every day in the fertile window. that is very blue friendly.

Swaying is not 100% or even close to it, so you have to understand you can't just look back at what you did when you got your son and do the opposite of that. It doesn't work that way and you can end up doing things that make you even MORE blue friendly. Just do what has worked best and that is e4d + Clomid. (One attempt has worked well too but since you only have the 2 months of Clomid we need to go right to e4d method.)

Hello ladies! I am new to this site- have a boy and a girl from my first marriage and a son with my DH. My daughter really wants a sister (she's almost 11) and I think my husband would really like a girl too besides, I already have 2 boys :) I am 40 and not sure if I need another one- my older 2 are 17 months apart and due to our age, we can't really wait too much longer to have another, if we have one. My questions for
atomic or all;
My husband has always been a 2% milk and coffee drinker. For dinner a cup of milk and probably 2-3 cups of coffee throughout the day. I drink a cup of coffee in the morning and decaf at night- and I drink 2 small glasses of black tea (as small as shot glasses- Mediterranean style). I just switched to decaf instant in the morning- 2tsp in a cup of milk. I hate milk and don't ever remember drinking it in my entire life, only with coffee. I do eat yogurt and cheese (mostly feta) though. I am taking 3-4 citracal (calcium citrate +d3) and one magnesium. I read somewhere vitamin d increases testosterone? My husband takes it a few times a week too since it was low in the past. I also take vitamin c every day, cranberry pills every other day and folic acid every day, which I heard would help. Multivitamin every other day but I stopped for a few days now. Do you think there's something else I or my husband should/should not do? Should he cut off his coffee intake or decrease the amount of milk he drinks?
Sway pink is a lot more complicated than sway blue. I barely eat red meat but eat chicken once or twice a week- have beans (great northern, pinto, garbanzo) at least once a week, greens beans, peas, cauliflower, but mostly tomato based. In our culture most food is tomto based/stew like food. I don't eat breakfast (maybe a piece of toast), and recently lost about 10lbs.
Will ttc in June, when we will be traveling for our vacation overseas- that's how we conceived our son but you're right, we bdd 3 days in a row, which gave us our little joy!!! But my older son was conceived a week after our last try, that I remember. Am not a hardcore sway kinda person but would like to limit what favors boys vs girls. Any tips will be wonderful! Thank you

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We don't know, but it's working.

Our best guess is because it's an easy way of being in with one attempt in the fertile window without having to do all the "control-freak" work of the OPK and timing the one attempt

Do NOT NOT NOT BD every day in the fertile window. that is very blue friendly.

Swaying is not 100% or even close to it, so you have to understand you can't just look back at what you did when you got your son and do the opposite of that. It doesn't work that way and you can end up doing things that make you even MORE blue friendly. Just do what has worked best and that is e4d + Clomid. (One attempt has worked well too but since you only have the 2 months of Clomid we need to go right to e4d method.)

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I was taking the calcium and magnesium supplements for like a few months but then read that it's just added nutrients that sways blue so I've stopped taking them in my last month before TTC. I just take cranberry and folic acid supplements and will be taking clomid once I get my first period as I had the implant taken out today. Also following the diet as best I can, may eat chicken occasionally but that's it, no bananas or tomatoes , I eat mainly Rivettas, bread all with low fat cream cheese ( small amount) , no breakfast at all, pasta dishes, vegetables sometimes, occasionally treats but still limited and a heck of allot of Coke Zero!!!! Like allot!!! Treats will be sushi with little low sodium soy sauce or chips . Hope helps. Will bd every four days of DH goes along with it haha. Would have done the line douche but I'm taking clomid which isn't a good idea as cm already hostile Good luck!

I've noticed calcium is recommended on most sites- I think too much magnesium sways boys. Definitely timing helps too- both my boys were conceived on my ovulation day, no idea with my daughter. I think I was drinking coffee when I got pregnant with my dd, maybe it was because it was shortly after I stopped breastfeeding my son and My caffeine intake was very limited then. I just love my cup of coffee in the morning and black tea in the afternoon. Beans are another tough one to stop, we consume once a week and I love them (in fact, our dinner tonight). It is almost impossible for me to count calories/sugar/salt because the amounts vary in each meal. I stopped snacking (I was never a big snacker anyway). So much to focus on and no specifics on anything. I guess I'll just have to eat like I am on a diet :))

Hi and welcome Nemcemger.

Most of us on here got opposites with the "tons of dairy" approach (myself very much included). I got 4 boys drinking milk and eating tons of dairy and dropped it all to get my girl. I do not recommend the many glasses of milk they call for in other sway diets and if you want to include mineral balancing, that's your call to make but use calcium wihtout additional Vit. D in it and don't do lots of dairy.

Coffee has been a strong pink swayer in our results no harm there.

RE diet, I would try to stay mostly vegetarian at minimum.

Our full diet is here http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...l-version.html

Are you taking the Vit. C and cranberry for swaying?? Vit. C may sway blue and cranberry did not work in our results and may cause miscarraige or other side effects for you. I'd wean off that.

No one can get pregnant a week after BD. It's impossible. So you actually ovulated at a different time than you thought. It doesn't matter at all, just wanted you to know that!

Hi and welcome Nemcemger.

Most of us on here got opposites with the "tons of dairy" approach (myself very much included). I got 4 boys drinking milk and eating tons of dairy and dropped it all to get my girl. I do not recommend the many glasses of milk they call for in other sway diets and if you want to include mineral balancing, that's your call to make but use calcium wihtout additional Vit. D in it and don't do lots of dairy.

Coffee has been a strong pink swayer in our results no harm there.

RE diet, I would try to stay mostly vegetarian at minimum.

Our full diet is here http://genderdreaming.com/forum/tryi...l-version.html

Are you taking the Vit. C and cranberry for swaying?? Vit. C may sway blue and cranberry did not work in our results and may cause miscarraige or other side effects for you. I'd wean off that.

No one can get pregnant a week after BD. It's impossible. So you actually ovulated at a different time than you thought. It doesn't matter at all, just wanted you to know that!

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I've noticed calcium is recommended on most sites- I think too much magnesium sways boys. Definitely timing helps too- both my boys were conceived on my ovulation day, no idea with my daughter. I think I was drinking coffee when I got pregnant with my dd, maybe it was because it was shortly after I stopped breastfeeding my son and My caffeine intake was very limited then. I just love my cup of coffee in the morning and black tea in the afternoon. Beans are another tough one to stop, we consume once a week and I love them (in fact, our dinner tonight). It is almost impossible for me to count calories/sugar/salt because the amounts vary in each meal. I stopped snacking (I was never a big snacker anyway). So much to focus on and no specifics on anything. I guess I'll just have to eat like I am on a diet :))

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That is because most other sites base their diets on this old 40 year old diet book. It is NOT that they all independently investigated it and found the same thing, it's because they all start off using the same darn book!

The best study ever done on maternal diet and gender of baby conceived showed that higher intakes of ALL nutrients including calcium and magnesium = more boys. And most of us on here got boys with the mineral balancing diets. It is fine if you want to try them, totally up to you, just make sure you're using supplements and not just drinking a lot of milk which has gobs of other nutrients in it in addition to the cal.

Just go vegetarian if that is easiest for you.

Timing DOES NOT WORK. I have a full explanation of that here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...le-timing.html

Thank you for your response atomic- am not a milk drinker at all, in fact, I hate it! I never had milk when I had my dd either- I was just thinking doing the opposite of what I've been doing would work, which means little more dairy than usual. I dont eat red meat (maybe once a month), chicken maybe once a week. I always do my best not to do too much of anything and usually don't have big appetite, especially during summer months. Conceived my son after about a week of abstaining, that's what I meant to say, not a week after my ovulation. I usually take rainbow light multivitamin but have taken a break from that. Been taking vitamin c and heard that it sways pink and trying to stay away from colds that kids bring home. Cranberry, I just starter and was taking every other day but I'll stop. Take folic acid regularly. What about tea? Black tea? I drink small glass of 2 or 3- but in my home country everyone drinks it throughout the day, like water, so most women would have boys, if it swayed :) and for my husband, does his diet matter at all? He loves milk 2%- drinks almost a glass everyday- should he ween off a bit too? Thanks so much

I only take calcium supplement 2x a day 40% calcium citrate of daily value and magnesium 300mg. Other than that, am not tying anything extra- more milk, more cheese or yogurt. Honestly, I don't eat yogurt every day but cheese, almost every day.

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That is because most other sites base their diets on this old 40 year old diet book. It is NOT that they all independently investigated it and found the same thing, it's because they all start off using the same darn book!

The best study ever done on maternal diet and gender of baby conceived showed that higher intakes of ALL nutrients including calcium and magnesium = more boys. And most of us on here got boys with the mineral balancing diets. It is fine if you want to try them, totally up to you, just make sure you're using supplements and not just drinking a lot of milk which has gobs of other nutrients in it in addition to the cal.

Just go vegetarian if that is easiest for you.

Timing DOES NOT WORK. I have a full explanation of that here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...le-timing.html

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I get that timing doesn't sway but I don't understand why one attempt does? Do you have any ideas?

I have ideas but I find it kind of pointless to go into them since it's all just me guessing. All these theories are just people guessing, and I see too many people get hung up on the guesses and then end up taking herbs and doing all this weird stuff based on theories and not even reality. Just do what works for most people most of the time!

The reason we know one attempt sways is because our results indicated that it does. We started off not even guessing that number of attempts might sway, so we had people doing pH, timing, frequency, anithistamine, etc. and not conceiving, then we added attempts to boost odds of conception. We had the worst results of the site - only 58% success for pink that year. Then we were also tracking individual sway tactics and I realized that one attempt had over 70% success rates. Much higher than everyone else. So we immediately switched that and our results immediately went up and up and stayed up. The number of attempts is doing somethign. We don't know how, we don't know why, but it is doing something.

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Thank you for your response atomic- am not a milk drinker at all, in fact, I hate it! I never had milk when I had my dd either- I was just thinking doing the opposite of what I've been doing would work, which means little more dairy than usual. I dont eat red meat (maybe once a month), chicken maybe once a week. I always do my best not to do too much of anything and usually don't have big appetite, especially during summer months. Conceived my son after about a week of abstaining, that's what I meant to say, not a week after my ovulation. I usually take rainbow light multivitamin but have taken a break from that. Been taking vitamin c and heard that it sways pink and trying to stay away from colds that kids bring home. Cranberry, I just starter and was taking every other day but I'll stop. Take folic acid regularly. What about tea? Black tea? I drink small glass of 2 or 3- but in my home country everyone drinks it throughout the day, like water, so most women would have boys, if it swayed :) and for my husband, does his diet matter at all? He loves milk 2%- drinks almost a glass everyday- should he ween off a bit too? Thanks so much

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The problem with doing the opposite is, what if the thing you're doing the opposite on has nothing to do with why you got a boy, and in fact you're only making yourself MORE blue friendly by doing that???

Black tea tends to sway blue, we believe, and that is one thing I successfully changed when I got my DD. I switched from tea to coffee.

RE tea in your home country, no one thing sways that much. It is the OVERALL stuff you're doing. Yes, there are countries that drink tons of tea, but they aren't just doing that one little thing, they're also eating all kinds of different diets and doing different exercise and having entirely different lifestyles. We are trying to optimize our odds and hunt down lots of little things that may not make a HUGE difference but may add up. No one NEEDS to drink tea for their survival or to have a healthy baby, so why not just leave it out, you know??

Husband's diet has not seemed to be very effective. A glass of milk is no biggie for him. If he wanted to cut back on red meat that would be great, a few husbands have even gone fully vegetarian or vegan, but most of our hubbies wouldn't do anything like that at all.

hi Guys,
We are TTC girl in two or three months.
I am thinking of going with a 2-3 day cut off. Should we just have one attempt 2-3 days before ovulation and no other sex? OR do we the deed every 4 days or something. i guess my not sure how long DH spermies should be sitting in there before we do the 2-3 day cut off. does he need to release outside or something before the actual 2-3 day cut off attempt?


FYI My girl sway plan is:
60min of cardio x6 days a week
strict vegetarian (also i dont eat gluten or dairy)
no breakfast
lots of coffee
Acijel and lubricant during DTD
missionary position and Jump and Dump
folic acid 1500-1600mcg / day
Epson salts lavender in bath before DTD

The only other uncertainty i have is about whether to use refresh. I was thinking:
Refresh every 3 days from AF-O, plus 12hrs before DTD (2-3day cutoff)

DH sway
HOT bath with Epson salts lavender before DTD
oil leaf extract AF-O
cranberry AF-O
licorice root 450 mg taken 3x a day from AF-CD 14

ive decided against the cal and mag and pulled it out of both of our sways

If you want a cutoff, I see little to no point in doing e4d because (I assume) you don't want to take the chance of getting pregnant without the cutoff, right?? So if you Oed early or late, if you were doing e4d you'd run the risk of conceiving without the timing element.

how old is your husband?

What do you mean by Acijel and lubricant? What lubricant? I need to know this to answer the Reph question

I am assuming by oil leaf you mean olive leaf for your husband. You are not supposed to do both OLE and cranberry. Pick one or the other and have him do it ALL month long. He does not need to go off and onto either of those, only the LR.

Everything else looking great.

thankyou atomic.

i was thinking of using Acijel as the lubricant during DTD. sorry about that, it was a typo.
so should i do refresh every 3 days from AF-O, plus 12hrs before DTD (2-3day cutoff) PLUS the Acijel during DTD? or is that to much?

hubby is 38. i know you reccomned asince for 7-10 (no longer than 14) for the young guys and frequent release for the older onse which my hubby falls into but i spoke to him about it and he doesnt think he would be able to do the frequent release one so i was hoping to go with the asience.

We wont do the olive leaf extract and will do the cranberry (for HUbby i mean).
How much cranberry should DH take each day?

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it's a lot of jelly, but only you can decide if you want to give it a month and see what happens, or not.

Don't do abstain. It hasn't worked anyway. Just let him "do what he does" and then keep the one attempt.

I like guys to start off with the minimum on cranberry (so like one pill of whatever you have, there are like 1 jillion formulations of cranberry) a day and see how he tolerates it. If he doesn't have any side effects (bleeding, bruising, headaches, stomach upset) you can work your way up to the max dose on the bottle.

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it's a lot of jelly, but only you can decide if you want to give it a month and see what happens, or not.

Don't do abstain. It hasn't worked anyway. Just let him "do what he does" and then keep the one attempt.

I like guys to start off with the minimum on cranberry (so like one pill of whatever you have, there are like 1 jillion formulations of cranberry) a day and see how he tolerates it. If he doesn't have any side effects (bleeding, bruising, headaches, stomach upset) you can work your way up to the max dose on the bottle.